Nikquan Lewis, MS, LMFT, LPC

The only time I look back is to see how far I have come and reflect on the lessons learned. This is your weekly reminder to stop beating yourself up about the past and focus on what's ahead of you.

I had a client ask me the other day how to forgive herself. The truth is, it's not a simple answer. It takes loving yourself intentionally, giving yourself grace and accepting you-all parts of you. And recognizing that we are more than our mistakes. Take things day by day and be sure to extend yourself the kindness that you deserve.

I want to encourage you to start a self love/intimacy journal where you can start a love letter to yourself and practice focusing on gratitude by writing about what you're grateful for, each and every day.

This will help you fall in love with yourself more and more and remind you of the love that you deserve.

Is Your Relationship Feeling Like a Roommate Situation? 😔

If the only time y’all talk, is about bills, the kids, and work, and the spark isn’t sparking, you very well may be in a “roommate rut” I shared my insights during a dope interview with “Sisters From AARP”. We discussed what it is and how to interrupt it. But if you want change that lasts, keep reading.

Listen, You don’t have to settle for what the direction the relationship has taken. It’s time that both of you take responsibility for your happiness and let’s get to work.

If you’re in a roommate rut and you want out, join me for my 4-Week Virtual Couples Intensive, “Intimate E # # : The Transformation Series,” kicking off on August 14th at 7 pm. Here’s what we’ll dive into:

💖 Break Down Barriers: Explore what’s been keeping you apart and rebuild your connection.
💖 Revamp Communication: Master the art of talking about your needs and desires.
💖 Fresh Intimacy Strategies: Learn new, exciting ways to reignite the spark and take intimacy to the next level.
💖 Real Tools for Real Change: Get practical tools to talk openly and honestly.

Ready to turn things around and reignite the passion in your relationship? Comment the word CONNECT below, and I’ll send you the link to grab your spot.

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Yall already know the vibes! Celebrating National Or**sm Day with

I'm excited to share that I had the opportunity to contribute to another ESSENCE article on why prioritizing our pleasure, especially or***ms, is crucial for Black women.

Here are some reasons to prioritize the big "O":

Mental Health and Stress Relief: or***ms release several hormones, including oxytocin, dopamine, and endorphins, which act as natural ways to increase mood.

Deepening Connections: For those in relationships, sharing intimate moments and or***ms can strengthen the emotional connection with your partner.

For the Single Ladies: Everyone should enjoy or***ms; they are not just for those in relationships. For single women, self-pleasure is an amazing way to explore what feels good and to connect with your sensual side. It’s a journey of self-discovery and empowerment that builds confidence, self-awareness, and s*xual insight.

Sweet Dreams and Pain Relief: Do you have difficulty sleeping or chronic pain? Guess what—or***ms can help with that, too! The hormones released can improve the quality of our sleep and offer pain relief, making it a natural solution worth exploring.

Now. If your s*x life isn't making you hit that high note or if it's gotten a bit boring- it's time to change that! Even if it's great and you want to take it to the next level- Join our "Intimate E # # " 4-week intensive to reignite the passion and get the satisfaction you desire. Open to all couples globally but only 5 couples accepted.

Comment the word CONNECT below to receive more info! The very next couple to sign up can take advantage of our LAST early bird discount using the promo code SAVE200 for an exclusive discount! Link also in bio. Let's get to work!

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Living like roommates while you’re in a whole relationship?
Feeling disconnected and looking forward to being apart?
Bored with each other and in the bedroom?
If your s*x life was an animal, would it be a dead fish?
Considering divorce? You're not alone. Statistics show that 75% of couples feel disconnected, and over 40% are on the brink of splitting up.
You don’t have to live like this and it's time to do something different.
Join us virtually on August 14th at 7pm for Intimate E # # : The Transformation Series.
Comment the word CONNECT below and I’ll DM you the link
Our 4-Week Virtual Couples Intensive will:
*Break through the barriers keeping you apart by exploring relationship dynamics
*Deepening S*xual Communication
*Learn and Implement Innovative Approaches to Intimacy
* Equip you with the tools to communicate openly and honestly.
This is your opportunity to create the perfect relationship and s*x life for you and your partner.
Limited Spots Available – Act Now! Only 5 Couples Accepted
Due to the tailored and intimate nature of this intensive, spots will fill quickly. If you’re ready to truly transform your relationship and lead with pleasure, don’t hesitate!!
If you’re ready to reconnect and rekindle the spark, let’s get to work.
Comment the word CONNECT below and I’ll DM you the link

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Last week, I attended the Profitable and Purposeful Therapist Summit and it was amazing! 🥰

I actually was honored with my 6 figure business award! I've been in practice for 2.5 years and it is truly a blessing to be honored for an accomplishment that I worked so very hard for- this is just the beginning. I've spent so many late nights and early mornings to get to this point, and I am truly grateful to be able to look back at my journey and celebrate this moment.

I think about the days when I worked for others, longing to serve my way, and to be fully walking in my purpose. It’s truly amazing.  This is a reminder that you can do anything that you put your mind to. It doesn’t matter how your journey began or what anybody says about you, it's all about how you overcome and push forward. Cheers!



It feels so good to be able to share my product with so many people. I have spent so many nights and days creating these relationship and s*x conversation cards and to be in the space where I can provide this to my community. It truly brings me so much joy. 🥰

When I go to different events, and I am able to directly connect with my community, it reminds me that I am walking in my purpose.

🎇 Ignite True Connection This 4th of July! 🎇
Friend, is the 4th of July the only time you see fireworks or you experience them every night in the bedroom?! Either way, it can always be hotter!!

Discover how you can light up your love life with our "How Spicy Is Your S*x Life?" quiz! Of course it’s fun but it's also a revelation! Take it solo or better yet, turn it into a playful challenge with your partner to really see where you both stand on the spice scale. 🌶️💞

💌 Plus, we’re lighting up your holiday with a bang! Our How Do You Want It? Relationship and S ex Conversation cards are the perfect tool to:

*Identify your own wants, needs and desires
*Deepen your connection
*Get on the same page if you and your partner get different results.
*Explore and expand intimacy
Available now at a sparkler of a price—just $34.99 for the cards or $49.99 for the full bundle, but only until Sunday at midnight!

🔥 Ready for a relationship that glows with passion and intimacy? Click the link in our bio now, take the quiz, and start the journey to a pleasure filled life! And tell me what result you got in the comments, y’all know I am nosey! Let’s chat!

🎆 Happy 4th of July! 🎆

Looking to add some fireworks to your relationship? 🔥💥 Take our "How Spicy Is Your S*x Life?" quiz now and see just how spicy it is or is it in need of CPR chile!! If you have a partner, be sure that each takes it but be sure not to cheat! These results are based on each partner's experience and is a great way to see if you're on the same page! 🌶️❤️

💌 By taking this quiz, you'll discover fun and exciting ways to connect on a more intimate level. Plus, our cards are on sale for just $34.99, and the bundle is only $49.99 until Sunday at midnight! This is the perfect opportunity to enhance your love life and strengthen your connection.

Ready to ignite the pleasure? Click the link in our bio to take the quiz now and take the first step towards a more fulfilling relationship! 🌟

Regular mental health check-ins with your partner aren’t just important, they’re vital. When you make time to talk and really listen to each other, it shows that you care and are there for one another. It’s about creating a space where you both feel safe to share whatever’s on your mind which builds trust and understanding.

These check-ins can help you catch any early signs of stress or anxiety so you can support each other before things get too heavy.

These conversations remind you both that you’ve got each other’s back, making sure you both feel valued and heard. Taking care of your mental health together means you’re not just surviving, but thriving as a couple.

So, make those check-ins a regular thing, and watch your relationship grow stronger and happier.

How often do you and your partner discuss mental health? Talk to me in the comments!

Hey y'all! I'm super excited to let you know I'll be a guest on the Emotional Eats Podcast with the amazing Kim Hynes! 🎙️

Ladies that are experiencing perimenopause or are curious about it, you’ll definitely want to tap in!

We’ll discuss common symptoms and experiences of that may surprise you! Can’t wait for y'all to tune in!! Stay tuned to find out when this episode drops!

I can’t let Men's Mental Health Month end without highlighting the importance of men’s mental health. Let's get real: men are dying by su***de 3.85 times more than women. This stat hits hard, showing how crucial it is to shine a light on men's mental health struggles.
We gotta break down stigma and offer our brothers the support they need. Let's lift each other up and make mental health a priority for everyone. Together, we can make a difference!
Men, here are 3 tips to manage your mental health:

*Prioritize Physical Health
Taking care of your body is crucial for your mental well-being. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and proper sleep can boost your mood and reduce stress. Find activities you love, whether it's playing a sport, hiking, or simply walking. Aim for at least 30 minutes of physical activity most days.

*Embrace Vulnerability and Communicate
Building strong connections starts with being open and vulnerable. Share your feelings and experiences with trusted friends and family. Good communication isn't just about talking; it's about listening too. Open up, let people in, and watch your relationships deepen.

*Utilize Counseling
Counseling is a powerful tool for mental health. Seeking professional help provides a safe space to explore your thoughts and emotions. A therapist can help you develop coping strategies, improve communication, and embrace vulnerability. Don’t hesitate to reach out for support; it can make a world of difference.

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Source: https://afsp.org/su***de-statistics/

I am BACK with another feature “Here’s Why You Should Consider Having S*x Outside Of The Bedroom This Summer,” where I share some fresh perspectives on spicing up your intimacy this season!
Check out a few tips:

Boosts Excitement and Reignites Passion: Changing the location can break the routine and reintroduce an element of excitement and anticipation into your relationship.

Ways to Safely Have S*x Outside of the Bedroom
Start with discussing your desires and fantasies with your partner and have transparent communication about this s*xual goal.

Adventurous While Safe Spots
Living Room: Start with a movie night that turns into a more intimate encounter on your comfy couch, or grab a soft blanket and create a s*xy picnic on the floor where each other is on the menu.

Visit the link in my bio to read the rest of the tips and ways to spice it up ! Are you trying to spice it up this summer? Is so, which one would you try?! Comment below!!!

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This weekend, you can catch me in the MIA!! I’m so excited to share that I’ll be speaking at E # # this weekend in Miami! I’ll be discussing strategies for creating your blueprint to pleasurable connections through effective communication. If you’re in Miami or want to hop a flight to the biggest convention on s ex and love in the US, grab your tickets and meet me there!!

This is one you do not want to miss!
Are you in need of a speaker that transforms and not only inspires? Book me now. To learn more about what I do, head to my link in bio or check out my website at nikquanlewis.com.
Let’s transform mental, relational and/or s exual health together!

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