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Happy new year!🎉

For individuals who have experienced bereavement, Christmas is a time when the sense of loss is intensified, whether the death was recent or a 20-year absence. How will you remember the person who has passed away? Don't remain silent and hope for the best. It's the perfect time to raise a glass and remember a loved one when you're all together as a family. Stay strong, and have a wonderful Christmas!

Who are you missing this Christmas? What was their favourite part of this festive season? Share your story💜

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What’s most important to you at a funeral? Is there something in particularly special for you flowers, music, eulogy or ambience?

We want to hear what you think?

A quote to remember by Mitch Albom

End of life care and planning is important, we can't control if we'll die, but we can "occupy death," in the words of Dr. Peter Saul. He calls on us to make clear our preferences for end of life care.

Let's talk about dying - Peter Saul View full lesson: http://ed.ted.com/lessons/let-s-talk-about-dying-peter-saulWe can't control if we'll die, but we can "occupy death," in the words of Dr. Pe...

You may think Death cafés sound like a negative and morbid space, that they’re only for old folks or goths, or the terminally ill; but actually, they’re there for anyone who wants to talk or listen about their experiences with death. Death is a part life and at some point its something's we all need to talk about. These cafes offer a safe space where you can talk, un-load or remember the good times with your grandparent, mum, dad, sibling or any loved one who has passed away. Read more on bdedhapi.com/blog

5 minutes isn't very long, but you can do so much! Why not work on your business and promote your funeral service for FREE on bdedhapi.com. Offer ends soon💜

"Many might not have realised, as like many people suffering from depression and anxiety, I wore a mask. I ‘toughened up’ and ‘got on with it’. This isn’t a solution."

Its okay to not be okay, read Chris' story over at https://bdedhapi.com/mental-health-suicide-prevention-awareness/

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The death of a pet can leave a huge hole in the life of the owner. Whether you have a cat, dog, parrot, rabbit, or something cold-blooded like a fish, lizard or snake, your pet becomes part of the family and everyday life. Losing a furry (or scaly!) companion brings grief and the reminder that death is something we all have to deal with at some point in our lives.

Regardless of what kind of pet you own, there are several different options out there for owners who wish to commemorate their animal friends. Visit our blog to find out here: https://bdedhapi.com/what-to-do-when-a-pet-dies/

Have you ever caught yourself thinking “someone else has it worse so it doesn't matter"? Comparison is the worst companion. It keeps us trapped in lies, unable to get the support we need! Talk and express your pain on our free to share community. Your pain matters because you matter.

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Today we mark the 20th anniversary of 9/11. A
moment of silence in honour of the brave men &
women who were tragically lost that day.

Most funerals have an all-black dress code, with many mourners opting for something smart and respectful. But it can be hard to judge what is appropriate to wear to a funeral? Here is our simple guide on what to wear.

Just watched this interesting TED Talk by End of Life Conversations with Jane Duncan Rogers. Jane shares her experience helping her husband to have a "good death". What she learnt can really help us all to prepare as well.

How to do a Good Death | Jane Duncan Rogers | TEDxFindhornSalon In this moving and poignant talk, Jane relates her experience of helping her husband have a "good death" and what she learnt from the process - and how it ca...

The UK is an ethnically and religiously diverse country, which practices many different faiths and burials. Similar to other faiths that believe in the afterlife Muslims believe that in life if you follow the Islamic religious codes and do good deeds you will be granted entry into eternal Paradise.

As this is such an important ceremony certain rules and customs are put in place so the deceased can pass over in piece. Muslims are buried very soon after death usually within 24 hours if possible, which means no viewing, embalming or family visits. The body is washed by family members of the same gender usually 3 times before being taken to a mosque, this is called Ghusl. The (Kafan) is when the deceased is wrapped in large sheets, men traditionally would have 3 sheets and women would have five. 

Cremation is prohibited and all Muslim burial graves face Mecca. The deceased would then be placed in position so that their right side faces the holy city.  Whilst the body is lowered into the grave the congregation will pray. Most all of the mourners will be male however some Muslim communities allow women to attend the burial. 

The grave is 12 inches above ground level, this will not allow anyone to walk or sit on the grave. The funeral is usually quick, lasting only 30 to 60 minutes with prayer and readings from the Quran. During the prayers, everyone must face Mecca and mourners will each place 3 handfuls of soil into the grave. 

The Islamic religion view death as a transition to the afterlife and if you have lived a good life they believe you will go to paradise. 

The grave is then marked with a small stone or marker so that it is recognisable. It is prohibited to decorate the grave or erect any large monument.  This is because outwardly lavish displays are discouraged in Islam.

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Funeral live streaming has increased significantly this past year due to Covid, but is it here to stay? Covid restrictions have made all aspects of life more difficult, but losing a loved one, and not being able to share the grief with friends and family, can be unbearable. Funeral live streaming allows for this important moment to be shared as the ceremony can be witnessed by anyone from anywhere. This technology makes travel, cost, timing and restrictions irrelevant. Find out more over at: https://bdedhapi.com/how-and-why-to-live-stream-funerals-in-2021/

a meaningful quote by Lucius Annaeus Seneca💜

Life is a journey and when we reach our final path we can choose what we take it in. Choosing a coffin that reflects that life journey is important and shows how best to reflect the funeral person.

It can seem overwhelming especially when upset and emotions are running high, but here at bdedhapi we can guide you through that process with helpful information and creative ideas to help you find what is right for you!

With changing times and attitudes towards funerals, it would seem that this has opened the door to so many choices available to you.

It’s important to consider your loved one and their past life when choosing a coffin and to take into consideration their wishes as well as their personal character.

Coffins vary in design and material as well as cost. You will also need to consider what type of funeral you would like as this will affect your choice.

You can choose whichever Crematorium you want in the UK and there are alot of options out there. We’ve put together this helpful guide on how to choose.

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1.The public often does not know that they have a choice when choosing the crematorium. You do not need to choose your local crematorium and it is always worth looking around as some can be quite uninviting or maybe too modern for your taste. Perhaps view a few to help you decide which one suits the memory of your loved one.

2.Local authority-run crematoriums tend to be better valued than privately run crematoriums.
Availability for booking a funeral is normally determined by the Funeral 3.Director you choose. If they have lots of bookings they won’t be able to fit your required timescale. Don’t be afraid to shop around as another Funeral Director may have more capacity to enable your timescale to be met.

4.You do not have to stick with the funeral director that collects your loved ones. You can choose who you want to entrust your loved one to .. do not be afraid to shop about.
5.Pick music that reflects the person that has passed. Don’t be afraid of making the service about celebrating the person that has passed. It should be more about celebrating life rather than mourning the loss.

If you want to know more head over to the information hub at bdedhapi.com!