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Narcissists can wreak havoc on their victims’ lives, employing a range of manipulative and abusive tactics. They often use charm and charisma to initially lure their targets, making them feel special and valued. However, this honeymoon phase is short-lived. Once the narcissist feels secure in their control, they begin to employ more insidious methods to dominate and undermine their victim.
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Gaslighting is one of their favorite tools. By distorting reality, they make their victims question their own perceptions and sanity. For example, a narcissist might deny having said something hurtful, even if there is clear evidence. Over time, this constant denial and manipulation erode the victim’s confidence in their own memory and judgment. This mental and emotional abuse leaves the victim feeling isolated and dependent on the narcissist for their sense of reality.
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Narcissists also employ a tactic known as triangulation, where they create divisions and rivalries between their victims and others. They might pit friends against each other or create jealousy by flaunting new relationships. This not only feeds the narcissist’s need for attention and control but also further isolates their victim from potential sources of support. The result is a cycle of abuse where the victim feels increasingly trapped and powerless.
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In the workplace, narcissists might undermine colleagues by taking credit for their work or spreading rumors to damage their reputation. They are skilled at presenting a polished, competent image to superiors while subtly sabotaging those around them. This can leave victims feeling frustrated and demoralized, often doubting their own abilities and questioning why they are struggling while the narcissist appears to thrive.
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Ultimately, the goal of a narcissist is to maintain power and control over their victims.
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Emotionally abusive individuals often use various tactics to isolate their victims. Here are some common methods:

1. **Criticizing Your Friends and Family:** They may frequently criticize or belittle your loved ones, making you feel like it’s not worth maintaining those relationships.

2. **Controlling Communication:** They may monitor or restrict your phone, email, or social media use to limit your contact with others.

3. **Creating Dependency:** They might foster a sense of dependency by making you feel incapable of managing without them, thereby discouraging you from seeking support elsewhere.

4. **Guilt Tripping:** They often use guilt to make you feel responsible for their happiness, discouraging you from spending time with others.

5. **Undermining Relationships:** They can spread lies or rumors to cause friction between you and your friends or family.

6. **Intense Jealousy:** They might exhibit extreme jealousy and accuse you of infidelity or betrayal if you spend time with others, leading you to avoid such interactions to keep the peace.

7. **Physical Isolation:** They could physically move you away from your support network, perhaps by encouraging a move to a new location where you don’t know anyone.

8. **Emotional Manipulation:** They use emotional manipulation to make you doubt your perceptions and trust in others, fostering isolation.

9. **Demanding All Your Time:** They might insist that you spend all your time with them, making it difficult to maintain other relationships.

10. **Sabotaging Social Plans:** They can create conflicts or emergencies to prevent you from going out or attending social events.

Understanding these tactics is the first step it realising and addressing emotional abuse and seeking support.

✨ Narcissist Deflection 101 ✨

Ever noticed how some people always turn the conversation back to themselves or avoid taking responsibility? That’s classic narcissistic deflection.

They dodge accountability and shift the focus to make themselves look better or to manipulate the situation. Recognize the signs, set healthy boundaries, and protect your peace. 💪

Narcissists are often characterised by certain behavioral patterns and tendencies that revolve around their need for admiration and a lack of empathy for others.

1. **Fantasies**:
- Narcissists often have grandiose fantasies about themselves.

They may imagine they are more successful, powerful, attractive, or intelligent than they actually are.

These fantasies serve to bolster their fragile self-esteem and provide a sense of superiority.

2. **Secrets**:
- Maintaining an air of mystery and keeping secrets can be a strategy to control and manipulate others.

Secrets allow narcissists to present a curated version of themselves to the world, hiding any flaws or vulnerabilities.

3. **Lies**:
- Narcissists frequently lie to maintain their self-image and to manipulate others.

These lies can range from small embellishments to outright fabrications about their achievements, abilities, or experiences.

- **Need for Admiration**:
Narcissists have an insatiable need for admiration and validation from others. This need drives many of their behaviors and interactions.

- **Lack of Empathy**:
A hallmark of narcissism is a lack of genuine empathy.

Narcissists often struggle to understand or care about the feelings and needs of others.

- **Manipulative Tendencies**:
To get what they want, narcissists often manipulate those around them, using lies, charm, or intimidation as tools.

- **Fragile Self-Esteem**:
Despite their outward confidence, narcissists often have very fragile self-esteem. This is why they rely heavily on fantasies, secrets, and lies to maintain their self-image.

If you’re dealing with a narcissist, it’s essential to set clear boundaries and protect your emotional well-being.

Understanding these patterns can help you navigate interactions with them more effectively and recognise when you need to distance yourself from their influence.

How do you drive a narcissist crazy and flip the script?​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​If you wanna drive a narcissist crazy, you have to be one of these 9 types of people:

1. A person who has firm boundaries.

2. Someone who has no fear of the narcissist.

3. Not impressed with the narcissist.

4. Shuns the narcissist (Make the narcissist feel irrelevant)

5. Successful (Has something that the narcissist can’t or doesn’t have)

6. Free-Spirited.

7. Genuinely happy people.

8. Talkative people.

9. Someone who is Authentic

Narcissists main agenda is to make other narcissists suffer. Relationships and marriages between two narcissists are unhealthy and highly toxic.

The purpose of this page is to facilitate self-awareness, growth, and healing through mental health tips and tools.

Breakups are undeniably difficult and can be accompanied by a wide range of emotions, including sadness, anger, and confusion. ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​However, it's essential to recognize the broader picture when it comes to relationships, particularly those where respect and appreciation are lacking.

1. **Self-Worth and Dignity**: Being with someone who doesn't respect or appreciate you can erode your self-esteem and sense of self-worth. Ending such a relationship is a crucial step in reclaiming your dignity. It allows you to rediscover your value and understand that you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.

2. **Emotional and Mental Health**: Relationships lacking in respect often lead to emotional and psychological strain. Constantly feeling undervalued or disrespected can contribute to stress, anxiety, and depression. By leaving such a relationship, you prioritize your mental health, opening the door to healing and personal growth.

3. **Opportunities for Growth**: Breakups provide a chance for introspection and self-improvement. They can be a catalyst for personal development, encouraging you to explore new interests, set new goals, and strengthen your independence. This growth can help you become a stronger, more resilient individual.

4. **Space for Healthy Relationships**: Letting go of a relationship where you weren't respected or appreciated creates space for healthier connections. It allows you to meet people who truly value you and can offer mutual respect and support. Such relationships are more fulfilling and contribute positively to your well-being.

5. **Learning Experience**: Every relationship, even the challenging ones, teaches us valuable lessons.

A narcissist may play the victim to others' boundaries because it allows them to maintain control and manipulate the situation to their advantage. ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​When someone sets a boundary, it challenges the narcissist's sense of entitlement and superiority.

By playing the victim, they can evoke sympathy and guilt in others, making it more likely that the boundaries will be relaxed or dismissed.

This tactic helps them avoid accountability and continue their behavior without having to change.

It's a way to turn the focus back onto themselves and away from the boundaries being set.

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5 signs your dealing with a narcissist..​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​ They tell you they could care less what happens to you after them.

They say your too sensitive or crazy when you want to talk about the abuse.

They invalidate any abuse that ever happened (gaslighting)

They tell people what a good person they are to family and friends and call you ungrateful and misbehaving when you stop tolerating their abuse

They love bomb you in public and discard you in private .

Do not ever think that because they are family , friends , husbands or wives that you have to tolerate any abuse . They know exactly what they are doing ..saving their own reputation.

Now go and save your relationship with yourself 💜 Watch your life change for the better ..

It wouldn’t mean anything, if it wasn’t a choice.​​​​​​​​​The gift of feeling others feelings, of knowing their pains and insecurities.... ​​​​​​​​​
it’s tempting to the dark sides, the shadowy parts of us all which can get hijacked by fear, pain, our own limitations... our egos.

But the choice we have, that’s the true gift.

Because being an empath was something which you were born to be, but choosing to be good is a choice. When it’s easier to manipulate, lie, cheat and feel vindicated for it, choosing to work in the light is what separates light empaths from dark ones.

When you untie your ego from your soul speak, you sit in a higher vibration.

So when I do readings, and I see the people who’ve hurt you, who’ve abused, mistreated and used you... what I see in them is someone who got lost along the way, who chose the easier route in this 3D reality, who feels they need to step on others to get ahead.

But the payment for that is a steep one, it’s an existence separate from the soul, and what a lonely and sad place that is to be.

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I absolutely do!​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​This has always my experience witj these narcs.

They would start to slowly ignore me when I started to speak up.

Or when they had better narc supply at the time.

They knew I would always ending up calling them first.

Now that I'm heavily educated on narcissists, when hell starts serving icewater, then they'll get that call from me.

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Narcissists often observe their “supply” with a keen eye, seeing people primarily as sources of validation and admiration.

These relationships tend to be quite transactional, with the narcissist giving attention or affection in exchange for the admiration they crave.

While it may sound intense, think of it like a quirky barter system where everyone knows their role in the drama.

Just remember, in the narcissist’s world, the spotlight is always firmly fixed on them!

You can't live a peaceful life with your narcissistic husband. Narcissism and peace go in opposite directions. ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​It's impossible to make peace with narcissists because they can't live without using and abusing you.

Narcissists enjoy being in control, power, and authority.

They love it when they see you suffering. No matter how much you try your best to keep narcissists happy, even after becoming obedient admirers of narcissists, they will still find ways to create chaos and drama in your life, directly or indirectly.

Your love for narcissists will be taken as your weakness by narcissists; you have to think practically and logically, not emotionally.

If you want peace, then you have to leave your narcissistic husband.

Narcissists are emotionally like kids; you can't live peacefully with them.

Look for a good lawyer. If you have kids together, then coparenting should be done with the help of the law.

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Forced forgiveness implies that for you to actually be able to heal, you must forgive your abuser. ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​Being abused by a narcissist completely ruptures our boundaries and it’s normal to feel angry and a sense of loss all at the same time.

Forgiving the narcissist if we don’t want to is bypassing our own emotions to please others and fall in line with societal pressure.

Forgiveness is a totally personal journey and no one should ever be forced into having to forgive an abuser to feel like that’s the final stage of their healing.

Forgiveness is actually nothing to do with the narcissist and everything to do with you!

Forgiveness is forgiving your younger self for not knowing and acting in a way you now would. You didn’t know then, what you know now.
What you didn’t know, was not your fault.

Who taught you what love is?

Who taught you what a healthy relationship looked like? And the best one.

Who taught you about narcissistic abuse and what signs to look for?! No one!!!

What would you say with kindness and compassion to your younger self to support your self-forgiveness journey?

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If you're ready to cut all contact, here's what to expect:​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​1. Initially, you might feel like you've lost something vital, hoping they'll reach out and rekindle what you thought was a relationship. But here's the reality: there wasn't a real relationship in the sense you imagined.

2. Soon enough, the trauma bond will break—like an egg cracking in a hot pan. No matter how long you were in it, it will eventually shatter.

3. After the bond breaks, you'll still have some "what just happened?" moments, but they'll be in the background and manageable. The real question is: who are you now? What does the new you look like? You now understand more about people and the world, so how will you show up?

This is about you, not them. Forget about narcissists, "hoovering," or "the one that got away." Those concepts are empty.

The relationship you thought you had was nothing but false hope.

Focus on your future, and don't look back.

The real journey begins with no contact, leading to a true connection—with yourself. Go forward with confidence.

Narcissists get their ego fuel from three types of sources: Grade A, Grade B, and Grade C. Here's what those mean:​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​ # # # Grade A Narcissistic Supply
Grade A, or primary supply, is the main source of a narcissist's validation. This usually comes from someone super close, like a partner, family member, or close friend. The narcissist showers this person with attention and praise but can also devalue them when it suits them. Primary suppliers are often people with strong ties to the narcissist or those with similar traits like narcissism or borderline personality disorder.

# # # Grade B Narcissistic Supply
Grade B, or secondary supply, is all about broader circles. This includes friends, coworkers, social media followers, or casual relationships. While not as close as the primary supply, these people still boost the narcissist's ego with praise and validation. Most spouses of narcissists fit into this category.

# # # Grade C Narcissistic Supply
Grade C is the most impersonal and shallow form of validation. This can be attention from strangers, likes on social media, or material possessions. It's quick and easy to get, but it's also fleeting and doesn't require much personal connection. This leaves the narcissist feeling empty, so they constantly need more.

Overall, narcissists use these sources to keep their egos high, but none of them offer genuine human connection. It’s all about maintaining that inflated sense of self-worth.

There’s a reason these apologies don’t feel great when you hear them. They lack remorse, understanding, ownership, or a sincere effort to repair. ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​A good apology needs to acknowledge the offense directly and the pain that was caused.

EXAMPLES:
• “I am sorry I said ____ to you. I can see why that hurt you so much. I don’t want you to feel that way.”
• “I should not have done _____. I didn’t handle that well; I am sorry. Next time I will try _____.”
• “I know I really hurt you. I’m sorry. I want to make sure you know I am here to talk through it as much as you need until you feel better.”
• “I made you feel _____ when I said ____; did I get that right? I want to make sure I understand how I hurt you so I don’t do it again. I am sorry.”

What’s the worst apology you’ve received?
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Narcissists often exploit vulnerabilities to maintain control or exert power over others. ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​By reopening old wounds, they can manipulate emotions, maintain superiority, or keep their victims off balance.

It’s a tactic used to reinforce their dominance and feed their ego.

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It is extremely important to align your strategy and case with the judge’s mindset and the law. 👨‍⚖️
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Naturally, you want to tell the judge everything the abuser has done with the expectation that the abuser will be punished. You seek the necessary protection for your child and hope that the judge will intervene and address the abusive behavior.
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Unfortunately, using this approach, you walk right into the trap.
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You are viewed as an angry, bitter ex who is trying to prevent or stop contact, rather than a protective mother seeking her child’s safety.
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Always keep in mind that the narcissist’s ultimate goal is to control you. That fuels their fragile little egos. They will make an ongoing effort to undermine your confidence and your parenting choices.
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Don’t let them.
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Accept them for who they are and then prepare yourself to cope with them. This includes being able maintain your boundaries, having court orders set in place to offer structure, staying out of conflict and keeping the children out of it.
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Presenting your case in court takes careful planning and strategic ex*****on.
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We recommend seeking reputable legal advice.

A NARCISSIST TRAINS YOU TO TRUST NO ONE​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​They do this by…

Lying

Manipulation

Gaslighting

Emotional Abuse

Verbal Abuse

Love Bombing in the cycle of abuse followed by

Devaluation

Projection

Deception

Threats

Intimidation

Bullying

Isolating you from your friends and family

This ongoing abuse creates

Fear

Insecurity

No sense of self

You don’t trust yourself

You blame yourself for everything

You live in shame

You trust no one….

THIS IS ABUSE

YOU CAN HEAL FROM NARCISSISTIC ABUSE

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Why do people with codependency, people pleasing and empathy end up in narcissistic relationships? ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​Lack of boundaries and unlimited tolerance.

This is a narcissists dream; an environment where they are superior and in control, where they can manipulate, gaslight and abuse with ease, never being held accountable or having to face consequences.

Why Narcissists Keep Their Partners Away from the Opposite Sex​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​Narcissists often want control over their environment and those in it.

They might keep their partner from interacting with the opposite s*x because they fear losing control, feel insecure, or get jealous easily.

They also tend to project their own behaviors, imagining their partner could flirt or seek attention elsewhere.

Additionally, narcissists might be possessive, viewing their partner as an extension of themselves rather than an independent person.

They often do this to maintain their idealised image of the relationship.

Ultimately, it comes down to control and avoiding perceived threats.

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If you see a side of someone that others don’t, here’s what you can do:

1. **Trust Your Gut**: If something feels off, it’s okay to trust yourself.

2. **Set Boundaries**: Create distance if their behavior affects you negatively.

3. **Seek Support**: Talk to friends, family, or a counselor for advice.

4. **Stay Grounded**: Focus on positive activities and people who lift you up.

5. **Consider the Context**: Understand their behavior but protect yourself.

6. **Choose Your Response**: Decide whether to distance yourself, talk it out, or get help.

It’s okay to prioritize your well-being and make choices that keep you safe and happy.

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Gen Z, let's talk accountability. Blame-shifting won't solve anything. ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​It's time to own up to our actions, learn, and grow.

In a world where blame-shifting often feels like the easy way out, especially for us in Gen Z,

it's crucial to recognize the power of accountability. Instead of pointing fingers, let's embrace the responsibility for our actions, whether it's in our personal lives, education, or work.

By taking ownership, we pave the way for genuine growth and meaningful change.

Let's lead by example and create a culture where accountability is valued and celebrated.

Together, we can make a difference.

Let's build a culture of responsibility and progress.

In shadows deep where trust may lie,​​​​​​​​​Beneath the moon, 'neath starlit sky,​​​​​​​​​Whispers weave a tangled tale,
Of truth obscured, of masks unveiled.

For in the heart of those we hold,
Lurks secrets, stories, yet untold,
A careful dance of give and take,
A bond that's forged, yet may forsake.

Be wary then, of promises sweet,
For lips may lie, with deceit replete,
In the labyrinth of friendship's guise,
Choose wisely where your trust relies.

For in the end, when shadows fade,
True colors show, debts are paid,
Be cautious, cautious, evermore,
In who you trust, in whom you adore.

No one cares that he’s not nice. In fact, most people in this believe you deserve the treatment that you’ve been subject to.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​What they DO tend to care about is disparaging language, particularly if they are disparaging you to/in front of the kids.

This is how you call him a verbal abuser, without using that word.

They disparage me in front of the kids, instilling fear and discomfort in all of us. They disparage me during pick-up/drop-off to intimidate me.
They disparage me to my colleagues, limiting my professional opportunities.

Change your language. Slow & steady wins the race!

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Are you struggling with an abusive and controlling ex?​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​One would think that those with significant legal expertise would be able to quickly recognise deception, or at the very least know how to ensure that a person is thoroughly investigated to guarantee that they are telling the truth.

However, the narcissist receives a hall pass from the court to do as they please after they pull the parental alienation card.

The abuser can sabotage the communication arrangements, bring you back to court on numerous occasions for petty issues, urge the judge to issue arbitrary orders, and then in a bitter twist, continue to alienate the child from the victim.

Courts must acknowledge this behavior and use better judgement.

They can do this by educating judges on NPD so that they can issue orders that will end the child’s suffering, help the child heal from trauma, and prevent the child from becoming an abuser.

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Spot the red flags! 🚩 ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​Beware of these sneaky tactics used by narcissists to control and manipulate:

Gaslighting, isolation, love-bombing, projection, and more.

Know your worth and don't fall for their mind games.

❥ Remember, Not all narcissists are the same.

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They hate you because they can’t be you. They hate you’re young if they are old. They hate you are rich if they are poor. They hate you have real emotions, they feel empty inside. They hate you are intelligent, they are dumb. They hate you are attractive, you are not.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​They hate you because they want to be you yet can’t be you.

They hate you, they hate themselves for wanting to be you.

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When addressing someone about their toxic behavior, it's crucial to approach the conversation with empathy and clarity. ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​Here's a step-by-step guide:

Choose the Right Time and Place: Find a private and comfortable setting where both of you can talk without distractions or interruptions.

Be Specific: Instead of making generalizations, focus on specific behaviors that you find toxic.

Provide concrete examples to illustrate your points.

Use "I" Statements: Express how their behavior makes you feel using "I" statements. For example, "I feel hurt when you make sarcastic remarks about my work."Set Boundaries: Clearly communicate what behaviors are unacceptable to you and what the consequences will be if those boundaries are crossed.

For instance, "I need you to stop yelling at me during arguments. If it continues, I will need to take a break from our conversations."Listen Actively: Allow the person to respond without interrupting.

Listen to their perspective and try to understand their point of view, even if you don't agree with it.Offer Support:

Let them know that you are willing to support them in making positive changes, but also be firm about your boundaries.

Follow Through: If the toxic behavior continues despite your conversation, be prepared to enforce the boundaries you've set.

This may involve distancing yourself from the person or seeking outside support.

Remember, addressing toxic behavior can be challenging, but it's essential for maintaining healthy relationships.