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Loss of Jurgen - Why so sad

The news yesterday that Jurgen Klopp has taken the decision to leave Liverpool Football Club at the end of the current season is being deeply felt and experienced by all connected to the club.

The depth of the feelings of sadness akin to grief and loss can be surprising to others and even to the fans themselves. So why is this ?

Seems irrational to us to experience this level of emotion for someone you didnt actually know in person. Well there are a number of reasons.

Firstly most fans have whats known as a para-social relationship with him due to the connection he exquisitely creates with his fan family. It is such that people feel as though they know him personally and so the loss is just that - personal.

Secondly, Jurgen is an archetype, it is what he represents to us, what qualities and values he represents that resonate with us.

For the LFC family Jurgen has been an inspiration and symbol of hope, stability, honour and more.

This loss to our Liverpool family (both football and otherwise) reminds us and triggers the unresolved losses we still carry from our lived experiences and in doing so resurfaces those same feelings of loss once felt in our real lives. Its as though we are experiencing the ripple effects of Jurgens own personal losses that he himself needs time to heal.

I for one, send him my love and support as he gives himself time to heal his losses and reprioritise what is of true value to him in his life.

Asking what Jurgen and yesterdays news represents to us can give us insight into why we are feeling and responding as we are. 

What does Jurgen represent and mean to you ? 👇 comment below to help and share with other fans in their grief and loss.

An interesting article about Brainspotting if you are at least curious.

Turning the Spotlight on Brainspotting A look at the rise, mysteries, and controversies of Brainspotting, David Grand’s popular trauma-processing technique.

Had a wonderful evening attending a seed talk event at The Camp and Furnace Liverpool where the wonderful Dr James Brown gave a fascinating, illuminating and engaging talk about all things ADHD. It was so lovely to see so many people receiving the support of others. If your interested in finding out more then Dr James Brown runs a charity and hosts a podcast. See below for details for links to all his resources. 👇🏻. UK charity ADHDadultUK, James was diagnosed with ADHD in 2021, and subsequently co-founded the registered UK charity ADHDadultUK, https://www.adhdadult.uk/ the evidence-based online ADHD magazine focusmag.uk https://focusmag.uk and The ADHD Adults podcast. https://youtube.com/. James also coaches adults with ADHD and provides institutional training on ADHD and neurodivergent conditions.

The good news is that you can change your programming, and this is a part of what I support people to do.
Our unconscious mind is the mind that we feel and behave from. It is literal and non-linear, creative and has infinite capacity. Our feelings beliefs and behaviours are often the consequence of our programmes

What would you change in your life?

More than this though we often don’t recall our most significant memories into conscious awareness. Most often we just see evidence of them in our behaviours and how we live our lives. 95% of the time we are running subconscious programmes. We can get an idea of what these are from observing the things that come easy to us. What we find easy comes into our lives because our 'programmes' support it. Conversely the things we find hardest are the things that our programmes don’t support.

What comes easy to you ?

This weekend take some time to experience your environment in the moment.

Just take five minutes to notice and experience your sensory environment.

Maybe you’re not sure … that’s ok you have that awareness.

Now…

For one minute notice, name and describe one thing you can hear.

Describe all of the features of that sound. Notice where it comes from, where it goes to, notice and describe how that feels In your body. Notice and describe where that feeling is located.

Notice the impact on your emotions, your state, mood and feelings.

Repeat this for / with another sound.

Share your discoveries and insights in the comments👇🏻

It is important to really think about and gain clarity and confidence around what your boundaries

What is acceptable to you and what isn't and make a personal commitment to keeping them in place.

Once you have established this you will need to calmly communicate them to others and make a commitment to upholding them as sacrosanct, non-negotiable, and undebatable.

What behaviours do you accept from others that trample all over your boundaries ? Let me know below 👇🏻

It was a real joy and privilege today to attend an interesting and informative workshop entitled ‘Understanding hearing voices; a non-medicalised perspective’. The workshop was hosted by AD4E and delivered by Dr Jacqui Dillon and Jo Watson who are both pioneers and activists that challenge the culture of diagnosis and disorder. I’m so excited to join the conversation.

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🚨 Please read Emily’s story. She needs a stem cell transplant from a stranger to save her life. In August, 20-year-old Emily was told the devastating news that her Acute Myeloid Leukaemia had returned. She was initially diagnosed last October after noticing unexplained bruises on her legs. After intense treatment and a period of isolation, Emily rang the end of treatment bell at St James’ Hospital in July after receiving the all-clear from her doctors. ‘To get the all-clear and then for it to come back, it was just horrific,’ Kirstie, Emily’s mum says. ‘She was absolutely broken, and she is really, really scared.’ ‘The thought of not being able to find a donor is unbearable.’ Emily is now undergoing intense chemotherapy, but needs a stem cell donation from a stranger to save her life. We’re working with her family to appeal to people to join the Anthony Nolan stem cell register. ‘The issue we have is that we need people to sign up,’ Kirstie says. ‘They need to be between 16 and 30 and all they need to do is go on and register. Then they’ll get a pack sent out to them. It’s a mouth swab – that's all it is.’ ‘Even if it didn’t match Emily, it might match someone else who needs a transplant. People think it’s a major operation but it’s not, it's just removing blood and then putting it back in.’ If you’re aged 16-30 and in good health, please consider joining the Anthony Nolan register now via the link in our bio, And please share this post if you can. You could offer a patient just like Emily a second chance at life. Thank you. 💚 #AnthonyNolan #StemCellDonation

Our behaviours are often unconscious in nature. We know rationally what we want to do, but our behaviours seem
to have other ideas.

Even behaviours that seem to have no apparent trigger have their basis in significant events in our past but the significance of the event doesn’t necessarily have to be substantial or unusual. What makes the difference is the emotional charge that was present at the time of the event.

These emotionally charged events can be just small events but they can have a massive impact on our futures and success.

Start noticing your unwanted behaviours and the emotions aligned with them. Ask yourself what they remind you of ? Especially and specifically before or around the time you were seven years old.

You may be surprised what insights that brings. These events are a great place to start to resolve those unwanted behaviours.

The thing about confidence is that it is context dependent, which means we can be confident in some areas and not so much in others.

If you think about something that your really confident at for a moment (so an activity that you do with ease, without thinking about it ) just notice how that feels in your body and what it looks and sounds like.

When we feel confident, we feel it in our bodies and show it in our physiology.
Give it a go now.

Think of a time when you felt confident. You feel solid, grounded, certain and relaxed. Your physiology is up. Shoulders back, head up.

Conversely when we lack confidence we feel that very differently in our bodies and show it differently in our physiology.
Give that a go now.

What is in the mind is in the body.

Confidence grows by managing your state, physiology and by doing.

Often the person with the most confidence does not feel the need to externalise and convince others.

Do not be fooled into associating confidence with volume and sociability.

Confidence is a state in which you have nothing to prove.

Confidence is quiet 🤫

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When you are struggling to make a decision about what action to take, ask yourself this for each of your options.

‘Is this option getting me closer to where I want to be or further away’ ?

Choose the option that gets you closer to what you really want in your life.

Often a problem can seem so complex that it becomes too overwhelming. Often taking one step toward where you want to be can act as a catalyst.

What is the one thing you could do right now, the doing of which would act as a catalyst for getting what you really want in your life ?

Traumatic events are like the human version of a power surge. The system receives massive energy and information flow through the senses and the body.

Just like in an electrical system the power surge of trauma can result in damage to the system, loss of functionality and reduced performance.

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Do you have a problem or a conflict that your trying to resolve ?

Often people get caught in a loop of focusing on all the detail. Going round and around over the same material. The answer can be found by chunking up.

Resolvedrm updated their information in their About section.

At ResolvedRM this week we have been reflecting on the past 12 months and on the forthcoming year and considering what we’d like to be reflecting upon this time next year. What would you like to have changed or achieved by next year? All change and progress starts with a first step. If you don’t know where to start or what’s stopping you then a good place to start is with us.

When you’re asked to do something that you know to be wrong or that is misaligned with your personal values; notice how you experience that physically and emotionally. Notice when, where, what and how you feel it in you’re physical body. Notice it’s resonance, how it can make you feel unsteady, unbalanced and precarious.
Evidence of the mind body connection.

When you face having to do something that you lack confidence in doing, you may notice an uncomfortable response in your body; a kind of resistance. Notice and embrace this because it is showing you that there is light and growth beyond that resistance. Like a daffodil welcoming the spring it must first push through the dark and overcome the resistance of the earth in order to break out, grow and bloom and demonstrate that longer, brighter and lighter days are to come.