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Gaslighting

Gaslighting is a tactic that causes a person to question their reality.6 This may involve a manipulator lying, denying things they've said, twisting facts, and using a person's words against them. Over time, this creates uncertainty and doubt, and can cause a person to second-guess their experiences
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Tactics of manipulation

Some tactics of emotional manipulation include
Making comparisons that hurt you
Or lying and denial about facts. Exaggeration
Withholding important information or valuable items
Silence can be manipulative.
Each of these behaviors can be detrimental to mental and emotional safety. Understanding tactics and signs, like the ones listed below, can help people spot them

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Emotional Manipulation
Emotional manipulation can feel like a person is playing mind games, because it can cause:

A person to question what is happening in their relationship and environment
Fear and doubt
Degrading trust in self and others
This helps the manipulator gain power over another individual and undermine their ability to think rationally. It's important to recognize that emotional manipulation is abusive

People who manipulate others may have difficulty identifying and expressing their wants and needs appropriately and healthily.

Identifying and Coping With a Passive-Aggressive Narcissist
Manipulative behavior can also serve other purposes. For instance, control and manipulation can help the manipulator by:

Causing doubt and confusion
Helping them avoid conflict
Concealing their true intentions
Blame-shifting (avoiding responsibility for their behavior)
Not having to change their behavior

What Is Manipulative Behavior?
Manipulative behavior includes actions a person uses to gain influence or control over someone else. They can be a form of psychological aggression, with behaviors often associated with intimate partner violence.These behaviors can include:

Lying
Denying
Passive-aggressive behavior
Gaslighting (a manipulative relational style named after a 1939 film)
Silence (the silent treatment)
Criticizing (sometimes a form of verbal abuse)
Withholding
Blaming
Getting a person outside of their comfort zone to give themselves an advantage

Emotional manipulation influences the dynamics of a relationship and affects males as well as females.1 A manipulative person often engages in harmful behaviors over time, creating an imbalance of power. The behaviors can damage your self-confidence and sense of identity, leaving you confused, isolated, or even depressed.
This article discusses emotional manipulation, as well as the signs and causes of manipulative behavior. It offers insights on how to recognize manipulators and protect against manipulation

Manipulation is coercive or unethical behavior driven by the goal of exploiting or controlling another person for your own personal gain.

Manipulative behavior refers to a person's use of gaslighting, love bombing, and other styles of interaction in a relationship used to gain power or influence over another. These tactics often include attempts to damage another person's emotional and mental well-being.

Manipulation is the control of someone or something in order to get an advantage, often unfairly or dishonestly

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Symptoms related to narcissistic personality disorder vary in severity and from individual to individual. The most common symptoms are the presence of an exaggerated sense of self-importance, exaggeration of achievements and talents, believing they are superior and can only associate with equally special people, taking advantage of others to achieve what they desire, and insisting on having the best of all the things, etc. They also show impatience and anger when they do not receive special treatment, show difficulty in regulating emotions and behavior, show major issues when dealing with stress and adapting to change, become moody and depressed over small shortcomings, etc.

What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder?

Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental illness that takes place due to a severe condition of pathological narcissism. This personality disorder causes many problems in life in different areas such as work, relationships, professional, and personal affairs. Such individuals remain unhappy and disappointed when they lack special favors and admiration, which they believe that they deserve.

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Individuals with pathological narcissism always feel entitled to the best of everything, and they look down on people who show admiration and appreciation for them. They show no difficulty in exploiting others and obtaining what they want. The characteristic feature of pathological narcissism is that such individuals have no awareness and no insight into what they do, and hence they feel no remorse or any shame. Pathological narcissism in extreme conditions leads to different mental disorders such as narcissistic personality disorder, malignant narcissism, and antisocial personality disorder.

What is Pathological Narcissism?

Pathological narcissism is a mental condition that causes severe disturbances in interpersonal functioning. In other words, pathological narcissism causes individuals to feel obnoxious, where they feel superior to others and do not see any wrong in that feeling. Individuals with pathological narcissism are not in a mentally ill state with regard to clinical terms. They just show little or no empathy for the conditions, situations, feelings, and behavior of others.

In addition, speaking to a professional can be beneficial. Therapists can help you identify the source of the problem and provide advice on how to better understand and manage your jealous emotions. They can do this through various methods such as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), through which a person can become aware of their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors and better address their insecurities.

Distraction activities can also be useful, as these can help take away the focus from jealous feelings or worries. Examples of these activities include reading, yoga, or watching movies. Doing so can provide a healthy distraction and reduce stress while allowing you to take a break and refocus on more productive and meaningful thoughts.

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Effects of Jealousy

Jealousy can have an adverse effect on your mental health. To cope, it is important to focus on self-love and strive for acceptance. This process involves understanding that nobody is perfect and that it is okay to make mistakes. Valuing who we are and understanding our self-worth is a fundamental step toward managing jealous feelings.

Causes of Jealousy

Various factors, such as childhood experiences, parental relationships, and fear of abandonment can cause jealousy. For example, a child may feel jealous if their parents spend more time on their sibling than on them. Through repetition, such experiences can lead to fear of abandonment and insecurity in relationships, resulting in a continued feeling of jealousy. In addition, people may also form expectations of what others should do for them, and if these expectations are not met, they may experience harmful jealous feelings.

This emotion can significantly affect your mental health. In terms of relationships, jealous feelings can lead to anxiety due to worry or suspicion. It may cause people to doubt themselves and their partners, leading to insecurity and a lack of trust. Additionally, it can lead to emotional self-sabotage, or subconsciously engaging in behaviors that undermine feelings of security or confidence. It can also harm one’s self-esteem or belief in their abilities and value.

When we think about jealousy, we often think about love and relationships. But this emotion can have an even broader impact on different areas of our lives. It also has powerful effects on our mental health, leading to anxiety, insecurity, and low self-esteem. To better manage these feelings, it is important to look at the deeper meanings behind these emotions. In this blog post, we will explore the causes and effects of jealousy by delving into its deeper mental health significance. We will then look into ways to cope with jealousy so that you can start to live a more fulfilling life.

The bottom line: Envy drains our happiness and saps our energy. It’s appreciation that reveals abundance in places where we might have failed to look.

Jealousy is the act of doing evil to protect what you have from getting out of your hands.
In love relationship, a person may become jealous so that the person will not leave

5. Don’t forget to count your own blessings

As the saying goes, envy is counting the other fellow’s blessings instead of your own.

Counting our blessings isn’t the same as boosting our ego by reminding ourselves how we’re better than others, as in the nice car/good looks example above. It’s more about refocusing on what is really important in life, and on the sometimes intangible or invisible things we do possess—and that are less dependent on social comparisons, like a strong spirit, a diversity of life experiences, or just the simple fact of being alive

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4. Let envy fuel self-improvement—when appropriate

When our envy is rooted in things we cannot change about ourselves, such as a difficult childhood, a traumatic event, or certain health conditions and disabilities, using envy to motivate self-improvement is more likely to dig us deeper into frustration and self-blame.

But sometimes envy alerts us to things that we want in life that are potentially attainable, if we’re willing to make certain changes.

For example, if you envy your productive colleague, you may find that you could be more productive yourself if you learned to manage your time better. You may even be able to get a few tips from them—upward social comparison can be a source not only of motivation but also of useful information

It’s not that we should seek out others’ suffering, searching for chinks in their armor, but rather we should be open to seeing them in a fuller way, a way that will inevitably include both strengths and weaknesses, joys and sorrows. Doing so will allow us to notice things we may have otherwise overlooked—and as a result, be there for them when they are in need.

Appreciating a person in their fullness can also help us feel genuinely happy for their successes, a form of positive support called “capitalization” that has been shown to promote relationship well-being.

Replace envy with compassion

Although envy seems almost like a compliment, it can be quite dehumanizing. It reduces the object of envy to something very narrow and masks the full picture of who they are and what their life is like.

Have you ever envied someone who seemed to to have the perfect life, only to find out later that they were in fact suffering in a very major way? These cases are more common than we might think—we just don’t have the opportunity to learn about someone’s difficulties when we’re mired in envy of their seemingly charmed life. (New research finds Facebook does not help things, by the way.)

Recognize that pride is just the flip side of the envy coin

It is tempting—but generally unhelpful—to try to counteract envy with pride. “Sure, he has a nice car, but I’m better looking” is not going to get you very far. You might feel vindicated in the moment, but sooner or later someone is going to come along who has a nicer car than you and is better looking.

In other words, reassuring ourselves about our own enviable traits is unlikely to be sustainable, and it maintains the same unstable social comparison hierarchy where someone else needs to be put down in order for us to feel boosted up, and vice versa.