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Man and leadership part II

If leadership is an offspring of vision.

Then where there's no vision there is no life.

What would you be living for without it?

Everything exist to serve a greater purpose, without which there won't be need for sustenance.

When you find your calling then you can map out how to successfully deliver on it.

You were born for a greater purpose than just sleeping and waking up every morning.

You were born to influence a generation just as many have seen light through the light that Jesus Christ brought.

Peoples are supposed to find meaning because you are doing what you were born for.

Get busy with what you can do now and everything else will line up. You don't have to figure out everything before you start.

It's the phenomenal Denzel Washington who said, if you never start, you will finish.

So, get busy my friend.

Chau👋

If people born on Mondays, Wednesdays and Sundays are fondly called Monday, Wednesday, Friday and Sunday respectively and some parents even go as far as naming their children with the days of the week.

Abeg good names don finish for una Bible or dialect, hmm?🤐🤐

Why on earth will you give your legacy a name without any significance to his or her destiny when there are better options?

This is common trend in almost all the regions in Nigeria that I know of.

All the new generation parents report yourselves here, I just hope this trend did not follow you to your marriage?

If I may ask, what's the fun names for those born on Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday?🤔🤔

Jeje with the names biko.😁😁

📌Man and leadership📌

Leadership is as ancient as man and there is no progress without it. Leadership is the offspring of vision.

Every vision is designed and targeted at a destination but this is only achieved when make that decision to lead yourself and and others there.

It is true that you don't begin life by leading yourself, your parents, guardians, et cetera as it may lead you until you are matured enough to lead yourself.

However, no one outgrows leadership. At every turn of our lives there's a leader that requires our submission and loyalty.

Your time on earth will be meaningful to the degree of wisdom of the authority over you - yourself inclusive.

You must realize that in as much as we can't outgrow leadership on a larger scale your daily decisions will be taken by no one else but you.

Remember also that no matter how much the authorities over you desire to help, they can only do as much as you give them allowance.

Can you weigh yourself in the balance and see where you are?

Nationally as a country (Nigeria) we can see the impact the last half century plus but can you do a personal check as well?

We are about entering the last quarter of this beautiful year, what's the stats for you so far?

Has everything you've spent your time and resources being worth it or should I keep quiet and waka pass?

Chau.

A thank you note is not entirely the only way to honour, it's just a way of saying, "I am grateful for what you do or did for me and all your sacrifices are appreciated and not taken for granted."

Saying thank you is a way of communicating value and gratitude.

The above is what many people do and think they are communicating honour. The truth is that you are communicating honour but at the very basic level.

Is it wrong? No! Of course, there's no one thing to do for people to communicate honour.

However, the general way to communicate honour is to say thank you. To really honour someone you consider is deserving, you must go beyond the accolades and do something.

It can be communicated in kind, cash, showcasing their goodness to others and replicating their investments in your life by being a worthy example of the things they teach and represent.

Let their name be on your lips and they don't have to know you are doing so.

Volunteer your skills or person in service to events they hosts.

Love is a debt you owe every man but honour is given to people with influence and authority.

So who are the people influencing you and with authority over you?

Please note that they don't need to be wealthy or a celebrity.

They are deserving of your honour.

"If I am a Father, where is my honour?"

"Children honour your father and mother."

Go communicate honour this weekend and stay blessed.

Hello July!

Until the decision is taken, you are in a loop called confusion.

Call it indecisiveness if you wish, but the truth is that you are confused.

It means you are not sure about what to do in the situation, and your next move can be influenced positively or negatively.

It's a slippery place to be because you can be stocked for years, no matter how insignificant what is influencing your indecision is.

In a nutshell, there is no middle ground when it comes to making a decision and taking a stand.

If you choose to be silent or indecisive, as some would say, you have also decided, because whether or not you make a conscious decision or not, there will always be consequences regardless.

Happy new month, and welcome to July 2023!

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Just an evening reminder.👇👇

Faith, work or business, and people are the four fulcrums around which life revolves.

Find a healthy balance in your life in these areas.

All of the events in your life can be categorized under one of these four categories. Find a way to balance these aspects of your life, or everything else that appears to be going well will fall apart, especially your faith.

Balance is key.

📷Gideon Pam Gicrose and his wife

📌Selah!📌

Karabo Sango said, "When you lose your reason for existence, what saves you is routine."

A routine does not need your emotions to proceed. How do you recover from failure?

This is why every man needs a routine. The most celebrated men now and always have one thing in common, which is a "routine."

Never allow yourself to come to that place where you don't see a reason to live or settle there when failure happens.

Never depend on your emotions when the chips are down. They will disappoint you big time and can lead to your death, literally.

Wake up!

You got to that level of success with your routines before everything crashed, and you won't get back up by taking sides with your emotions.

Get back and do a review of your life before that awful experience, make a few adjustments, and refire.

It is your time and season.

Think about that.

📌Pain and gain📌

They seem to be different, but they are an inseparable pair.

You can't have one without the other. The quest for comfort has brought about the advancements our world is experiencing today and that future generations will experience.

One is the input, and the other is the output, like in computers. Garbage in, garbage out.

Do not settle. There will always be discomfort, but for you to make progress you must embrace the pain and commit to undo it.

However, let's bring it home. There's no business owner, entrepreneur, or career person out there who wants results without being required to give something in return.

Either you pay directly or someone else pays for it; either way, the price must be paid.

I know you desire financial freedom, marital bliss, and all the other sweetness that comes with success, but are you willing to commit to the gains you desire?

The pain or discomfort is a trigger, embrace it so you can figure out what to do to move forward.

Think about that.

Gracias🙏

📌Just a Thought📌
We all have only one life to live, and there are no rehearsals.
As you celebrate the gift of this new day, I would like you to think about the above statement.

It got me thinking late last night. That statement above is a message from the phenomenal Dr. OLUMIDE EMMANUEL to me and you today.

How would you like to be remembered? Would it be for your beauty, the kind of cars you drove, or how much money you amassed over time?

Or is it for eba, cassava, garri, or beans? 🤣🤣🤣😂😂

Sorry, scrap that. What will you really be remembered for?

None of the aforementioned things are on the list of things we remember people for, but the ideas they lived and died for and the contributions they made on the sands of time to better the course of their generation and the one after them.

What has been your contribution, or are you part of the problem?

Selah! Good morning, and live your life to the fullest.

Decisions should be made based on a good understanding of the pros and cons.

It's another weekend guys!

Make sure you have fun with family and friends.

Enjoy the cruise and have a good laugh at every given opportunity. No dull moments guys🤣🤣

This is what we call hammer head of horror back in the days 🤣👇👇

Hello, life is not a movie where you are acting out a script. Stop assuming you are being heard when you are talking to yourself.

You are busy communicating your displeasure or otherwise with vibes, signs, or body language, and the brother or sister is not seeing it, and you are getting all worked up.

Wetin do your mouth, them seal am? Talk! Even babies cry until the right response is given.

Some people will never notice it until thy kingdom comes. Some will ignore it because of the kind of connection you both share.

Take a break, my dear. Communication is ineffective unless the other person comprehends and provides feedback.

No human being is a mind reader. Talk ooo

Intimacy is what makes people know what you are saying even before you say it, and I am not talking about s*x.

People will grow to know how best to communicate with you as they get to know you and make adjustments, but before you get to that point, please use your mouth.

I am reminded of this part of the scriptures in Hebrews 12:2 today: "..who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God."

As we mark the Easter celebration, be reminded that fulfillment is a journey, and it is not a smooth ride.

You may be feeling overwhelmed right now, like Jesus Christ on his way to the cross, but I need you to know that it is not an abnormal experience.

Jesus needed someone to help him bear the cross at a point on the journey. So learn to leverage the relationships around you, not because you are looking for favours but because you are human.

We were created to live in isolation. Talk to people, go out once in a while, have fun, and most importantly, live.

Be encouraged, you are not alone.

This weekend, go and create good memories with your team relationships.

Heartbreak is not worth experiencing because of assumptions.

I can never forget how profoundly the story you shared here changed my perspective about relating with the opposite s*x especially when I became the Christ Ambassadors' vice president and we had to do a lot of follow-up with the youths.

Please, watch and be guided.

Define Your Relationship With The Opposite S*x. In this video PST Dooshima who is a relationship coach emphasizes the importance of defining your relationship with the opposite s*x to avoid assumptions and...

"Knowledge is not enough."

According to Apostle Joshua Selman's 2016 sermon, "The Dynamics of Transformation," there are three levels to assimilation: awareness, understanding, and mastery. The only way to become a master is to practice consistently over time; otherwise, you wouldn't have anything to show for it.

Even if you have a Ph.D. in marketing, all you have is theoretical understanding. Because of his experience, the Igbo lad in Aba Market, Nigeria, who has never set foot inside a university would be given more respect and attention than you because, in theory, he has mastered the fundamentals of marketing and can demonstrate his success.

While I was adding material to the manuscript of one of my upcoming books today, a strong reality was revealed to me.

Even though I've read a lot about punctuation, especially "commas" and "quotation marks," I've never been good at utilizing them. I always struggle to put my words where they are needed whenever I get the chance to write, at least until this morning, March 25, 2023.

This morning, as I typed more, I learned how they function in general and when to utilize them.

You might have read about it, heard about it at a conference, paid for lessons on the subject, or even written about it and know how to explain it to someone, but that does not guarantee you understand it.

You can look and sound intelligent and enlightened until you are put to the test of what you claim to know, at which point you will wish you had put it to use earlier. You don't know until you practice, practice, practice, and understand the principle behind its operation.

This is not meant to stop you from learning; rather, practice and practice until the knowledge you have acquired becomes second nature to you.

Don't waste your time or money learning things you won't use.

The weekend is more than just a time to "party and or jaiye," it is also a time to reinvent your life and destiny.

I was working at 2 a.m. this morning and at the same time listening to Apostle Joshua Selman’s message entitled “How Kings Reign” and reminiscing on what the future held for me and the truth in this statement below made by Bishop Bishop David Olaniyi Oyedepo hit me hard;👇👇

"A closed mouth is a closed destiny."

Sometimes you just need to take advantage of the atmosphere of joy that the anointing brings and speak life into areas of your life that do not capture the reality of God's word over you.

The primary purpose of words is for creation, not for cracking jokes. God demonstrated this in Genesis 1:3, "And God said,..." The first words spoken in time were creative in nature, and so any other use of words is secondary.

I went to bed after participating in the prophetic prayer session described in the preceding message (How Kings Reign). You need to get this message and listen to it if you have not.

You are the first prophet in your life, not your pastor or parents. Take personal responsibility for your life.

My friend, life is lived deliberately and not by chance. Take time this weekend to recreate the realities you are seeing around you.

TGIF

The Re-invention😎

Good morning fam!

Marriage is a pivotal aspect of every man's life (irrespective of gender), and you cannot afford to make the choice of who to marry while being desperate.

The consequence of this decision can be like the difference between life and death, and this is not an attempt to make you afraid but to help you understand the severity of your decision and the impact on your present and future estate.

It is wisdom to rid yourself of this emotion so you can see clearly from a vista devoid of internal and external manipulation.

Do enjoy a blissful weekend.

Good morning fam!

You cannot afford to make a vital decision about a very important aspect of your life being desperate.

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No matter how battered you are by circumstances, you are not the first and definitely not going to be the last to feel like you do right now, there is nothing new under the sun so says the ancient book with the current message – the Bible.

The greatest and most celebrated of men have their low and high moments when they feel helpless by themselves – personal battles no one can fight for them no matter how much they are willing to pay and or how much they would have loved to go through it with someone but you see the journey sometimes has to be taken by no one else but you and only you.

Get this, there are people around you who have gone through worse and or the same and came out better and successful and how they pulled through those seasons cannot really be captured in understandable words but the lessons drawn from those seasons can be communicated such that we can have a feeling of what they had to endure and what they did for their success story to be heard. The Bible calls them, a great cloud of witnesses - Hebrews 12:1

So your focus should be to draw life-applicable principles from their story and apply them.

There are decisions you are going to have to make - beat yourself out of bed most times, take those classes, stay up late at night to read, and get the job done with little or no encouragement most times not because it is a palatable experience but because you've realized just like the phenomenal Denzel Washington that, ease is a greater threat to progress than hardship.

Create a shield around your heart especially because you interact with people and most times the closest people to you may not encourage you and may not understand what you are going through.

Usually, it is expected that your loved ones, whether parents, siblings or friends to be the ones to understand and even encourage you but like King David in the Bible, you are your first motivation and encouragement. So do not let your expectations be the reason why you experience a nervous breakdown, you must discern and know that no man occupies the first place in your life but God. Do not give man the place of God so you will not end up being disappointed. You must realize that the best of any man is just a man and there are bound to be imperfections. God is the only constant thing in life, come what may.

Just let men be who they are - men (frail and fickle), you cannot always bank on the word of any man 100% because they may be willing to help but may not have the resources and or they may have the resources but may not be willing or may be willing but circumstances beyond their control may change everything and they will disappoint you.

You must understand that expectation is what creates disappointments no doubt but if you never have one then you have nothing to live for but when you have healthy expectations then you know it is not all up to a man for them to be met.

No man can help you all by himself except he is assisted to do so. So, let your gaze be on God and not man. Learn, trust and grow but do not despise men as you journey through life.

First impression they say matters a lot.

Re-evaluate your service delivery and check your sales chart by the end of the month.

Like 7up bottling company, you will discover that the DIFFERENCE is clear.

Welcome to August 2022.

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Every chef in a cooking competition is saddled with one herculean task – making a recipe out of the ingredients before him or her and they all aim to deliver the best recipes but guess who the judges are?

I bet you they are neither critics nor your enemies as some may say, they are not your village people either but they are ordinary hungry people looking to satisfy their hunger for food or any need they may have that needs to be filled but they are not going to settle for just anything other than the best of the best.

This is so because there are a lot of options in the market. We now live in a global village and there are a thousand and one people out there who can do what you can do or offer the same services or products you render and even better.

So, make it a point of duty to always outdo yourself. Take your time and come out with nothing other than excellence as you offer services or products to customers.

Excellence is a language, my friend. You don’t have to teach it but everybody can tell it when they are in an environment where it is found and just like the phenomenal Fela Durotoye once said, excellence is what you find in the pursuit of perfection; perfection cannot be attained but it must be pursued and in that pursuit, you will find excellence.

So make it a duty to improve on the services and products you offer as an individual, brand, and or startup company.

It is said that the largest room in the world is called improvement so trust me, you won't be doing too much rather you will be putting yourself or your company on the top of the list of brands to go to for that product or service.

Make August 2022 a productive one friend.

Life throws more at us sometimes that we are not readily prepared to bear. Sometimes, you feel like dying or quitting but through its ups and downs you MUST realize that life is a fair game and that all things work and were designed to work in your favour. So, you have to learn to build bridges and safe havens with your failures, discouragements, anxiety, and even despair.

Excuses have never made a single difference in time and eternity so, quit you as a man and take responsibility for your life, and live the moments you were born for.

The phrase, this life no balance as used in Nigeria which has some worth gain general acceptance in the social life of so many is a statement that concludes that certain good things are not possible for certain category of people and other people are more privileged than others but history has proven time and time again that it is only men who have challenged the status quo that made history by achieving and accomplishing impossible feet in their lifetime.

So instead of joining the bandwagon, take those baby steps consistently but daily, your present state notwithstanding and watch the outcome of your life. It may not seem much but over time the improvements and results will reveal how much you've grown and the impact you've made in the lives of those around you.

Admiring, desiring, and wishing things would change never makes anything meaning and impactful happen, and like Dr. Olumide Emmanuel would always say, one action is better than a thousand good intentions.

Life is balanced my Nigerian borthers and Sisters. Our paths are carved differently in time and we may seem like we are treading the same path but every individual's journey is unique and special so embrace and own the race set before you with patience.

Remember, an excuse is the language of the irresponsible and when you sow it as a seed at harvest you will reap nothing but REGRETS.

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The customer is always right when it comes to service delivery especially If it's not done within the confines of the unwritten and unspoken but ethical confines of the customer and business owner and his/her associate's relationship.

Make the customer happy and you get the cash and continuous patronage. Most times when it comes to service delivery, it's not about the money but the integrity and sincerity that comes with the job that matters to your clients.

So before you go about lecturing me on customer behaviour I want you to know before you began offering services you were and are first a customer and will always be and of course, you know that people can be patient but the motive behind your actions are the possible reasons why business owners have heated issues with clients most times especially when there are delays in deadlines except of course in the case of emergencies. This, however, means that there could be genuine reasons for the delay in service delivery and it does not stop you as a great brand to notify your client(s) of some of these delays so that you avoid losing their trust and get to do what you love to do with happy customers.

As far as we know within the confines of any business economically, cash is king, and the earlier you realize this the better chances your business has at surviving the competition and the changes in the market because without it the business dies a natural but causative death of lack of funds. You lose the cash and your business is going the hill economically.

Bridge those communication gaps between securing the contract deal for a job and delivery period without having to compromise standards dear entrepreneurs this second half of the year 2022.

A happy new month to you and welcome to the last month in the first half of this amazing year.

Taking risk is a necessary ingredient for living. It can be acting in obedience for the Christian and or making intelligent decisions to invest a certain amount into an investment for business growth for an entrepreneur, etc but in all you have a choice to either make the decision or remain stagnant.

Choose the upward life today my friend.

Its yet another weekend and it is a good time to remind yourself of what is needed to make a head way through the many challenges you are facing.

I think you've been fighting and hurting for too long and you need to pause a little bit and talk.

I mean like really talk. Is this harsh, oh yes! it is and I know you are wondering why I am being harsh? Well, I think you deserve this high, I mean very high note because the soft undertones, really lovely and cool-headed voices have never stopped you from reliving that experience that should have stopped a long time ago over and over again and lived a better and more memorable moment with your partner, colleague and or whatever level of relationship it is that not talking is costing you because your perception of whatever happened seemed to have summarised whatever they had to say.

Please don't mistake talking for, 'giving him or her a piece of your mind', that's not what I am saying you should do.

Talking sometimes doesn't necessarily have to change things or make bad things stop or even make you feel better but it gives you a better perspective because it helps you see through the lens of another. You cannot afford to make judgments from a pre-informed idea or an assumption.

Talking it over is just like looking at yourself in the mirror and making adjustments to yourself until you look like the image in your mind. The mirror is not responsible for the adjustments you make but it only amplified your deepest desires by giving you the opportunity to live them out.

We all inherently desire to be better so when s**t happens between you and someone else find time to talk it over especially when you are calm because when you are still angry over what happened it might not be the best time to talk.

Talk it over. It can be over a cup of coffee, or dinner, and or any environment that presents the right atmosphere for such discussion and reconciliation moment.

The essence of talking is to come to a suitable conclusion for both parties.

There is a Christmas Truce story told in history you can search and read up on Wikipedia. It happened on the eve of 1914 Christmas during world war I between the German, French, and British where soldiers were found exchanging smiles, food and some played games together after singing carol songs in their trenches. The Christmas truces were particularly significant due to the number of men involved and the level of their participation—even in quiet sectors, dozens of men openly congregating in daylight was remarkable and are often seen as a symbolic moment of peace and humanity amidst one of the most violent conflicts of human history. The truces were instrumental to the end of the war.

So, while you are celebrating this holiday equally talk it over and settle that issue once and for all so you can start the year 2022 on a clean slate.

We are all human and offense is a commonplace in our relationships because our humanity will always play out and beyond this, you must understand that we are all in a process to perfection, and no one is without a weakness so, make room for the humanity of men as you relate with people this coming year.

End this year with a smile and a hug from that person and a heart full of joy. Stay blessed my friend.

This is wishing you a fulfilling and prosperous 2022 ahead.

Better is the end of every matter than the beginning.

Welcome to December friends. Do enjoy a blissful month!

Relationships are a must do in life. You can't be on the side line. Every living thing whether plants, animals, insects, etc. you name them are constantly surrounded by and with relationships and some are beneficial while others are not but the truth remains that everything rises and falls on relationships.

The ultimate relationship of course is the one with the LORD, Jesus Christ both for our ultimate destiny and fulfilment in life and in eternity and you cannot afford NOT to make it a priority.

Although all relationships are fundamentally the same at the basic level but the rules that guides them differ. My friend and Brother David Adedolapo Amosun did justice on this in the series on the pivotal fulcrums of life and here are the excerpts.

The full article is available for you to read at https://www.selahmoments.com.ng/2021/07/pivotal-fulcrums-of-life-series-ii.html

By Faith we understand that the worlds were framed by the word of God.

Do enjoy a beautiful weekend ahead.