Inner Travel Grief Coaching

Florida Man strikes again - this time by cracking the code to supporting his wife through menopause. Armed with ‘Menopause Decoded’ he thought he was just getting through the mood swings and sleepless nights, but now he’s the guy everyone’s asking for relationship advice. 🏅

‘Menopause Decoded’ is a non-nonsense, practical resource that takes my mystery out of menopause and shows partners how to step up in a big way. Inside you’ll learn exactly what menopause means (spoiler: it’s more than just hot flashes), how to navigate stress and sleepless nights, and what to say in those tough moments when nothing seems to make sense.

With real-life scenarios, tips for keeping your connection strong (yes, even when the thermostat keeps changing), and strategies for supporting her while also taking care of yourself, this guide is the playbook you never knew you needed.

Ready to level up? Grab your copy today, and who knows - you might accidentally become the relationship guru in your friend group too!

Click the ‘guidebooks’ link in the good ol’ bio.
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Oof, this one hurt. 💔

I’m so grateful I got to experience the magic of Richard Simmons when I lived in LA and attended his fitness classes at his studio ‘Slimmons’.

Slimmons wasn’t just a workout; it was an experience. Bachelorette parties and people well into their 90’s were there to get their sweat on with Richard. Chairs lined the room so anyone, regardless of mobility or ability, could join in the fun.

He was a beacon of joy, inclusivity, and relentless positivity. He made everyone feel seen and loved because he would stay for however long it took after class to take photos and talk to every.single.person. He pulled me aside one time to personally (and so sincerely) thank me for always bringing new friends to class (because anytime someone visited me in LA, I’d take them to Slimmons!). I was shocked he even remembered me and he replied ‘I could never forget those ‘ocean eyes’ of yours’. 🫠 Ohhhh Richard.

If we could bottle his energy, warmth, and humour the world would be a brighter, kinder place.

A special shoutout to for introducing me to this extraordinary man and his world of magic. Richard, you will be deeply missed, thank you for sharing your light with us and inspiring millions around the world. 💞

We’ve all heard the “just let it go” advice, right?!

Which, sure, we’d love to let this pain go but HOW exactly do you do that? Most of us weren’t handed the manual so we just stuff it down, soldier on, and carry all the hurt with us instead. Thankfully, I’ve cracked the code on HOW to do it and love sharing it with others.

A big thank you to Kim for trusting me and doing the work required to heal their heart. When clients can’t stop raving about their breakthroughs, it’s a pretty good sign we’re doing something right.

So, are you ready to actually learn how to handle your emotions and move forward with confidence?

I’ve got a few slots open in my calendar this summer for new clients. Let’s chat and see if we’re a good fit! Head to my website and click any of the 'Talk To Tammy' buttons to book a discovery session. 🌿

Ever feel like saying “yes” is easier than setting a boundary? 🚧

I get it. I’ve been there, done that, and got the “over-giver” t-shirt. That’s why I just published a blog post that’s super close to my heart: it’s all about setting healthy boundaries.

In this post, I share why it’s so hard to say “no,” practical tips to protect your peace, and some personal stories from my own journey.

Curious? Comment “BOUNDARIES” below, and I’ll send you the link to read more. Let’s start saying “no” without guilt and reclaim our energy together.

💬 What’s one boundary you’ve struggled with? Drop a comment below or send me a message—I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Dearest Supporter,

As we joyously anticipate the season premiere of Bridgerton tomorrow, our parlance and posts are adorned with the grandeur and wit of the Regency era. It is in this spirited celebration that I am overjoyed to unveil our latest treasure: Fontanne's Menopause Guidebook, an essential resource for navigating the complex voyage of menopause with elegance and poise.

We are also thrilled to announce that the waitlist for Fontanne is open, preparing to usher in a new season of enlightenment and support within our cherished community. This guidebook marks but the first of many refined resources designed to assist and accompany you through every phase of this significant life transition.

To secure your copy of the guidebook and to claim your spot on our esteemed waitlist, kindly comment SOLACE below. Let us ensure that your journey through menopause is as informed and graceful as a ballroom dance.

With eager anticipation and warmest regards,
Lady Fontanne

Fontanne is more than a name—it’s a statement, a vision, and a promise. Derived from the French for “fountain; spring,” Fontanne symbolizes the very antithesis of what society has long misconstrued about menopause. In a world that suggests women are ‘dried up and put out to pasture’ at this stage, Fontanne stands as a beacon of renewal and endless possibility. It’s time to quench our thirst for life with the fountain of YOU, finding strength and vitality in our own profound depths.

Our ethos, “discover the fountain of YOU,” playfully nudges aside the outdated quest for the ‘fountain of youth.’ Here, we shift the focus from a desire to recapture youth to celebrating and rediscovering YOU. Whether you’re exploring newfound freedoms, reinventing your career or personal life, adapting to retirement, widowhood, or rediscovering your essence beyond fertility, Fontanne is your companion, offering guidance with warmth and understanding.

Fontanne is here to guide you through every stage of this transition, leveraging the wisdom of expert friends who join our community for enriching conversations, workshops, and explorations. She doesn’t claim to have all the answers, but she knows people who do, and she’s always ready to ask the right questions and listen deeply alongside you.

Doors are opening again to new members later this month so follow us over at and get yourself on the waitlist! We promise it will be worth the wait. 💞

You know those moments when you're bored to tears, or you're daydreaming so hard you might as well be on another planet? It's difficult to focus and concentrate, right?

Or how about when you drag your bitchy workday mood home? It's not just your evening that takes a hit; everyone around you feels that storm cloud too.

And let's not forget the classic line 'I'm fine, thanks,' when inside, you're anything but fine.

We've all been there, ya? 🙋🏼‍♀️

As kids, we get taught the basics about emotions - mainly that they fit neatly into 3 categories: mad, sad, or glad. But we know that's not true, it’s the details that count—like not just saying ‘well, it hurts’ at the doctor’s, but explaining the stabbing pain in your left side. That's how they figure out what's really going on.

That’s where the Feelings Wheel comes in. It’s not just any tool; it's your emotional detective kit, helping you get to the heart of what you're truly feeling, so you can say goodbye to 'I'm fine thanks' and hello to 'I'm actually feeling overwhelmed and could use a hug.' 🫂

Understanding the subtleties of your emotions can change the way you face the world, lead your life, and interact with others.

Ready to get real about your feelings and change your lens on life? Grab the brand spakin' new 'I'm Fine, Thanks. Unpacking The Suitcases Of Our Emotions' guidebook from our shop and start tuning into the real you.

It’s about time your inner world got the attention it deserves. Because when you know your true feelings, every response, every interaction, and every decision gets an upgrade.

🔗 : https://innertravelcoaching.com/store/products/i-m-fine-thanks-guidebook

🌟 Big News! 🌟 Our online store is officially OPEN! Dive into a world of transformative resources tailored just for you. Whether you’re seeking to deepen your understanding of your emotions or support your child through grief, we’ve got you covered. Explore our carefully curated guides and courses designed to empower your journey towards a fuller, more authentic life. 📚✨ Check out the link in bio and start your transformation today!

This week, something incredible happened. I attended a sold-out panel discussion on menopause at the Shangri-La Hotel and it was nothing short of inspirational. Witnessing the vibrant energy, the shared stories, and the collective yearning for deeper understanding and support reaffirmed my purpose: to help those navigating menopause move from isolation, overwhelm, and confusion to connection, empowerment, and clarity.

During that panel discussion, one of the gems that Dr. Sheila Wijayasinghe shared was that 'knowledge is medicine' - and I couldn't agree more. It's one of the pillars of Fontanne and it makes me so happy/proud to know that Dr. Sheila is on board with us at Fontanne as our esteemed medical advisor! 😁

So, as we count down the final hours until the doors close at 11:59pm EST, I'm more energized than ever. This isn't just about launching a membership; it's about igniting a movement. It's about supporting each other, learning from experts like Dr. Sheila, and shaping a community that sees menopause through a lens of empowerment and joy.

So, here's your last call to be one of Fontanne's founding members. This is your opportunity to join us at the ground level and help shape this transformative community. But hurry because this moment will be a memory when the clock strikes midnight.

Link in bio or head to my website - innertravelcoaching.com - to learn more.

🌟 Welcome to the Fontanne Collective 🌟

Imagine stepping into a space where your journey through menopause is not just understood but celebrated. A haven where warmth wraps around you like a soft blanket, wisdom flows as freely as your favourite cup of tea, and laughter bubbles up in moments of shared understanding.

With Fontanne, you're not just signing up for a membership; you're joining a collective voyage through the vibrant chapters of menopause, from perimenopause to postmenopause. Here's a glimpse of what I'm dreaming that we weave together:

✨ Inclusive & Nurturing Community: Dive into a sea of support with women who are navigating the same waters, where every question is welcomed with open arms and every milestone is celebrated with heartfelt cheers.

👩🏾‍⚕️ Medical Wisdom: Our beloved Dr. Sheila, with her expertise and compassionate approach, will guide you through the physical transformations of menopause, demystifying the changes and illuminating the path towards understanding your changing body.

🌱 Growth through Coaching: Embark on a journey of self-discovery with coaching sessions centered on topics like emotional intelligence and self-compassion. Uncover the strength within vulnerability, the power of self-kindness, and the beauty of embracing change with grace.

🔥 Empowerment & Enlightenment: Armed with trusted information, practical advice, and a sprinkle of humour, you'll feel empowered to navigate menopause as a time of transformation and renewal.

👭 A Collective of Wisdom: Benefit from the rich tapestry of experiences shared by women across the spectrum of menopause. Together, we create a living library of women's wisdom, fostering a sense of belonging and understanding.

By joining Fontanne, you're stepping into a space where the vibe is always inclusive, nurturing, and enlightened—a collective heartbeat of women empowering women. Let's celebrate this vibrant chapter of life together, shall we?

Join today because doors close on Thursday, April 18th at 11:59pm EST. Link in bio and on website - innertravelcoaching.com

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Hot flashes? Meet cool people. Confusion? We’re cutting through it. Trusted medical support? You got it.

I'm so excited to announce that today’s the day we fling open the doors to something really close to my heart—a community that’s all about turning the menopause journey from something we go through quietly, into a shared community of empowerment, transformation, and yes, even joy.

✨ Announcing FONTANNE. ✨

Think of it as a cozy, welcoming space where evidence-based wisdom snuggles up with heart-to-heart chats. A place where workshops feel like coffee dates with friends, and every story shared adds to a tapestry that's as vibrant and diverse as we are.

And, because you're reading this, I’m inviting you to become a founding member at a special rate of just $25 per month. It’s not just about the savings; it’s about shaping this community together, from the ground up.

Why join?

There's way too many reasons to list in this email - so head over to my website to learn more and sign yourself up as a 'Fontanne Founder'!

But, there’s a little catch. To keep things intimate and focused, we’re capping the founding member intake and 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗱𝗼𝗼𝗿𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗰𝗹𝗼𝘀𝗲 𝗼𝗻 𝗧𝗵𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗱𝗮𝘆, 𝗔𝗽𝗿𝗶𝗹 𝟭𝟴𝘁𝗵 𝗮𝘁 𝗺𝗶𝗱𝗻𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗘𝗦𝗧

And please send this post along to anyone who you think could benefit from being a part of Fontanne. Here’s to doing things differently, to the stories we’ll share, and to finding joy in every step of the journey.

Tammy

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How is your relationship with trust?

Are you like me and wondering why trust keeps annoyingly showing up on your radar, whispering sweet nothings about letting go and diving into the unknown?

From controlling every detail like a high-stakes event planner to embracing the flow of life like a yoga master, my quest for understanding trust has been a wild ride.

As I've learned, it's not about grand rescues or instant fixes. It's about those quiet moments, the everyday "got your back" vibes, and a little thing called self-trust.

Curious? Dive into the full story on my latest blog and discover why trust isn’t an Amazon Prime package—it’s so much more. Trust me (wink), you won’t want to miss this.

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Remember when we discovered the "5 Love Languages" and how they opened up new paths to understanding and appreciating our unique ways of giving and receiving love?
I know learning those love languages helped me to understand my loved ones better, shedding light on the nuances of our connections.

Now, fellow Life Coach Hailey Magee hands us another enlightening key, revealing how we communicate our deepest selves beyond just love - through the "3 Communication Styles."

Hailey’s insights provide a map to navigate the complex emotional languages we speak, from the open-hearted Volunteers to the reserved Invite-Onlies, from the direct Askers to the nuanced Guessers, and from the story-sharing Builders to the attentive Maintainers. Each style holds the potential for misunderstandings but, more importantly, for profound connection and empathy...especially in our grief.

Swipe through this carousel to explore these 3 styles that shape our dialogues and relationships. Which style resonates with you? Are you ready to unlock a new level of understanding in your conversations?

💬 Comment 'style' below for my thoughts into how these communication styles play a crucial role during grief. Together we can transform our communication challenges into bridges of empathy and connection...and who doesn't want/need more of that?!

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Social media often feels like a highlight reel, showing our best moments while hiding the struggles that don't make it to the feed. But the truth? Behind each profile is a real, complex person navigating their own battles, visible or not.⁠

This year has been my toughest yet in over 13 years of coaching, making me seriously wonder if I should just pack it all in and get a corporate gig. Add to that the unexpected emotional journey of perimenopause, with its mood swings shaking my sense of self, just as I'm about to hit the milestone of turning 50. It's been a year of feeling everything deeply, redefining resilience, aligning with my values, defining my boundaries, and trying to find my footing again.⁠

I'm sharing this to remind us all that it's okay not to be okay. We all have our invisible battles, and it's our shared humanity that connects us, even online.⁠

Sending you all immense love and solidarity, no matter what you're navigating right now. Remember, it's the challenges that shape us, and there's strength in vulnerability. ❤️ Cheers to brighter days ahead for us all.

Heard the one about grief having a deadline? Or that keeping busy means you won't feel the pain? Yeah, let's file those under 'nonsense we're not buying' too.

Now here's some real truth I want you to know.

It’s not just okay to ask for help - it’s kinda brilliant.

Why?

Because we weren't taught how to grieve. Instead, we were focused on how to get things (the job, the house, the partner...), not what to do when we lose them.

So, imagine having someone in your corner who gets it, who has the proven tools to teach you that you can use over and over again. A space where there are no myth-believing, side-eye-giving judgy pants allowed. Because healing doesn’t have to be a heavy solo mission, and well, laughing through tears is kind of my thing.

If this sounds like something you'd like to learn more about, sign up for a Discovery Call. I've got a couple of spaces open for 1:1 grief coaching and even if we decide to not work together, l'll ensure you leave with at least one tool you can use immediately to support you on your healing journey so you can feel better.

p.s. Does BS stand for 'bullsh!t' or 'belief system'? Tell me in the comments below.

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Today, I'm sharing some of my favourite quotes from some of my favourite women to celebrate International Women's Day.

Each of these powerful words has touched my heart, made me laugh, or given me strength at just the right moment. Swipe left to join me in this celebration of wisdom, humour, and sheer woman power.

But the celebration doesn't stop here! I've got something special brewing for all the wonderful women out there navigating the waves of menopause. I'm eager to hear from you and craft a service that truly resonates with your needs and experiences.

So, head over to my stories and click on the link to share your thoughts through my survey. Your input is invaluable and oh so deeply appreciated.

Sometimes, the most productive thing you can do is absolutely nothing.

Yup, you heard me.

And I tell you this now as I was recently reminded of the divine art of SURRENDER and TRUST. Because it turns out, that white-knuckling life doesn't leave much room for any magic to unfold. ✨

I wish I had known this while I was in full-on problem-solving mode these past few weeks. Because the moment I embraced surrender? Magic happened. Tears turned into clarity, desperation into peace. I found myself moving from a frantic pace to a moment of grace, proving that doing less can indeed bring you more.

Remember, when everything seems to be pushing you to do more, faster, harder, sometimes the fastest way forward is to stop, breathe, and let the universe take the lead. To 'Let Go and Let GUS'. 😉 (God/Universe/Spirit)

Let's invite a little magic into our lives by making space for it. Who's with me in making today a day of gentle strength and surrender?

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Ever thought of grief as a sneaky, uninvited guest that ends up teaching us the most profound lessons?

It was an absolute honour to dive back into these waters on Episode #87 of Chef Carla Contreras' Show Up Fully podcast. Together, we explored grief's unexpected role as a catalyst for creativity, courage, and curiosity ... something I'd never thought of/discussed before until Carla and I worked together!

This episode is a heartwarming blend of personal stories, laughter that heals, and insights that light up the darker corners of our experiences. We delve into how grief and creativity are intertwined, revealing the power of honouring our sorrows while embracing the transformative potential of our creative spirits. (Yes, we're ALL creatives, we create our lives every day!)

Expect to hear about the unique nature of grief, the tears that cleanse, and the bravery that propels us forward. A massive shoutout to Chef Carla for opening up her heart and platform, allowing us to share these essential conversations. 🙏

Tune in to be part of our journey through the full spectrum of human emotion, redefining what it means to move through grief with creativity and understanding. Turning our 'why me?' into 'watch me.'

Available wherever you listen to podcasts: https://www.carlacontreras.com/podcast

Valentine's Day isn't just about romance; it's a reminder of the incredible love and light you bring into this world. Yes, I'm talking to YOU! 💗

As we celebrate love today, let's also acknowledge its complex companion - grief.
These two powerful emotions weave through our lives, sometimes in a delicate dance of balance, other times in a tug-of-war for our hearts.

How is your heart today?

𝕃𝕠𝕧𝕖 & 𝔾𝕣𝕚𝕖𝕗: 𝕋𝕙𝕖 𝔻𝕒𝕟𝕔𝕖 𝕠𝕗 𝔻𝕖𝕡𝕥𝕙 - Today, as we celebrate love, let's also embrace grief, its complex partner. Together, they teach us the power of our hearts to love deeply, even through pain. Your vulnerability? It's your strength, shining bright in every shadow.

ℍ𝕖𝕒𝕣𝕥 ℂ𝕙𝕒𝕜𝕣𝕒: 𝕋𝕙𝕖 𝔼𝕞𝕠𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟𝕒𝕝 ℙ𝕠𝕨𝕖𝕣𝕙𝕠𝕦𝕤𝕖 - At our core lies the Heart Chakra, where love and grief meet and transform us. It's here we learn the true essence of healing: loving ourselves fiercely, through every high and low.

𝔼𝕞𝕓𝕣𝕒𝕔𝕖 𝔾𝕣𝕚𝕖𝕗 𝕨𝕚𝕥𝕙 𝕃𝕠𝕧𝕖 - Grief might linger, but it also invites us to grow, to open our hearts wider to all forms of love. Let this message be your nudge to let love and grief coexist, enriching your heart with resilience and depth.

Today, let's:

» Breathe deeply, embracing peace and love.
Feel fully, accepting every emotion as a step towards healing.

» Celebrate love in its many forms. Pen a note to a friend, yourself, or someone you're missing.

» Our hearts are powerful—filled with love, capable of profound healing. Let's nourish them with kindness, laughter, and yes, a bit of chocolate (why not, right?).

Remember, you're someone's reason to smile today. The love you share, even in small moments, is a powerful beacon of hope and joy. Here's to a day of embracing every feeling, surrounded by the love we share and receive.

Ever felt like a disco ball of emotions, saying "I'm fine" but feeling anything but?

Meet Kate - a client of mine who turned into the clarity queen under the guiding lights of coaching. From navigating a jungle of doubts to dancing to her own authentic tune, her journey is nothing short of transformative. 💫

Imagine where YOU could be 90 days from now if you started rewriting your story today. Don't let your life be a loop of "I'm fine." Let's find your rhythm, uncover your true values, and craft a life so authentically you, it's trademark-worthy.

Tap the link in bio to read about Kate's journey. Maybe your story of transformation is next.

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"It's not too late."

We often hear that "time heals all wounds", but the truth is, healing requires more than just time. It requires action and courage. This myth can leave us feeling like it's too late to start but I'm here to tell you that's not the case!

Here's why you CAN still heal your heart:

👉 With my extensive experience as a grief coach, I've walked this path many times before and can compassionately guide you through your unique healing journey. You're not alone in this.

👉 You can 'dip your toe' into the healing process with my Coping With Grief workbook. It's a gentle start for those not quite ready to commit to coaching but eager to begin their journey.

👉 Honouring your grief and working towards recovery is a brave and rewarding journey. It's about transforming pain into hope and growth.

If there's one thing I've learned over the years it's that it's more exhausting trying to outrun your emotional pain than it is to face it.

I'm here to tell you that you absolutely can find peace and happiness again if you're willing to embark on this journey of healing your heart.

Who else needed this reminder today?

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Feeling a bit discouraged or stuck lately? Caught in the daily 'do-this, do-that' whirlwind?

Me too.

Sometimes I forget to cheer for the wins – especially the tiny ones that don’t get a trophy.

So, I scribbled something for today's newsletter - a 'nudge-nudge' for all of us to take a hot sec and cheer for... well, ourselves. 📣👏

It's about those 'oh wow, I did that' moments that we usually brush off like lint on a black t-shirt.

No spoilers, but it involves a couch, a binge-worthy show, and an epiphany that was more enlightening than realizing you can say 'no' to that extra Zoom meeting.

Curious for more? Sign up for the full story. It's like peeking into a diary – only it’s mine, and I’m cool with it.

https://innertravelcoaching.com/free-resources