Deb Derham Grow Into Your Strength

THIS .... is very exciting news. EFT being officially recognised as worthy of government funding for research for PTSD

https://www.efttappingtraining.com/overcoming-hurdles-n-i-c-e-recommends-eft-of-being-worthy-of-research-funding/

Overcoming Hurdles: N.I.C.E. Recommends EFT of Being Worthy of Research Funding – EFT Tapping Training Institute Overcoming Hurdles: N.I.C.E. Recommends EFT of Being Worthy of Research Funding December 16, 2018For the first time in world history a government agency has officially recommended EFT as worthy of government research funds for trauma/PTSD. This huge milestone came about as a direct collaborative beh...

When you feel SMALL, WRONG, INSIGNIFICANT, POWERLESS OR AFRAID, it very likely comes from your earlier years. Here is a little activity for you:
Close your eyes and check in to your Heartspace and consciously tune into Little You - that Little Girl inside.
Ask her to show you when SHE felt like this, and then give her all the love, support and encouragement that she needs to feel safe. Listen to what she has to say - I mean really listen. What is she saying in between what she is saying . . . Listen with your body, your heart . . . When Little You feels HEARD, SEEN, ACKNOWLEDGED, AND LOVED so will YOU

Lots of Love to You & Little You xx

Lots of Love to Little You today 💗💗💗💗

I love my work supporting women who have had trauma in their lives I also love that we tend to teach what we need to learn. I certainly needed my programmes as a young woman. My healing has involved (and still does) healing my wounded little girl inside and giving her all the love and attention she needed but never got from the adults around her. She has needed support as a teenager, a young woman, a pre-verbal baby and a baby in the womb and everything in between

Please feel free to use my Loving Little Me Planner https://goo.gl/WA6ANK from my Freeing Little Me Programme. It will help you to reconnect and remember that Little You is inside just waiting for you.

With lots of love to you and Little You 💟 https://goo.gl/WA6ANK

ENERGY
What's the ENERGY you are sending out to the world today. Do you feel peaceful, joyful, loving? Good! You will get more! 😍

SELF CARE
What are your self care plans this weekend?

This is Dougie, my crazy 1yr old Cavapoo ☺
Let me see your furbabies in the comments

EMOTIONAL MASTERY CIRCLE

Are you fed up with being on emotional roller coaster?

You feel great, life is good, you feel a lightness inside and you feel grounded and secure

THEN...

🙄 Something happens and you feel like S***

🙄 The next thing you know, weeks have gone by and you are still feeling like S*** You haven't moved forward, you are still feeling low and are still running the negative thought processes in your head.

🙄 Then the fear, the doubt, the worry, the "im no good" all start to kick in and the joy, gratitude, and love are a distant memory.

Emotions , urgh.....
Yep ebb and flow is normal, but lets make it a bit easier on ourselves and get through the ebb and flow a little easier hey?

Everything we feel and manifest in life, work & business is related to everything we have felt, witnessed and picked up from others in our time on the planet so far. Some of what we feel is from past trauma - big or small. Lets face it, for many of us that work for ourselves, we are here because we want to help women just like us.

Join me for my 2nd Online Circle. If you are on the journey of navigating your emotional landscape, (whatever your wounds are) this is a place for you to be held, seen and heard; I will hold space for you and as a group we will hold space for each other. And, as always we will invite Little You to come and join us :-) Just $15 USD

What previous participants said:

"I loved this session. The meditations were new to me and the letter was a new concept - Brilliant!"

"I had an amazing time today. Every part of it was lovely. I have learnt alot and it is just what I need at the moment. I feel it the start of my journey, you made me feel very welcome and nurtured"

"Thanks again for a lovely experience, I enjoyed slowing down and taking time just to be with Me and Little Me"

Please join me on December 11th just $15 USD 10 spots available

CIRCLE 1 (AUS & UK)
9am UK
7pm AEST
8pm AEDT
5pm AWST

CIRCLE 2 (US & UK)
3pm UK
10am US/CAN EST
7am US/CAN PST
8am US/CAN MST

Please note separate Circle for US / Canada 😉

https://goo.gl/cPoeLL

Lots of Love. Debs xx

Join us on Friday 30th Nov for a FREE group Matrix online healing session 😍
We will meet on Zoom, just bring with you a prominent emotion that keep rearing it's ugly head and holding you back in sneaky little ways.

** No big stuff please ** (Big stuff needs one on one work)

Time:
8.45am UK
4.45pm AWEST
6.45pm AEST
7.45 pm AEDT

Register here: http://eepurl.com/dOMiX1 and will will get the link to join and preparation instructions.

If you havent used zoom before, take 5 minutes sometime before Friday to register on the platform

Perfect for the weekend....
Thanks Wildly Radiant with Elisha Halpin

The Invitation to SLOW...

No matter your plans for this week (it is Thanksgiving in the US)

And I remind you, SLOWing is NOT STOPPING!

We are talking about an internal state of being of choosing self love over worry and allowing that to be the intention that fuels us into external doing.

So don't just fill your cup first, SLOW down enough to be with that cup, and make sure it's full of LOVE, GRATITUDE, COMPASSION, and I like to add a dash of HUMOR 😉

Step 1 - Pick a Song that will be your SLOW song for the week. This is a song you can play in the car, while you are doing dishes, in the bathtub, dancing with your kids, or hiding in the bathroom. Let this song be not just your anthem, but your connection to the state you would choose to live in.

Step 2 - Breathing. Do this with your song. Pause as you enter and exit every room. Set a timer on your phone. Yes, we are lucky that we breathe automatically. And also, pay attention. Consciously breathing reconnects you to presence, allows life to slow down, and reminds you to see, feel, and be with all of the beauty that is around you.

Step 3 - Pick a Mantra. Mantras are light slogans of light that connect us and remind us and ground us. A great mantra might be, Self Love Over Worry, or I choose me, or I'm just breathing. It doesn't need to be fancy. You just need to remember it, and use it. Sticky notes, alerts on phones, signs on doors, written on your hand. Whatever is going to help you. Pick a mantra, and use it often!

Step 4 - Set your Environment. We often pull out of SLOWness simply with the chaos of life. Some environmental cues can help us. Shut off the TV, or at least keep it low. Background noise is a super agitator so the less of that, or the more conscious it is, by choosing something supportive like healing tones or melodic music, the better. Dimming the lights, or keeping fewer lights on is also helpful to decrease agitation. Candle light is a great support! Also using soothing smells in a diffuser. Nature sounds, running water - all great choices!

Step 5 - Daily Meditation Practice. I believe a daily meditation practice is essential for choosing the SLOW life. It doesn't have to be long, and I am not concerned with what type of meditation you do, but having a practice that supports your inner life is essential. I have one for you that should take away all the excuses of time, not knowing what to do, or being good at meditation. I hope you will join me in this Sacred Pause.
YouTube: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=87AN3MP6ito
SoundCloud: https://soundcloud.com/elisha-halpin/sacred-pause-on-the-path

You: Who is Little Me?

Me: Your Inner Child

You: And . . . ?

Me: When she feels loved, heard and seen, she will become Fearless and Strong, and so will YOU!

I have been asking lots of questions lately in a couple of fb groups I am in; and quite frankly the responses have been heartbreaking. I have been asking about the sorts of comments people make to women after they have had a traumatic birth experience.
Here is some of what I have heard:

Well at least the baby is ok
But it was worth it all wasn't it?
Oh you had a c-section - took the easy way out "lol"
Just be grateful your baby is healthy
You survived didn't you?!

The sad thing is every woman that responded said that she felt either ignored, unheard, unseen, invalidated, as though she didn't count and she should just carry on and be grateful - it makes my blood boil. Yes a lot of comments were from health professionals but most were from well meaning loved ones.

We need to do so much more to educate people on the effects of birth trauma (for all concerned) but especially mums, they, in particular appear to get completely overlooked.

To me it's about raising awareness, raising awareness on how a traumatised person feels and acts, raising awareness about how to just hold space for someone, without the need to say something, or to try and fix things, to make them feel better - just BE THERE

✔️ Do you have some not so good memories from childhood?
✔️ Do you feel frustratingly blocked and stuck in patterns of behaviour that stop you moving forward in life and business?
✔️ Are you often triggered by people or situations, and feel unsafe in your body?

If you have a specific memory from childhood and you know that it is still running the show, spend some time when you know you wont be disturbed, bring the memory to mind and step into it. Step in initially as an observer. see Little You on that day/moment in time and any other people involved. Then freeze the whole picture, freeze everyone in the memory apart from Little You - she may be frightened, upset or angry. Talk to her and gently let her know who you are and that you are from the future and come to help her feel better.

Now as you move closer to her, tell her you have a magical way to help her feel better, then begin to TAP on her (EFT), all the time talking to her calmly and lovingly, let her know she is going to be ok.

You are aiming here to calm the stress response she is experiencing in her body at that moment in time. As she calms, bring her close to you and sit with her and hug her tight, rock her, stroke her hair, kiss her forehead, whatever you feel compelled to do or say will be the right thing. The most important is that you let her know she is safe and loved and that you are always there for her.

When she has calmed, and she feels relaxed in your presence, ask her if she would like to go somewhere, perhaps a favourite place or a magical land. Next hold hands with her and jump together - now you are in her magical land or favourite place where anything that she wishes can happen. Spend time here, just the 2 of you, playing, laughing and getting to know each other.

Finally, sit opposite Little You and holding hands again beam a beautiful rose pink light from your heart to hers and see it fill her whole body. Now see her get smaller and smaller in front of you until she is as small as a grain of rice - now feel her drift forward towards you and settle into your heart space. Keep her there where you can check in on her every day, and look down on her and send her your love.

Lie in, clean, fresh sheets and puppy snuggles

Crisp autumn walks

Meditation group with shared food

What's on the cards for your weekend?

A gift for you:
So you have started connecting to your inner child - Little You.
You may have started with your birth, or you may have started developing the relationship a little older - the important thing is that YOU START 😍

Why? Because so many of our behaviours and patterns come from our earliest experiences. Here's a few:
- Staying small and insignificant
- Staying quiet - Wanting everything to come to you, so
you dont have to stand out and claim it
- Being scared
- Being angry and throwing you toys out of the pram! 🤣
- Being serious all the time

The list can go on and on and on So here is my Loving Little You Planner with guidance sheets, to help keep you on track with your Inner Child journey :-) http://eepurl.com/cvYeMn

Have fun you two!

Deb Derham Grow Into Your Strength updated their business hours.

This page will be changing soon. Grow into Your Strength Non-Profit will be on Twitter only: https://twitter.com/childofDVA
This page will continue and merge with my previous therapies page (with more updated therapies). Little Me work will continue
Please feel free to unlike / unfollow if you wish, I wont take it personally 😉
See you soon as a new and exciting page 😃

I love Judi Cranston and her music and kids love her too. You can also subscribe to her youtube channel https://www.youtube.com/c/kindyRock?sub_confirmation=1

KindyRock - Learning Songs for Small Children Learning songs for kids 0-6 years old + resources and training for teachers and early learning profe

Bit of inspiration for you . . .
https://www.ted.com/talks/justin_baldoni_why_i_m_done_trying_to_be_man_enough/details

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Mental Health Art Therapy!! Challenging Perceptions is working in collaboration with Branches, to provide art therapy for 18+. Starts Thursday 28th June at 6pm-7.30pm in our joint office at Park Lane Centre. Unleash Your Creative Side!!

We're proud to reveal the full cover of Teen Breathe's Issue 6! This beautiful illustration is by Lady Desidia, who you might recognise as the cover artist for Issue 4. You can see more of her work through the link below. Teen Breathe will be on sale in the UK tomorrow, 5th June :) https://ladydesidiashop.bigcartel.com/

Great afternoon and wonderful connections made. Great to finally meet you Challenging Perceptions

What are your self care plans for this weekend?

Happy 😍

Get your Healing To Do List started with our Beliefs Brain Dump.
Download for free here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/17iKlyCZTXn960IJb5nK4GbSA7420tKNP/view?usp=sharing

List your beliefs. Then for each one, consider . . .

How true is this?
Whose belief is this?

The completed information is then a ready made healing to do list :-) You know what you have to work on