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…”See how we are designed not to let go?

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Sending much love as Spring settles in.

‘Everything happens for a reason’ is one of the most painful things to hear after you lose your baby. Sending a big hug

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Personal experience…
Certificates of Baby Loss for babies born before 24 weeks pregnant are now issued by the UK Government. There are a few requirements and the certificates are not linked to the same legalities as a birth/death certificate.

I rarely write personal experiences on the page, as I prefer the page to be about supporting baby loss in a way people can see themselves in the words. However, this is something that sounded too much like a clinical news article when written without the personal touch. I hope you all see where I’m coming from. My husband and I applied for a baby loss certificate for our precious baby Samuel, born at 21weeks in 2019. I didn’t think it would change in any way how I feel about my baby or the torment of losing him. I couldn’t love or miss him anymore than I do.

Surprisingly, it changed something in such a profound way. My baby is now registered officially with the Government for being him...not on a medical report about me…not at the crematorium under my name. It felt dignifying. Samuel Ryan Hughes has his name and details registered. He might help the Government finally collect more accurate accounts of just how many babies are lost before 24weeks. Hopefully, this is the start of so many positive changes needed to help families grieving for their babies and to help save more babies in the future. Here’s hoping our babies’ names will start a chain reaction leading to more research and improvements to fertility and maternity care and treatment. I feel proud. I feel like my baby has received a little of something similar to other babies and is part of something bigger than I had ever considered. I know others might not feel the same, and in the end, it’s just a piece of paper. We all grieve and feel our loses differently and need different types of support. Here’s hoping these certificates help others add the extra layer of dignity and registration their babies deserve. Sending love and strength to all families missing their babies.

https://www.gov.uk/government/news/baby-loss-certificate-launchedto-recognise-parents-grief #:~:text=The%20certificate%20is%20available%20for,official%20but%20not%20legal%20document.

International Women’s Day. Women, especially whose grieving the loss of their precious baby, are strong even when they don’t want to be and able to multitask even though their brain is full of fog. That’s a skills. Let women (and men) cry, be crazy, let their hair down, wear pjs all day and take some time out sometimes too!

The delicate snowdrops have bloomed early this year in the UK. Thinking of all our little snowdrops this spring.

Certificate of Loss for babies lost before 24 weeks. Issued in England, UK. Thank you to all the charities, individuals and government officials who have helped make this happen.

Losing a baby can be an unbelievably painful and traumatic experience.

That's why parents who have lost a baby before 24 weeks of pregnancy in England can now apply for an official baby loss certificate.

This is a voluntary service we’re introducing as part of the and to support grieving parents and acknowledge their pain.

Information on eligibility and how to apply: https://www.gov.uk/request-baby-loss-certificate

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When you’ve lost a baby you seem to ‘notice’, acknowledge, think and feel about other people’s baby loss in a more intense way. There have been some very tragic stories in the news about babies losing their lives recently. Sending all our love to the families and friends left behind missing them and to all the services that tried to help and/or offering support. Sending all our thoughts and prayers to the babies gone to soon. May the be flying high in a place full of beauty and love.

This is also a cry for help! A plea to MPs and people with power and influence to fight for an increase in children and family services. To increase visits and health checks for pregnancy people, babies, children and parents. For parents’/schools’/ neighbours’ etc concerns to be taken seriously and prompt and thorough action take. To improve community groups and support. To improve maternity leave support. To improve baby loss prevention treatment. To improve baby loss bereavement support. It sounds a lot but it’s not. These should be protected essentials.

Starting a new year can consciously or unconsciously cause sadness and be triggering.

Exhausting in every way xx
Sending love and strength xx

Grief is exhausting both mentally and physically, don't put yourself under too much pressure or overthink any decisions you make whilst grieving.

Do what is right for you and take the time to rest and recover when possible💙

Sending love and strength to families feeling like a new year marks another year without their baby.
Here’s hoping that 2024 will be a gentle one.

Volunteer and help a heart broken family remember their baby.

Would you consider joining our team as a Volunteer Session Coordinator or a Volunteer Digital Retoucher and making a profound difference in the lives of bereaved families?

Session coordinators are a vital part of our team. Without them, liaising with the hospitals, hospices, birth centres, and volunteer photographers would be very difficult.

You can volunteer from the comfort of your home or wherever you are - you will only need access to your phone and internet. We also provide full training and ongoing support to all our volunteers.

For more information, please apply at https://remembermybaby.org.uk/session-co-ordinator-application/ or https://remembermybaby.org.uk/digital-retoucher-application/ (links in Bio) or email [email protected].

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The hardest thing to lose you.

Due to the weather, our Baby Memory Butterfly Garden didn’t get the Christmas spruce it usual gets. It’s Elf stayed tucked up in St Mary’s church this year.

We rewrote the baby names on the remembrance boards, cleared the leaves and sprinkled a little Christmas magic.

We are looking forward to next year when the garden is being replanted in a larger, more visible plot.

Sending love and strength, and gentle Christmas blessings to families and their longed for babies heartbreakingly gone too soon.

The Baby Memory Butterfly Garden is in the entrance to St Mary’s Church, Barnsley. You can visit anytime and add your baby’s name (chalk hidden in the Eucalyptus tree). Please get in touch if you’d like Treasured Blessings to add your babies name on your behalf.

Sending gentle Christmas wishes to all families missing their precious babies this festive time.

This time of year can bring so much joy and so much sadness all at the same time. It can be hard to balance all these big emotions, be grateful for loved ones and to remember the baby you long to still be here.

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With their gentle presence, robins often grace our paths when our loved ones are near. Their fleeting yet meaningful appearances convey a message of comfort, reminding us that cherished memories of those we greatly miss endure beyond time.

We are here for you 🤍

Please visit www.remembermybaby.org.uk (link in Bio) for more information on how we support bereaved families with remembrance photography, or email us at [email protected].

Sending love and strength to families with children who started life as premature babies. Sending extra strength to those families whose tiny babies are no longer with them.

This couldn’t come soon enough. So many families going through the grief and despair of giving birth and losing a baby between 20-24 weeks will finally get the healing time, support and legal registration they and their babies deserve.

I haven’t mentioned this little secret, but it’s now out in the world, Saying Goodbye and our wonderful ally and friend are now working on another major change….watch this space for future details. Let’s go change some more legislation 🫶🏼

(Top line - The change would be to lower the stillbirth term in the UK from 24 weeks to 20 weeks, thus enabling thousands of families to legally register their babies and give them maternity benefits.)

Triggering. Waking up to the horrific news that mothers in war torn countries are not receiving the care they need to keep mother and baby safe, healthy and thriving is heartbreaking. Sending all our love and strength to mothers, babies and their families. We pray with you for the medical resources and safety needed. Sending love and strength to the medical professionals and emergency charities for doing everything they can.

So many people will related to this. The silence is deafening. All eye avoid your gaze. Nobody, not even yourself knows what to say.

Look out on Sunday for homes and buildings twinkling with pink and blue lights. Baby Loss Awareness Wave of Light, 7pm, 15th October, 2023. Sending love and light all around the world in memory of babies gone too soon.

SANDS. They do amazing work. Driving forward change and understanding about baby loss.
After losing a baby, the film Up takes on a whole new beautiful meaning.

Midwifery is a noisy job.
Women scream, partners shout, machines bleep, feet run on the corridors, water splashes, paperwork rustles
And the clip clop of a heartbeat punctuates the minutes.
We aim for peace but birth is a cacophony of sounds. A melody perhaps.
The music of birth. Culminating in the sweetest sound.

But sometimes babies slip into this world.
Silent and sleeping.
Sometimes the room waits chilled. Words unspoken.
Hearts barely beating as they wait.
For the inevitable silence.
Hoping against all hope that a beautiful cry will rend the still air.
Instead the silence in broken only by tears and a mother’s lament.

Ours is a vocal job.
We offer encouragement. Urging, “come on” “push” “you can do it” “It will be so worthwhile” “You'll be so proud”. Cheer-leaders, personal trainers, eternal optimists. We hold her hand, guide her way. To a joyful conclusion.

But sometimes mothers labour with broken dreams. Our love and care cannot heal their pain. Sometimes we carry the mum to the edge of the abyss, a place we cannot follow and soft words ring hollow.

Then midwifery is a painful job. We quietly care. Careful not to intrude but anxious to do what we can. Aware that these precious moments are all they have. A few cuddles, photos, footprints. Robbed of a lifetime of memories we cram in what we can. As heart’s break and sorrow consumes all. A sleeping angel is cradled in shaking arms.

And then we leave this place on the longest drive home. With shattered hearts and heavy shoulders. We would take their pain with us if we could. Preterm birth, sepsis, PET, abruption, undiagnosed abnormality, often hidden. And sometimes no reason, no explanation. Unexpected quiet. A light snuffed out without warning.

And we return the next day, weary and worn. Questioning ourselves. Questioning our skills. Just questioning why? Why? Then we wipe our eyes, replace our smiles and take a deep breath . Cheerfully we walk into another story, another day.
Still loved, still born 💙💖

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Always orbiting around your thought.

A baby lost forever. Remembered always.

As we navigate through , we would like to invite you to add a ribbon in memory on our virtual Heart of Ribbons 🎗️

A special place to remember our babies together 💖💙

Commemorate a much-loved baby by leaving their name, a message or photograph ⬇️

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