Lotus Counselling & Psychotherapy

Changing our habits whether good or bad can be a challenge. I have found this out personally over the last year striving to achieve some goals I set myself for this year, what has worked for me has been consistency, especially in the days that feel harder than others to do something, just pushing myself to get up and do it is what helped me achieve some of my goals this year.
There are lots of suggestions that if you do something regularly over a few weeks it then becomes a habit, however research suggests this simply isn’t true and as individuals we are all wired differently, therefore we all form habits good or bad in different ways and timescales.
We form negative thought patterns which then become a cycle or habit, it takes time, effort and consistency to break this cycle to change the way we think.
Exactly the same if we want to make positive changes in our life, we have to work out the change we want to make and then consistently work on this until we form a new habit and it becomes part of our daily routine.
So consistency is key when trying to make changes or to achieve a new goal.

If you would like some support or you recognise now is the time you would like to make some changes in your life please do reach out via whats app or give me a call and we can have a chat about ways I may be able to help 💜

Very important message to put out there for our young people at the moment ❤️ all you can do is your best, give it your best shot and if it doesn’t work out then there are other ways and means to get to where you want to be 🪷 💜 🪷

Try to focus on the things in life we can control or change, there are many people who worry about things in life that they have no control over or they cannot change which then affects their mental health in a negative way 💜
if we worry about things we cannot possible change then we are causing ourselves unnecessary pain and distress.
Reach out if you feel you would benefit from some help or support with this, or would like to make some changes in your life 💜

Sometimes the smallest of goals can achieve the biggest of outcomes 💜 but even that can be daunting to think about. I encourage clients to identify one small thing they know they can easily achieve and start with that, because once we meet one goal that we set, we can then find it less daunting to try the next one. The more we manage to achieve the more we will want to keep going which helps us to keep hoping and trying 💜
Remember it’s having some goals that gives us hope for change, and sometimes when we are in a dark place hope for brighter days is what keeps us going 💜
If your struggling with anything or simply want to make some changes in your life, please give me a call or drop me a message 💜

I Seen this posted from a friend this morning and had to share it!!
It is a great way to visualise helping or enabling if you are trying to support someone who is struggling!!
The best advice is most people need all of the below things👇 however sometimes all we can do or all they need is someone to sit with them until they work it out for themselves!! Knowing they are accepted, not being judged and held is a very powerful thing 💜💜
If you or someone you know is struggling and I can help, please get in touch 💜 Ingrid 💜

This is very true, I explain to clients regularly that learning not to engage with some situations, or practicing and thinking about the way we respond to situations can often save us much heartache.
Learning to look for some positives in what appears to be an all negative situation and focussing on that positive can help us understand it, stay calm and look for solutions 💜
Remember if you are struggling and need some help, please reach out for support 💜

Good morning everyone, as we are approaching the weekend, a bank holiday weekend too which is lovely, and a great time to reset and recharge. But For some people weekends and especially bank holiday ones can prove difficult, and sometimes long and lonely. So I thought I would share this little tip with you all 😊
Being self aware and checking in with ourselves emotionally as well as physically is something we should all try and practice. Over the years I have learned to listen to my body by doing a self check, and practicing what I need.
If we try to do this consistently, by just asking ourselves a few simple questions it can often help us recognise where we are emotionally, which in turn can then help us to recognise struggles and to nip them in the bud before they escalate to help maintain good mental health.
Here are some tips on how to check in with yourself and some things to try and practice if your emotional battery is draining, or if life in general is a struggle right now.
Therapy is a great way to help you do this and to process your thoughts, learning what your body needs to help you manage your struggles on a day to day basis.
Please get in touch if you need any support, you will be listened to and supported without any judgement 💜

Just wanted to share this list I came across of some coping techniques to help with anxiety and panic 💜
Some of my personal favourites from this list are,

No 11-Looking out at things around you, pulling yourself into the moment and seeing/focussing on your surroundings

No 1-Belly breathing

No 2-move your body, even standing up and walking to the window or a different room

No 6-controlled breathing exercises

Practicing some of your favourite techniques daily even when they are not needed helps them become second nature and can really help you to manage when you start to panic or get anxious 💜

If you are struggling with anxiety and panic please do get in touch if you think some Counselling will help you 💜

Mother’s Day can be such a hard day for people for so many different and complex reason’s. ❤️💔
Watching others celebrating with their loved ones, not being able to get away from it whilst out and about or on social media sites, looking around and feeling like everyone is happy and celebrating except for you.
Please if you are struggling today, take some time out to love yourself and look after your own emotional needs.
Remember if you need to talk to someone there are people out there willing to listens, friends, family, or strangers.
If you need support there are trained people out there who can help, so if you decide you need some extra support please do reach out ❤️❤️
Sending love
Ingrid💜

Such a great grounding exercise 💜 I use this so much !!!

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can be a difficult time for some people, we are here 24/7 on 0800 132 737 for support and advice. rb

Death of a loved one is so difficult at anytime, and reflecting and remembering loved ones is something we do every single day after ❤️💙💔 the restrictions that were in place during the pandemic made comforting family and friends through these times and saying goodbye to loved ones impossible much of the time💔take some time out and give yourself permission to grieve for loved ones and everything that got taken away during that time 💜

Gentle reminder ❤️

Worth remembering guys 💜💜

After a busy but exciting working week I had a lovely refreshing start to my weekend with park run/walk this morning 😊
It was a struggle motivating myself and I had to have a little chat with myself to get out of bed and go!! But so glad I did !! It was beautiful up there and the bonus was having a nice chatty power walk with some friends just what I needed today 💜

Hi, I’m Ingrid, welcome to my Counselling and Psychotherapy page.
I have a BA honours degree in Counselling, a Masters in Psychotherapy and I am also qualified to provide Clinical Supervision. Please feel free to message me or give me a call if you have any questions or if you would like to book an appointment with me.
I believe nobody should suffer alone or in silence and my main aim since practicing as a therapist has been to try and help people find a way to cope and manage their struggles.
As individuals we all respond differently to situations and experiences hence my very person-centred approach when working with clients, as I believe the client is the expert on themselves and that therapy is a very personal journey about them and their own individual needs.