InnerAlly

It's hard to describe how delightful I feel right now. I'm on the porch of my favorite coffee house and the weather is perfect and my mint tea is ice cold and the wifi is blazing.

I've been sick a lot this year, and it's been hard (I can see it in my face). But I feel good today and I'm getting back to writing the guide book that goes with the InnerAllies and the InnerAlly Assessment.

Good stuff. Wishing you a delightful day.

The world consistently throws challenges our way. Are you making it better or worse with the inner stories you tell yourself?

The inner voice plays a role in anxiety. Learning to work with a critical or harsh inner voice can begin to soothe the body and move it out of fight-or-flight. Obviously anxiety is complex and can be precipitated by many things, including brain chemistry, but what might happen if you treated your unhelpful thoughts like they were fake news?

Hooray! I'm excited to announce I've been selected to speak at the NAADAC, The Association for Addiction Professionals in October!

Did you know that meditation is not 100% good for everyone? I'll be talking about my experience with guiding people in recovery through mindfulness practices, and how to modify practices to meet the needs of folks who have experienced life challenges.

If you have ever struggled with meditation, some of these tips and tricks might work for you as well!

I'm glad we are at a time where people are taking leave to do some mental wellness activities (or lack of activity). But at the same time, it feels like mental health is tenuous all around right now.

If you are struggling, and a critical inner voice is holding you back in life, I want to help. I'm thinking about offering a weekly group where the cost is much lower than private coaching.

Let me know if you'd be interested. I haven't set a price, I'm just gauging interest. DM me or email me [email protected]

Thanks to The Skimm for this graphic.

Do you know how to create an InnerAlly? 🤔

An InnerAlly is a kind & supportive inner voice, easy right? Not so fast! There's several ways you can get tripped up.

Most of the barriers to a InnerAlly are formed in early childhood, are a result of challenging events, or difficult relationships (or even cultural conditioning).

The cards I'm holding are just a sample of the 16 InnerAllies I created based on people's core emotional needs (aka universal needs for humans).

How do you know which InnerAllies can help you? 🤔

Well that's what I'm working on now! The second version of the InnerAlly Assessment will help you to explore the places where you would benefit from a little more inner support.

I'm writing the text that will accompany the assessment and be part of the book that comes with the InnerAlly Cards!

Why would you want do InnerAlly Coaching with me? If you are hard on yourself, if you feel like you need to be perfect, if you procrastinate, if you use coping to escape, these are just a few signs that my work can help you. I use my own work nearly every day with myself! I'm an expert for a reason. 😉

I was gifted an amazing place to work today. I'm diving in on the InnerAlly book that will go with the cards the assessment. It's work that's overdue and I'm delighted to have a long weekend to make it happen. This place is rad, a cool clubhouse with a private office, and a saltwater pool! Thank you Rachel Bulkley

Thank you for all the well wishes, my talk went SO well! There were people buying my InnerAlly cards right in the middle of my session and I was not even allowed to advertise products. They were just looking me up because they loved my work! How cool is that?

It was so heartening for me to get this amazing positive feedback. Several people approached me after my session to say how much they benefited from it. I'm feeling so wholehearted.

I'm excited to be presenting my work to a packed room of behavioral health professionals!! InnerAlly is the process I developed to help people practice compassion through their inner thoughts.

This will be the first time I share my work with other professionals who are out in the world improving mental health on a daily basis! May my work be amplified and reach people suffering with a harsh and critical (or even bullying) inner voice.

Wish me luck!

InnerAlly is all about helping you create a soothing and supportive inner voice so you can thrive in life. It turns out that some folks have a really critical and even cruel innervoice. One of these groups of people are Glass Children. If you want to learn more about them, check out the amazing article about my friend Alicia!

Do you have a loud and unhelpful inner voice? Listen to my story!

Cynthia Phelps, PHD, Founder of Inner Ally with Jean Kropper In January 2024, I was delighted to talk to Cynthia Phelps, PHD of Inner Ally. She spoke to us from Ashville, North Carolina in the eastern USA. She works w...

Are you feeling unsettled about the state of the world? Well I have a zero cost, low investment event that will delight you! My dear friend Christine Gautreaux and her organization Interplay are organizing 11 evenings of dancing for peace. Tonight I will be speaking about inner peace and how to use your inner voice to facilitate your path to peace. I'd love for you to be there! Register here: https://danceonbehalfofpeace.org

02/27 DAY 9 of 11 days of Peace!
Dances On Behalf Of Peace WELCOMES
Cynthia Phelps and InnerAlly

Are you feeling the heaviness of our times? Do you feel helpless to make a difference? I've been feeling the same way, so when my colleague told me about ☮️ Dances on Behalf of Peace, ☮️ I was intrigued. This event is a collaboration of arts and peace-loving organizations dancing together to promote connection and healing - from individual to individual and community to community.

I am honored to be speaking (and dancing) on Tuesday the 24th of February at 8pm Eastern/5pm Pacific. This is an online participatory event to promote peace, and of course I'll be focused on 𝗜𝗡𝗡𝗘𝗥 𝗣𝗘𝗔𝗖𝗘 🕊️ and how tending to our inner lives lays the groundwork for us to be able to make an impact on the outside world. 🌎

This is a 𝗙𝗥𝗘𝗘 event, but you must register here: https://danceonbehalfofpeace.org/

Did you know that I'm in the process of automating the InnerAlly Questionnaire? 🎉

What is it, you ask? It's way for you to understand how to best support yourself. Having an inner supportive voice can help you:

1) Make helpful behavior changes and make them stick
2) Have the perseverance to hit your long-term goals
3) Create more happiness and satisfaction in your life, and
4) Improve how you show up in relationships.

Good stuff!

STARTS JANUARY 11, 2024!

Don't miss the opportunity to have a gentle support system for the changes you want to make in 2024. Don't go it alone! We know that people who have community support are better able to make the changes they desire in life.

The Gentle Path to Change
January 11 – March 28, 2024,
Thursdays 7:30-9:30pm EST, 4:30-6:30pm PST

What if you didn't change a thing?

If you have high hopes for 2024, but you don't have a plan for how to change your habits, then you have nothing but a dream.

If you want to turn those dreams into actionable goals and strat living the life you really want, then come on the journey with us through the Gentle Path to Change.

The Gentle Path to Change
January 11 – March 28, 2024,
Thursdays 7:30-9:30pm EST, 4:30-6:30pm PST
https://cynthiaphelps.com/release-the-habit/

The Gentle Path to Change is your ANSWER to broken New Year Resolutions. JANUARY 11, 2024

Change is hard, I'm not gonna lie. So why not get yourself some support?

I've created a thorough, methodical, research-based training that uses the power of mindfulness and compassion to help you change in a gentle and sustainable way.

You get to experience all the value from my Stanford Compassion Training program combined with my expertise in the science of behavior change, and my hard-won personal experience.

I've made some massive changes in my life (such as quitting drinking 11 years ago) so I know what it takes to help you through really difficult change.

Don't go it alone!

The Gentle Path to Change
January 11 – March 28, 2024,
Thursdays 7:30-9:30pm EST, 4:30-6:30pm PST

In the Gentle Path to Change 3-month training, we will be learning how to detach shame from failure in order to increase our resilience and the odds that we can permanently change our behavior.

The Gentle Path to Change
January 11 – March 28, 2024,
Thursdays 7:30-9:30pm EST, 4:30-6:30pm PST
https://cynthiaphelps.com/release-the-habit/

Six Stories in Six Days to reveal some of the profound and lasting changes I've made in my life.
https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL1_jXr323nnbj_m814TF7a3ZwcZ8JbUd9&si=uGdETMp4uI0dUffS

Benefit from my hard-won experience!
If you want to make a change for 2024, now is the time.

The Gentle Path to Change
January 11 – March 28, 2024,
Thursdays 7:30-9:30pm EST, 4:30-6:30pm PST
https://cynthiaphelps.com/release-the-habit/

While knowledge is a critical component to help you to plan and understand, by itself it is insufficient to create lasting behavioral changes.

Do you know what else is needed?

If you are looking to change YOUR behavior, Join us!
The Gentle Path to Change
January 11 – March 28, 2024,
Thursdays 7:30-9:30pm EST, 4:30-6:30pm PST

Six Stories in Six Days - Story Four
Have you ever had an "aha moment" change your life trajectory? I have!

Watch it now!
https://youtu.be/Bs_Q9ImkEGk

If you are finding these stories compelling and you are ready to make a big change for 2024, join us!
The Gentle Path to Change
January 11 – March 28, 2024,
Thursdays 7:30-9:30pm EST, 4:30-6:30pm PST
https://cynthiaphelps.com/release-the-habit/

Story Two of Six Stories in Six Days
https://youtu.be/Ku2dlskMyvo

Listen to my personal story about how I was not able to think myself into the change I wanted.

The Gentle Path to Change
January 11 – March 28, 2024,
Thursdays 7:30-9:30pm EST, 4:30-6:30pm PST

Real, long-lasting, positive change is the focus of the Gentle Path to Change training I'm offering starting JANUARY 11th, 2024.

In between you, (as you are now,) and future you (the state of you that you desire) is a gap. In order to change and grow into the person you desire, you have to navigate the gap.

One of the ways to do this is to fundamentally understand how to best motivate yourself.

In the January training we will be using the InnerAlly process to determine our individual profiles, aka who is on our InnerAlly team. This will provide a customized roadmap to guide how you need to motivate yourself for success.

This is a key component of change because it gets right down to the parts of you that need to be supported or even nurtured in order for you to thrive.

Part of the secret to success is being able to be in "right" relationship with ourselves, and to be our own best cheerleaders, especially during times of challenge.

Let's make that change you've been putting off! Sign up for the InnerAlly training - The Gentle Path to Recovery.

The Gentle Path to Change
January 11 – March 28, 2024,
Thursdays 7:30-9:30pm EST, 4:30-6:30pm PST
https://cynthiaphelps.com/release-the-habit/

It's Story Time!!! - How I realized I really needed to change.

Six Stories in Six Days

Come along for six stories about creating change. Learn a little more about who I am, what I do, and the "Gentle Path to Change" training that starts January 11, 2024.

Get the change YOU want for 2024.

Story One: How I realized I really needed to change.
https://youtu.be/O6UJtbszxXU

The Gentle Path to Change:
https://cynthiaphelps.com/release-the-habit/

It's one thing to make a New Year Resolution, but it's an entirely different set of skills to be able to make your resolution come to fruition.

A critical step is to set up the habits that support your resolution (or change, or goal, or dream).

Basically our whole lives can be broken down into sets of habits, from the time we wake up in the morning until we put our head on the pillow at night. We are largely just sets of habits.

Although that may sound boring, restricting, or not very fun, we can use these tiny habits to be able to craft the life we want for ourselves.

Come with me on this journey as we create gentle change for 2024.

The Gentle Path to Change
January 11 – March 28, 2024,
Thursdays 7:30-9:30pm EST, 4:30-6:30pm PST
https://cynthiaphelps.com/release-the-habit/

Thank you Shannon Ivy for the opportunity to speak about "The Gentle Path to Change."

"Y'all, my friend Cynthia Phelps is one smart, kind cookie, as they say. She blends her life's work and training from STANFORD to bring us regular folks the most amazing tools.

Her particular lane? Inner Compassion AND how to use simple tools in self compassion to make breaking habits and creating new ones so much more pleasant and HUMANE. This was such a joy to record, and I know you'll get a lot out of it."

The Gentle Path to Change training for 2024 is filling up!
If you want in, shoot me an email [email protected] or check out the description of the course online:

The Gentle Path to Change
January 11 – March 28, 2024,
Thursdays 7:30-9:30pm EST, 4:30-6:30pm PST
https://cynthiaphelps.com/release-the-habit/

I had the honor of being on the Agents of Transformation Podcast!

Melody LeBaron and I chat about how we have had moments of revelation in our own behavior change journeys. Watch or listen on her YouTube channel here: https://youtu.be/xq8wGdR4RiI?si=Sb_ZV96xVpSWpSyn

If you want to change your own behavior for 2024, join Melody and I to take this journey with us!

The Gentle Path to Change
January 11 – March 28, 2024,
Thursdays 7:30-9:30pm EST, 4:30-6:30pm PST
https://cynthiaphelps.com/release-the-habit/