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STOP OVER-EXPLAINING YOURSELF

You explain yourself too much because of your insecurity when speaking, and the fear that the person won't believe what you're saying.

So, if something goes wrong, you start explaining yourself without the person even asking.

And the more you explain, the less the person seems to believe you.

The fewer words you use, the more truthful you seem.

You're going to give an explanation, don't start throwing a bucket of information at the person, gather the minimum amount of words necessary for you to explain the situation.

Pass this on to the person and wait for them to ask you something, this way you avoid that excess of information that leaves the person confused and you'll give more details than the person has doubts about, and this way you'll appear much more credible.

And don't anticipate the person's doubts.

It's very common for you to try to guess the person's doubts before they even ask, but you're not the person.

So, the more doubts you explain, the less confident you seem in the explanation you gave.

Have you explained what happened? Shut your mouth and wait for the person to ask you something else. If they ask, you answer. If they don't ask, it's because you've already explained what you had to explain to them.

God bless you.

YOU CANNOT SAY EVERYTHING YOU THINK. IT IS NOT LACK OF SINCERITY, IT IS WISDOM.

Many people admit to having lost friends, opportunities and relationships because they do not speak with moderation.

There is a popular saying that alert us: “Those who say what they want hear what they don’t want”.

Knowing how to express yourself is an art, and all art needs to be practiced and developed.

You need to seek to learn and improve this art. Of course, there is another option: to get into trouble somewhere! But remember that being wise is making good choices!

The time has come to leave behind that saying; “I say what I want, and those who are bothered can move on”.

The art of relating is fundamental to success. It is impossible to become successful without relating.

Even if you believe you are “good enough on your own”, you will have to buy, sell, exchange, whether it be goods and products, knowledge or whatever.

It is not possible to be successful on your own.

You have to develop good relationships. To do this, you need to be flexible.

Flexibility comes from your mindset. Flexible thinking leads you to generate and incorporate new ideas.

Flexible thinking is what gives you the ability to solve new problems and overcome the neural and psychological barriers that prevent you from seeing beyond the existing order.

God bless you.

STOP CONFUSING SYMPTOMS WITH THE CAUSE OF YOUR PROBLEMS

Many people have been looking for some kind of palliative to stop feeling a symptom that bothers them.

The problem is that if there is a fire that made the siren goes on, it is no use just trying to turn the siren off. You need to put out the fire and resolve whatever may cause that fire to start again.

There are many people who want a medicine to reduce anxiety or depression, but they do not want to resolve whatever is causing those problems.

It’s understandable that the pain seems to be the problem, but if you only focus on eliminating the symptom, you forget what really caused all that pain.

And whenever you try to ignore the origin of the problem, the pain increases over time and the problem has no date to go away.

“For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, is working for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory, while we do not look at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen.

For the things which are seen are temporary, but the things which are not seen are eternal.” (2 Corinthians 4:17-18)

God bless you.

FOCUS ON THE NEXT STEP, IT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE

If you lost someone, if you were disappointed by something, if you woke up discouraged and thought that your life is not so good, don't waste your time dwelling on these thoughts that are bothering you.

Because dwelling on it won't help the discomfort go away.

If you feel bad because you didn't get what you wanted, you need to see where you went wrong and take the next step.

If someone disappointed you, you can either dwell on it or take the next step to find someone different.

If you woke up feeling very discouraged and want to stay in bed, get up and go for a walk, because lying down won't give you the energy you need.

And all of this isn't an attempt to ignore something bad that happened, it's just the awareness that staying still won't help you overcome that situation.

Everyone will go through frustrations in this life, and it won't be easy.

Some will focus on brooding and suffering more because of it, while others will focus on the next step, seeking improvement.

God bless you.

STOP TELLING EVERYONE ABOUT YOUR LIFE

Not everyone around you wants to see you doing well.

Not everyone wants you to get to where you dream to.

In fact, the vast majority of people are focused on pleasing their own ego.

So if they see you thriving, and see that they are not progressing either, it is easier for them to badmouth you and root against you than to do what they need to do to achieve that in their life too. You can fix that.

The more you open your mouth, the more obstacles appear to get in your way.

You share this because it gives you pleasure from the achievement and also because you want to celebrate with them.

Of course, some people will really be happy with your achievements, but the vast majority will not.

So, choose carefully the people with whom you share your life.

God bless you.

DEALING WITH FALSE APOLOGIES

When someone comes to you with an apologetic attack and says: I'm sorry you felt offended.

Here the person thinks he is right in what he did and the problem is how you felt about what happened.

So instead of accepting this person blaming you and not their actions, you should say: Don't apologize for how I feel, apologize for your actions because my actions are mine but the wrong actions are yours.

In this way the person can't avoid facing the consequences of their own wrong actions that he committed.

Then comes the excuse with justification. “I'm sorry but I'm stressed, I'm tired today.”

Here the person takes partial blame. Partly he knows he made a mistake but partly he places the responsibility for his behaviour on the way he was feeling at that time.

The problem is that if you accept this, this behavior may happen again and receive the same justification.

So instead, you should say: You don't need to apologize for what stress did to you, but you do need to apologize for what your stress did to me.

This will make the person see that no matter the reason, his actions are still his and this will make him reflect on the result of his actions and not just on the reasons he came up with.

God bless you.

DECISION WITHOUT ACTION IS JUST AN INTENTION

Do you know when a person decides to do something and it doesn't happen?

The person decided to quit smoking but didn't, decided to lose weight but didn't, decided to put an end to a troubled relationship but didn't, decided to take better care of themselves but didn't. Do you know why this happens?

Because a decision without action is just an intention, an expectation that it will happen.

For a decision to be a decision, it needs that action.

If you're hungry and decide to eat, you need to take a step at that moment to make it happen.

And it doesn't matter what step it takes. It doesn't matter if you're going to order food, or if you're going to make it yourself or if you're going to go to your mother's house to eat her delicious food.

A real decision is a combination of the objective and an action.

This seems like the most obvious thing in the world, but like many people say, they are determined to change but are not willing to take the steps to make that change happen.

A decision without action is not a decision; it is a mere deception that keeps you exactly in the same place.

God bless you.

THERE WILL ALWAYS BE SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T LIKE YOU

It doesn't matter what you do.

And many times you will only know this because someone else told you.

The funny thing about this is that you not necessarily have to have done something wrong to this person and even so they will talk badly about you, they will gossip about you and they will hope that you get fail in life.

Do you know why this happens?

Because your presence puts them in touch with internal issues that they don't know how to deal with.

It could be your happiness that bothers them, because of your professional achievements, it could be your family, it could be your appearance.

The point is that your existence influences the other person and this influence is not always admiration.

It is important to understand that there will always be people who don't like you, and it is because after all, these people are struggling and learning to deal with themselves.

And it is not worth you suffer because of this.

God bless you.

BE CAREFUL WITH WHAT YOU THINK (Proverbs 4:23)

Whenever you are about to make a very important change in your life, consciously you know that it is the right thing to do, but unconsciously you feel such strong uncertainty that it can end up making you give up something that would be very good for you.

For example: You may be in a horrible job and receive an offer for a better job in another city. You know it is the right thing and will be better for you, but on the day of accepting the offer you feel extremely afraid.

On the day of announcing to your old job that you will no longer work there, you are also terrified and may even give up everything at the last minute.

This happens because your brain does not look for what is best for you, it looks for what it is used to, even if it is a bad situation.

Your brain knows what to expect from this, so it ends up embracing what it already knows and generates pain and fear for what it doesn't know.

Of course, sometimes your brain gets it right and avoids problems, but many times it prevents you from experiencing incredible changes that you need in your life.

And that's why it's important for you to understand this and be very careful with what you think.

God bless you.

I DON'T HAVE TIME

The one who wants to call, will call and the one who wants to reply to the message, will reply.

The one who wants to find time to be with you, will find this time, even if it's just a little bit, but they will find it.

The issue is not “having or not having time". The issue is that within the time that this person has, there are other things that are priorities for them before you.

And it's normal for you not to be a priority in everyone's life.

The only problem is when you keep fooling yourself into thinking that you are first on someone's list of priorities when in fact you are not.

This is what causes pain and emotional suffering in relationships because those who really want it will find a way and those who don't will always make an excuse.

“Call to Me, and I will answer and show you great and unsearchable things you do not know.”
(JEREMIAH 33:3)

God bless you