Silver Lining Sleep Consulting

I read books, I searched the net. I tried everything EXCEPT letting her cry-it-out because that was just not for me.

Each time I read something useful I tried it in the hope it would be THE missing link but for the life of me nothing worked!

We had not had more than 3 full nights of sleep in 14 months. Her sleep was actually getting worse! We had split nights, early rising and frequent other wake ups!

It was debilitating and soul destroying. I felt helpless and doomed. Was this our life now?

I can’t tell you the sense of relief when I heard the words… ‘we can help, she’ll be able to sleep well in just a few days’.

I felt hopeful and something in me told me to trust, that it was going to be okay.

I let my intuition guide me and I’ve been so grateful ever since.

Because now my daughter self settles and sleeps like a dream and I understand how to manage her sleep.

I am a certified and experienced sleep consultant who’s helped get 100s of families sleeping well. I can help you too.

Comment sleep below for more info on my 1:1 sleep program. I have a space available right now.

Waking up several times a night and feeling horribly sleep deprived?

When I became a mother I believed these three misconceptions…

- I believed everything needed to be baby-led

- I believed baby sleep was developmental and not something that could be learned

- I also believed my baby not sleeping was my issue and I ought to be able to figure it out myself, which stopped me getting support for 14 months!

I spent all my time preparing to feed or feeding. My baby fed every 2 hours, day and night with each feed lasting 30-40 minutes.

I was in pain from cracked ni***es and often drifted off to sleep during a feed sitting upright in bed and feeling so guilty if my baby’s positioning had slipped.

I was a shell of myself. I was exhausted and in pain. My baby wasn’t getting the sleep she needed and that’s when I realised I had to speak to someone as this was no way to live.

That’s when I realised how wrong these beliefs were and how they’d stopped me from making a change sooner.

Baby-led is great at meeting your baby’s needs but it’s BETTER when it’s within some kind of framework. For example using your baby’s sleep cues AND awake windows as a guide!

Learning that feeding to sleep wasn’t the only way my baby could fall asleep was a GAME CHANGER.

Being okay with asking for support was LIFE CHANGING

This is where my love of learning about sleep started. I help families because I understand the struggle first hand and don’t want you to suffer silently like I did.

I also don’t want you to burn yourself out with things that don’t work when you could be well rested and enjoying your beautiful family.

If you want to learn how to help your baby sleep comment SLEEP below for more info on my sleep program. (Rated 5 stars on Google by 98+ families)

Are you worried about how your baby will sleep without you or how you’ll manage with night wake ups once you return to work?

You can teach your baby to self settle using gentle, responsive methods that work.
Making the transition for all of you a little less stressful.

I’m a certified baby & toddler sleep specialist helping families sleep well and thrive!

DM me the word SLEEP to learn more about my 1:1 Game Changer Sleep Program .

New Testimonial ✨✨✨ I love sharing the success families have within my sleep program!

It’s the most rewarding feeling to help their little ones sleep to the best of their capabilities and know the entire family is getting a restful nights sleep.

This family started with cosleeping, feeding to sleep & 7-8 wake ups each night

The end results: self settling and sleeping so well through the night in his own cot.

💜 We can transform your family’s sleep too 💜

Book a free call via the link in my bio. We can discuss your needs and see if we’d be a good fit to work together 🥰

1 in 4 children in the UK don’t get enough sleep according to the world health organisation (WHO).

“Early childhood is a period of rapid development and a time when family lifestyle patterns can be adapted to boost health gains”

✨The recommendations at a glance:

☁️Babies age 0-3 months should have 14-17 hours of sleep
☁️Babies age 4-11 months should have 12-16 hours of good quality sleep including naps
☁️Toddles age 1-2 years should have 11-14 hours good quality sleep
☁️Children age 3-4 years should have 10-13 hours of good quality sleep

“Sleep plays a crucial role in the development of young minds. In addition to having a direct effect on happiness, research shows that sleep impacts alertness and attention, cognitive performance, mood, resiliency, vocabulary acquisition, and learning and memory.

In toddlers, napping appears to be necessary for memory consolidation, executive attention, and motor skill development. Sleep also has important effects on growth, especially in early infancy.” (The sleep foundation)

If you are concerned that your child isn’t getting enough sleep and the sleep they have is broken rather than good quality sleep I can help you turn that around.

If you want to work on improving your child’s sleep, book a free sleep evaluation call via the link in my bio.

✨Further reading & full guidelines can be found here:

www.who.int
www.sleepfoundation.org/children-and-sleep

Our little ones wake crying for lots of reasons.

☁️ Still tired - if you’re little one only cat naps and can’t sleep longer than 30-40 minutes they may still be tired and want more sleep.

Try resettling your baby or giving them time to resettle by themself.

☁️ hungry - is your baby due a feed? Do you have a pattern to feed upon waking or is it time they would normally be due a feed?

☁️ has a sleep association - your baby may need help to fall asleep and this acts as a sleep crutch.

When your baby comes into light sleep they become aware that you are no longer doing those things for them so they wake up crying. For example, fed to sleep, rocked to sleep, held to sleep.

☁️ pain or discomfort - is your baby unwell or teething? If they don’t usually wake crying but suddenly start then it’s worth checking if they need pain relief and comfort

☁️ can’t fall asleep by themself - if your baby doesn’t have the skill and ability to self settle they won’t be able to take themselves back to sleep when they wake.

They may not be ready to wake either but have come into light sleep and don’t know how to get back to sleep which can lead to frustration based crying.

The good news is this is something you can teach your baby. Check out my bio 😘

☁️ no reason - it’s possible your baby just needs more time to ‘come around’.

Gently rouse your baby if you’re waking them from a nap and give them time before you take them out of their sleep space.

If your baby wakes up crying, see if they will respond to reassurance via touch (patting, stroking etc) to help calm them.

If you’d like my support and expertise to teach you baby how to self settle, sleep for longer naps and for longer stretches through the night you can hire me as your sleep coach! ☺️

Link is in the bio 🔗

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Have you noticed that you can sometimes put your baby to sleep easily and at other times they really fight sleep?

There is an optimal awake window within which our babies settle more easily to sleep.

You can get more information on average awake windows by age from the baby sleep guide linked in my bio.

Knowing and understanding baby sleep cues is also important because

1. putting an overtired baby down to sleep is going to be hard work. So don’t wait till you are seeing the overtired sleep cues. Start preparing your baby for sleep earlier when they start showing the early cues. These can be more subtle.

2. When teaching self settling, if we watch sleep cues and use the optimal awake window you give your baby the best chance of learn this valuable skill. An overtired baby is likely to get frustrated and cry more.

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This lovely family were rocking their little one to sleep for an hour each evening and for naps and through the night.

It gets harder as they are older as they weight more and they also wake so easily upon being transferred to the cot!

Now he sleeps peacefully from bedtime till morning without any rocking or assistance. All done in a gentle and responsive way 💜

If you’re ready to make a change in the way your little one settles to sleep get in touch now. You can DM or book a call via the link in my bio.

I have a space to get you started right away ☺️✨

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I love helping families sleep better. It’s what I do 💜

Before:
☁️ Cosleeping
☁️ Feeding to sleep
☁️ Multiple night wake ups
☁️ Exhausted parents and tired baby

After
✨ self settling for bedtime and naps
✨ sleeping in the crib for naps and night sleep
✨ sleeping through the night
✨ well rested family ☺️

Contact me for more info on my sleep program to help support your little one to sleep better.

In my world I have 3hrs+ each evening when I can switch off from parenting.

This time helps me to self regulate from a busy day of non stop activity and demands. I’m a better mother for it.

I am grateful to have cultivated wonderful sleep habits for my three children and I wouldn’t change it for the world.

It wasn’t always this way for me. If I can achieve this so can you.

How long does it take your LO to settle?

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Early rising is a solvable sleep issue!

Imagine waking up around 4-5am most days because your little one wakes up early and can’t go back to sleep!

Having to drag yourself out of bed to find a way to keep them occupied (screen time) or bring them into bed with you, (or both) just to get a few more winks before you have to start the day.

Imagine how different life would be if you woke up feeling rested, you check your watch and it’s actually 7am! You’ve woken to the sounds of a happy babbling in the cot, you’ve all had a full nights sleep.

How good would it feel to get those extra couple of hours sleep in the morning?

Working on early rising means making changes to sleep habits and your LOs circadian rhythm.

This takes 3+weeks to achieve but it’s honestly worth it!!!

There’s no feeling like waking up rested ready to enjoy your LO’s and make the best of the day ahead 💜

It’s the 30th of January! If you started the year with hopes and goals for this year, this is your time. Do it now, take another step forward ❤️

New testimonial ✨✨✨✨✨ I’m always grateful for meeting the best clients and having the opportunity to support their families ☺️ I also love sharing their success and transformation 👇

Before:
☁️ frequent night wakings
☁️ split nights (awake for a few hours in the night)
☁️ older siblings sleep being affected
☁️ parents not having free time in the evenings

After working with me:
✨ she’s self settling
✨ resettling herself should she wake
✨ no more split nights
✨ getting more sleep!
✨ parents have their evenings back
✨ her brothers sleep is no longer being impacted

If you’re struggling with your child’s sleep a solution exists. ✨✨✨ Comment SLEEP to find out more ✨✨✨

Parenthood is the ultimate test! 🫠 would you agree?

✨New Testimonial ✨Okay I absolutely love sharing my client transformations! The results are LIFE CHANGING.

Comment SLEEP for more information on my 1:1 sleep program 💜💙💚🩷

Happy Sunday! Your gentle reminder to do something for yourself today. Even 5 minutes is a great start. What will you do for you? Mine is in the comments…

And that’s 2023 done!! I’m back in the new year.
Email me on [email protected] if you’re interested in my sleep programs for your little one and I’ll respond when I return in January.

Have a lovely Christmas and New Year to everyone who’s celebrating. Sonal xoxo

Last call! Comment MASTERCLASS for more info ✨

Hi Everyone, I’m so excited to be doing a live masterclass on Sleep Regressions this Friday at 8pm! It’s suitable for parents with 0-2 years olds.

I’d love for you to join me. It’s going to be an exciting class with lots of useful recommendations on how to help your little one through these challenging times.

✨ Please share and come along if you can 🥰

Here’s a link for the details!
https://sonaldhokia.kartra.com/page/masterclass

Happy Sunday! You are enough mama and you are doing great 👍✨

✨New testimonial✨

Hi I’m Sonal, a mum of 3 and a certified sleep consultant.

Your child can sleep well. Let me show you how.

Our 2024 waiting list is now open. Comment or DM me 😴 to get priority on my 1:1 sleep programs in January.

A Sunday reminder to show compassion and care towards yourself ✨💫

Sonal xo

Sometime we hesitate to make the right decision for our family because of the myths they’ve been told about sleep training that just aren’t true!

It’s one of the biggest fears that prevent us from bettering our situation.

It’s so common to see this in relation to sleep training so I want to bring you the facts and debunk any misconceptions so you can make the best decision for your family.

Sleep training is something we do for the well-being and health of our whole family.

The long term benefits are real and tangible and there is no love lost in the process 💜

✨ DM me SLEEP for more information about my 1:1 sleep programs and step by step process ✨

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Comment SLEEP GUIDE and I’ll send you a copy! It contains a table to helps you understand your child’s sleep needs till age 4

A woman’s identity changes in the first year following birth.

With each new addition to our family, I know I became a different version of myself.

It took about a year before I felt like I’d figured out my new place, role and identity.

How about you?

How long did it take to start feeling like you again?

If you’re in the first year of motherhood now, do you miss the person you used to be?

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I’m so grateful for the wonderful families I get to support through this journey.

Comment rested if you’d like more information on my services.

Hi I’m Sonal a certified baby & toddler sleep consultant and a mum of 3.

I help families teach their little ones independent self settling skills so children get the sleep they need to thrive and exhausted parents get the relief of peaceful evenings and a good nights sleep after a long day of parenting.

This is Zeena’s family. They were a pleasure to support and you can see how much better sleep has transformed their lives. ❤️

Comment or DM me the word RESTED to explore what this can look like for your family.

I’m here to help. Sonal x