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John Piper tells women that, if a man asks them for directions to the freeway, they must be sure not to be "direct and personal" or they would undermine her femininity and his masculinity.
So you have to give directions without being direct.
That type of thinking is everywhere in Christian resources. Women are told that they must respect men and honor his leadership, which means that, if they have to bring something up with him, they must do so in a way that doesn't emasculate him.
I've got a ton of examples in today's post.
Women, direct communication is of Jesus, because Jesus is TRUTH. Being passive aggressive is not of Jesus--even though that's what we're directed to do, because to speak directly supposedly is a threat to the male ego (which For Women Only tells us is the most fragile thing in the world).
Sometimes reading Christian resources on marriage makes me sad, and this is one of those days.
But ladies, we can DO BETTER! We can learn how to communicate well, in a healthy manner. That's what my DIRECT COMMUNICATION series is all about this month, and don't let false and unbiblical ideas of masculinity and femininity stop you from feeling like it's okay to speak up and voice what you feel and need.

https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2021/08/3-reasons-christian-women-feel-communicating-directly-with-husbands-is-unsubmissive/


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It's cold and getting colder! What are your best tips for protecting you and your home from the weather?

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Web-friends, I don't have to tell you that things just feel heavy and uncertain and loud - I know many of you feel it too, particularly those of you who have taken the pandemic seriously from the beginning and see mask-wearing and staying-home as acts of compassion and empathy. They have now become acts of courage too.

I want to write to you today.

Weeks ago we projected we would hit 100,000 cases per day - which is simply mind-boggling and frustrating for a disease that we have proven ways to control, stop, and prevent the spread. We hit that number yesterday - a week or two before I thought we would. The ramp up to the peak is still going - so, this next wave does not look good. Deaths have also increased by 21% and we will continue to see that number climb since deaths lag behind hospitalizations and new cases. Today feels trite to say, "Don't worry" or "buckle up" or "here's how to debunk the latest conspiracy theory" with the latest 75 data sources.

So, for today - web-peeps - I just want to sit with you in the uncertainty. There's only so much we can control and a whole lot we can't. You understand the difference between wisdom and fear. You understand wearing a mask stands for love for neighbors. Some of you are on the front lines in the ICUs of El Paso living realities that most of us will never see. Some of you are in the hospital with COVID-19 or have a family member in the hospital. Some of you are standing against the false pandemic narrative to family or friends. I know many of you are tired. I hear from you. There are a lot of you out there - even if it feels like you're the only one.

Today, I want to sit with you in the yuck of it all. What I do know for sure is this is not forever.

For today, though, call a friend who will listen, turn off the 24/7 news, go for a walk, and take deep breaths. It's ok to not be ok. It will be ok someday.


-Friendly neighbor epidemiologist

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"𝐃𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐛𝐞 𝐚𝐟𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐝 𝐨𝐟 𝐂𝐎𝐕𝐈𝐃" - Yes, we should - especially if you do not have access to 24/7 care. Let's redefine "being afraid".

Short answer: Be careful of the false narrative happening.

(Heads up - This post is still fully based on science - but is probably not in my normal friendly-neighbor voice. I'll bring that back this week when we talk about Thanksgiving. For today, I used my advocacy voice. The claims I make are still science and data - you can find those links at the end. But through the lens of the 'preferential option for the poor' and my own advocacy research work.)

Y'all, I'm at a bit of a loss for words from frustration and 'what is happening?' thoughts. This is not a political statement - this is me speaking as a scientist, an epidemiologist. I would say this about anyone in leadership. 𝑾𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒅𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒉𝒊𝒑 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒔 𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒑𝒐𝒏𝒔𝒊𝒃𝒊𝒍𝒊𝒕𝒚. Removing your mask when you are still sick, disregard for Secret Service agents/reporters (several are now sick) and WH staff (2 housekeepers are now sick) while you are contagious, not following protocols in an enclosed vehicle, and comparing COVID to the flu - is as opposite as you can get from the science we know about COVID-19.

There has been and continues to be a false narrative about COVID and that difference seems to be growing along party lines. (At the end of the post, I've re-linked to those the data on why this is not the flu, why masks are necessary, and the debunking the false narrative.)

𝐒𝐨, 𝐰𝐡𝐲 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐰𝐞 𝐛𝐞 𝐚𝐟𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐝 𝐨𝐟 𝐂𝐎𝐕𝐈𝐃? 𝐁𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐜𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐬 𝐮𝐬 𝐰𝐞 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝. 𝐋𝐞𝐭'𝐬 𝐝𝐞𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡. 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐝𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐰𝐢𝐬𝐞, 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡𝐲 𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐫 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐮𝐧𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡𝐲, 𝐝𝐞𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐫. 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐝𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐤𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐬𝐝𝐨𝐦. 𝐈𝐭'𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐰𝐡𝐲 𝐰𝐞 𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐥 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐫𝐞𝐧 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐨𝐮𝐜𝐡 𝐚 𝐡𝐨𝐭 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐯𝐞 - 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭'𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐮𝐧𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡𝐲 𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐫, 𝐢𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐬𝐝𝐨𝐦.

So, why should we be afraid with cautious wisdom? Because it is a new virus that is highly contagious, has killed more than 210k in the US (6x times MORE than the flu), has long-lasting effects in many that do not die, and disproportionally affects those most in need. In other words, not listening to science around COVID-19 has real-life repercussions. And, that burden is not equal.

𝐋𝐞𝐭 𝐦𝐞 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐲𝐨𝐮.

𝐂𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐝𝐲 𝟏: Early on in the pandemic, NYC was hit hard. But, the majority of people who were hospitalized and died were not from Manhattan (wealthier part of NYC). They were from Brooklyn and Queens. And, the deaths skewed younger among minority groups. Why? Several reasons. But, a main one was waiting too long to get care when you were sick. And, poverty affected that.

𝐂𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐝𝐲 𝟐: We are seeing "a historic decimation of Hispanic, Latino communities across the Southern part of the United States...the virus is taking away a whole generation of mothers and fathers and brothers and sisters [in those communities] - stated last week by my friend, colleague, and one of the most respected experts in infectious diseases, Dr. Peter Hotez. I'm linking to his full Congressional statement he made and would encourage you to read the full article. These communities are deeply affected by lack of testing, poverty, and many are essential workers.

𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐮𝐬? 𝐁𝐲 𝐮𝐬, 𝐈 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧 𝐦𝐲𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟.

--This means I keep my mask on when I go to the gym, church, a restaurant. I pay attention to my neighbors and essential workers.

-- It means I recognize who the vulnerable are and wear a mask for them. It means I pay attention to not infect others.

--It means to isolate if infected. And, quarantine if exposed.

--It means I walk in wisdom according to the science. (And, if you're a person of faith, we walk according to the Good Samaritan and teachings of Jesus. We have Faith Over Fear (see the link below)).

--It means we believe the science. For those in the public eye, we lead with integrity and by example. Do not believe the false narrative.

--Leadership matters.

-Friendly neighbor epidemiologist

***Here's the link for non-FB people: https://tinyurl.com/y4brbkvw

𝐒𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐜𝐞𝐬:
1. COVID's toll is not equal. https://tinyurl.com/y48mbg47

2. How the pandemic defeated America https://tinyurl.com/yxz5agl2

3. Be careful about the false narrative – 8 myths debunked include 99% recover, hospitalizations are going down, test numbers are being inflated, this took us by surprise.
https://tinyurl.com/y64klldr

4. Is COVID-19 like the flu? (2nd link explains how to read the CDC data correctly)
https://tinyurl.com/y93tekab
https://tinyurl.com/yyzqznz8

5. 99% “recover”
https://tinyurl.com/ybz5846c

6. Will herd immunity work?
https://tinyurl.com/y6qy4xay
https://tinyurl.com/yyu3u6gq
https://tinyurl.com/y2xbbh52
https://tinyurl.com/yypydyt2

7. COVID-19 is not the flu, cases are not inflated.
https://tinyurl.com/yyutx479

8. Did the CDC say 6% of deaths were from COVID? Is it true that all deaths are counted as COVID-19? - https://tinyurl.com/yxblsl3k

9. Masks work: The strongest evidence we have
https://tinyurl.com/yxkymuof
https://tinyurl.com/y2ux4owk

10. Mask 101: Why they work, exposure time, how to wear and disinfect your mask correctly
https://tinyurl.com/yxvayp76
https://tinyurl.com/y6zxl2u3

11. Myth-busters for mask: A LONG post debunking common myths about masks (masks work realy well, clearing up what the surgeon general/WHO said, CO2 fears) https://tinyurl.com/y642sefb

12. Why state-wide mask mandates work! - https://tinyurl.com/yxu6gl4r

13. A reminder of when someone is contagious and the importance of masks (and a note on bipartisan science) -
https://tinyurl.com/y4rfjmc5

14. Voting safety during COVID-19 -
https://tinyurl.com/y29fm3g5
https://tinyurl.com/y64vks4b

15. Faith over fear - https://tinyurl.com/yxsaatcf

16. Healthcare expenditures in the US:
https://www.commonwealthfund.org/publications/issue-briefs/2020/jan/us-health-care-global-perspective-2019

https://www.forbes.com/sites/niallmccarthy/2019/08/08/how-us-healthcare-spending-per-capita-compares-with-other-countries-infographic/

17. Dr. Peter Hotez:
https://www.nbcnews.com/news/latino/coronavirus-causing-historic-decimation-latinos-medical-expert-says-n1241576

Believe. You are worthy of a good life.

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Dear friends,

We are very happy to announce that this year as of July 6, we have been married for 45 years!

The time truly does fly by and we have been truly blessed throughout these years!
To celebrate so many years of sticking by each other and working with each other, we wanted to share our favorite 45 quotes and poems on 45 consecutives weeks to help lift others' spirits as they have lifted ours. Many will come from books we have written, and some quotes are from other people...quotes that have had special meaning for us. We hope they touch your hearts as they have touched ours!

1. "Success is determined not by whether or not you face obstacles, but by your reaction to them.
And if you look at these obstacles as a containing fence, they become your excuse for failure. If you
look at them as a hurdle, each one strengthens you for the next." (GH)

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Is your family changing ? Are you confused? Think about it.

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