Life Coach Aditi

Understand your problem, analyse the issue, work on getting better, and start living happy.

Therapy: It is a professional help taken when we go through any traumatic experiences. The therapist will include medication or some therapies as a means of treatment. It focuses on getting rid of the problem.
Counselling: It is a professional help taken when you feel depressed or you are having difficulty choosing your career or you feel stagnant in your life. The counsellor will give his/her suggestions on your problems, and mainly the focus is experiences of the past.

Divya, a 19-year-old girl is always seen boasting about her achievements to others. She answers back to the elderly and finds ways to show greatness, to her friends and family. She always wants to be the number one and liked by everyone and gets angry when no one listens to her or gives her attention. She only fears her father who compels her to study well. She has great attributes like dancing, playing badminton, being academically well, etc. But unknowingly she has hurt many close people of hers.
Do you feel helpless in this situation, as a parent? What are you doing differently, if your child is behaving in the same manner?
Here, the ego is the problem. Ego of money, lifestyle, smartness, authority, etc. The children understand the importance of these things, very early on. As a parent, you should be able to make him/her explain the importance of treating everyone equally. Of course, not everyone might be as rich as you, or as academically brilliant as your child. Could you talk to your teenager about these things?
If they are having doubts, you can always reach out to me, and I will coach them, and be their guide in finding the right way out of ego. Parents, do reach out to me for the initial call, which is free of cost.

Being a teenage parent is the toughest job. Your child thinks they know everything and that they are the smartest being on this planet. With mobile phones and friends of similar thinking by their side, no one can stop them from behaving the way they want to, or so they think.
One way to deal with this is to become of their age and talk with them. Of course, you cannot intrude on their space because if you do, they’ll get pi**ed off for sure. So, when they are free, relaxed, and in a good mood, communicate with them. Be of their age and laugh a little with them.
Ages 16-18 are the most confused ones. They are neither small nor big enough to take decisions. They get into relationships or might get exposed to illegal substances, or some might explore the bad side of the internet. All these things influence their mindset, behaviour, attitudes, etc.
Know that, as a parent, as much ever you protect them from this world, they are bound to experience the realities of the world, after all, they are becoming adults, the future generation of this society. I am not encouraging you to support any of their wrongdoings, I am letting you know the reality of how teenage works.
If you see your teenage child’s changed behaviour or attitude, then don’t panic or get angry instantly. Understand what must be the reason for their changed behaviour. Is there any problem going on at home? Are you giving them a lot of pressure? Is there anything else? And yet if you are finding it difficult to figure it out, then do approach me. I will be their best friend and guide and help them overcome problems.

Fights can have adverse effects on your child…
Sana is a 20-year-old girl who loves to spend time with her family and friends. Her parents have been arguing lately, over petty issues, the marriage is on the verge of breaking up. She is upset as she can’t understand how to deal with the situation. She cries alone and barely talks with her parents. Her father notices the change in her and when he asks what is the matter, she raises her voice at him but doesn’t tell that she is worried.
If you dealing with similar situations like this too, then you need to rethink your situation. Teenage is a period when children are developing and adapting to new feelings, emotions, and ideas. When they see their parents fight, they immediately pick sides. A thought comes to their mind, what if they also fight with their partners, and hence decide not to get married.
This kind of thinking may hamper their relationships in future. Their way of looking at relationships may change. Hence, as parents, your job is to make the child understand why you are fighting. If you and your partner are separating, then let your child know the reason behind doing so. Trust them and have faith in them, they will surely understand your situation. But neglecting them and deciding what is good for them in this situation, will only make them drift away from you.
If your teen child is facing such difficulties, do approach me for discussing the problem, the first call is free.

Does your teenage child behave this way?
Rohan, a 15-year-old boy is always hanging out with his friends, he hardly talks to his parents and younger sister. He eats his dinner alone watches YouTube and barely studies. He instantly gets angry or irritated when his space is intruded upon. He loves to play piano but is not interested in playing it in front of people.
Does this seem to be a similar situation as yours? Is your teen child also behaving differently and you are confused about how to deal with them?
As a parent, you want to give your child every happiness in the world. You want them to be happy and protected all the time. But teenage is an age when children are developing mentally and emotionally, they want to explore the world, and look beyond the world that you have created for them. And in this process, they need your help, though indirectly.
They won’t tell you when they need your guidance. You should be aware of the signs and behaviours they show. Talking with them other than the topics of study, future, phone, etc. connecting with them by understanding what they are interested in, and what makes them stressed out, can help them communicate with you openly.
If you feel any changed behaviour in your teen child, do approach me for a discovery call session, free of cost.

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Parents face a lot of challenges when their child becomes a teenager.
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