Lead Outside the Lines

I'm thrilled to share that I'll be joining Michael Cole on his podcast, Your Thoughts, Your Reality, tomorrow, Friday, August 30th at 10:00AM PST! In this episode I'll be diving deep into the transformative power of purpose. We'll explore how aligning with your truth can help you turn your greatest visions into reality

This is a conversation you won't want to miss. Join us for an inspiring and empowering session that will challenge you to think differently and take meaningful steps toward your dreams.

Tune in and let's transform together! ✨

I'm thrilled to share that I'll be joining Michael Cole on his podcast, Your Thoughts, Your Reality, tomorrow, Friday, August 30th at 10:00AM PST! In this episode I'll be diving deep into the transformative power of purpose. We'll explore how aligning with your truth can help you turn your greatest visions into reality.

This is a conversation you won't want to miss. Join us for an inspiring and empowering session that will challenge you to think differently and take meaningful steps toward your dreams.

Tune in and let's transform together! ✨

Who we are BEING is the most important choice we can make, especially in hard times.

14 years ago today, my son, Parker, was born premature and stillborn. For obvious reasons, that day will forever be etched in my memory.

But for less obvious reasons, that day was pivotal. It was the day I truly understood the immense power of the questions we ask ourselves and our choices.

When the doctor told me that Parker's heart was no longer beating and they would need to induce labor so I could deliver his tiny body, it took a second for reality to sink in.

The reality was, I couldn't change the situation and I couldn't control what was about to happen.

What I COULD CONTROL was my response and WHO I WAS BEING while doing something I never wish upon anyone.

Two pivotal questions came to my mind:
❓What matters most in this moment?
❓What experience do I want to create?

That might sound crazy given the circumstances, but asking myself those questions and honoring the answers that came, changed everything.

💝 What mattered most was honoring my son and bringing his body into the world wrapped in love.

💖 The experience I wanted to create was one of grace and gratitude, for Parker, for myself, for the nursing staff who were so gracious and captured Parker's footprints for us (pic below), and for my family.

In the darkest hours of my life, I chose to show up in love, grace, and gratitude. It wasn't easy, but it made all the difference. In the moment, it made an unbearable situation bearable (for myself and others around me). 14 years later, I remember that day with sadness AND a grateful fondness in my heart. There is space for BOTH at the same time. 💞

That one choice shaped an experience that lives on in my memory forever.

What choices are you making that create a ripple effect in your life? Are those choices creating the experience you ultimately want to create?

Our circumstances don't drive our experience, our choices do. Who are you choosing to BE?

Have you ever found yourself saying yes to things out of obligation, but deep-down you didn't really feel like doing it?

If you notice your heart or gut saying "no"– but your mouth saying "yes" – this is classic people-pleasing behavior.

This is a survival response where you do things for others while neglecting your own wishes out of fear of being rejected, disliked, or judged.

It's natural to want to please others and fit in, but repeatedly doing this at the expense of yourself leads to living for everyone else but you.

For example, I walked away from a secure government job to build the business of my dreams and fulfill a lifelong vision, and there's no way I could've taken that leap if I was trying to please everyone else!

This is exactly why I was so excited to be invited as a speaker in the upcoming People Pleaser to Powerhouse Summit, hosted by my friend Debbie Kramer, along with other Power House Women!

And since I'm speaking, I have a SPECIAL free ticket! Click the link in comments below to claim yours!

This empowering event runs from August 5-11 and will be transformational for ANYONE who wants to eliminate people pleasing from their behavior!

You'll receive the event recordings in your email so you can enjoy on your schedule. No excuses!

I look forward to sharing these insights with you and helping you break free from people pleasing so you can stand strong in your personal power!

Are you a successful purpose-driven woman who feels called to make a meaningful impact but you keep feeling like you're bumping up against an invisible glass ceiling?

This 6-question "clarity ignition" framework will help you clearly see your next best steps.

Comment "clarity" and I'll DM you the link. (Don't worry, I won't bug you for your email to access it.😊)

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Hi Friends! I'm excited to share a fantastic opportunity with you. As a member and student of the The xchange Approach, I have access to a couple of tickets to their brand new, first-ever offered (1-Day, Online) Conscious Facilitation Masterclass on Thursday, June 20.

There is limited availability…

🌟 If you would like to be considered for one of the tickets I have access to, read this, and follow the steps outlined below:

If you are a coach, trainer, consultant, or facilitator, this masterclass is a transformative journey. It’s an opportunity to reimagine the way you design and lead meetings and gatherings to be more interactive, engaging, and human-centered experiences.

xchange is the trusted partner of top organizations like Facebook, Google, Conscious Capitalism, Stanford University, Microsoft, BMW, and NASA to design and facilitate impactful CEO summits, leadership conferences, and high-stakes meetings. The xchange methodology has been taught to over 15,000 consultants and trainers and is revolutionizing how we unlock potential through transformational learning experiences and large conferences.

The Conscious Facilitation Masterclass, hosted by xchange, will equip you with:

✨ A set of proven and repeatable models and frameworks that enable deep connection, meaningful conversations, and a true sense of belonging, all supporting growth and learning.

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If you want to…
✅ Shift any learning experience from passive to transformational
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✅ Deepen your fulfillment as you match your skills with the deepest human needs of our time

I want YOU to join me.

Here's how to raise your hand for your spot:
🙌 comment below “I am in ”

Myself or someone on the xchange team will be in touch to share the details on how to claim your spot!

It’s that easy! See you at the masterclass! 🚀

P.S. This isn’t for you if…
❌ Prefer to use outdated teaching and facilitation techniques
❌ Aren’t interested in creating safety or connecting deeper with your group
❌ Value teaching your content over creating deep connections and communities
❌ Prefer to tap into the potential of only a few people rather than the whole group
❌ Don’t recognize the disadvantages of using a loose or unstructured approach
❌ Prefer to simply do what most other trainers, consultants, and teachers are doing
❌ Aren’t interested in evolving, fine-tuning, or mastering your craft as a facilitator

Happy Mother's Day!💞 Today (and every day) I am celebrating the incredible gift of my Mom, Dona Parker! She is the epitome of strength, love, and grace. I am a better woman/mother/wife/human being because of her and I am thankful that she is not simply my mom, but my best friend!

Sending love and gratitude to ALL mothers (biological and chosen)! Celebrating you all!🎉

Can you accomplish more without DOING more?

As a heart-centered high-achiever, you have big goals and are always looking to make a big impact! It’s easy to think that all the DOING is what has generated your success. But the DOING will only get you so far...and it’s not scalable.

At some point, your plate is so full that the thought of adding more to it can put you on the edge of exhaustion and shut down your productivity and creativity.

Continuing to simply DO more puts you in a downward spiral of reactivity, overwhelm, and burnout.

Your ability to make good decisions and see potential solutions is diminished, partly because certain areas of your brain go into survival mode and don’t function optimally.

There is a better way. Learn to shift your way of BEing so you can expand your capacity and ignite creativity. When you function better on the inside, you’ll accomplish more on the outside with greater ease and without adding more to your plate.

Want to know how?

I have a 5-step framework to help you go from stuck to unstoppable without burning yourself out...want it?

Comment “YES” below and I’ll get it to you.

👉 Heart-Centered High-Achieving Women ~ This is for YOU!

I'm delighted to invite you to the Ready to Shine Summit, where I will be speaking alongside other industry leaders.

This event is designed for women looking to enhance their careers through increased confidence and purposeful leadership.

Join us for a transformative experience that will equip you with the tools to succeed in your professional life. Attend from anywhere in the world at no cost!

Sign up by May 5th to ensure you don't miss ANY of these incredible women leaders sharing their insights for FREE!

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Do you know what's actually driving the actions you take...or don't take?

Many of us struggle to breakthrough what's keeping us stuck because we are focused on the wrong thing. We try hard to change our behavior from the outside in, instead of the inside out.

❌ We block calendars for self-care...then work straight through that time block

❌ We set out our shoes to go running...and look at them every day...still sitting where we left them

❌ We say we're going to make those sales calls...and at the end of the day we move that task to tomorrow's to-do list

If any of those sound familiar, you're not alone.

Yes, we need to set up our environment to make it as easy as possible to do what we say we are going to do. BUT...our BELIEFS ABOUT the task we are tackling will dictate how/if we actually execute.

Here's what I mean...

🌟 If I believe that self-care is selfish, frivolous, and a luxury for people who have way more free time than I do...then I am NOT going to honor the time I set aside for self-care. HOWEVER, if I believe that self-care is a requirement for me to lead/serve/perform at my best and create the results that matter most...THEN I will honor time for self-care.

Seems simple right? Not so fast...

🤔 Here's the rub! We think we are in control of our own beliefs...but the truth is...we are not even aware of the root of 95% of our beliefs that are driving the outcomes and experiences in our lives. The core of these beliefs were formed in before our 10th birthday and still play out in an invisible loop in our subconscious mind. Until we learn how to make the invisible visible, we will continue to fight against ourselves, stay stuck and stagnant, and not know why.

Stop beating yourself up. It's time to make the invisible visible so you can move forward faster with more ease and joy. If you'd like a power partner to help you do that, that's my specialty. DM me so we can schedule a time to chat. I can't wait to hear your story! 💖

Are you putting artificial limits on yourself that keep you feeling and ?

It's time to take the limits off! I remember when I was a Captain in the United States Air Force. I had to consciously break free of an "identity" that threatened to keep me from stepping into my highest potential when I was selected to lead a team of all-male Military Training Instructors at Air Force Basic Military Training (boot camp).

The problem...I still saw myself as a bubbly college cheerleader, not a badass leader of one of the most hard core teams of professionals on the planet! I almost backed out of the opportunity, but my commander believed in me enough to select me, so I decided to borrow her belief until I had enough of my own.

BEST DECISION I EVER MADE! My team went on to create the foundation that the Air Force used for almost 17 years to train and develop close to 500,000 Airmen!

I realized that leading in congruence with my "Authentic Alignment Code" was exactly what created the environment for our team to flourish, innovate, and unlock possibilities beyond our current reality.

Do you know YOUR Authentic Alignment Code and how to use it to elevate your leadership, magnetize greater opportunities, and create exponential success?

Designing your Authentic Alignment Code is part of the SCALE-UP framework I created to guide visionary leaders to step into a bigger and better story of what's possible for them. I recorded a FREE 20-minute Masterclass about it to help you unlock greater health, wealth, and happiness.

Check out the link in the comments below! 👇

It's my FREE GIFT to you.🎁 Don't stay stuck another minute! It's time for you to go from STUCK to UNSTOPPABLE!

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As a Maxwell Leadership certified coach, speaker, and trainer, I am a super fan of John C. Maxwell!

He is one of the world's top thinkers and his teachings are life-giving and timeless. But, I feel compelled to challenge him on one topic, especially considering the dynamic world of change and we live in today.

He has a saying that, "A Leader is one who knows the way, goes the way, and shows the way."

That is all true, however NEXT-LEVEL leaders don't just "show" the way...they a light so others may find THEIR OWN way!

The truth is, I can show you the way I have walked my path, but that doesn't mean it's the best path for you. When I shine my light bright in service of those I lead, they can see my path AND find their own aligned path, knowing that they will never be left alone in the darkness.

"Showing the way" as we traverse the shifts and disruption we face today, means embodying how to lead in with our gifts, stand in our truth, and create space for others to do the same...by their own design.

In a true moment, I recently came across the photo below of a trip I took to Smurf Park Europe when I was a teenager (hence the acid-washed jean jacket, crazy hair, and NKOTB t-shirt! 😂). This was around the time I attended my first Leadership Conference in Oberwesel, Germany, and knew that I wanted to the lives of others in a way...just wasn't sure what that looked like as an 8th grader! 😊

Yesterday, I was reminiscing about all the incredible experiences I had growing up in as a United States Air Force dependent, and out of the blue, I received a message from one of my favorite middle school teachers, Mary Micallef. She is so authentic and has such a joyous zest for life. The impression she left on me still resonates to this day...35 years later.

Her message was so kind, letting me know that she loves my posts and recognizes the impact I have on people and the possibilities that lie ahead. She asked if I thought this path was always blooming inside of me? Yes, I absolutely do!

I believe every stone on our pathway of life leads us to where we are. So yes, even 35 years ago the path was being laid for where I am now.

The same is true for you. I do an exercise with my clients that helps them to see the patterns in their story and to connect with and gain clarity around their true authentic path. It always produces "aha" moments which are so fun!

Do you have a clear aligned vision for how you want to live and lead? If not, it might be time to look back through the story of your life for clues on how to best align with your authentic calling.

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When we find ourselves tolerating things/people/situations that we know are out of with who we are or de-value us and our experience, it is up to us to make a shift.

Even when we feel stuck, it is important for us to realize that we always have CHOICE. It can sometimes feel like we don't, so when that happens, I invite you to consider a few questions that can open up beyond your current awareness.

Ask yourself:
❓ What am I tolerating in my life?
❓ What becomes possible when I STOP doing what I TOLERATE?
❓ What becomes possible when I START doing what I CELEBRATE?

We train our brain to seek more of what we want when we shift our focus to . Give it a try and see what becomes possible for you!

If you would like to shift more easily into celebration, let's talk! This is part of the work I do and I would love to help you what becomes possible for you!

I walk around talking to myself all the time! You might think that sounds crazy, but I'll share something with you...SO DO YOU! 😋

All the inner dialog in our heads is just us talking to ourselves...and crafting the story of our lives with every word.

Our inner dialog becomes the narrative we tell about ourselves, the world, and where we think we fit in it...and that shapes what we is for us.

If you are not LIVING your best story...it's time to tell a better story of who you are and a bigger story of what's possible for you.

If you'd love to explore how to live YOUR best story, DM me the word STORY and apply for a complimentary SCALE-UP Your Success session with me, my gift to you! 🎁

🎉 Celebrating my client, Brooke Myers for trusting in her greatness and cultivating the courage to shine her light so that others may shine theirs! She is the epitome of what it means to Lead Outside the Lines!

If you are looking for a creative and authentic brand & business strategist, Brooke is your person! She has helped scale some incredible ventures like Executive Council Network (ECN) and is finally bringing her genius to the rest of the world through her own company, BCreative!

Thank you Brooke, for trusting me to be a alongside you on your journey to create your own definition of success and lead the life you love by design, not by default! 🥂

Martin Luther King Jr. said, "Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase."

How often do we hold back from pursuing our 💖 heart's calling because we're unsure of the exact path to achieve it?

Clarity of , , and empowers us to lead with faith rather than fear, to take that courageous first step, and trust that each subsequent step will become clearer as we move forward.

Each step gives us more clarity, which creates more courage to take another step, creating a generative cycle, like a flywheel propelling us closer to success faster.

But, when we lack clarity about who we are, what we want, and what truly matters to us, we inadvertently impose limitations on ourselves.

✨ Let's take the limits off! With and as our guiding lights, we can step confidently into the unknown and create extraordinary outcomes!

In a world changing faster than most people feel they can keep up with, we're all looking for hacks that can help us collapse time and stay ahead of the game.

While everyone is raving about Artificial Intelligence (AI) as the ultimate hack, I'm raving about a different kind of AI - AUTHENTIC INTELLIGENCE!

Tapping into your authentic intelligence (gifts, talents, and wisdom) allows you to make aligned decisions faster, to stop wasting time and energy on things that don't truly matter to you, and to create meaningful outcomes with clarity and ease.

According to Karen Curry Parker, best-selling author and high-performance & business coach for 30+ years, "The more aligned you are with your Authentic Self, the more resilient and adaptable you become."

If you are expanding your capacity and truly growing into the person you need to BE to fulfill the greatest on your life...you are going to be UNCOMFORTABLE!

And, there is a HUGE difference between the discomfort of expansive and the struggle that comes from being out of and chasing what is not correct FOR YOU!

There is POWER in understanding the difference and being able to discern which path you are on.

If you can't tell the difference, you will continue to shrink away from your greatness and play smaller than you really are!

You will continue to chase after a definition of success that looks good on paper but leaves YOU feeling depleted, unfulfilled, and not good enough. THAT is NOT !

It's time flip the script!

❓ What is YOUR personal definition of success?
❓ Is it really YOUR definition or is it one that has been imprinted on you by others?
❓ Does your current definition feel like a beacon of light and fill your heart, or does it feel like checking the box of someone else's expectations that don't fit you?

Take some time to be still, be silent, and be honest.

Have you checked all the "right" boxes but still feel like you're meant for more? Feel like your timeline is shrinking to create the contribution you most want to make in the world? If you want to collapse time and create aligned success faster (on your terms), I can help with that! Let's connect on WhatsApp and continue the conversation!

Are you feeling the weight of ? Searching for a more holistic approach to professional AND personal ?

My recent podcast interview with Michael Esposito may be just the insight you need to shift from to !

👇 CLICK on the link in the comments below to listen! 👇

Not sure it's worth your time? Here's what Michael had to say about this episode:

"Tina's unique perspective on leadership doesn't just stem from her impressive credentials; it's rooted in a personal journey of self-discovery and transformation. From the hustle and grind that once threatened her well-being to the development of a Pause-Notice-Choose approach, Tina's narrative is an inspiring chronicle of how authenticity and courage can reshape not just a career, but an entire leadership philosophy." 💫

Kicking off Day 2 of the Master Storyteller Academy with Andy Henriquez and his amazing team!

- Believe in YOUR MESSAGE

- Believe in THE MESSENGER

- Believe that YOUR STORY can change lives...because it DOES!

Pay attention to the intersections in your life. That’s where the GOLD is!

When synchronicities happen like…

💥 you notice similar opportunities pop up over and over

💥 the same thought/object comes into your awareness in seemingly unrelated situations

💥 people from different communities you’re a part of convene in the same space

…that is an indication that something transformative is brewing! Lean in and be open to what the universe is trying to show you.

At The Great American Speak Off, I was delighted to see that 3 people I knew from very different communities were also in the semi-finals with me, and another friend was a VIP observer!

🎤 Dr. Taryn Marie Stejskal and I know each other from Marshall Goldsmith’s mentorship communities, MG100Coaches Agency and Forefront.

🎤 Sparsh Shah is a motivational speaker and musician and his dad, Hiren Shah attended a talk I did for the Project Management Institute Global Summit

🎤 Marcus Jacob Weiss and I are founding members of The Neuroencoding Institute together

💫 Nadia Rose and I met through HeartCore Business and have crossed multiple paths and grown as friends

Each of them are incredible humans and experts in their fields! Connect with them and expand your circle!

Let’s create more serendipitous intersections in our lives!