The Prudent Existentialist

Hello sa mga lumalaban at hinahanap ang essence ng kanilang existence.

Hinahanap kita sa gitna ng sobrang kalungkutan ko.

Thank you for letting me go because I wouldn't have walked away. If I stay in that kind of relationship, I would have diminished myself. Buti na lang, kasi hindi tama na manatili ako sa pagsasama na lokohan na lang pala. Hindi tama na ipilit ko ang sarili ko sa taong walang respeto sa nararamdaman ko. Buti na lang hindi mo ako pinigilan nang umalis ako, dahil baka nananatili ako hanggang sa ngayon sa napakamaling tao. Buti na lang, I had the courage to leave, in order to maintain my self-respect.

I know my worth. Hindi ko deserve ang taong manloloko at sinungaling, yung pati sarili na nga lang niya, niloko pa niya --- pinaniwala niya ang sarili niya na mahal niya yung tao.

Hindi lahat ng nawala ay kawalan. Ang lumaya mula sa taong sobrang baba ng tingin sa'yo ay isang magandang pangyayari. Malaya ka na mula sa tao na inisip niyang deserve mo na saktan, deserve mong pagmukhaing tanga, lokohin, ipariwara ang buhay, umasa sa wala, sayangin ang mahabang panahon mo. Ganyan niya pinamukha na sobrang ang baba-baba mo.

If you know your worth, you will never give a discount. You will not settle for a treatment that is far less than what you deserve.

Please send resumes at [email protected]

Life After Love
January 16, 2018

Is there really life after love?

I tell you, Psychologists are not superhuman. A doctorate degree in the field is not necessarily a shield to emotional hung ups. Being a lay counselor, I am always challenged by provocative questions like, 'What's the secret in moving on?', 'Do I need to fight for her?', or 'How long will I suffer the heartache?'

For the first question, walang sikreto. For the second, hindi lahat ng heartbreak ay kailangan o pwedeng ipaglaban. ‘Hindi kailangan’ dahil baka ayaw mo na, o ‘hindi pwede’ kasi ikaw lang ang lalaban mag-isa. For the last, walang expiration ang feelings, time cannot necessarily heal the wound of a broken heart.

I believe that every relationship is unique. The chemistry of the two individuals is simply unrepeatable. So there can be no universal formula for moving on. That is why the questions raised here are actually useless. But I understand that those are mere part of the broken-hearted person’s journey to the different stages of grief.

Actually, I love the title of my third book as here I use the word 'transcendence' which is very humanistic, very liberating, and in a way 'spiritual'. It is rising above my current experience, learning from this very moment, fixing myself as I prepare to the next chapter of my life.

The opposite of transcendence must be fixation. It is when we are too much attached to the memories that we are becoming stagnant. There is no growth, no freedom, no creativity. I heard it once that hate is not the opposite of love, but apathy is. We can only say that we have moved on when we are becoming indifferent – to our former beloved, to the memories you’ve built together, to any feeling we associate in that relationship.

As you wake up each morning, remind yourself that you have a beautiful soul. Do it [dahil walang ibang gagawa niyan para sa'yo].

In Pru Life U.K., we advocate financial awareness to all Filipinos. If you want your family to become financially-secured in the future, just talk to the Man from Pru today.

ARTHUR I. SAJONIA
0929.149.3334
0915.942.2345
[email protected]

page:

Ctto

Fear is a learned response; and the deepest fear of our inner self is conditioned by our experiences in life.

Witnessing poverty at my youth, and then feeling the comfort of having a financial resources as yuppie, I was confronted with that great fear: ayaw ko na sanang bumalik sa dati. As a provider, you thrive for success para hindi na ulit maranasan ng mga mahal mo sa buhay yung 'dati'.

But life is full of uncertainties. Who anticipated this pandemic?!

Ako lang ba yung may sense of security na okay na ako mamatay; yung ma-aksidente man ako - 'ok lang', magkaroon ng critical illness, 'yes, magkaka-pera kami', maging disabled, edi 'yehey'... There is a power in negative thinking, because by being negative, we tend to anticipate the worst and prepare in advance. After all, can positivity resist the unexpected o yung ano mga nakatakda sa buhay ng tao? A sound mind, a PRUdent one, would say 'NO'.

In Pru Life U.K., we advocate financial awareness to all Filipinos. If you want your family to become financially-secured in the future, just talk to the Man from Pru today.

ARTHUR I. SAJONIA
0929.149.3334
0915.942.2345
[email protected]

page: