Mindolistic

Mindolistic updated their business hours.

On Sunday 22nd October (at 1.45) I'll be leading people through a guided meditation @ the @ for - it's going to be part Mindfulness, part Nidra and part Hypnotherapy - a little bit like a mental massage.
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- We can't do everything ourselves. We all need someone to lean on. If you are always looking out for or looking after everyone else and someone offers you help, remember you don't get points for being a martyr . Self-reliance is a great thing but learning to supported is just as important as supporting others.
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Being sensitive is not necessarily prized highly in our society. We tell our children to toughen up and deal with it. This can lead to avoidant behaviours later on in life.
Well rounded people feel the full range of emotions. Sadness, hurt and anger are just as much part of what makes us human as joy, happiness and excitement. Shutting off the negative will lead problems later on. The key is to feel the emotions, recognise them, acknowledge & not dwell or wallow in them.
can be a very helpful tool in this instance.
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You can't please all of the people all of the time. Some people just won't get you. And that's OK.
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The best things in life are free! Especially this FREE yoga & meditation session on Wednesday near in as hold their annual outdoor yoga class led by the wonderful . They are celebrating Summer Solstice and International Yoga day by holding a huge outdoor yoga class overlooking the Thames and the iconic Tower Of London and they want everyone to join in!
Wednesday 21st June, 6-7pm, Pottersfields Park. It's a FREE class. No need to book, come with a yoga mat or just pop your shoes off and practice on the grass.

I'm leading a short meditation session after class and will be joined by and with plenty goodies and giveaways.
This class is open to anyone. Accomplished yogi or complete novice. Come in your suit, bring your kids or dog, just get down there to practice a yoga class together. Pop onto our website www.hotyogasociety.com/workshops for more information .

- To me, a thick skin means being comfortable in your own. Knowing your own mind and not letting the things that other people do get to you. We all get triggered sometimes, people p**s us off and upset us. That's normal. How much it effects us down to us and is where the thick skin comes in. Do you bounce back quickly or do you dwell on it?
An elastic heart is having compassion and empathy for others (and ourself!). Having both a thick skin and an elastic heart is the ultimate life skill. -----------------------------------

Put the 21st June in you diaries peeps. from will be teaching free yoga class near London Bridge. Plus I'm leading a 15 minute session at the end! It's going to be fab. No need to book... Just bring yourself and a mat!

- I can't wait for this! You can get your yoga in... AND experience a little session at the end! 💜💜
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This time next month the Summer Solstice and we are holding out 2nd FREE Summer Solstice outdoor class, 21st June, 6pm and it's FREE FOR ALL!! this is going to be another fabulous yoga event full of energy and smiles. Please celebrate this yogatastic day with us and our fab friends and for the best event of the week.
www.hotyogasociety.com/workshops/

Be kind, everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about.

Sometimes someone who seems aloof or rude is fighting crippling anxiety.

Sometimes those who are the kindest or biggest jokers are are grappling with low self-esteem.

Sometimes the people who appear the happiest on the surface are struggling with depression.

Sometimes people who seem like they have it all are fighting battle behind closed doors. Illnesses, bereavement etc.

Just because people give the impression of being a certain way it doesn't necessarily mean that this is the whole story.

A lot of what disturbs us in life is the mismatch between they way we think things should be and they way things currently are. Albert Ellis coined the term 'musterbation' which is when we think things 'MUST' be a certain way. Things are a certain way right now and we can't change it right this very second. We have to accept it but that doesn't mean we can't strive to change things for the better in the future.
Giving up the 'musts' and changing them to be 'it'd be good ifs' can be really tricky but they really do cause us a lot of angst.

Often well meaning people give advice along the lines of 'just do this' 'make this change' 'I managed to'. Etc etc. This can be disheartening as we can feel like we are idiots if we haven't got our s**t sorted. But no-one has their s**t 💯% sorted.

Change can be scary and when trying to develop new healthier ways of being and thinking does it not make sense to cultivate new coping strategies that run concurrently with our less healthy ones first?

Then, little by little we can move into our new house and we won't need the old one any more. We are such all or nothing creatures. 'I can't do this until I've done this' etc But we don't have to be, we can be a bit more gentle towards ourselves and take baby steps to get into our new house. -----------------------------------

When people are compassionate everybody benefits.

This is a difficult one. Sometimes we react to situations in ways that aren't particularly helpful.

If someone is challenging us we snap back at in the same way that they've treated us which can lead to more conflict.

Mindfulness & meditation gives us the space to respond to situations rather than react. This can make life so much easier. We won't always manage it but you'll notice that with practice and over time it becomes easier to deal with people who would have triggered us in the past.
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Little by little we can choose which thoughts we cultivate. This reminds me of a story.
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One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.
He said, "My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all"
"It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil - he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego." .
He continued, "The other is good - he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you - and inside every other person, too."
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, "Which wolf will win?"
The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed".

Micro-moments of positivity, love, compassion and all the good stuff are key to becoming a happier person. If we are swamped with negative thoughts it is likely that our flight flight system is going like the clapper. It's unrealistic to expect to be positive all of the time (and frankly people who bang on about it are a bit annoying! 😉) so savouring positive moments or spotting them in places where wouldn't have in the past is a really good place to start. Even if it's only for a few seconds. Perhaps you notice a really pretty pattern on the floor or you smell some flowers. Savour it! ----------------------
Neuroplasticity tell us that you can teach an old dog new tricks. We can literally think ourselves to being happier people. -----------------------------------

I was at a really interesting workshop yesterday. Our brains evolved to let positive experiences slide off and to hold on to negative experiences. (Have a look at the negativity bias)
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If you can very gradually savour the positive experiences (even for an extra few seconds or minutes) rather than letting them slide by your life will naturally feel better. That isn't to say we are all running around saying 'everything's amazing' or being positive all the time (that's not authentic, life can be tricky) but it's trying to choose to dwell on the positive for a bit rather than dwelling on the negative all the time.
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This a lyric from my lovely friend 's song
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Sometimes we have to do scary things. Getting out of our comfort zone is often the best way to move forward......... And if you haven't listened to any of Martyna's music check her out. She's awesome! 💜
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Albert Ellis created Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy. It's commonly known as REBT - it can be hugely beneficial for some people. We can't change what has happened to us but we can change the way we think about it. I work in an integrative way so understand that this approach isn't for everyone. We're all so different and we all need different strategies to deal with life.

Real Men Cry
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There's still a sigma when it comes to guys showing their emotions. Real strength comes from feeling your emotions, not hiding from them, dulling them down or numbing them out.
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I'm planning a two hour workshop in early May. We'll be working on the voice inside our head. Where does the inner critic come from? And how can you get the voice to become one of support than criticism? Plus at the end you'll get a long pamper relaxation chill out mental massage session.

Our thoughts can take us to the edge. We put so much importance on the voice in our head. Would you believe anyone else as much as you do to that inner critic? Especially if they talked to you in the way that your inner critic does! Well, guess what? Your thoughts are not necessarily true.

With a busy brain we often find destructive ways to self soothe, to numb out the thoughts and feelings. Accepting that we are not our thoughts & they aren't fact can be really helpful. It gives the thoughts less currency so we don't feel the need to numb ourselves out as often. If you can step back and observe your thoughts passing by you'll realise that you don't always have to engage with them every single time.

Love isn't passive and it can be challenging at times but loving yourself or someone else it takes some kind of action. You have to tend it like a garden, nurturing it or it may dry up or become overrun with weeds. You have to exercise it like a muscle or it may atrophy. We sometimes take our loved ones for granted, so today, take a little time out of your day to nurture the love in your life. We also neglect ourselves listening to our inner critic. Next time it pipes up respond with positive self love. Respond with the kindness and compassion that you'd show your best friend. ————————————————

An infrequent pity party can be cleansing. The 'I'm hurting', 'it's unfair', 'why me' voice in your head sometimes needs to be heard. It can actually help us understand our feelings. They problem is if you get stuck in that way of thinking. Question your beliefs. What are you upset? How would it look if you did something differently?

We often feel pressure to be something or someone we are not. We slap a happy smile on our face and tell everyone that 'WE'RE FINE' even when we are not. That is a sure way to feel miserable. If a friend is feeling sad you don't want them to put a front on a pretend everything is OK. You want them to be comfortable sharing how they feel. The same is true for you too. Covering up how we feel leads to discord and incongruence within us. If you are feeling sad let others know. Don't bottle up those feelings.

Have you ever tried Box Breathing? It's a good way to calm your fight/flight system. Living a hectic life can often mean our nervous nervous system is in overdrive but simple breathing techniques like this can really help in times of stress or when you just want to chill out. The idea of a box really helps me to visualise what the breathing exercise is all about.
---------------------------------You can learn a lot about how you are feeling from listening to your breath. If you are feeling anxious your breathing may be quick and shallow so this breathing practice can really help.
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You breathe in for 4, hold for 4, breathe out for 4 and hold for 4. Take it at your own pace and lengthen the count if you want to.
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