Phil Jalovec

Feeling lost in the relationship sea? 👇

It's easy to get caught in the waves of arguments, trying to "win" instead of working together. But here's the thing: healthy relationships are about navigation, not control.

Think of your partner as the captain, guiding you through the currents with her unique perspective. Listen, understand, and work as a team. Suddenly, those choppy waters become an adventure you tackle together.

So here are 3 steps to navigate the waves of love:

1- Shift Your Mindset: Ditch the "fixer" mentality and focus on empathy and teamwork.
2- Communicate Effectively: Use active listening, validate their feelings, and express yourself with "I" statements. ️
3- Navigate the Disagreement: Find common ground, brainstorm solutions together, and see challenges as opportunities to grow.

!- Bonus Tip: Schedule regular check-ins to connect emotionally, not just discuss logistics. ❤️

The magic happens when you team up to solve the problem. But to get there, you have to let go of any knee-jerk reactions or defensiveness that might cloud your judgment.

Next time a disagreement brews, make a pact: let go of defensiveness together and watch the magic unfold. You might be surprised at the solutions you discover!

despite losing myself at times, learning to follow my gut has been a major shift in my life. I'm still on this journey, but I've discovered something powerful: I'm a Generator type in Human Design.

this means I need to build not just my business, but my entire life around what truly fires me up. Just because I can do something doesn't mean I should. If it's a "hell yeah!" my body will generate the energy to make it happen. If not, it's going to feel heavy and frustration will kick in.

maybe the most important relationship I've had to work on is the one with my gut feeling.

here's a picture of me at the Sphinx. I felt a surge of excitement 48 hours before this moment, so I followed my gut and flew to Egypt. It might have caught some people off guard, but it showed me how far I can go when I honor my gut feeling.

At 27, I struggled to understand women, who often felt equally perplexed by men. We saw each other as different versions of ourselves—men viewing women as emotional and complex, while women saw men as simple and one-track-minded. These differences, however, made us unique.

I learned equality doesn’t mean sameness. Men operate on a 24-hour hormone cycle; women, a 28-day cycle with phases. This contrast clarifies much relational confusion.

Initially, I believed chemistry and shared interests sufficed for relationships. Yet, I discovered deeper values and personal growth were crucial. I valued freedom, health, and self-improvement, seeking someone who valued these too.

Observing couples taught me longevity doesn’t guarantee happiness. Some stayed for fear or convenience, not connection. This insight spurred me to seek genuine relationships and clarify my desires.

Dating women focused on personal growth was enriching yet challenging. I sometimes stayed out for fear of finding better. Self-reflection taught me to prioritize giving in relationships, not just taking.

I spent time single, including an 18-month celibate period, healing and understanding myself. I prioritized values and sought a partner with self-awareness and a growth mindset.

Then, I met my girlfriend. After crossing paths for years, we built a strong friendship over 18 months before dating. Knowing what I wanted, self-improvement, and letting go led me to her.

You needn’t take as long as I did. Clarify your values, vision, and create a fulfilling life. I can guide you to attract the right people and build the relationship you dream of.

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Over the last few years, I've totally transformed my love life – all while going through heartbreaks and having the courage to choose love again.⁣
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2️⃣ You’re ready to follow a strategy to succeed⁣
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You've got a fulfilling life, but maybe there are new places you would like to approach with true intention (online communities, hobby groups) where you can connect with people who share your interests because we can agree that expanding your social circle increases the chances of meeting someone who's compatible.⁣
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Earlier this year, I got a couple compliments that surprised me. My yoga teacher told me how much muscle I had compared to other people. A friend I haven’t seen in a while saw me on the street said that I looked jacked. And my former girlfriend told me how much she loved my body and how my muscles were coming in.

And I initially kind of dismissed it and just said yeah I’ve lost a little bit of weight and I’m starting to gain more muscle. I thought I looked basically exactly the same as I did three years ago in the picture with the cigar. In the picture with the cigar, I was fatter and I didn’t have much muscle tone. I wasn’t really noticing my progress. Also, I hadn’t been measuring my body or my physical growth other than stepping on a scale.

I hadn’t been giving myself credit for where I had to come lately. I’ve been doing yoga once or twice a week for the last two years. And I’ve been boxing for the past few months. I thought this was interesting for me as someone who knows this information about identity. I had missed this. I was seeing myself as I looked three years ago, even though I didn’t look that way.

Sometimes we look in the mirror and we don’t see who we really are because we’re being too hard on ourselves or we think we should be better or we are not good enough yet or whatever bu****it story we are telling ourselves.

It all starts with their identity and their relationship with ourselves. Our relationship with ourselves set the tone for every other relationship we have. And also that’s the place we are going to attract other potential partners from. Our relationship with our self he’s going to be magnified in an intimate relationship more than any other relationship.

That intimate relationship has the capacity to bring up our deepest fears and opportunities for biggest growth.

What’s your relationship like you and you?

I lost about 40 pounds before these photos. I did a weight loss protocol and I saw someone a couple months later and I remember what they said they said “Phil you look so skinny”. When he said that I felt incredibly uncomfortable. I had always had a gut, a fat face and I was fat so I couldn’t identify as being skinny.

I gained 12 pounds in the next 14 days. That’s a lot of food to eat. And not a lot of moving. I never saw myself as a skinny person so I needed to make myself a fat person again. I had to be consistent with my identity. So I ate food to become consistent. This didn’t make sense to me at the time.

I realized I had an identity challenge a couple months later. I did a similar more alternative weight loss protocol. I went from 194.4 pounds down to 153.8. I decided 153.8 was my new baseline and that was my new identity. I lost 40.6 pounds and 60 days and it felt amazing. I was starting to have a new relationship with me and a new relationship with food.

I’ve been working on myself and doing personal development for about five years at that point. I wanted to be better. I knew I could grow more and I was really small. I stopped drinking about five months after this and didn’t touch alcohol for nearly a year. I felt much better. I also realized necessary alcohol, and drugs were in order to have s*x with these. More on that later.

Identity is simply what we believe about ourselves. A Belief is one of two things if not both. A belief is a sense of certainty about something. Or a Belief is simply a thought we keep thinking. Or it can be both.

Back then, I believe that identified as having a fat face and a fat stomach and being fat. I changed that more than 10 years ago and I have never went back.

What do you believe about yourself? What do you believe about what’s possible? Do you know your identity?

Final portion in the comments section.

I’ve waited 38 years to meet someone like this. I’ve had a big vision and I’ve known I was gonna meet someone special. I didn’t imagine I would meet someone like her. Keep working on yourself, learning, growing and pursue what you really truly want in your Heart. I’ve had my Relationship Vision for over 14 years and it keeps updating. 18 months ago when we were dancing together I actually updated my Relationship Vision specifically because of meeting her. We’ve been dating about six months. We are just getting started baby. I love, appreciate and cherish this woman. I want to celebrate her and show her off to the world. She’s mine. More adventures and more posts to come as our relationship blossoms. You know I’m a huge Ayahuasca advocate. She’s never drank Ayahuasca and maybe she never will. It doesn’t make any difference to me if she does or doesn’t. I love her for who exactly who she is right now. She’s not here to change me, and I am not here to change her. We are here to grow together. Being with this woman, and this type of relationship is like the most beautiful, never ending Ayahuasca ceremony in more ways than I could’ve possibly imagined. (more on that later) She’s pure magic. This relationship is full of personal growth, freedom, truth, consciousness, spiritual growth, gratitude/appreciation and healing. And most importantly, a connection and a deep love like I didn’t even think possible. I love you sweetheart. Te Amo Mi Mariposa
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1st Photo
Nearly 2 years ago when we first met and she was my Salsa instructor. Yes, she wouldn’t date me initially because she has solid boundaries, discipline, and she doesn’t date students.

2nd Photo
Video dating for the first two months after burning man while I got stuck in the states with Visa issues

3rd Photo
Getting ready for her event

4th Photo
First vacation in Salento, Colombia 🇨🇴

5th Photo
More Salento

6th Photo
Climbing the tower in Manizales (she stayed inside. I climbed alone lol)

7th Photo
Brad’s 50 birthday party 2 weeks ago. She looks better hotter and s*xier than she did two years ago. She’s aging backwards. Go back and look at the first photo.

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