The Complete Coach

Confidence coaching - confidence in all different walks of our life is a common challenge for us all at some point.

As a coach I work with so many clients who come to sessions struggling with one or more aspects of their life around this topic.

A simple question for a coach to ask:-

"Tell me about you at your best..."

Then you wait and you listen without interjections.

What are you listening to and for?

* the words used;
* the descriptions used

Where possible then reflect back what you have heard that demonstrate the confidence that your client said about themself.

Prompts are great at this point - encouraging them to go deeper “tell me more about …” and “what else”.

And then listen and reflect back again. With patience and compassion.

And so, from this basic discourse, you've helped them to start the confidence building process. You've helped them to exercise their memory. You've helped them start to rehearse and consider success rather than failure.

But you can you go further....?

When it comes to confidence and behaviour change, elaboration is key. Expanding on the detail. Not just what they may be able to say but also what they see and what they might feel.

“When you are at your best, what do others see and notice about you and what do you notice and feel about yourself?

Can you paint a picture and describe those feelings?

Pause and listen and reflect - don’t offer solutions or try to fix, listen and reflect with your client.

I am so grateful to have the opportunity to be a coach, it is a real privilege to be able to help clients discover and realise their own potential and achieve their goals. I believe very strongly in the importance of feedback and it is incredibly rewarding and kind of clients when they do so and I was so glad my work helped a recent client such that they wrote this incredible testimonial:

"Paul’s coaching was a real game changer for me. I went into the sessions feeling like I was drifting and emerged with a new confidence and clarity about who I am and what I want. Paul is a skilful coach and I was amazed at how his clever questions unlocked things. I felt that I got tangible results very quickly. Paul is professional with a caring manner and I felt comfortable being open and honest with him which made our sessions so effective. I would highly recommend Paul’s coaching to anyone."