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So you might know now what co-regulation is but how do you do it? Here’s some strategies that work great for children and adults who are ramped up and needing help to calm down. The biggest and hardest one for many people is staying calm but it is by far the most important. Which strategies are easy for you and which ones are difficult?

The best way to calm down your disregulated child is to stay calm yourself and remain present with your child. It’s one of the trickiest skills for many parents because we find our children can push our buttons easily. How do you respond when your child is disregulated?

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So often we personalize our children's behaviour. When we realize their behaviour is simply them expressing a need or lack of a skill that needs to be taught we stop responding with shame, anger, or panic; and instead parent from a place of intention.

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One of the most important things to do and yet also one of the hardest for many of us! If you’re looking for support with emotional regulation for you and/or your child please get in touch with me!

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Five Steps to Calm and Centered Even When Your Child is Out of Control Sometimes we lose it and feel guilty, sometimes we managed to stay calm and feel drained -- here are five ways to be a calm parent.

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Maternal Anxiety and Adverse Perinatal Outcomes: Why We Need to Screen Women for Anxiety During Pregnancy When providing information to patients regarding the use of medications during pregnancy, one key element of the decision-making process is an appraisal of the risks associated with untreated psychiatric illness in the mother. While there are risks associated with taking medications during pregnancy...

Some exciting news is coming! Mind Strong Families is getting ready to launch a website! We will be offering individual support, information, resources, support groups, and workshops! Check back soon!

I Gave Birth, but My Husband Developed Postpartum Depression Many men struggle with mental health after becoming fathers. But stigma and societal norms keep them from getting help.

Shocking but true, I don't think I ever have either and this needs to change.

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Christina Reese has dedicated her life’s work to helping those with trauma cope to live healthier, happier, and more fulfilling lives. In her newest book, Trauma and Attachment, she has created a resource to guide clients from a place of fear, anxiety, and trauma to healthy attachment.

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Parenting and Triggers: Wounds of the Past (Guest Post by Elisabeth Corey) - Janet Lansbury In a recent post, I suggested some “dos” and “don’ts” for setting limits confidently that included: Do recognize that your child is highly aware, but also small and unthreatening, and that you are big, mature, and experienced. Our children can seem gi-normous at times, but a more realistic...

The Transition Generation: How we’re Releasing our Emotional Shame & Healing our Family Trauma. | elephant journal It’s energetically possible to heal our generational line both forward and backward. So when we do the work of expressing and releasing, we can have compassion for our parents, who never had

"In the absence of reflection, history often repeats itself... Research has clearly demonstrated that our children's attachment to us will be influenced by what happened to us when we were young if we do not come to process and understand those experiences." - Dr. Daniel Siegel

His book Parenting from the Inside Out is a fantastic book on how to look at ourselves and how our early experiences shape what kind of parent we will become, as well as the importance of healing any of those early traumas and wounds for our children's sake.

Though it can be easy to see how having a baby changes moms, did you know that it has an impact on dads as well? https://www.zerotothree.org/resources/2790-becoming-a-father-changes-you?fbclid=IwAR2IUfmj767xSuXFNHyUI7GeTc0EkHP_3AQmfchbgRRK0hRSC7r1EvoebIo

Becoming a Father Changes You Dads agree. 3 in 4 dads we surveyed say their lives began when they became a dad.

Some great information here: https://www.parents.com/parenting/better-parenting/advice/how-to-be-a-good-parent-after-a-bad-childhood/?utm_medium=browser&utm_source=parents.com&utm_content=20201208&utm_campaign=730226

How to Be a Good Parent After a Bad Childhood The first step: vowing to do better than what was done to you. The next step: learning how to unlearn. Think of this advice and hard-won wisdom as a blueprint for giving your child what you never had.

As parents we can put a lot of pressure on ourselves and that can result in a lack of self-compassion. Take this test to see how you rate on this important scale of self-care: https://self-compassion.org/test-how-self-compassionate-you-are/

Test how self-compassionate you are | Kristin Neff Test your levels of self-compassion and try exercises or guided meditations to help you increase your self-compassion.

9 Things You Won’t Remember If You Had A Toxic Parent & What That Means A toxic parent's actions can seem obvious in hindsight, making you question why you didn't see how wrong they were when you were young. But there are actually a lot of things you won't remember if you had a toxic parent, and it's the absences that…

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Practice Self-Love to Become an Even Better Parent Embracing self-love is one of the best ways to become a better parent.

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This is one of the cornerstones if what I believe in as a parent. So often we start our parenting journey with unhealed traumas and scars, not always knowing how much they can impact not only our experience as a parent, but our child’s future as well. By doing the important work of healing those wounds we build better futures for ourselves and the next generations. https://thoughtcatalog.com/brianna-wiest/2019/10/trauma-is-not-your-fault-but-healing-is-your-responsibility/?utm_campaign=share&utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=desktop&fbclid=IwAR1GLhrpvIt69ZbMp7cwK4SC3iwb7dRuEUpm8LyLzTyFa10gPIGIySr4MT0

Trauma Is Not Your Fault, But Healing Is Your Responsibility Healing is our responsibility because we have this one life, this single shot to do something important.

Researchers Reveal Kids Who Get More Hugs Have More Developed Brains Hugs are good for your children! They do more than provide comfort. Research reveal that the hug hormone aids brain development.