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The student came to the teacher and said:

“Master, you are always positive, always in a good mood, you never get angry at anyone, you are not offended, teach me to be the same.”

To which the teacher said:

"Good. Run for a transparent bag and potatoes."

The student ran away, brought a transparent bag, potatoes, the teacher told him:

“From now on, as soon as you get offended or angry with someone, take a potato and write your name on one side, on the other side the name of the person with whom you had a conflict, and put it in a bag.

- It's all? the student asked.

- No, from now on you should always carry this bag with you and every time you have such a situation with resentment or anger, take a new potato, write your names and put it in this bag.

"Good," said the student.

Some time passed, the student's bag began to fill with potatoes and it became uncomfortable for him to carry it with him. Not only did it become heavy, but the potatoes that he put in at the very beginning began to deteriorate, sprout, become moldy, and this whole package began to stink terribly. The student then returned to the teacher and said, “I can no longer carry this bag with me. It became very heavy and the potatoes began to spoil. Offer me something else."

To which the teacher said: “This is what happens in your life. Every time you get offended at someone, angry, a stone appears in your soul. Over time, the stones become more and more. Your actions become habits, habits form character, and character creates stinking vices. I specifically let you look at the whole process from the outside. And now, as soon as you have a desire to take offense at someone, get angry, think about whether you need this stone in your soul?

HE WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU IF YOU REMEMBER THESE RULES.
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Behind a LOVING AND SUCCESSFUL man there is always a WISE woman who skillfully manages him. And she does this with the help of well-known things, but which, unfortunately, many ladies quickly forget when they get married)
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So, simple truths:
🔥 You are a muse and you know how to inspire.
🔥 Listen and hear.
🔥 You skillfully direct (sometimes you manipulate, but in a feminine way).
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Phrases from which men are ready to move mountains, kill a dragon, etc.:
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🔥 I appreciate everything you do
🔥 I understand you
🔥 You did amazing with this
🔥 Do you want to be alone? Good
🔥 Tell me about it
🔥 Spend time with your friends
🔥 I believe in you
🔥 Thank you my hero
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And that's just one drop in the ocean. There are a lot of such phrases, and if a woman knows how to use them correctly (even in a scandal), then that's it, hold on prince, you will live "happily ever after" ❤️

12 PRINCIPLES "NEVER"

1. Never say "never" because "the days go by so fast and nothing stays the same" (Lao Tzu).

2. Never choose the lesser of two evils - evil is evil and there is no such thing as small.

3. Never draw hasty conclusions from what you are told - it is important not what they say, but why.

4. Never spit in a well (no comment).

5. Never think ahead - everything will happen somehow differently. It is better to be neutral about the upcoming event.

6. Never take dirty linen out of the hut - take it out the door, throw it out the window.

7. Never take the first step if at that moment you are in doubt about something. It may be the last.

8. Never believe gossip, but always check the information.

9. Never poke your nose into other people's business - there are many things to do, and you are alone (alone).

10. Never do anything by force. First, understand whether you really need it, and then think about how best to approach the matter.

11. Never say "over my co**se" - you can be caught at your word.

12. Never leave the house without smiling at someone, even at yourself in the mirror. A day that starts with a smile is never a bad day.

Self-realization (1)
Self-realization is the embodiment of a person's inclinations, his potential and talents through a certain activity. This term can be considered in two planes. On the one hand - the action, and on the other - the purpose of this very action. There is always room for a person to move on. That is, the self-realization of the individual does not have a clear framework or restrictions, and accordingly, even the most realized people always have the opportunity to develop further.
Since a person is a biosocial phenomenon, it is not correct to consider the issue of his formation as a person in isolation from society. There are several types of self-realization:

Personal;
Creative;
professional;
Social.
1. Personal self-realization.
Since each of us positions ourselves as a person, this issue becomes important from early childhood. The child wants respect, understanding, approval of his actions. This tendency only intensifies with age, either leading to success or depression and complexes. Driven by this desire, a person chooses several possible strategies for his life path:

The desire for well-being and material prosperity;
Success in conquering the "tops", career growth;
Developing your skills and abilities, including hobbies.
In any of the above points, the personality of the individual, its self-realization, is placed in the center, regardless of the type of activity. The main thing is to get recognition and approval. First of all, from relatives and friends. Therefore, it is so important to harmonize the space around you, starting with your immediate environment.

2. Creative self-realization.
The desire to create something new is inextricably linked with the evolution of the human species. All the masterpieces of world culture, the achievements of science and technology are caused precisely by this impulse. Thus, the self-realization of the individual through creativity is rooted in the deep foundations of human existence. Creative, out-of-the-box thinkers always succeed better than those who act in a stereotyped way. This is especially true in the 21st century, the era of rapid development of technologies and information flows. Thanks to creativity, we form our response to the surrounding reality, expand our worldview. The most important thing is that any of us can create. Only the forms of expression of the creative act change. Poetry, prose, painting, sculpture, crafts for metal and wood, modeling, embroidery, origami, ikebana, graphic design and many other areas. Everyone can find a suitable occupation for themselves. And it is not so important to become the best, the main thing is to get recognition and approval.

3. Professional self-realization.
Success at work is also important to most people. And it's not just about money and promotions. No. Much more important is the feeling of being in demand, approval and recognition from colleagues and management. It is important to remember that work is only part of life. It cannot replace other aspects.

This type of self-realization has the following goals:

Feeling of belonging to a certain community of people;
The desire to take their place in the service hierarchy;
Desire to be recognized among colleagues;
Understanding your professional strengths and weaknesses;
Planning your future.
Everyone, looking at this list, can easily determine at what stage he personally is.

4. Social self-realization.
It is associated with the acquisition of general social success in the amount that a particular individual needs to feel happiness. This type of self-actualization is collective in relation to the previous ones. In fact, social self-realization is exactly the highest degree of human needs that Abraham Maslow spoke about. To achieve success in society, you can go completely different ways. Become a first-class employee, be a private entrepreneur, engage in acting or any other activity.

You look at one person, and the confidence that you admire comes from him. And next to him is a guy who is closed in himself - he is afraid to speak out and make an extra move. How to regain self-confidence if you have become a hostage of complexes? How not to be afraid and finally express your potential? If your life has become like a struggle, and stress haunts you, it's time to take the helm of your “ship” and break stereotypes. Let’s say “come on, goodbye!” to uncertainty. We begin to be the master of our life. If you know the main secrets of absolute self-confidence, you will never feel helpless in society. No matter what the situation is, no matter what they tell you and no matter how they look askance at you, you can stay with your head held high. How, after all, to quit the addiction to underestimate your “I” in the face of others? A person begins to neglect his own interests in order to avoid criticism.

LOVE YOURSELF
Everyone understands self-love in their own way≫, someone even calls it “selfishness”. But this is far from true. These are completely different directions.

In my world, self-love is: Listen to yourself and take care of your health, if something bothers you, give your body a rest or consult a doctor in time.

Take care of yourself, be neat and clean. Not because you have to, but for your own comfort. Take a shower, wash your hair and do udovye procedures not because you are going somewhere. And because it is not all the same to the condition of your skin, and it is also a guarantee of health.