Intuitive Mama Coach

Today’s little card pull from my ‘Find Your Mama Magic’ affirmation cards! Hopefully resonates with some of you!
It’s so easy to get caught up in everything that’s going on around us, or in social media, or striving for whatever we think others think we should be!
But we are much more powerful when we just allow ourselves to be ourselves, the mama we need and want to be for OUR kids, not anyone else’s, and to just allow ourselves to celebrate who we are as we really are doing our best in any moment ✨💕

I realised recently that so much of my early years as a Mama so full of fear
After a traumatic experience, it led me to totally change how I am as a person and a Mama. I wish it didn’t take for that trauma to help me do so.

My journey of healing and self-discovery has transformed my parenting style, and I am always continually learning.

It has helped me trust my intuition, and stop trying to please everyone or be the Mama ‘society’ expected me to be.

It has helped me really connect to my little ones on such a different level and to help them to see their own absolute magic.

My Intuitive Mamas Collective Programme brings insights into staying grounded as a Mama, and working through ways to really trust your intuition and find the confidence to be the Mama that you want to be.

Let me know if you’d like details to join.

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This wee man’s school transfer results were out this weekend.💙

I personally think they’re just so young. I also worry about how the ‘numbers’ and language and pressure some feel under will affect these little ones, and It’s a big decision for any little one to do them. 💙

I’ve learnt so much over the last few years and become so much more aware and more conscious in trying to teach our little ones that no result (good or bad) or what anyone else thinks of them will ever define them. To be proud of themselves for so many things, rather than try to ‘make’ us or anyone else proud of them. That their energy and personalities and love and kindness and creativity are so so important.💙

All through the whole process I’ve always said I thought my job was to help keep him calm, to help him find the ways to manage his wee feelings around it all, to keep it from being this ‘big thing’ or pressure and to try to let him know that no matter what’s in his wee head he can talk to us about it. He loves me doing wee meditations for him so whether that’s just delay tactics for bedtime, wanting my attention or he really does like them, and sometimes have felt pulled in multiple directions at bedtime I love that he has this and me to help him.💙 And so I’m so proud of him and of us also 💙

I am always learning (and unlearning and trying to work through generational beliefs!!) with all my children and don’t always get it right, but hope I can always find ways to help support them manage their emotions and the world they live in, and know just how magical they are. It’s such a massive thing to navigate. 💙

And also when we choose to go through education we want to feel like they will be somewhere where they are seen and respected and recognised for the precious little soul they are, and are cared for and supported to thrive in the way that’s best for them. 💙

So it’s a massive deal!! I am sure there are so many families across the country right now who have had an emotional weekend and I just send my love to every one of you. 💙💙

She’s all I wanted for so many Christmases…and all she wanted for this Christmas was me! ❤️✨🌈

Having this little one sick all over Christmas has been so hard.✨

I’m so grateful that we’ve been able to be to safe together in a cosy home, and being able to hold her in my arms day and night as she’s needed for the last week. ✨🌈

Still amazed at the wonder of breastfeeding and as touched out as I’ve been at times, found it so cute that in between the 5000 feeds she has found the most adorable way to give me the biggest hugs and kisses.😘

I am so grateful that we have the NHS to help even on Christmas Day when everyone else is having their Christmas lunch.🙌✨

I know in the grand scheme of things in the world right now it’s a minor detail. But it has still taken a lot to manage my own vibration, to help her in her healing, and also to help keep the magic for the older two this Christmas. ✨🌈

It reminded me even more than I already know that it doesn’t matter what presents are under the tree, how they are wrapped, who’s cooking the dinner or what your plans are..what’s most important is that our little ones are here, and safe and happy and healthy in our arms and we are so privileged and blessed 💕💕✨✨

✨️✨️ FREE IN PERSON SPACES STILL AVAILABLE FOR 13TH💫💫
💫Join me for a Free Healing Circle, in honour of Pregnancy and Baby Loss Awareness Week. 💫

Secure your spot now, choosing between online or in-person attendance, and let's come together during this week to honour ourselves, connect to our little ones and find healing.

🌙 What to Expect:

· Guided Healing Meditation 🧘‍♀️

· Connection with Love to Your Precious Little Soul 💕

· Gentle Journaling Prompts 📝

This Healing Circle is a safe space for all women who've experienced pregnancy or baby loss. Whether it happened recently or long ago, i'll be honoured to hold space for you and help empower you in your own unique path of healing.

Registration is FREE, but in person spots are limited. In person Circle is at Portglenone 13th October 7pm

Please reach out if you have any questions at all or find the link to reserve your space below.💫

Please share to others who you think may find some comfort from this Angel Mama Circle, as too often it's such a taboo subject and we need support.💫

💫 In honour of Pregnancy and Baby Loss Awareness Week, join me for a Free Healing Circle💫

Secure your spot now, choosing between online or in-person attendance, and let's come together during this week to honour ourselves, connect to our little ones and find healing.

🌙 What to Expect:

· Guided Healing Meditation 🧘‍♀️

· Connection with Love to Your Precious Little Soul 💕

· Gentle Journaling Prompts 📝

This Healing Circle is a safe space for all women who've experienced pregnancy or baby loss. Whether it happened recently or long ago, i'll be honoured to hold space for you and help empower you in your own unique path of healing.

Registration is FREE, but in person spots are limited. In person Circle is at Portglenone 13th October 7pm

https://intuitivemamacoach.com/baby-loss-awareness-week

Please reach out if you have any questions at all or find the link to reserve your space below.💫

Please share to others who you think may find some comfort from this Angel Mama Circle, as too often it's such a taboo subject and we need support.💫

When sometimes it feels like you're literally just in your own wee world and gives you all the feels. ✨️✨️✨️🌈🌈🌈🌈💞💞💞

I am honoured to bring a precious healing circle for women after pregnancy loss, starting 29th September and hosted in the serene Health Connects studio in Portglenone.

In the Angel Mama Healing Circle I want to provide a safe environment for women for healing and connection. This circle offers meditation, energy healing, and a compassionate community to support your healing process, whether you've experienced loss recently or in the past.

Please read through the details here and reach out if you have any questions or just need support.

To save your space please visit https://intuitivemamacoach.com/pregnancy-loss

Please discretely share to other women you think may find comfort in this or upcoming circles as we deserve to feel support and find healing

Last week was a September mess! The Real back to school! Balancing schools, sports, work and a toddler just a bit of logistical magic!

Summer had plenty of chaos, but I miss the days off going with the flow and letting the kids lie in.

From the carefully planned 'first day of P7' ceremony with us all taking our son and enjoying breakfast to the 'oh no, who's picking him up' panic! Dear help our daughter who didnt go to school until a week later!
The morning whe a toddler insistig on a lie-in and plentiful b**b action rather than racing out to do school runs!

The 8 am rush - realizing we should've made lunches last night. Buttering pancakes at 8 am takes 20 minutes longer 😅. But at 10 pm, kids are still wide awake, not quite back to 'school' timezone. Mama and Daddy are like rabbits in the headlights with the carnage that has been unfolding throughout that week so the sofa calls, and sitting up too late and pressing the snooze button one too many times!

Miscommunications - it's not football training, it's a match!Oh, it's in another town. And where's that other kit?!

One child excited to see friends, the other questioning school, and the toddler wonders why her mates have left her on her todd. Even if the older ones don't admit it, their late night chats show thmiss each other

Trying to be the mama you want to be, but each day feels more chaotic, testing your values as a woman, wife, and mum. Overwhelmed, but also struggling to do what makes you 'you.' But at least remembering give yourself a break!

Ideas of family calendars and organisation.. know we'll never stick to that...😆
..so emotionally, physically and logistically we are definitely not back in the game yet... having the one who made me a mama turn 13 at the weekend hasn't helped!

We'll find our version of rhythm again, but a part of us longs to be home with our babies, slowing down. sometimes the balance just feels off.

I may never be a super-organized mom, but I'll focus on what helps me and my kids and our family. We are always moving through stages, and we'll find our flow

Daring to wear some of her summer wardrobe today 😆!
So nice to see the sun out today especially for 8/8 Lions Gate Portal.💫
Its such a powerful day to really feel into all the love we have in our life, be grateful for the people and experiences and everything we have in our life💖
To really connect into who we are and what our soul needs💫
To tap into our desires for our life and our relationships 💫💖
And to feel and appreciate that sun on our face, or the light from the moon 💫🌖
To journal, to dream, to really look at what we have already overcome in our life, where we are now and where we would love to be in the future. 💫💖

This little one will always be my dream come true and as she turns 21 months today I will be soaking in every little bit of sass and love and independence and joy and magic that she brings to us all 💖💫🌈

🎙Podcast appearance🎙

💫I was so honoured to have been asked to appear on the over40fabulousandpregnant podcast 💫💫 Catch replay on all your normal podcast platforms or in the link in comments

💞I was really so open with so much of our journey to bringing our precious Emma into our world.🌈

🥰 We covered all sorts from our pregnancy at 40, my healing to help me become pregnant after loss and our fertility journey, our most beautiful birth story which although it was a planned surgical birth was literally one of the most magical experiences of my life, and one that I had literally written about for years, long before I was even pregnant 💫💫💫💫

🌸I shared so much about the connection I had with Emma throughout our whole pregnancy and long before she was even conceived and how powerful that was..💫💫🌈🌈

And I spoke about this time around being so emotionally prepared, and always being able to feel into what was right for us 💫💫

It was funny because some of the questions she asked brought be right back to parts I had almost forgotten.

Of course I also felt like when you come out of an interview...oh I didn't say that, did I say that? But I spoke from love of something I'm so passionate about so hopefully it resonates xx

🌸🌸It's not always easy sharing so much but I share with love in the hope that it resonates with others, and that us bringing our precious little one into the world brings hope to other women. How a healing journey can be possible. And that even after 40, and after trauma it's still possible to have a pregnancy and birth that's so magical and empowered. 🌈🌈💞💞













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💫2 Adult tickets to NI's Pregnancy, Baby and Toddler Show on 9th and 10th June at Stormont Hotel Belfast💫

I am so looking forward to exhibiting at this event and to be speaking at the event also. (Talks are free with the tickets but need to be registered for on the website).

My talk is on Friday 9th at 4pm "Empowering Us As Mamas" and I'm so excited to meet some parents and parents to be! If you can't make the talk come on over and have a chat when you're there!

Most of the last few days have been spent like this with this little one not well. Its so hard to see them sick, and you just do anything you can to help them heal.

It was a tough few days for Emma, and a VERY intense few days and nights for me physically and emotionally when all she wanted was to be in Mamas arms, day and night.

And at times I had such an inner battle going on which as the sleep deprivation got worse, I was getting more agitated at myself when i was finding it tough. And because of everything I try to stand for in terms of us mamas looking after ourselve but appreciating in phases of motherhood there are times when that's even more tricky than others. And the guilt of not being able to give the other kids attention was very real.

I battled because I was continually just so proud of what our bodies can do, whether just holding them tight, or how breastfeeding still amazes me at how it helps our little ones...but at the same time getting so touched out and raw from hours on end being used for comfort.

I battled because I've waited so so long and hoped and dreamed for her that it's hard sometimes to admit that some times are tough, and we are only human. And I just wanted to help her heal and have so much compassion for what she was going through.

I had to allow the emotions and the tears and the frustrations but at the same time try to bring myself back in what I was telling myself in my head, and give myself a break. Our inner voice is so powerful and sometimes its much easier to be conscious of than others. But I felt that in a time where I had very little control of what was happening around me, I wanted to at least try to give myself grace and affirm the things that helped give me some strength through.

Thankfully she's almost there now, and her wee smiles and giggles are coming back....along with a whole new dictionary that she seems to have learnt while snoozing and chilling out on Mamas chest 💫💫💫💞💞💞💞🌈🌈

And just like that our little one is 18 months 🩷💙💫 I can't believe how fast time is going this time around.

This weekend has been one of lots of bluebells💙😆...and even the older 2 commented that they couldn't believe its been a year since we had been at the same bluebell forest for her turning 6 months....and who messed about just as much as they had the year before! It's so good to see them messing about together as they're also just growing up literally in front of my eyes!

It's all these wee moments we waited so long for and I love so much.. even though we got absolutely Drenched 10 mins after!...and absolutely crazy thunderstorms an hour later! Can't beat NI weather.😆💙💙💙💫💫🌈🌈🌈

This little one planting her apple trees on that she got for her birthday from her Goddaddy...yes it takes me a while to do these things 😆.💗💛🌳

Seeing her so grown up just melts my heart. She's a little one who knows her own mind and I just love watching her and seeing the little person she is becoming.

I bought this little dress before I was even pregnant as I had such a strong feeling that she would come into our world, and just always had that feeling that she was a girl. So seeing her here now, planting a tree in our garden....a garden where I did so so much of my healing to bring her into the world, and the dreaming that she might one day make it into our world is just absolutely magical 💫💫💫💗💗💗💗🌈🌈🌈

💫It is an absolute honour to be invited into the very sacred space of a Woman's pregnancy journey. And an even bigger privilege when these precious souls have been so so longed for, and their Mamas have been through so much trying to bring them into their world 🌈💫💫

Receiving feedback like this just absolutely lights up my soul to know a very special Mama has been so empowered bringing their precious little one into the world with so much love💫🌈

Finishing one journal and starting another is always so powerful. Looking back and reflecting on what you've written, and being so excited for a new. Seeing how you have grown, what you've been grateful for, and dreams that you've written about now in your life.

I've had this one since Aug 19 and it was almost finished by Dec 19. but Emma found it and started writing in it, and I found just about 2 pages towards the back to write in yesterday.

I cant even count the number of times I've written about bringing her into the world in this, and many other journals...and how I'd imagine our family life together. It's just incredible that she's here now so full of life after so long hoping. And seeing her scribble over these pages is such an emotional and beautiful thing.

These journals are the inner work, the tough times, processing things that hurt, the things I almost felt I needed to forgive, the blocks I had, and reframing my own thoughts about my body, my experiences, my ability to be a good mama to 3 children and helping me find hope and courage.

But they are also lovely wee notes from my little ones at times when they would ask to write down their 'lucky to haves' as I would write my gratitude lists.

It was the journal that I wrote about the first time my hubby and I would go on a little break for our 10 year anniversary..and the one I took with us when we went feeling absolutely astounded that we had made it happen, and so grateful for the beauty and time we had together to connect back to us again.

There's notes and ideas in there about how I would help other mamas ...and also about how I worried If I would ever be able to.

These are so much more than battered notebooks...they are where I write and feel into who and what i am so grateful for. what helps me manage my vibration amongst everything i am and do. what helps me have clarity on who I want to be, and what I want my life to be like.what helps when I have too much in my head. what helps remind me what's important. helping me to feel into that inner voice and intuition. And they are what helps me see the absolute magic all around and within me

I shared with the Mamas the other night about how self care is so important, but how it also evolves right through from the fourth trimester and all the way through motherhood. This photo popped up on my memories today from one year ago, where I was 12wks postpartum. And it really summed up what I was chatting about that day and I think a lot of what my fourth trimester looked like.

Contact napping, yep, that happened loads and actually I used it really as a chance to connect with her and to give myself time to actually sit down amongst the absolute chaos that you can see all around with the mess all around the bedroom. But for me, that was so much more important. To sit there. Relax, allow myself to do some meditation while rubbing her wee head.

The journal sitting beside me there.. I would have journaled with her in my arms or maybe it would have sat her down beside me.

The makeup sitting on the bed, I can't remember whether it was on me or not at that stage, but I certainly had the intention to because for me that really made me feel a little bit better, a little bit more like myself in those days.

The cold cup of tea sitting in the corner. The beautiful next to me crib, which she might have been very rarely in at times.

But all of that to me actually summed up a lot of my fourth trimester, trying to really look after myself, trying to allow myself to rest in the big cosy dressing gown if I felt like it, and come to terms with everything going on around me and within me, physically, emotionally and hormonally. Take those contact naps, do my meditation, do my journaling and just look at the sun shining in through the window.

Self Care for everyone is so essential. We have to make it work for us, and do what it is that feels right for us.We have to make it evolve as our as we go through life. Do remember you're important and as cheesy as it sounds, you need to fill your own cup first.

💫I have some very special treats coming next week to mark International Woman's Day, a day which means so much to me 💫

Stay tuned 💕💕

I was so honoured to join Sinead .ni with her beautiful group of pregnancy yoga mamas to share guidance on the 4th trimester in her session 'The birth of the Mother'

I was coming from the perspective of 3 different newborn experiences, both for the little ones, and me..and with different dynamics. And how I brought some of the practices that I have used over the past 4 years into that little newborn space to help myself emotionally, and to connect to our precious little one.

The newborn bubble is a unique stage for each Mama and baby, and it is so essential that we look after ourselves, give ourselves grace and manage our vibrations as best as we can.

We can sometimes focus so much on the practical things we need for birth and for our baby coming, but equally being able to find our way in what feels right for us and our little one is so important, particularly with so many potential external influences around us...some with amazing fonts of knowledge, but also sometimes very overwhelming pressure.

We need space to feel into that and use our intuition amongst everything our body is going through mentally, physically and hormonally, while getting to know and care for our little one and everything else which comes with the birth of us as a mother..or as a mother again.

We discussed guidance and tips on self-care and practices, to help us enjoy that magical little stage with our babies amongst all the busyness and dynamics of those very unique days of early motherhood.

Sinead and I shared our experiences of how we have found these stages and also how meeting each other in maternity leave and watching each other grow as Mamas, and the little ones grow together has been so so special. We have been so blessed to have had a group of very special Mamas and babies to be able to confide in, cry with, laugh with, grow with.

We finished with a guided meditation to connect to wonder of your body in pregnancy and to your baby 💫

The chats with the ladies was so lovely, and I felt honoured to be part of their journey as they shared thoughts, experiences and expectations as they prepare to bring their babies into the world

💫Sometimes people appear in your life at the right time...call it fate, serendipity, LOA. I don't honestly think its just by chance!💫

While I was enjoying my time off with my precious rainbow baby who has completed our family, I have been looking to get my office space all lovely and create an energy for me and for the special women I want to help. It has meant a lot to me to get it right, and I had an idea in my head of a gorgeous print for the wall.

Then I came across the amazing Marie Anne Art ...and was instantly drawn to one of her pieces of a local landmark.

Through messages back and forth, although initially I was just looking at a print copy which was absolutely stunning in its own right, she instantly just got what I felt the painting would mean to me, to my Mamas and to the precious little ones, and offered to paint one spefically for us. 🌈🌈💫💫

I am absolutely honoured that she has created this piece for me, that she got me and what I hope to achieve straight away, the energy, the colours, and that she was able to capture what I wanted so perfectly.

I don't think I've ever cried at art before....in fact I know I haven't....but this brought tears and goosebumps!! And it won't ever just be a painting on the wall, but always a reminder to keep going, of my vision and of everything so far to get me to here 💗💗💗🌈🌈🌈

Thank you so much Marie Anne, I really have felt so blessed to have found you, for your support of what I hope to achieve, and for this absolutely magical work of art of a place that means so much 💓💓🌈💖

Christmas with these little ones...trying to keep the magic for a 12 year old, and show the magic for a one year old, and hope the 9 year old was well enough for the excitement of Christmas morning 🌲🧑🏻‍🎄🎅💓🌈

We had a mix of calm and chaos, magic and mayhem, lego and lucozade...and where im sure santa might have needed quite a bit of luck with some of the more random items on the lists😆🌲🧑🏻‍🎄🎅
..and just a whole load of excitement

I think I might still just be a big kid myself!

We sometimes forget the little stages of our baby...which at the time may have been such a normal part of our day, or all consuming, or stressful, or magical, or caused us to question all sorts about ourselves and our coping.

It's been a while since we needed a bath in the middle of the day or full clothes change because of a poonami...but they were once a common and sometimes more than once a day occurrence.. (thank you teething for reminding me of this little luxury!!😆)

And if anyone else was in the house they were used to the calls for 'come here quick'!

Some of these things pass relatively quickly, but when you're in the moment it sometimes feels so tough and takes every piece of your patience, and take you through every emotion. The cluster feeds, the physical pains after having a little one, the sleep deprivation, the getting to know your little one so you can figure out what those cries or discomfort means.....and the changing list as they get older..

We can only hope that we trust our gut, or find the help and allow ourselves the grace and be proud of the job we are doing as a Mama...and know that all of these phases do pass at some point, even if we don't quite realise it at the time ✨️✨️✨️

❤️...and then we start to miss some of those little things...
I'll not start on the little magical moments which we are past incase i get broody all over again ❤️❤️🥰🥰