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Doing things that make you feel good about yourself, that increases your self esteem, is really important. It helps you feel more confident and happy. When you believe in yourself, it's easier to handle problems, make friends, and reach your goals.

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4. Instead of: Don’t you dare hit!

Try this: It’s OK to be angry, but I won’t let you hit. We need to keep everyone safe.

This gets the message firmly across that the emotion is okay, but the action is not.

Separating the two will help your child learn to do likewise. They will learn to control physical reactions without suppressing their emotions.

3. Instead of: Don’t be angry!

Try this: I get angry too sometimes. Let’s try our warrior cry to get those angry feelings in check.

A recent study reveals that yelling when we are physically hurt can actually interrupt pain messages being sent to the brain.
Although your child may not be in physical pain, a warrior cry can help release angry energy in a healthy manner. Choose a warrior cry or a shout out phrase together with your child. It could even be an animal sound, like a howl or a Tarzan cry.

2. Instead of: Big kids don’t do this!

Try this: Big kids and even grown-ups sometimes have big feelings. It’s OK, these feelings will pass.

Let’s be honest. The older your kids get, the bigger the problems they face, the bigger the feelings they have.
Telling them that big kids don’t experience anxiety, anger, or frustration, is simply not true. It also encourages children to avoid or suppress emotions and prevents processing them in a healthy manner.

In USA, screen addiction facts have shown that people aged between 8 and 28 tend to spend around 44.5 hours every week staring at a screen and could have an addiction to electronic devices.

Things have changed dramatically over the last few years. Although technology has helped us gain much more control over the way we do things, such as through flexible working, the fact remains that it has also been consuming our lives.

1. Instead of: Stop throwing things!

Try this: When you throw your toys, I think you don’t like playing with them. Is that the case?

This technique is designed to help communicate feelings in a non-confrontational manner. Not only does this keep the lines of communication open, but, you are modeling how to phrase a situation from your perspective, which gives your child a chance to rephrase events from his/her perspective.

Felt like starting an "Instead of ______, try this _______" series. Looking forward to sharing some parenting tips.

The way we speak to our children becomes the way they speak to themselves. What's the first thing our kids hear from us in the morning. And what's the last thing we say to them when they go to bed.

Considering the impact we have on our kids life, it's something to be mindful about. What do you think?

To be able to calm down a child who is having an emotional flare-up, we as parents should first learn to remain calm.

“Heal before becoming a parent so your children won’t have to heal from having you as a parent.”

Meditate...

"We may not be able to prepare the future for our children, but we can at least prepare our children for the future."

"There’s no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one." - J Churchill

Kids can teach you a lot of things. How much patience you have, for instance.

There is no such thing as perfect parenting. So just be the real one. - Sue Atkins

Parenting is a lifetime job. And mindful parenting is an art.

Behind every young child who believe in their own self, is a parent who believed first.
- Matthew Jacobson

The moment you say "my child never...", there they come nevering like they have never nevered before!

The sad story of today!

Kids nowadays expect technology to solve all their problems. But this is making them dependant and vulnerable. The newer generation of adults may be ill-equipped to handle tougher aspects of life such as lack of money, work related insecurities, breakups, etc and also could be more prone to addictions than the current generation.

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“So, your kids must love the iPad?” I asked Mr. [Steve] Jobs, trying to change the subject. The company’s first tablet was just hitting the shelves. “They haven’t used it,” he told me. “We limit how much technology our kids use at home.”
(Nytimes article, Sept. 10, 2014)”

If Steve Jobs has strict rules regarding screens for his own kids, don't you think it's food for thought for us folks?