Dani La Barrie

🧘🏽‍♀️✨"We cannot hang on to feelings of shame and guilt and still hope to become better people. How did these feelings begin? If we were treated badly by people, we need to be honest about what happened so we can resolve it and move on. Have we perpetuated our feelings by acting disrespectfully ourselves? Then we need to take a thorough inventory of our wrongdoings, admit them, make repairs, and let them go.

We may wallow in shame because facing it feels too frightening. Often, we believe our shame is greater than that of others. This belief is usually untrue and grandiose. It’s part of how we isolate ourselves. We don’t have to face it alone. We have the help of other men and women who can listen to our pain and tell us about their experiences.

Prayer/Meditation: Today, may I find the courage to face my shame and assert my right to self-esteem."

- From Today's Gift by the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation

"We only want to hear good things. That we’re nice people. That our loved ones are healthy. That we did a good job. We don’t want to hear that anyone is angry with us, or that we made a mistake. We don’t want to hear about an illness or troubles.

But life isn’t just happy news. Bad things happen. We can’t change that. As we live our recovery program, we learn to handle the hard things without running back to our addiction. We choose the path of life. We need to know all the news, good and bad. Then we can deal with life as it really is.

Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, help me listen—even when I don’t want to. Gently help me deal with both the good and bad. All the help I need is mine for the asking.

Meditation for the Day: I will ask my sponsor and three friends to tell me about my blind spots."

- From Today's Gift by the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation

𝙏𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙠𝙨 𝙨𝙤 𝙢𝙪𝙘𝙝 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙗𝙚𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖 𝙛𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙙 𝙤𝙛 𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙚 𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙟𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙣𝙚𝙮 𝙤𝙛 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚, 𝙎𝙖𝙗𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙖 🎋✨

🧘🏽‍♀️✨"Feelings are no respecters of age, gender, marital status, wealth, position in the community, intelligence, or any other standard we use to gauge and categorize other people.

A teenage boy knows what an older woman means when she says, “I was scared to death, but I didn’t know what I was scared of.” My heart melted; my stomach turned over; my skin crawled; a feeling of dread spread through me; my heart was thumping—we are all familiar with feelings, though we may not always know at any particular moment what caused them.

No matter who we are or what we’ve done, we can identify with each other. We are Higher Power's creation, and we were made alike in love. We created our own fear, but we can return—anytime we want to—to the Higher Power's love, the great equalizer.

Prayer/Meditation: I will say today, “I know how you feel,” and mean it."

- From Today's Gift by the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation

🧘‍♀️🧘‍♂️ Guided Beach Meditation last Saturday was peaceful and enriching ✨

If you missed this last one be sure to attend our next one! Saturday, September 11 at 8:30 am South Beach Park in Boca Raton. 🙏🏽✨

Tickets are available at the link below:
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/168089461103

🧘🏽‍♀️✨"Sharing experiences, strengths, and hopes, and reading during recovery is very important. But just as important are the times of silence we allow ourselves to think over the information we’re receiving during times of sharing and reading.

Before recovery, being quiet may have meant having to face our problems alone. We avoided being by ourselves. We may think we don’t have time for silence in our busy lives. But quiet moments in the morning or evening for meditation, moments going to and from work, moments spent doing household chores, moments during exercise—all of these moments add up to the precious times of silence we need to absorb all we are learning, feeling, and experiencing.

Prayer/Meditation: I now look forward to my quiet times. I am learning how to relax and be with my Higher Power in prayer, meditation, and reflection."

- From Today's Gift by the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation

🧘🏽‍♀️✨"The Eighth Step is not meant to punish us; it is meant to set us free from guilt, anxiety, and discord.

We begin by making a list of everyone we have harmed on our journey, as we have struggled to survive. We have probably done more damage to ourselves than to anyone else, so we put ourselves first on the list.

Often, our tendency is to feel guilty about everything we’ve ever done, everyone we’ve come in contact with. That is unearned guilt. Writing helps us clarify whether or not we are punishing ourselves for no reason. But we need to be open to guidance as we work this Step, getting everything out of us and on to paper, so we can be healed.

Once we have made the list, we strive to become willing to make amends to everyone on it because that is how we will heal. Making amends does not mean feeling guilty and ashamed and punishing ourselves; it means swallowing our pride and defenses, and doing what we can to take care of ourselves. We become ready to improve our self-esteem by taking responsibility for our behaviors. We become willing to have our relationships with ourselves, others, and our Higher Power restored.

Prayer/Meditation: Today, I will open myself to an honest understanding of the people I have harmed. Higher Power, help me let go of my defenses and pride. Help me become willing to make amends to those I have harmed, so that I can improve my relationships with myself and others."

- From Today's Gift by the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation

Your mindset will determine how successful and effective you are in making any shifts or transformations in your life.

✨Be sure to join me TONIGHT, August 23rd, 2021 for an Instagram LIVE, discussing Chapter Seven of MY BOOK:
Stories of an Ex-Party Girl: How to feel happy and good about yourself without alcohol and drugs - How do I get out of this anyway?

In this Live, we talk about practical steps I've noticed work in my own life as well as the lives of my clients to shifting your mindset, as discussed in my book.

Due to Facebook issues, we will only be going Live tonight on Instagram at 7 pm EST

📱 To join me on Instagram:
Instagram.com/DaniLaBarrie

If you haven't already purchased your copy of my book, CLICK THE LINK BELOW!
amzn.to/2UdX09y

Hope to see you there!🥰

🧘 Don't miss the Guided Beach Meditation TOMORROW!!

August 21, 2021, at 8:30 am EST at South Beach Park in Boca Raton.

Cost: $10 per person

🔖 Grab your ticket on the link below:
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/163036258839

✨🤗 See you there!

🧘 ✨ This past guided beach meditation turned out beautifully.

Be sure to join in the next one! THIS Saturday, August 21, 2021, at 8:30 am
South Beach Park in Boca Raton 🙏🏽✨

If you haven't registered yet for the Guided Beach Meditation, it's $10 per person

REGISTER NOW!
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/163036258839

Looking forward to relaxing with you!✨Attend solo or invite friends 😊

🧘🏽‍♀️✨"There is a curious phenomenon found among many adult children called “switching addictions.” It may not truly be addictions one is talking about, but the dynamics are similar; we become obsessively involved in one activity as an excuse, and an escape, from dealing with another.

Rather than deal with many core issues such as emotional dependency, shame, or fear of abandonment, adult children may seek freedom from outside activities. We may become compulsive exercisers or seek happiness by spending, eating, or collecting romantic involvements like charms on a bracelet.

Happiness cannot be found outside ourselves. If the inner core of control and satisfaction is not there, no matter what else we may surround ourselves with (or deny ourselves), we remain barren.

Prayer/Meditation: I accept responsibility for my own happiness, for the obstacles I put in my own way, and for the happiness substitutes that I use to distract myself."

- From Today's Gift by the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation

✨Be sure to join me TONIGHT for a Facebook/Instagram LIVE, discussing Chapter Six of 𝗠𝗬 𝗕𝗢𝗢𝗞 - Cry For Help.

𝗦𝘁𝗼𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗮𝗻 𝗘𝘅-𝗣𝗮𝗿𝘁𝘆 𝗚𝗶𝗿𝗹: 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝘆 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗮𝗹𝗰𝗼𝗵𝗼𝗹 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗱𝗿𝘂𝗴𝘀

In this Live, we talk about better ways of managing our emotions through the thoughts we tell ourselves, as discussed in my book.

💻 To join me on Facebook at 7:00 pm EST:
Facebook.com/DaniLaBarrie

📱 To join me on Instagram at 7:30 pm EST:
Instagram.com/DaniLaBarrie

My book is available on Amazon 🤗 If you haven't already purchased your copy of my book, click the link below:
amzn.to/2UdX09y

Attend solo or invite friends 😊

Overthink a lot? Do your thoughts get the best of you?

✨ Catch me LIVE on Facebook/Instagram TOMORROW NIGHT, August 17th, 2021!!

We will be going over Chapter 6 of MY BOOK!
Stories of an Ex-Party Girl: how to feel happy and good about yourself without alcohol and drugs - Chapter 6: Cry For Help

In this Live, we talk about better ways of managing our emotions through the thoughts we tell ourselves, as discussed in my book.

💻 To join me on Facebook at 7:00 pm EST:
Facebook.com/DaniLaBarrie

📱 To join me on Instagram at 7:30 pm EST:
Instagram.com/DaniLaBarrie

My book is available on Amazon 🤗 If you haven't already purchased your copy of my book, click the link below:
amzn.to/2UdX09y

Attend solo or invite friends 😊

How many times have you sworn that you're going to stop doing 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜? (Drinking...or jumping back into the unhealthy relationship...or whatever 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 [𝙪𝙣𝙝𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙩𝙝𝙮 𝙝𝙖𝙗𝙞𝙩] may be for you.)

✨ Join me TOMORROW NIGHT, August 12th, 2021 for a Facebook/Instagram live. We will be discussing Chapter Four of 𝗠𝗬 𝗕𝗢𝗢𝗞!

𝗦𝘁𝗼𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗮𝗻 𝗘𝘅-𝗣𝗮𝗿𝘁𝘆 𝗚𝗶𝗿𝗹: 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝘆 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗮𝗹𝗰𝗼𝗵𝗼𝗹 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗱𝗿𝘂𝗴𝘀 - 𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗽𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝟰: 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗘𝗺𝗽𝘁𝘆 𝗠𝗲

In this Live, we talk about emotional triggers as discussed in my book - internal triggers, external triggers, triggers from social media, and better ways of responding to triggers

💻 To join me on Facebook at 7:00 pm EST:
Facebook.com/DaniLaBarrie

📱 To join me on Instagram at 7:30 pm:
Instagram.com/DaniLaBarrie

The book is available on Amazon. 🤗If you haven't already purchased your copy of my book, CLICK ON THE LINK: https://amzn.to/2UdX09y

Attend solo or invite friends 😊

🧘🏽‍♀️✨"We can't recapture what is no more. And the minutes or hours we spend dwelling on what was or should have been only steal away from all that presently is. Today stands before us with promise. The opportunities for growth are guaranteed, as is all the spiritual help we need to handle any situation the day offers.⁣
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If today offers us a challenge, we can be grateful. Our challenges are gifts. They mean we are ready to move ahead to new awarenesses, to a new sense of our womanhood. Challenges force us to think creatively; they force us to turn to others; they demand that we change. Without challenges, we'd stagnate, enjoying life little, offering life nothing.⁣
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We each are making a special contribution, one that only we can make, each time we confront a new situation with courage. Each time we dare to open a new door. What we need to do today is to close the door on yesterday. Then we can stand ready and willing to go forward.⁣
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Prayer/Meditation: This day awaits my full presence. I will be the recipient of its gifts."⁣
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- From Today's Gift by the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation⁣⁣
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Need to talk to someone, confidentially and conveniently from home? 💻📱

I typically work with people who are feeling stressed out or depressed, looking to improve the quality of their life and change negative habits.

Clients who have worked with me have reported gaining the ability to manage their stress, anxiety, and depression; as well as gained clarity, feel fulfilled from the inside without the need of other people, and the ability to create inner peace.

I'm a virtual licensed psychotherapist and meet with my clients online - so it's convenient, comfortable, easy, and private.

🤔 Not sure if we’re a fit?

🗣 I offer complimentary 15-30 minute sessions where we talk about your current situation, where you’d like to be, what’s holding you back, how I could support you in managing your thoughts and emotions better, and if we’re a fit.

Contact me if interested 💌

Let’s arrange a time to talk (https://calendly.com/danilabarrie). I would love to offer immediate relief and support to you 🙏

🧘🏽‍♀️✨‼️ 𝗥𝗘-𝗦𝗖𝗛𝗘𝗗𝗨𝗟𝗘𝗗 📣 Our Guided Beach Meditation for 𝗧𝗛𝗜𝗦 𝗠𝗢𝗡𝗧𝗛 is rescheduled to 𝗔𝘂𝗴𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝟮𝟭𝘀𝘁, 𝟮𝟬𝟮𝟭 (we usually meet every second Saturday of the month). Tickets are $10 per person 🎟🤗

For more information, please check the link below:
https://www.meetup.com/Boca-Raton-Beach-Meditation-Tribe/events/267876023/

𝗣𝗟𝗘𝗔𝗦𝗘 𝗡𝗢𝗧𝗘: We are meeting 𝗦𝗔𝗧𝗨𝗥𝗗𝗔𝗬, 𝗔𝗨𝗚𝗨𝗦𝗧 𝟮𝟭𝘀𝘁. We will 𝗡𝗢𝗧 be meeting on August 14th. (We usually meet the second Saturday every month; this month there is an exception.)

I am so excited to meet you and look forward to meditating with you!

📝 Testimonial Tuesday ☺️

Upcoming Events ‼️

Don't miss any of these upcoming events for the month of August! 🤗🤗

In celebration of my Fall book club being on my very own book - Stories of an Ex-Party Girl: How to feel happy and good about yourself without alcohol and drugs, this month's Lives will be from some of the chapters of my book!

✨ Thursday 8/12 7 pm EST on Facebook / 7:30 pm EST on Instagram: The Empty Me (Chapter 4 of my book) - How many times have you sworn that you're going to stop doing that thing? (Drinking...or jumping back into the unhealthy relationship...or whatever that thing may be for you) In this Live, we talk about emotional triggers as discussed in my book - internal, external, triggers from social media, and better ways of responding to triggers

✨ Monday 8/16 7 pm EST on Facebook / 7:30 pm EST on Instagram: Cry for Help (Chapter 5 of my book) - Overthink a lot? Do your thoughts get the best of you? In this Live, we talk about better ways of managing our emotions through the thoughts we tell ourselves, as discussed in my book.

✨ Monday 8/23 7 pm EST on Facebook / 7:30 pm EST on Instagram: How do I get out of this anyway? (Chapter 6 of my book) - Your mindset will determine how successful and effective you are in making any shifts or transformations in your life. In this Live, we talk about practical steps I've noticed to work in my own life as well as the lives of my clients, as discussed in my book.

And if you’ve been feeling overwhelmed or anxious, curious to try out meditation? Or perhaps you’re already an avid meditator and would like to check out a group meditation - join us on Saturday, August 16th 🧘🏽‍♀️

Join me for one or ALL of these events this month! I'm so excited to connect with you!🤗💕

Details here: https://linktr.ee/danilabarrie

Have you purchased your copy of my book Stories of an Ex-Party Girl: How to feel happy and good about yourself without alcohol and drugs? ✨📕⁣
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I hope you’ll join me for my FREE book club coming this Fall! 🥳⁣
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🔥Make sure to grab your copy here:⁣
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Stories of an Ex-Party Girl: How to feel happy and good about yourself without alcohol and drugs https://www.amazon.com/dp/1733020853/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_PSF2GW9D6W1DX30WNQK2 ⁣
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‼️ Drop a comment or send me a message if you’d like to join me in my private online book club community where we’ll be exploring the techniques and tools I discuss in my book, and how they can be implemented in your life; so you can begin to see immediate shifts 💫⁣
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The International Day of Friendship is celebrated on July 30th and is a United Nations (UN) hosted day about "promoting and defending a shared spirit of human solidarity." 🥰

✨ International Day of Friendship LIVE TONIGHT on Facebook/Instagram ‼️

In this Live, we discuss why friendships are important, and how to build a support system that is more in alignment with your goals and intentions for your life!

💻 Facebook.com/DaniLaBarrie 7/29 @ 7 pm EST

📱 Instagram.com/DaniLaBarrie 7/29 @ 7:30 pm EST

So excited to see you there. 💻🥰💕

✨ Friday is International Day of Friendship

The International Day of Friendship is celebrated on July 30th and is a United Nations (UN) hosted day about "promoting and defending a shared spirit of human solidarity."

Join me for a Facebook/Instagram Live on TOMORROW NIGHT, July 29th, 2021!

In this Live, we discuss why friendships are important, and how to build a support system that is more in alignment with your goals and intentions for your life!

💻 To join me on Facebook at 7:00 pm EST: Facebook.com/DaniLaBarrie

📱 To join me on Instagram at 7:00 pm EST: Instagram.com/DaniLaBarrie

See you!😍😍

🧘🏽‍♀️✨ "Recovery means walking in the sun. It means progressively living in favor of what might be rather than defending ourselves from the disasters we are sure life has in store for us.

Adult children routinely live in debilitating fear of what might happen in their relationships. We tend to spend so much time worrying about the calamity that may befall us, we find it impossible to enjoy what is there and put out the energy and time to create new, exciting connections.

Nothing is forever. Some relationships simply are not destined to be eternal. As we recover, we come to understand this truth. We grow to where our self-esteem and sense of self is not based on this relationship or that one but on our ability to move with the flow of life. Recovery is being open to the possibilities of what might be.

Prayer/Meditation: In accepting that I can’t control outcomes, I have much less fear of the future."

- From Today's Gift by the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation

💓 Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.

Clients who have worked with me have expressed feeling understood and not judged. Feeling comfortable enough to get vulnerable and honest with themselves.

🤓 My name is Dani La Barrie. I’m a virtual Licensed Psychotherapist and Happiness Transformation Coach.

💥 I usually work with people who feel anxious, stressed out, or down. (Sometimes filling those feelings with alcohol, unhealthy relationships, or drugs).

Here is a link to a few of my reviews:
https://www.bark.com/en/us/company/dani-la-barrie/a3PzX/

💻 If you’re curious what it would be like to work together, schedule a complimentary 30-minute discovery call with me for a conversation ☺️

🧘🏽‍♀️✨"How is it we can hear so much better after we have worked our Steps? Does someone clean the wax out of our ears at night? We find ourselves able to listen to what people are actually saying, not just to what we think they are saying. Our program teaches us not to judge words before or after they are spoken. We leave judging to God. We try to learn from everybody, for each person we meet has knowledge.

Knowledge has become available to us as never before. We no longer fear new ideas and opinions that are not our own. Our recovery becomes deeper each moment we open our minds to new ideas.

Prayer/Meditation: Knowledge is freely offered. In turn, I keep myself growing and accepting the knowledge that comes my way. When I don’t know something, I admit it. Knowing that I don’t know is also knowledge."

- From Today's Gift by the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation

🧘🏽‍♀️✨"Perhaps we were brought up in a household where anger was taboo and voices were never raised. Perhaps everything was bottled up because we were afraid of anger. But we were angry.

It’s hard to be angry appropriately. It needs to be learned, like so many things in our emotional life. If we haven’t learned to direct our anger in appropriate ways, we may find ourselves flying into sudden, inexplicable, and unfocused rages that scare us and people around us. Or else we behave sullenly and irritably for no apparent reason. Or we get mad now for something that happened twenty years ago.

In our program we learn to direct our anger and get angry in a justifiable and appropriate way. It’s good to get rid of our anger for the past so that we can concentrate on living fully in the present.

Prayer/Meditation: Today I’m going to try and deal honestly with my feelings, especially my anger."

- From Today's Gift by the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation

🧘🏽‍♀️✨"How lucky we are for those who have gone before us. They have worked hard to find sobriety and develop it into a program where millions can be touched by it. They developed the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions so we have guides in how to get sober and develop lives of dignity and respect.

We also need to see that we are responsible to teach those who need to learn to whistle. We are responsible to serve and reach out to the still-suffering addicts around us. We will teach those we meet to whistle, and they will teach still others to whistle. This is our way. We are to be there for each other and for those who will follow. We pass it on so we can keep it and allow it to get deeper into our hearts and souls.

Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, help me to embrace my responsibilities for the still-suffering of the world. Help me use my energy to serve.

Meditation for the Day: Today I will reach out to the newest members of my group. I will call them to see how they are doing and to see if they want to go out for coffee. My treat."

- From Today's Gift by the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation

𝗥𝗼𝗺𝗲, 𝗜𝘁𝗮𝗹𝘆 : I loved their gelati, and their sandwiches (panini / panino) are so flavorful 😋🥪🤌🏽

The language sounds beautiful and it was nice being referred to as ‘Bella’ everywhere I went 🥰 𝘾𝙞𝙖𝙤 𝘽𝙚𝙡𝙡𝙖 🇮🇹

Do you have a favorite place you like to go/travel to - for food? ambiance? the way you’re treated? 🥰

🧘🏽‍♀️✨"We begin recovering. We begin taking care of ourselves. Our recovery program starts to work in our life, and we begin to feel good about ourselves. Then it hits. Guilt.

Whenever we begin to experience the fullness and joy of life, we may feel guilty about those we’ve left behind—those not recovering, those still in pain. This survivor guilt is a symptom of codependency.

We may think about the husband we’ve divorced who is still drinking. We may dwell on a child, grown or adult, still in pain. We may get a phone call from a nonrecovering parent who relates his or her misery to us. And we feel pulled into their pain.

How can we feel so happy, so good, when those we love are still in misery? Can we really break away and lead satisfying lives, despite their circumstances? Yes, we can.

And yes, it hurts to leave behind those we love. But keep moving forward anyway. Be patient. Other people’s recovery is not our job. We cannot make them recover. We cannot make them happy.

We may ask why we were chosen for a fuller life. We may never know the answer. Some may catch up in their own time, but their recovery is not our business. The only recovery we can truly claim is our own.

We can let go of others with love, and love ourselves without guilt.

Prayer/Meditation: Today, I am willing to work through my sadness and guilt. I will let myself be healthy and happy, even though someone I love has not chosen the same path."

- From Today's Gift by the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation

🧘🏽‍♀️ Self soothing is engaging in ways to soothe yourself; calm yourself when feeling upset, triggered, set off by something.

👶🏽 Imagine a baby crying. Needing to 𝙎𝙊𝙊𝙏𝙃𝙀 the baby to get the baby to calm down. 🧸

✨ Here are a few ideas to self soothe (soothe yourself when something sets you off). Are there other ways you can think of to soothe yourself? 🎋🧘🏽‍♀️