Transforming Family

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Protect that flame AT ALL COSTS... 🔥🔥🔥

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That would be awesome AND you can start now. 💞

Please be gentle with yourselves and your children...no matter their age! For those of us here...we are surviving and that is good enough! Be kind. 💜

Great article for families! Here is a snippet...
“If a parent has a child who does not tidy or clean their room, they may say to them "Tom, you lazy so and so, your bedroom's a bloody mess!" This challenges the person and not the behaviour and communicates nothing about what it is that led to the child being labeled lazy. Depending on the power relationship with the parent, the child might simply not reply but become ‘moody’ or they may reply with "And you’re just moany" if they feel able to respond and have learned the endless game of challenging the person and not the behaviour.
Sometimes they will say that they are not lazy and their messy floor is because they’ve been spending so much time revising, or are upset about a recent broken relationship or friendship. If they do discuss their behaviour and don't just reply with a personal label, they become our teachers of how to communicate effectively.
The parent could instead say "Tom, can you pick up the plates from your bedroom floor, I almost stepped on one when I was making your bed earlier?" This avoids the need for any label of condemnation but identifies the behaviour that needs to be challenged. It may be that this has been done and the child does not respond, but even if this is so, challenging the person by labeling them lazy is never going to succeed in communicating what it is that is causing the parent to become angry.”
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Challenge the behaviour and not the person - effective responses to conflict That we challenge the behaviour and not the person - an effective communication skill and an effective response to conflict.

Say what you mean without being mean...but always say what you mean.

Anyone else?? 💜

Very helpful reminders!

Be there. Listen. Check your own fear. Get support. 💜

Understanding

Let’s be anti-racist!

Self compassion 💜

Monday thoughts for everyone having a rough day or week. Design by Wild Peace for Parents 🌸

Just love em 💕

This is why your child is acting like a baby right now Nighttime waking, potty accidents and other regression can accompany new stress or anxiety.

We are resilient ❤️

YAS! Choose the kids! 💕

In a world full of hurry and electronics we MUST slow down and get outside! Find a new adventure outside this weekend. Do something dangerous and wild! Have some f-Ing FUN! 🤭

Opinion | I Had a Gloriously Wild Childhood. That’s Why I Wrote ‘How to Train Your Dragon.’ We must give children the opportunity to interact with the wilderness, so that they learn to preserve the natural world.

Spring is coming 🤗

Grow a Living Playhouse For Your Kids Let your children watch the walls grow and eat from them while they’re at it! Children love playing “house” and building forts… why not help them grow one made of plants to inspire them to spend more time in nature? It can be difficult to get kids to spend time …

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“From learning about trusting the process of childhood to learning how to be the change you wish to see in your child, each section offers an opportunity for real transformational experiences in the way your family communicates and interacts with each other.”

Thanks Bea Marshall for creating it!!

Yes Parenting Digital Pack Whether you are struggling as a parent, feeling overwhelmed and tired, want to find out more about Yes Parenting or are just curious; welcome.

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Never Tell Her: "He's Mean Because He Likes You" Violence and aggression are never signs of love or affection.

Breathe this is...

In our parenting moments, especially those which feel like a struggle, the way through is to surrender to what is.
Surrender doesn't mean we do nothing, it means we begin to accept that right now what's happening in front of us IS ALREADY happening and we need to make a choice as to whether we react or respond to it. Either way, we're doing something.
When we see our children as needing our kindness, not our wrath, we begin to find our way through interactions which once seemed daunting and impossible...and we naturally become more positive, gentle, peaceful parents.
Children learn more from us in 10 seconds of kindness than in 10 minutes of harshness.
With love,
Bridgett ❤️

Nice reminder. ❤️

Parents often complain about kids and messes...but what if the mess is the magic??

Read it slowly...

I left the house yesterday at 6:20am in a suit, made it through a couple of meetings where I sat squarely in the hot seat, battled evening traffic across town to the daycare, and finally pulled into the driveway at 6:40pm. Before the van door even opened, Little Lady asked what we were having for dinner.

When I walked in, all I could see was that the dishwasher was full of clean dishes and the trash can was overflowing. Backpacks appeared to have exploded in the entryway and shoes were trailing through the kitchen.

I’d like to think all parents have been there...in moments like these, we have a split-second choice to make: “How am I going to respond to this?” We waffle for 60 seconds, trying to decide between fury and throwing our hands up (and everything in between), and then, we respond.

In the workplace, when our leaders need to confront a team member, we train them to “approach with curiosity.” This means, don’t draw a conclusion and approach with a reaction, consequence, or solution. Instead, approach with curiosity, seeking their side of the story with an aim to listen, collect new info or context, and THEN craft an appropriate response.

This method is equally effective when leading our children.

Instead of, “How many times have I told you?”.... “Get down here!”... “Let me guess, you had plenty of time to play video games.” ... I approached with curiosity, “Hey boys, what have you been up to since you’ve been home?”

They explained that they were finished with all of their homework and that J had to sit beside his little brother to help him stay focused on his 30 Math problems. They also revealed that they had emptied the dryer and put away a load of their clothes. (Oh, snap! I hadn’t even noticed that.) I thanked them for getting it done and asked if they could knock out the dishes and trash while I put dinner in the oven. They happily complied and we went about our evening like nothing had happened.

Approach with curiosity.

I know from (lots of) personal experience - had I barged in and immediately laid into them in frustration, I would have wasted my chance to greet them kindly after not seeing them all day. It would have set an entirely different tone for the rest of our evening, and things could have spiraled downhill from there. These types of reactions weaken our connection with our kids and erode their trust that their leader will always assume the best in them.

School is A LOT of work for all kids...yet it can be darn right brutal for highly sensitive and _________ (fill in blank) kids.
Allow them to express. Show them love and compassion. It will pass. 💜

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Our boys will be the men of our future. Who are we raising? Thoughtful, kind, honest, empathic, strong, compassionate, and respectful...those are the qualities that will change the world and end male toxicity. How do we do it? Show them, model the attributes listed above. NEVER shame them.

We Believe: The Best Men Can Be | Gillette (Short Film) Bullying. Harassment. Is this the best a man can get? It's only by challenging ourselves to do more, that we can get closer to our best. To say the right thi...