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BIG 7 SECRETS IN MARRIAGE THAT WILL SAVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP FOR BETTER.

Secret 1

Everyone you marry has a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his strength.

Secret 2

Everyone has a dark history. No one is an angel. When you get married or you want to get married stop digging into someone's past. What matters most is the present life of your partner. Old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future.

Secret 3

Every marriage has its own challenges. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing fire. True love proves in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow For better for worse. In sickness and in health be there.

Secret 4

Every marriage has different levels of success. Don't compare your marriage with any one else. We can never be equal. Some will be far, some behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time your marriage dreams shall come true.

Secret 5

To get married is declaring war. When you get married you must declare war against enemies of marriage. Some enemies of marriage are:
1. Ignorance
2. Prayerlessness
3. Unforgiveness
4. Third party influence
5. Stinginess
6. Stubbornness
7. Lack of love
9. Rudeness
10. Laziness
11. Disrespect
12. Cheating
Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.

Secret 6

There is no perfect marriage. There is no ready made marriage. Marriage is hard work. Volunteer yourself to work daily on it.
Marriage is like a car that needs proper maintenance and proper service. If this is not done it will break down somewhere exposing the owner to danger or some unhealthy circumstances. Let us not be careless about our marriages.

Secret 7

The Creator of the universe cannot give you a complete person you desire.
He gives you the person in the form of raw materials.

*Khadijah (R A) is indeed a special woman!!!*

TWO THIRD (2/3) of the Makkah area belongs to Siti Khadijah bint Khuwailid, the first wife of the Prophet. She is a noble woman who bears the glory and abundance of wealth. But when she died, she did not have a shroud. Even the clothes she wore at the time of her death were shabby clothes with 83 patches.
"Fatimah my daughter, I believe my death will come soon," whispered Khadijah to Fatimah just before her death. "What I fear is the torment of the grave. Please ask your father, that he give his turban which he usually used to receive revelations to be used as my shroud. I am ashamed and afraid to ask for it myself."
Hearing that, the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said, "O Khadija, Allah sends greetings to you, and has prepared your place in heaven."
Siti Khadijah, Ummul Mu'minin (the mother of the believers), then breathed her last in the lap of the Prophet. He embraced his wife feeling very, very sad . The tears of the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) and all those who were there were shed.

In such an atmosphere, the Angel Gabriel descended from the sky with greetings and brought five shrouds.
The Messenger of Allah answered Gabriel's greetings, then asked, "Who is the shroud for, O Jibril?"
"This shroud is for Khadijah, for you, O Messenger of Allah, for Fatima, Ali and Hasan," replied Jibril who suddenly stopped saying, then wept.
The Messenger of Allah asked, "Why, O Jibril?"
"Your one grandson, Husain, does not have a shroud. He will be slaughtered, lying without a shroud and not bathed," replied Jibril.
The Prophet said near Khadijah's body, "O Khadija my dear wife, by Allah, I will never get a wife like you. Your devotion to Islam and myself is extraordinary. Allah knows all your deeds. All of your wealth you donate to Islam. The Muslims also enjoy it . All the clothes of the Muslims and my clothes are also from you. However, why is your last request to me just a turban!?"
The Prophet sobbed reminiscing about

May the new elected Kano stewardship reinvigorate the marriage of widows and divorcees as it was the practice before the lapsing eight years of corruption, torment, abuse of women and youths. May Allah direct their affairs and enrich them with good comrades, associates, advisors and a prayerful follwership to meet most of the aspirations of the Kano people

NIGERIA IS A LADY IN A COURTSHIP. SHE IS CURRENTLY BEING BETTED BY FOUR SUITORS, VIS THE GOOD, THE BAD, THE UGLY AND THE DEVIL.HOW COULD YOU HELP HER IDENTIFY AND CHOOSE THE GOOD SO THAT SHE MAY NOT FALL FREY TO THE REST OF THE THREE, AND IN YOUR OWN UNDERSTANDING WHO IS THE GOOD, THE BAD, THE UGLY AND THE DEVIL? (PLEASE NO ABUSIVE LANGUAGE. THE ADJECTIVES AR ONLY USED TO QUALIFY EACH OF THE CONTESTANTS IN RELATION TO THE CURRENT SITUATION THE NATION FINDS ITSELF AND THE ROLES EACH OF THEM MAY HAVE CONTRIBUTED IN MESSING IT UP).

Shin Kwankwaso Zai Iya Cin Takarar Shugaban Ƙasar Nijeriya?

Bari na bada wani ɗan labari a taƙaice:

“Mafi girman masifar da zata afkawa mutum ba wai ya siyar da ruhinsa ga shaiɗan bane, a'a sam, babbar masifar ita ce mutum ya kaiwa shaiɗan tallan ruhinsa kwatsam kuma shaiɗan ɗin yace ba ya siye.” – Wannan shine sakin layin da Wasily ya buɗe wasiƙar sa dashi, wasiƙar nan dai daya aikawa abokinsa Yanis. Yanis, yayin karanta wasiƙar sai yace a ransa: “ko me ya samu abokina da ya zambaɗo wannan uban karin magana?”

Sai wasiƙar Wasily ta cigaba: “na gama PhD amma duka masana'antu sunƙi bani aiki. Kuma na na jiyo wani malamin tsimi da tanadi yana cewa idan leburanci yayi arha masana'antu zasu yi yunƙurin cin gajiyar arhar don haka sai su ɗauki sabbin ma'aikata. Da jin haka sai na zabtare albashin da nake nema da kaso sittin. Amma har yanzu ban samu aiki ba”.

Sai Yanis yayi murmushi yace: “har yanzu wanna ƙaryar ta arhar lebura tana aiki dama?.......ya kai aminina Wasily, ka ajiye wannan banzar fahimta data mamaye Amurka ƙarƙashin mulkin Reagan, da Birtaniya ƙarƙashin mulkin Thatcher, ka kuma yi amfani da hakan ka san cewa, arhar ma'aikata bata sawa a ɗauke su aiki, imanin za'a samu riba ne kaɗai yake sanyawa a ɗau ma'aikata.......a yanzu kuma cunkushewar al'amura ta sanya gaba ɗaya masana'antu sunyi imani da cewar ko kyauta mutum zaiyi musu aiki bazasu ɗauke shi ba, saboda idan sun ɗauke shi baza'a sayar da abinda aka sarrafa ba don haka baza'a samu riba ba. Don haka ka ƙaddara a ranka yakai aminina, cewa duk tsadar albashinka, idan masana'antu sun yarda za'a ci riba, to wallahi sai sun baka aiki. Haka kuma duk arhar albashinka, idan masana'antu s**a yarda baza'a ci riba ba, toh fa sai dai kayi haƙuri.”

Wannan jidali na masana tsimi da tanadi yayi daidai da yadda wasu mutane ke tambayar: SHIN KWANKWASO ZAI IYA CIN ZAƁEN SHUGABAN ƘASA A SHEKARAR 2023?

Da fari dai, kamar aikin yi a duniyar da Wasily ya rubuto wasiƙa, duk ƙarfin da ɗan siyasa yake ji yana da shi, idan mutane basu yi imani zai iya cin zaɓe ba, to bazai ci zaɓe ba... Ba don komai ba sai saboda wannan imanin ne zai hana su zaɓarsa, kuma da ƙuri'unsu ne kaɗai zai iya cin zaɓe. Haka kuma duk raunin ɗan siyasa, idan mutane s**a yi imanin bazai ci zaɓe ba, to haƙiƙa zai ci, saboda imanin nasu ne zai tunzurasu su zaɓe shi, kuma ƙuri'unsu ne dai za'a lissafa a bashi kujerar.

Cakwakiyar dai kamar abinda Malamin falsafa Rousseau ya faɗa ne akan mu'ujiza. A ra'ayinsa, ita ɗin tana yiwa kanta aiki ne. Da ace Sarki Oedipus, wanda bokaye s**a ce ɗansa zai girma ya kashe shi, ya kau da kai ya raini ɗan nasa da kansa maimakon jefar dashi har maƙiya su tsinta su raine shi ya zamo makashi, ai ɗan nasa bai zamo maƙiyinsa ba har ya kashe shi. Amma da ya jefar, maƙiya s**a tsinta s**a raina, sai jawabin bokaye yayi aiki, ɗansa yazo ya kashe shi.

Ya kai me tambaya a kan Kwankwaso, shin kasan da kai da Sarki Oedipus baku da maraba, haka kuma shaci faɗin ƴan adawa bashi da maraba da zancen bokaye? Idan ka bari aka saka maka shakku akan yiwuwar cin zaɓen Kwankwaso, to tun ana kwankwaso ya faɗi zaɓe, kuma kaine ka kayar dashi. Amma kuma idan shaci faɗin mutane ya ƙara maka imani, ranar gobe dakai za'a haɗu a yiwa bokaye dariya, yayin da shi kuma jagora ke can Villa yana warware ɓarnar da aka yiwa Nijeriya.

Wannan yasa a matsayinka na me burin ganin wani ɗan siyasa yaci zaɓe, in dai har da gaske kake kana so yaci ɗin, kada ka tambaya ko zai iya ci ɗin, kawai kayi imani, ranar zaɓe kuma kaje ka dangwala masa ƙuri'a. A aikace, wannan shine nasara, kamar yadda yakamata mu gane cewa a falsafance, imani shine mu'ujiza ba shakku ba. Shakku rusa ta yake.

Ga masu shakku akan wanda suke burin ya zamo shugaba, sakamakonsu zai zamo kamar masana'antun da s**a hana Wasily aiki ne- asara, da kuma irin goben Sarki Oedipus - mutuwa da bin kunya. Dukkansu mummunar ƙaddara ce zata afkawa burin na su.

Amma kuma g wanda s**a yi imani da yiwuwar zamowar jagoransu shugaba, tarihin Bill Clinton, Barrack Obama, Ibrahim Shekarau a 2003, Rabi'u Kwankwaso a 2011, sun ishe su ishara. Imaninsu ya bawa zancen bokayen dakali kunya! Hakan kuma yasa a komai kayi imani kawai, ka kuma sa wasu suyi, kyakkyawar ƙaddara na nan tafe. Idan kuma kana musu, ranar zaɓe jeka ka cillawa Kwankwaso ƙuri'a ka gani idan bai zamo shugaban ƙasar Nijeriya.

30/09/2022
Lawan M Ahmad Karaye

THE VANITY OF LIFE SICKENS ME DEEP
NOW A KING, NAY A PAUPER
EVERY MINUTES A PIVOT
FROM UNDER TO THE TOP
OR FALLING FROM GRACE
NOW ACTIVE, NOW STILL
LEAVING BEHIND ARAY OF HOPES
AND THE FUTURE UNKNOWN
SAVE FOR OUR SENT FORTH
OF EVIL DEEDS OR GOOD
OH SOUL WRETCHED!.
WHAT HAVE YOU WROUGHT!!.
A WESTED OR PURPOSEFUL SOJOURN?!
FRUITY INVEST, WISELY,
OR A SOLD AN LOST BARGAIN?!
YOU'RE TO SELF OWN JUDGE!
TO LITIGATE YOUR TOUR NOW
SO, BE FIRM, RESOLUTE
CHOOSE YOUR RESUME NOW
FOR T'MORROW NO AMEND!!!.

Many marriages could be saved from breakage if there was patience and effective dialogue.
How do we avert rampant home breakages in our dear society?!. Pls let's discuss.

LOVE, THE MOST USED AND ABUSED WORD IS THE FORCE THAT KEEPS THE GLOVE FLOATING. MANY FAMILIES SHARE THE BOOTIES OF LOVE AND MULTIPLY. LOVE IS NOT JUST A FEELING, NOT AN OPINION NOR A DECISION. IT IS AN INTEGRA OF HARMONY AND APATHY. IT TRIGGERS THE SENSES OF RESPONSIBILITY AND BELONGING, IT MAKE INPATIAL ENTITIES WHO MAY SEEK TO PLEASE, PACIFY AND CONTAIN THE EXCESSES OF THEIR PARTNERS FOR THE SUSTAINANCE OF ALLOYED COMRADRE WHILE ENJOYING THE HAPPY MOOD OF EACH OTHER AND COMMISERATING THE SADNESS THEREOF. BUT WE OFTEN CONSIDER LOVE TO BE RECIPROCATING AND INFATUATION. LOVE DOESN'T SEEK ITSELF TO PLEASE AND DOES NOT EXPECT RETURN. LEARN TO LIVE AND LOVESO THAT YOUR FAMILY MAY BE FORMIDABLE AND SWEET. GOOD MORNING PALS.

DURING THIS RAMADAN LET EVERY WIFE MULTIPLY EFFORTS TO PLEASE AND PACIFY HER HUSBAND AND APPRECIATE THE LITTLE HE MIGHT MUSTER FOR THE IFTAR AND SAHUR. IF SHE IS

Mutuwar aure ko da hàqqi na sharia ba abin so ba me amuslunci don Yana jefa wani sashin na maaurata cikin qatsamin bala'i. Karanta wannan

ZAWARCI ZAWARCI BA KARAMIN BALA'I BANE::

Zawarci Yana Da Daci A Zukatan Zawarawa.

NAYI NAZARI AKAN MATA DA MAZA

Wallahi Da Rayuwar Zawarci Gara Jinkirin Aure Ga Budurwa.

A Gidajen Talakawa Kuncin Rayuwar Zawarci Shike Jefa Dayawa Daga Zawarawa Fadawa Cikin Karuwanci Don Nema Ma Kansu Abin Biyan Buqatar Rayuwa.

A Lokacin Da Mace Takasance Bazawara A
Cikin GidanSu Kannenta Zasu Rinqa Yimata
Kallon Hadarin Kaji,

Kuma alokachin damace tazama bazawara awannan lokacin kowane kareda doki sai sufara nemanta dafasiqanci atunaninsu tinda tasan namiji ada zaiwahala ta iya tsallake tayinsu na fasiqanci

Dada ma wasu basutaba zinaba kafin auransu nafarko saibayan fara zawarcinsu

Kuma Ta Samu Incin
Yawo Guri-Guri Domin A Lokacin Ba Kowa Bane Zai Iya Tsawata Mata Ba.

Manzon Allah (s w s) Yace "Ku Tausayama
Wanda Yayi Arziki Amma Arzikin Yaqare"

Don Haka Yakamata Mu Tausayawa Zawarawa.

Shin!! Wai Mike Jefa Mata A Rayuwar Zawarci???

1•Rashin Bincike Kafin Aure:

2 •Wani dan shaye-shayene

3 •Wani dan c**a ne

4 •Wani baida hakuri

5 •Wani barawone.

6 •Rashin Haquri:

7 •Wata Rashin son zama da Kishiya
8 •Wata Yawan Gulma

9 •Raina miji.

10 •Wasu Kuma Mazanne Masu Auri Saki.

11 •Wasu Kuma Mutuwace Ke Yanke
Kaunar.

ALLAH ka tsare muna imaninmu da mutuncinmu da addininmu ALLAH kasa mufi karfin zuciyoyinmu kabamu ikon hadiye kwadayinmu kada kwadayi ya hade mu.

YA ALLAH KA RABA MATA DAGA FADAWA
RAYUWAR ZAWARCI da kuma KARUWANCI.

Eat of the provisions of your lord and seek for his blessings and the most prestine abode in Alfirdaus by making your homes an osis. Gud morning all

EFFECTIVE RAMADAN ROUTINE; you may find it useful.

1. Sleep Daily by 10pm.
2. Wake up 3am.
3. Tahajjud 3:30am till 4:15am
4. Study Quran for 20mins, at least 10verses with meaning. 4:15am - 4:35am. Observe your Dua for 10mins, ask all your desires from Allah 4:35 - 4:45.
5. Eat Sahur from 4:45am till fajr.
5: Get prepared for Salatul Subhi after eating Sahur
7. Pray Salatu Subhi: @ the appointed time
8. Do Morning Azkar till 6am/6:30am
9. Rest/Prepare for the day till 7am.
10. Pray Salatu Duha, at least 4 Rakats. From 9:00am to 11:30am
11. Constantly Listen to Quran.
12. Pray Salatu Zuhr at the appointed time. Do 20mins Azkar.
13. Pray Salatu Asr at the appointed time & Do 20mins Evening Azkar, and recitation of the Qur'an.
14. Break your fast at sunset with what you can afford. But pray and ask Allah for anything and everything you want before breaking the fast. Pray Salatu Magrib, your Dua will not be rejected.
15. Pray Ishai at the right & Pray 11 Rakats of Taraweeh till 9:00pm.
16. After Taraweeh, spend 5mins to reflect on the day, and ask yourself these questions;. What did you do well? What needs to be improved?. What needs to stop? what needs to start?

Above all increase your sadaqah ( charity giving, by helping the poor and the needy). May we witness Ramadan in good health, Ameen Ya Allah.🙏

BE HUMBLE AND KIND TO YOUR SPOUSE. SHE/HE IS YOUR BEST FRIEND AND KEEPER. AVOID OPEN CONFRONTATION EVEN IF YOU RIGHT IN MOMENTS OF MISUNDERSTANDING. RESORT TO DIALOGUE IN THE OTHER ROOM

A formidable family is that in which the couple are to each other more than just mere friends but trustees who can sacrifice anything at their disposal to protect, elevate, please and assist each other.

Marriage is a contract between the two spouses under the consents of their Guardians and witnessed by a detachment of the society, actualised and sealed by paying the bridal dowry. But marriage is an institution for sustenance of ligitimate individual components of the society as such must be sensitively protected from unwanted and in warranted breakages and unhealthy living habits where a party is being subjected to injustices.
We are heavenly hoping that with your inputs many wrongs in matrimony will be righted so we can rid the society of nuisance of broken homes, disowned and rejected wards and many more.
But we most all speak decently, maturedly and respectfully. No post anything that does not relate. And people who need to be connected must only send details of themselves and the choice of profile partner they aspire to get. No phone numbers, no pictures, no emails. The admins are only ones to receive such through private numbers on request and link the person's that match under sharia compliance condition.
Pls feel free to share experiences that may be educative, corrective and helpful. Thanks and BarakalLah