Melany Oliver

Go from 🤬 to 😌 in no time!

In my mini course, Heal Emotional Triggers I'll teach you to understand your triggers and process it so that you're never triggered by the same thing again!

I love this course because...

➡️ It gets straight to the point
➡️ No complicated Freudian theories
➡️ Anyone can do this if they have a sincere desire

And it's only $9 - yep!

If you...

✅ Keep getting triggered over the same things and don't know how to stop it
✅ Want to understand why you get triggered and find the root cause of your anger
✅ Desire to learn how to process anger & emotional triggers at the causal level so you're never triggered again (literally the easiest thing to process!)
✅ Crave some inner peace and to stop reacting to any little thing
✅ Can't access your inner child wounds (then you need to deal with your triggers first)

Then you can get the Heal Emotional Triggers mini-course - link below:
https://melany-oliver.com/product/heal-emotional-triggers/

I can't wait to help you untrigger yourself so you can untrigger your life 🤗

The 'problem' with healing...

Here's what I see the most with people struggling to heal...

If there's resistance... they'll use willpower to try to break through...

If they don't get the results... they'll look for another technique...

If there's fear or discomfort... they'll intellectualise, self-soothe and distract themselves by looking for some other block...

I have been there... and I see this happen all the time.

What this is actually doing is holding you back.

Because you're already resisting when you use willpower...

Because you're looking for something outside yourself when focused on results and techniques...

Because you're avoiding doing the actual inner work when you intellectualise...

Our conditioning to "fix" things in a practical way is...

To do more
To think more positively
To use a different strategy
To meditate more

The thing is, 'if you don't know where you're going, any road will take you there" - as Lewis Carroll once said.

If you don't know how to navigate your emotions and inner world, you'll be going around in circles, only ending up more frustrated in the long run.

This is what I created the Healing Emotional Wounds course, where I go into:

> 5 keys to processing emotions
> How to breakthrough resistance
> How to navigate the emotional onion layer
> My Heart Healing process

And a whole lot more.

This WILL give you the clarity you've been seeking in a way that empowers you. You can get it here:
https://melany-oliver.com/healing-emotional-wounds/

If you prefer 1:1 coaching, I'm a DM away x

If you're on a journey of healing, opening your heart, and reconnecting with your true self, it's time to let go of any low-level thoughts and false beliefs that no longer serve you✌️

Very often we can't see our own healing blocks because we buy into our own excuses, believe in our false beliefs, justify our fears and self-sabotage to act our inner resistance.

It's impossible to create any change this way.

As you read some of the points above, ask yourself:

> Where am I avoiding my triggers?
> Where am I buying into my fears?
> Where am I just making excuses?

As a healing coach, our role is to bring awareness to these patterns, limiting beliefs, and emotional blockages. This is how we help you heal and grow beyond your present reality, both in terms of personal development and your overall well-being 💜

There came a point on my healing journey where something just clicked.

And being true to myself wasn't bravery anymore. It was just logic.

This is what the soul journey is all about.

When you've healed enough wounds,
And you know the truth in your heart

You won't need convincing
You won't need motivation
You won't need validation or approval

Your heart knows.

You'll have the desire, and you'll take action
You'll have the calling, and you'll take a leap of faith
You'll trust yourself and your inner guidance without having any proof

Being true to yourself is an act of self-love.

This turning point didn't happen overnight.
It took years of inner work and years of being brave.

In the end, I realized that the only approval I truly needed was my own.

The rest is just embracing each lesson and enjoying the journey of becoming.

This is why you have everything and still feel lost, unfulfilled and unhappy inside...

Stop postponing yourself.

Your inner world is where it's all at.

Your healing matters.
Your emotions demand to be felt.

You can't evade reality, ignore truth and expect to be happy.
Nothing will ever be fine until you are true to yourself.

The next level of you needs you start honouring you.

Even if it's just 1% better than yesterday every day.

Where do you feel you're abandoning yourself? Let me know in the comments!

"WOW! We're only 40mins in, and this one consultation with you was worth more than one whole year with my counsellor."

These were the exact words of a lovely client during our first consultation together.

The number of sessions you have or more hours with a coach, healer or therapist doesn't necessarily mean more healing or transformation... POTENCY does.

This lovely lady went from feeling lost, stuck and stagnant with her healing. Unsure of how to break through her resentment, process her rejection wound and inability to forgive to having so much clarity, understanding around the emotional healing process and empowered to start doing her own inner work.

If your healing journey feels a bit lost, if your self-worth is on shaky grounds, if you feel there's something missing with all this inner work you've been doing, the issue is you lack depth and perspective...

What got you here won't get you there.

If you're resonating with this, if you desire potency, depth and soul truth let's unravel the layers of your inner world together.

I've got several spots open for WhatsApp Day Intensives this month.

DM me if you want to book.

Let's get you on the right healing track before the summer ends and next quarter begins so you can get more clarity, embody more truth and know exactly where you're headed on your inner soul work journey x

In a world where any old spiritual knowledge can be googled and regurgitated…
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The real flex is embodied truth ‘cause you can’t fake that sh*t.
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You FEEL it.
You KNOW it.
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And the best part about it is that no one can take it away from you.
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This is what I want for my clients.
Permanent results, not just a fleeting insight.
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This process doesn't come from intellectual knowledge.

It's a heart-based one.
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My work is not for the people looking for a quick fix, more tools and techniques or a magical mindset shift, it’s for those desiring to take that leap of faith.
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When you're ready to do the deep soul work and start living from the heart, my work is for you 🖤
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The key factor influencing your ability to heal and grow lies in your relationship with truth.

Most people don't like hearing the truth because with it comes awareness.

And with awareness, you'll need to take action or make a change.

If you want rapid growth and healing stop resisting truth.

When you humble yourself to the truth, your heart opens and healing can begin...

What is your relationship with truth? Let me know in the comments below ❤️

Ready is a decision, not a feeling.

Ready doesn't mean you won't have any fear.

Ready doesn't mean you'll know all the answers every step of the way.

Ready is saying YES to yourself.

Ready is embracing inner growth.

Ready is being willing to do the work and get uncomfortable.

Ready is taking action.

Do you have a desire you feel you're not ready for? What does ready mean to you?

Leave a comment below if this resonates ❤️

Some heartfelt reminders for these times.

Which slide resonates with you?

Leave a comment if this resonates and tag a friend who may need to hear this ❤️

Most people find comfort in remaining unaware rather than looking within and facing their truth.

Most lack the resilience to do the emotional work, face themselves, and embrace inner growth.

Pretending everything is ok is what keeps you stuck.

Brushing things under the carpet is what hurts you.

Choosing unawareness is what creates more emotional pain.

Turning a blind eye is not how you break patterns.

When you run and avoid your unhealed pain you're creating your own unhappiness in the future.

These life challenges are not meant to hurt you but free you from emotional pain. It's meant to transform you into the best version of yourself. It's meant to teach you about love, create deeper and more meaningful connections, and show you what living from the heart is all about.

If you're ready to free yourself from emotional pain, reclaim your worth, and your value, and commit to the journey of becoming more authentically you, my work is for you x

They listen but do they hear you?

Don’t expect people to WANT to understand you.

People say communication is everything but I have to disagree.

It’s not really about communication but the desire to understand.

You can communicate til the cows come home but if the other person doesn’t WANT to understand, they won’t.

Because understanding, acknowledging or validating you would be death to their wounded ego.

And often, it also means that their facade, denial, and lies would be exposed, which is why they cannot and will not want to understand you no matter how much you communicate.

Learn to be ok without being understood.

Your inner peace is more important than being collateral damage in other people's war against themselves.

We are only as blind as we want to be.

Most people choose to turn a blind eye to their deepest wounds and shame in the hope that it will disappear someday.

In this willful ignorance, we only end up blaming others for our relationship issues, remaining victims of our circumstances, pointing fingers, ignoring the obvious triggers to our deep wounds, and simply living in a powerless state. This way of turning a blind eye to what life throws at you to change, grow, and learn from will only allow you to do one thing—remain stuck, repeating the same negative life patterns.

Often, we think it's easier to suppress and ignore our inner issues when the truth is that it only increases our inner emotional pain over time.

Ignorance is not bliss.

Pretending problems do not exist doesn’t solve them.

The people you see having massive breakthroughs in their healing are the ones doing the inner work and taking action.

This is what we do in my world.

We take everything as feedback to look within.
We choose to face our issues head-on instead of avoiding them.
We lean into our fears rather than stay in our comfort zone.
We desire to awaken, to learn, and grow from these negative life experiences and not remain asleep.

It's all part of this soul journey.

When you're ready to look within and do the deep soul work so you can have those big healing breakthroughs you're seeking, that's when you hire me 😉

Freedom starts when you commit to YOU! ⁣
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Commit to being you and doing you in all areas of your life. ⁣
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You can’t compartmentalize your life.
How you do one thing is how you do everything.
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When you go all-in on yourself, you are living in integrity with who you are.⁣
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Fully committing to yourself in this way is the ultimate act of freedom and I believe self-love. ⁣

If you're ready to do the inner work to allow your Soul to emerge, I'm the coach for you.

You focusing on yourself and doing the inner work will create the breakthroughs you desire.

We can't change people, we can only change ourselves.

I receive so many messages saying...

Yes but he's an anxious avoidant
Yes but she triggers me
Yes but they are in denial

Your massive breakthrough will come from looking within.

Your law of attraction is showing you what's still unhealed inside you and what you need to work on.

Look at everything as feedback.

By pointing the finger and projecting you will never heal.

You take your power back by taking radical emotional responsibility and doing the inner work necessary to break these patterns.

You can learn from every experience, or you can continue to blame others, point fingers, and wonder why nothing's changing.

Change your focus to what you can control, which is you.

The healing journey is within.
That's where your focus needs to be.

If you're ready to do some deep soul work, DM me x

Choose a coach or mentor who's been through what you're going through and stick to them long-term. Go all in on their process before jumping to the next thing.

Stop looking for the latest, most powerful new-age healing tool or technique—this is just a distraction that will keep you on the surface layer.

Stop distracting yourself with what your other spiritual friends are doing, whether it's breath work, EMDR or Jungian psychoanalysis.

Focus on what your heart is calling you to do and trust your process.

Lead yourself by trusting your intuitive nudges.

And if you already know your soul is calling you to work with me, I'm a DM away x

My "secret" to non-stop soul growth?
Non-stop inner work 😏

This is not a once-a-week thing for me.
It's part of my lifestyle.

For most people, it's a "when I have time" or "I will start when"
For me, it's a daily practice.
It's experiencing life.

When your inner work stops, your soul growth stops.
Eventually, this catches up to you.

Most people only want to heal this little one thing. They don't realize this is a life-long journey and that you can't compartmentalize your life. The wounds you don't heal will always be affecting your life in ways you can't see.

Most people drag themselves through their healing, they don't desire it.
Most people wait until an emotional breakdown before facing their stuff.
Most people avoid it until they can't avoid it any longer.

If you want to stop getting triggered and feel happier and more fulfilled in life, you have got to make inner work your lifestyle.

It has to be a daily practice.

You also have to do the deep soul work.
There is no way around it.

At the beginning, it can be challenging to get started, but once you make it a habit, it gets easier. Plus, after you start feeling and seeing the results within you and how your LOA is changing, you'll want to do more of it. Your faith in the process will grow, you will start to see the value of it and see things differently.

And you'll just keep growing and growing into the person you desire to be.

If you're seeking emotional freedom, I'm the mentor for you. If you're ready to be stretched and step out of your comfort zone, you need me.

You aren't frustrated because you don't know what to do to heal or that you don't have the tools or knowledge.

You're frustrated because you're avoiding doing the work you know you need to be doing to have those healing breakthroughs you want.

You're frustrated because you're distracting yourself with things that aren't really that important.

You're frustrated because you have time for Netflix, scrolling, brunches, socializing and tennis but not for your healing and inner work.

You're frustrated because you know you need to do this but deep down you don't want to.

You're frustrated because there is no pill or quick fix, it's all on you.

It's your choice.

The people you see having healing breakthroughs...

Are facing their stuff
Are doing the inner work
Are investing in themselves
Are not people pleasing
Are speaking truth
Are listening to their intuitive nudges
Are honouring their word
Are taking leaps of faith
Are making decisions in alignment with who they want to be
Are taking actions towards what they truly desire
Are being consistent and persistant with all the above
Are not letting fear stop them

They are not doing this half-heartedly, they are ALL IN.

You either do the work or get left behind.

You either face your stuff or keep repeating those same patterns.

It just takes one decision to start changing things today.

When you get tired of avoiding facing your stuff and are ready for your next level of soul growth you know will be good for you, my work is for you.

ATTENTION: Tender-hearted souls...

If you're feeling more lost than when you started your healing journey…

What if there was a simpler way to heal?

If you’re desiring healing that is permanent and transformational...

Where you don’t need to meditate for hours at a time...
Where you don’t need to say 1000 affirmations a day...

Where instead, you tap into your heart and do the "heart work" and things start happening...

Emotions you weren’t able to access come up... you start remembering events, having dreams, connecting the dots, you get the clarity, and you know what you need to do...

You know how to work through your resistance, navigate your emotions, and integrate the healing when life happens...

You already have all the tools and techniques you need to heal within you.
The true power of your Soul comes from your heart.

It’s all about developing this heart muscle.
And doing the inner work from your heart (not your head).

It’s not about more intellectual knowledge...
It’s about truth.

It’s not about more tools and techniques...
It’s about willingness.

And so much more!

You don’t need a million courses to start healing, breaking patterns and experiencing the soul growth you’re seeking.

If you'd like to learn more about my heart-healing process so you can understand what true healing is about, click the link below:

https://melany-oliver.com/healing-emotional-wounds/

The secret is CONSISTENCY.

It may not be what you want to hear, and I know it might not be sexy, but it's the glue that holds the transformation together.

It's not always about big bold moves, grand gestures or overnight miracles; it's about the small, daily steps that add up over time.

Consistency is what keeps you moving forward.

Consistency builds momentum.

Consistency is what creates the change you want to see over time.

Before you know it, you'll look back and realize you've crafted something amazing through the power of steady, consistent action.

Career-driven women, busy mums and tender-hearted souls…

If I offered YOU micro-mentoring so you can stop sabotaging your healing and see results within 90 days, where you…

>> Get weekly micro-doses of personalized guidance, intuitive coaching and action steps that are not overwhelming for your healing + inner work

>> Have the freedom to get mentored without scheduling another Zoom call at a fixed time (plus no need to dress up or put on make-up)

>> Can relax and allow yourself to be guided without worrying about figuring it all out on your own

So you can permanently heal, break negative patterns and trust yourself and your path once again…

…would you take me up on that offer?

Over the past 15 years, I’ve helped hundreds of women heal, get off the emotional rollercoaster and start living their lives on purpose.

One client stopped getting triggered and went from hating her triggers to loving them in one month

Another got more clarity and value in just one consultation with me than in a whole year with her counsellor (her own words).

Other clients went from feeling lost in their healing journey to finally understanding and finding their joy once again within 3 months.

I’ve had clients manifest their dream jobs, heal from the aftermath of toxic relationships, and have more inner peace, all from following my heart-healing method and applying the intuitive coaching strategies I share.

Are you next?

DM me or drop a ♥️ if you’re in x

*Limited spaces*
*Last chance to get it at this price!!

Reflecting on a topic I delved into years ago, I find myself compelled to revisit the pervasive issue of new age deception and spiritual narcissism. It's a phenomenon I've observed gaining traction over time, one that captured me in its promises and kept me locked in negative patterns for far too long.

The appeal of instant healing, a fast track to enlightenment, and superficial remedies sold by countless New Age gurus proved to be nothing more than hollow promises.

My journey through this maze taught me a valuable lesson: genuine growth and healing require more than quick fixes; they demand introspection, emotional processing, and the courage to confront our innermost wounds and personal truth (more often than not about our childhood).

I recently had the pleasure of engaging in a profound conversation with Oli Anderson on these topics, exploring the nuances and pitfalls of the new age narrative. I'm excited to share this discussion with you, as it sheds light on the importance of authenticity and substance in our pursuit of truth, healing and personal transformation.

Click below to have a listen:
olianderson.co.uk/creativestatus082

Be sure to come back here and let me know your thoughts in the comments X

The # 1 Myth That Stops You From Healing Emotional Wounds

Most coaches will tell you to just "change your mindset"...

But I call BS on that because no matter how much you work on your mindset, what is causing the issue is emotional and hence a mindset shift may give you a momentary boost BUT will not fix the problem.

Here's what I know for sure...

I believe that your "negative mindset" stems from your emotional wounds.

Getting triggered, negative patterns and feeling constantly overwhelmed are all emotional problems so you can't fix this through your mind. You must heal this by feeling your emotions.

Trying to bypass your emotions to fix the problem through mindset work is like trying to give birth through your mind by just visualizing your child being born, hoping it will magically appear in front of you but not actually going through the "real" physical process.

It's time to say goodbye to this old way of thinking and embrace the true path to healing.

“I want to STOP getting triggered but I’m unable to, what do I do?”

Calming yourself down from a trigger does not mean you've dealt with it - you know, because you'll get triggered again months later by the same thing! This is actually you suppressing the trigger which only reinforces the pattern.

Forget about anger management (it doesn’t work)…

And bashing things to release anger will only work up to a certain point.

I’ll show you exactly how I work through my triggers and created a process so you can learn to do the same.

WITHOUT having to think positively 24/7.

And you DON’T need to say 1000 affirmations a day.

If you want to go from Chaos to Calm without having to meditate for hours in 30 days or less…

I’m giving away 50-60% off my new Beta program, Chaos to Calm 30 Day Mentorship. This is a step-by-step mentorship program to untrigger yourself and take back control of your life.

It’s simple. If you qualify, I'll teach you step-by-step how to stop getting triggered for good.

If you’re sick of doing exercises to calm your vagus nerve or soothing your nervous system and still get triggered by the same things…

If you’re tired of talk therapy that doesn’t work…

If you’ve had enough of “FREEBIES” that give you crumbs in return for your email…

And you want to finally learn how to process your triggers once and for all. This is for you.

Send me a message, and we can have a chat x

(limited spots available)