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Make Your Love Work

Love doesn’t have to hurt. If all you want is love that lasts, you can make it happen. There’s nothing wrong with you. And there’s nothing wrong with the one who broke your heart. Three tips…

One, lasting love is a skill, not luck. Love can be learned. Study love. Lasting love doesn't just happen – it’s caused to happen. What you get is a result of what you invest. Reflect on your inputs.

Two, lasting love is a decision, not a feeling. What got you together won’t keep you together. Feelings rise and fall. Feelings are short-lived. Decisions are solid commitments - where love lasts forever.

Three, lasting love is a covenant, not a contract. Contracts can be dissolved. Covenants are not broken. Covenants are biding. Covenants protect love. Covenants are protective, not restrictive.

Staying together doesn’t mean you love each other. Love seeks to impress partner. Love is selfless. Love is humble. Love is kind. Love is patient. Love is not easily angered. Love forgives. Love protects. Love trusts. Love never fails (1 Cor 13:4-8). What do you need to work on?

If you can't fart when with them then it's not love..
Yeah! I mean what's the point if biology can separate you, right?

I once had a crush whom I didn't even want to know that I do go to the toilet. I would make up stories and distance myself just to get a chance to relieve myself without him noticing.

But now me and kiongoss have nothing to hide and it is feels like heaven! Even when our stomachs go Blum blu blu blu blu..🥂 there's nothing to be embarrassed about.

Food from a woman's hand is very powerful..
I mean, it's what made Adam mess up our story!

The guy in lime green..

I think he may have it right when it comes to Kamba fashion and colour 😁 But if you think he got it wrong, you are also right.

Try Again & Again & Again

If someone left you, dare to love again. If you fail an exam, try again – don’t quit school. If you’re selling, knock another door, and another one. If you didn’t get the job, apply another place, and another.

If you blew up your song or speech, refine your presentation skills and try another stage. If your business is not working, try another strategy. Try over and over again until you succeed.

When you fall, get up on your feet and try again. Thomas Edison succeeded in hundreds of innovations by trying over and over again. Nick Vujicic says, “If I fail, I try again, and again, and again.”

Few things work out the first time. So long as the sun rises again, try again. Every single day is a new chance to try again. Albert Eistein said, “It’s not that I’m so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer.”

You can’t explain to an infant how to walk. They just have to try, fall and try again. You can’t explain to someone how to ride a bicycle. They can only find their balance by trying it out.

Even God encourages us to keep trying. The Bible says, “Sow your seed in the morning, and at evening, let your hands not be idle, for you do not know which will succeed (Eccl 11:6).”

Dr. K. N. Jacob

GIVING UP AND MOVING ON IS EASY BUT ..

It isn’t about finding a perfect person but two people who really want to
change their learnt toxic traits developed from childhood and past relationships & turn them into a better person and creating an ever lasting love. ❤️

If you want to heal faster lilia Kwa boda ndio machozi ikauke haraka ata haiguzangi cheeks vizuri. Usipande gari please kitambo ufike home you will be done crying and healing 💔

Let me explain it to you guys, people will come into your life after they have seen that with or without their help you will make it, so they will come in time of blessings and help you ones, so that it should look like it's there effort but it's not,
So the picture is telling you and me to be careful in times of good things when they have started happening.

🌸🅗︎🅔︎🅛︎🅛︎🅞︎ 𝖬𝗒 𝗕𝗜𝗥𝗧𝗛 𝗠𝗢𝗡𝗧𝗛😊🫰✨
#𝐌𝐀𝐘𝐁𝐚𝐛𝐢𝐞𝐬🥳🩷 drop your birth dates I will celebrate you!!!

Women love details, instead of saying 'you are beautiful' say 'I like your hair', ' You have a great sense of fashion'... Pay attention to details

AVOID THIS TYPE of RELATIONSHIPS?

1. You should avoid a relationship that is based on s*x alone.

It has no future. If all you do is to sleep with each other

instead of discussing things that will benefit your life then that

relationship is a waste of time and destiny.

2. Avoid any relationship that has no direction, purpose or aim.

3. Avoid any relationship that doesn't add any positive impact

on your life.

4. Run away from any relationship that gives you more sorrows

than joy.

5. Run away from any relationship that makes you cry or gives

you more tears and cry than laughter.

6. Do not stay in a relationship where you love someone but

the person makes you unhappy many times.

7. When you see signs that a relationship can't work, there is

no need remaining into it. Flee from it. Don't keep managing.

8. Avoid any relationship where you find yourself struggling to

love your partner.

9. Avoid any relationship where you are caged or restricted

from your rights. No relationship should restrict you from your

rights.

10. Avoid any relationship that will keep you far away from

God.

TWIN FLAME!!!

Very good if you see it without planning or on purpose.

I mean when you look at your watch 11:11am. Then later you see another 1:11pm without planning or coincidence then late at night when you want to check your time it says 11:11pm again.

That is very auspicious.

1111 means you are on the right path. Everything is going your way. It is going to be a positive one.

It is a new journey to you and your twin flame. Congratulations on your journey.

This is only the beginning.

The road to success is waiting for you.

You have to work really hard to achieve it.

However, there is no worries for your twin flame journey.

Good luck to you all twin flames 🔥

Thank you for reading 🙏

PRIORITIES..

Parents over anyone.
Career over love.
Skills over degrees.
Health over wealth.
Mentally strong over emotional fool.
Brain over heart.
Real over reel.
Peace over money.
Reality over social media.
Asset over liabilities.
Inner beauty over outer beauty.

Everything is TEMPORARY

You’re basically alone. You may feel like your friends won’t leave you, but they will. And YOU will ignore people who want to be your friend too.

Don’t listen to peoples opinions. Opinions are like rectums….everybody got one…

The Worst is Behind You

Don’t look back, you’re not going that way. The past has nothing new to offer you. Treat the past as a place of reference, not residence. There are far better things ahead than any we leave behind.

Leave the past where it belongs – behind you. You can’t change what has happened. The best can’t find you until you put the worst behind you. Sometimes people with the worst past create the best future.

Your past is just a story. Stop keeping track of the mistakes you’ve made. It’s time to forgive yourself. If you missed the boat, let it go. There’ll be another one along soon. New opportunities keep coming.

Your journey will be much easier and lighter if you don’t carry your past with you. Keep your face always toward the sunshine, and shadows will fall behind you. Surrender what was. Have faith in what will be.

Dr. K. N. Jacob

Fix your crown queen, your mistakes don't make you less of a woman.

The beauty of a rainbow does not negate the ravages of the storm. When a rainbow appears, it doesn't mean the storm never happened or that we are still not still dealing with its aftermath. What it means is that something beautiful and full of light has appeared in the midst of the darkness and clouds. Storm clouds may still hover but the rainbow provides a counterbalance of color, energy, and hope.

PERSONALITY AND PSYCHOLOGY

The speed of eating — fast eaters are ambitious, go-getters, and impatient. Slow eaters are one for patience and savoring life’s pleasure.

Response to insults — people pleaser if they accept every insult, insecure if they get super-defensive, confident if they joke around it.

Ability to express emotions — people who can’t talk about their feelings have an unhealed traumatic history.

Showing anxiety physically — people who do repetitive behaviors like biting-nails, tapping foot tend to be perfectionists.

Behavior towards better people — if they talk with the contempt towards someone better than them, they feel threatened and jealous.

Who they talk about in a conversation — low self-worth if they deflect questions about themselves. Narcissistic if they can’t stop talking about themselves.

Ability to take a joke — the easier it is to offend them the bigger the ego and lower the self-esteem they have.

When pointing out their mistakes — big ego if they get offensive, victim mentality if they blame it on others, humble if they can accept.

1. Dress well, always. A lot depends on how you look!

2. Pinch yourself if you can't stop laughing.

3. At every job, you should either earn or learn. Either is fine. Both are best. But if it’s neither, quit.

4. To exercise should be done daily, whatever the time. It doesn't matter if it is 5 minutes or 50 minutes.

5. To keep bananas fresh for a longer time, wrap the top part of the bunch in plastic wrap.

6.Research shows that the right ear is better at picking up words & speech, while the left ear is better at picking up music & other sounds.

7. Adding a teaspoon of baking soda when you boil eggs and the shell will come off easily.

8.If you place dry tea bags in smelly shoes and leave them for a few hours, the bad smell will go away.

9. If you want to make sure the person you talk to is paying attention to you, start the conversation with “I shouldn’t be telling you this but…”

10. You can make the elevator go faster by pressing “close” and your floor at the same time.

Sugar and spice, and all things nice..
That's what you are made of !
May you achieve everything you desire in life. I wish you a very sweet and Happy Birthday Gloriah K'anyona

What is the best definition of maturity?

Maturity is when you begin to appreciate other people’s opinions however stupid or lowly they may seem. Remember, in every junk, there’s at least 1% gold.

Maturity is when you start learning to listen instead of speaking. Remember, people see you the way you see them. Think about it. Humans spend nearly 70% of their time speaking, 20% doing other activities, and about 10% listening. Imagine how much information you could get for free, just by listening.

Maturity is when you begin to see pitfalls as temporary disruptions, challenges as your growth propellers, failures as successes and successes as potential failures.

Maturity is when you begin to take calculated risks instead of gambling.

Maturity is when you begin to remove the guesswork out of important decisions.

Maturity is when you begin to learn when to say “No”.

Maturity is when you start learning that it is better to leave bygones be bygones, forgive and forget and move on with your life. Life doesn’t travel backwards, therefore going backwards on life is like traveling a long distance in reverse gear.

Maturity is when you awaken to the fact that it is wrong to pass judgement on another human being based on race, color, status, educational background, religion, age, creed, cultural norms, pride or prejudice.

Maturity is when you begin to learn how to control your emotions. A person who cannot control his/her emotions is like a fortress whose walls have been broken, or a house without a door.

Maturity is when you begin to realize that a good education only teaches you how to read and write. It's really up to you to begin educating yourself on matters that concern your life, including your well being, health, wealth, relationships, and money.

Maturity is when you realize as you grow older, that there’s a disconnect between you and the younger generation. Basically, you are struggling to explain simple things to the younger generation, and the younger generation is also struggling to explain simple things to you. You then realize with shock that you must adjust yourself to become like a baby to make yourself understood by the younger generation.

If we learn from our mistakes so they say, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?

Making mistakes involves taking risks - which is naturally perceived as highly unreliable and dangerous, and it used to be potentially lethal when we still lived in caves.

Our brains are hence hardwired to do what worked so far as it has kept us alive up to this point - which in terms of survival means a 100% success rate.

Any deviation form the status quo is hence perceived as threat to whatever we perceive as valuable in societies - life, money, fame, reputation, gratification, career, love, etc.

Being afraid is a biological reaction. It means, that something needs your full attention right now (survival, remember). We either react with a freeze, fight, or run response. Adrenaline shoots through our body, we are on hyper alert - again the body instigates survival.

To override fear and to become able to make sound decisions and take actions regardless, we need to learn how to self-regulate our physical, psychological and mental systems in a way that allows us to move ahead regardless of fear, bearing with uncertainty. A hard thing to do for most.

Deep breaths help to regulate the body functions, as well as moving (sports) to get rid of the excessive adrenaline build up.

Taking focused actions leads our energy towards productive outcomes, and moving through fear builds our self-esteem and confidence levels. Compare it to training a muscle to become stronger.

If we do it often enough through practice and repetition, we build up our grit, resilience, perseverance, and learn how to take charge of our own life and outcomes.

Instead of thinking about the worst that could happen (it will if you envision it), write down the best possible outcomes daily on a piece of paper in the morning. Then follow through with taking daily two small action steps, starting with the easiest ones to make it happen.

This will give your mind clear focus, determination, and direction throughout the day no matter how you feel in any given moment.

Taking action outrides fear in any given moment.

Real courage is doing things afraid, putting one foot in front of the other, staying in the present moment, focusing on the tasks at hand.

HAPPY MASHUJAA DAY

What makes someone likeable?
This is only from personal experience

Paying attention to someone is more important than looking cheerful or pretending to be interested. Whenever I see someone who smiles all the time, and I mean ALL the time, I am put off. I have RBF (resting bitch face), and I naturally appear disinterested in my surroundings, which I am. If I’m having a conversation with someone, however, I will pay attention to everything they say, no matter how I personally feel about the topic, and I will ask them relevant questions to fuel the conversation until the other person talks about something else.

If I’m in a group discussion, I will not speak unless I actually have something to say or add to the conversation; if I give one word responses, it means I don’t care enough to try.

Never fake your emotions to anyone, EVER. You can acknowledge them, but don’t go out of your way to tell everyone how you feel. If you start unloading your emotional baggage on someone, you’ll exhaust them.

Be kind. When I say “kind,” I don’t mean smiley and sunshine and rainbows and happy and all that. I mean treat people well, with kindness and respect, regardless of your temperament. That means action, not words or emotions.

If someone asks for help, only help them if you are capable. Don’t pretend you can do things that you know you can’t.

Don’t be a people-pleaser, a kiss-ass, etc. Don’t go out of your way to make people like you, don’t try to win people’s friendships. If you have to force it, it means you’re not charismatic enough to do it naturally.

Be witty and funny, have a sense of humor. For example, my best humor is dry, cynical, and poor wording, which works perfectly for my RBF. Dark humor also works for me, but it’s not my default. I’ve also adopted an Eeyore temperament which complements my humor well.

Building on that, and being specific, adopt a humor that suites your temperament, and don’t apologize for it.

Everyone admires the bold, no one honors the timid.