Counselling Kinesiology Training

Haven’t been on here for a while as we undergo changes and new course content. This is a great diagram and just had to share ☺️

Thankyou to Susan David. She has such great content on her page. Check it out :)

I have just finished reading Brene Brown's new book Atlas of the Heart and we all need much more language for naming how we feel ,rather that just "happy, sad or angry".
It changes the whole discussion on how we actually feel and how we can get the right support.

The Counselling Kinesiology Developmental Directory chart was put together over 30 years ago and great to see it is just as relevant today if not moreso.

Words matter.

If you’re experiencing a strong emotion, take a moment to consider what to call it.

But don’t stop there: once you’ve identified it, try to come up with two more words that describe how you are feeling. You might be surprised at the breadth of your emotions—or that you’ve unearthed a deeper emotion buried beneath the more obvious one.

It’s equally important to do this with so-called “positive” emotions as well as so-called “negative” ones. Being able to say that you are excited about a new job (not just “nervous”) or trusting of a colleague (not just “he’s nice”), for example, will help you set your intentions for the role or the relationship in a way that is more likely to lead to success down the road.

Good affirmations for children to hear to empower them to feel loved and supported. They can also be used for adults when talking with their inner child :)

Yes!

~Amy

Susan David ....again :)

What does courage mean to you?

Courage can be as complex as standing up for an ideal you believe in or as simple as trying a new food. It can be the act of speaking to a stranger or choosing to forgive someone who has hurt you. How are you going to be courageous today?

Just be kind.

Warms my strong Irish roots :)

From Brene Brown.
Many of us may be feeling all sorts of emotions not experienced before ..... "New Feelings" as the world goes through this pandemic.
Stay safe and look after one another as best as you can.
Reach out if you need help.
Give reassurance and try to be there for others as best as you can.

“Dare to Lead” is back! I’ve missed y’all.

We’re jumping in with a conversation with Dr. Amy Cuddy about an article that she and JillEllyn Riley wrote for the Washington Post on “Pandemic Flux Syndrome.”

I don’t know about y’all, but I’m worn-out, which is hard because September is my “new year” and I’m always hopeful and ready.

Instead, my anxiety and pissed-offedness about COVID have taken on a new shape. I found this conversation really helpful.

The first step to moving through emotion is naming it. https://spoti.fi/3CqB8Iz

Beautiful reminder and well worth the minute to read. :)

GOD, THIS IS BEAUTIFUL! TAKE THE TIME TO READ IT ❤️
As someone who writes often, I naturally appreciate epic writing when I see it. This morning, I came across this written piece of art and it moved me deeply, so I had to share it with all of you! Not only are these words true theatre, they also act as sound advice ❤️

my brain and
heart divorced

a decade ago

over who was
to blame about
how big of a mess
I have become

eventually,
they couldn't be
in the same room
with each other

now my head and heart
share custody of me

I stay with my brain
during the week

and my heart
gets me on weekends

they never speak to one another

- instead, they give me
the same note to pass
to each other every week

and their notes they
send to one another always
says the same thing:

"This is all your fault"

on Sundays
my heart complains
about how my
head has let me down
in the past

and on Wednesday
my head lists all
of the times my
heart has screwed
things up for me
in the future

they blame each
other for the
state of my life

there's been a lot
of yelling - and crying

so,

lately, I've been
spending a lot of
time with my gut

who serves as my
unofficial therapist

most nights, I sneak out of the
window in my ribcage

and slide down my spine
and collapse on my
gut's plush leather chair
that's always open for me

~ and I just sit sit sit sit
until the sun comes up

last evening,
my gut asked me
if I was having a hard
time being caught
between my heart
and my head

I nodded

I said I didn't know
if I could live with
either of them anymore

"my heart is always sad about
something that happened yesterday
while my head is always worried
about something that may happen tomorrow,"
I lamented

my gut squeezed my hand

"I just can't live with
my mistakes of the past
or my anxiety about the future,"
I sighed

my gut smiled and said:

"in that case,
you should
go stay with your
lungs for a while,"

I was confused
- the look on my face gave it away

"if you are exhausted about
your heart's obsession with
the fixed past and your mind's focus
on the uncertain future

your lungs are the perfect place for you

there is no yesterday in your lungs
there is no tomorrow there either

there is only now
there is only inhale
there is only exhale
there is only this moment

there is only breath

and in that breath
you can rest while your
heart and head work
their relationship out."

this morning,
while my brain
was busy reading
tea leaves

and while my
heart was staring
at old photographs

I packed a little
bag and walked
to the door of
my lungs

before I could even knock
she opened the door
with a smile and as
a gust of air embraced me
she said

"what took you so long?"

~ John Roedel (johnroedel.com)

With all that is going on in the world right now this is a great reminder. Staying in your heart and having compassion for others and yourself when not really knowing the way the world is going to move forward.

100% children will model these things from their parents.

☀

~Amy

Spot on! Hugs are very underrated; especially during times like many are going through now.

This goes out to everybody who is still being impacted by Covid-19. Hope you all have somebody to hug ❤️💐

Be brave and look at extending yourself in different areas of your life, courage is not just physical courage.

Hold Space.
(Good advice for all ages.)
🦋

~Amy

Thanks to The Mom Brain Therapist for this reminder

If you have difficulty in self-calming or self-regulating when parenting or in relationship these may have been part of your upbringing. It is important to acknowledge and seek some assistance, self-awareness and care to change the generational patterns.

Great advice from Anita Moorjani :)

❤️🦋🌈🌿🌟🌻

If you feeling stressed, overwhelmed or not on top of things these little things can help move the energy :)

12TinyThings

Wonderful way to reframe and be with grief.

🙏❣️🙏

Nothing is right or wrong; it is up to each individual.

"What do you value and want in your life?"

The more you move in the direction of your answers, the happier and more vital and effective you will feel in your life!

We hear a lot about having the “right” values (or the wrong ones), but what does that really mean? And who decides what values are worth having?

You do. The thing to ask is not whether something is “right” or “wrong,” but rather how it relates to the way you want to live your life.

It’s how and what you say to your kids to encourage and support them. It may seem little but to them it can make an enormous difference in their development and self esteem

Shared by Big Life Journal.

((Hugs))

~Amy

Great advice! What are you modelling for your children? They take so much in especially in the early years.

In difficult times perspective can help to turn things around; also embrace being kind and loving to yourself.

The moment we change our perspective, we start to re-write the chemistry of our body.

Yes, children are put into grades by age causing incredible stress and anxiety for many children and teachers.
Children learn and grow at different stages and this grading system can be very shaming when all they need is extra time - or more stimulation and stretch!

Expecting all children the same age to learn from the same materials is like expecting all children the same age to wear the same size clothing.
—Madeline Hunter

✨ If you would like to be kept in the loop on everything Neurochild please submit your details here http://bit.ly/neurochild-connect