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Don’t allow the behavior of other people to change you into someone you don’t want to be🤍
(People are jealous of you because your character carries more weight than their title. Read that again.-unknown)

The quote has been on my mind for the past few weeks. I guess it’s a reflection of the turmoil around us, and the terrible news we keep getting day in, day out. Sometimes it’s all too easy for us to focus on the bad things that are happening, or the bad things about a person, their thinking, their behaviour. The negative sometimes seems more powerful than the positive. It’s true that it’s human nature to be negative and pessimistic at times. Granted, pessimism has its benefits sometimes, as it can prepare you for the worst. However, there is so much goodness and so much to be positive and optimistic about, and sometimes negativity is a choice. You can choose to be negative all the time, about everyone and everything. You can choose to always look on the gloomy side of things and look at things from a ‘glass half-empty’ perspective. Equally, you can choose to be positive and optimistic. You should, of course, be realistic and not pretend terrible things are happening around us. However, you can choose to look for the good things about situations and about people.

Sometimes admitting that you’ve done something bad can make you feel like you’re a terrible person. I think it’s why it’s so hard for people to apologize. But doing something bad, doesn’t make you a bad person. .
Good people sometimes hurt those they love. Because causing pain is not a reflection of ones goodness or character. Causing pain is a part of human growth and development. This doesn’t excuse anyone’s misdeeds, but it is meant to help people own their misdeeds. Embracing our full selves, flaws and all is what allows us to grow beyond them. Ignorance of ourselves and a refusal to grow is what causes us to repeatedly hurt those we love.
You did something wrong. But that action does not have to define you if you don’t want it to. .
Acknowledge the pain you’ve caused. Apologize. Reconcile. And above all else, GROW from it! .

Each day and the PRESENT moment is a gift.
LIVE in it FULLY!
Do better be better.

You can’t change people or change their behaviors, but you can change your response to them and how you move on with your life.
What do you think? Let me know in the comments 👇

Monday's motivation
If it doesn't challenge you it doesn't change you.

Monday's motivation
God's love is more than sufficient to help you when you are at your weakest. Because it's in the moments of complete poverty of strength where our pride cannot survive, we're most receptive to God's grace.

Monday's motivation
“Worrying cannot change a thing, but faith can change everything.”

Monday's motivation
Don't let life run you - you run your life

Monday's motivation

Getting our smile back starts on the inside. When our hearts are smiling, our faces will too.

“Every circumstance in life is a result of a choice—and every choice is the result of a thought.”

Iron sharpening iron

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Never be defined by your past. It was just a lesson, not a life sentence.

Relax your jaw. Release your shoulders. Exhale that breath. And focus on Christ.

Good Morning Loves! Happy Thursday! Have a wonderful awesome day!

I was engaged in a conversation with someone recently and I made this statement, "a situation is never permanent expect for the decision you make."
I said it to myself again and I kept realizing that it's a fact. It's now like an anthem in my head, and has been a reminder to make me see reasons not to let my background define who I should be.
In every aspect of our life we make decisions, either good or bad.
It's your decision to allow past failures pull down the vision you have for the future.
It's your decision to live in happiness or let sad situation define your being.
It's your decision to learn different things and know what next to do with what you've learnt.
It's your decision that would tell if you'll remain in the dark or you'll choose to be a light.

It's your decision to make if studying a particular skill will be helpful to you.

It's your decision to make if you're satisfied in richness or to remain poor.

It's your decision to make if following Christ is the best way to live life.

Sometimes we admire the life of others who are now successful and we desire to have what they have.
Well, one of the things they did to get to where they are is the kind of decision they made.

They never chose to settle for less.
Likewise should we also not choose to settle for less.

We could go on and on... I'm sharing this not just for you reading this post, but for myself as well.

Let's learn to decide right things if we truly want to live in our dreams.

If we put our mind and give action to the better decisions, the result would be that our dreams are becoming a reality.

I hope someone reading this understands now that, OUR DECISION CHANGES SITUATIONS AND NOT MAKE THEM PERMANENT.

Life may sometimes seem to burden us with more than we want to bear. But remain open. There is something bigger than you know going on here.

Seasoned mamas ... what advice do you have for newer moms??

At least three days a week, I sit in the same chair in the same office listening attentively to the unanswered questions that others have for their lives. When I leave, I can’t escape those questions. In many ways, I’m asking them too. Even if, for entirely different reasons. We know of friends who have had to face down a diagnosis. Others who have miscarried; and who may not have a chance to conceive again. I’ve watched a friend suffer endlessly; fighting for her life. I know of people who don’t know how they’ll pay for next month’s bills. And then still, we know of the atrocities that are happening overseas; and the ones that are occurring right next door. Every day, people are facing what feels impossible to remedy — and maybe is — this side of heaven, anyways.
I used to believe that platitudes could carry us. I used to believe that hope was an attitude; that I had to plaster on a CAN DO smile to minimize the pain and the uncertainty. But, hope that can’t live inside these frail and weak vessels isn’t hope at all — only fear — that God can’t take us as we are.
For me, hope isn’t about how much I can pretend to believe or how much I think I know. It isn’t about how much I can offer myself, or others. It’s confidence that even here: amid our longing, our suffering, and this endless waiting for relief — we can wail and scream and cry and rage.
I don’t know about you, but I needed to grasp hold of this truth once more ——
Hope isn’t meant to be a performance. It’s not meant to convince or persuade. It’s not meant to prove.
😌Hope is permission to receive the gift of God EVEN STILL EVEN HERE holding you.
You have permission to take this.
God still with you.
God still loving you.
God still making a way forward for you.
Even when you can’t see what’s right in front of you. Even when you don’t know what else to do or say.

Happy Friday!
What is one thing you are thankful for today?

“The only way to get what you really want is to let go of what you don’t want.”

Lord, May we make our homes places of relaxation, joy, love, peace, and safety. May we be generous and considerate, not thinking only about ourselves, but helping others enjoy the blessings of the summertime. Lord God, Creator of all things, guide our steps and strengthen our hearts during these months of summer and vacation days. Grant us refreshment of mind and body. May we constantly strive to make a meaningful difference in the lives of our loved ones and in the world around us as we enjoy the warm days of summertime.

Gave myself some permission.
Maybe you need it, too?
You have permission to resist the machine knowing you'll only thrive as a human being. You have permission to trust the process. You have permission to be completely present to what is in front of you instead of to what is beyond you. You have permission to be fully yourself; no edits. You have permission to let the good be good.
l'm learning to receive what I need.
I always could.
I guess I just didn't yet know how to.
But, I'm willing to try.

Easing into the week with some gentle focuses…what about you?

There is Healing in Sharing Your Story
"When you stand and share your story in an empowering way, your story will heal you and your story will heal someone else."
You’re never too broken to be healed, and you’re never alone on your widowed journey, regardless of how things may appear. Tell your story and tell it often. The person who heals the most might be you.

Of course, it's easier said than done. But we all need to live life in our own lane.