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Jessica Valenti on Twitter “I'm in the today on the racist misogynist attack in Georgia & how it's impossible to treat these crimes as aberrations when the values that drive them are so clearly normalized. https://t.co/LxrykhCscJ”

In the modern world, the workload has to be based on available time for partners. Stop thinking gender for job assignments. Change the paradigm.

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What About the Men – Dr. Beth and Dr. Allison Other Voices / Our Take, Posts from Dr BethWhat About the MenPosted on March 8, 2021 This article has wonderful takeaways. The new dreams of being significant decision makers that young girls can cherish. The importance of balance in the legislature. The participation of women who have a less combat...

Author Terry Ward is right on spotting the use of “simp” as a specific piece of a bullying patriarchal culture. The author is also correct that boys are being whipsawed by the emergence of a new humanistic culture.

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Misandry the Destruction of Boys and Men – Dr. Beth and Dr. Allison Other Voices / Our Take, Posts from Dr Allison, Posts from Dr BethMisandry the Destruction of Boys and MenPosted on February 25, 2021 Author Terry Ward is right on spotting the use of “simp” as a specific piece of a bullying patriarchal culture. The author is also correct that boys are being whi...

Japan is literally dying from sexism and the symbolic crushing of women’s voice is just a poignant metaphor. Women have simply stopped reproducing because there is no point to it in a society with no voice for women.

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Japan – The national commitment to crushing women’s voice – Dr. Beth and Dr. Allison Other Voices / Our Take, Posts from Dr BethJapan – The national commitment to crushing women’s voicePosted on February 23, 2021 Japan is literally dying from sexism and the symbolic crushing of women’s voice is just a poignant metaphor. Women have simply stopped reproducing because there is no...

Author Tembe Denton Hurst nails it when she points out that the second wave feminists were white alpha, mostly privileged women fighting for equal access to high paid decision making positions in the enterprises that run our society. They had been closed out of those jobs by their literal brothers who used the endless tropes of the put down patriarchy to isolate them from power. White women continued to discriminate, along all of the intersections, putting down women of color, LGBTQ+ women, older women, disabled women, working class women, and non-Christian women.

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Dr. Beth and Dr. Allison Other Voices / Our Take, Posts from Dr BethPosted on February 23, 2021 Author Tembe Denton Hurst nails it when she points out that the second wave feminists were white alpha, mostly privileged women fighting for equal access to high paid decision making positions in the enterprises that run our soci...

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Perspective | Who won’t shut up in meetings? Men say it’s women. It’s not. “Manologues,” “mansplaining” and “manterrupting” are hallmarks of the conference room.

Are we surprised? I think not. Allison

Promotions for Female Generals Were Delayed Over Fears of Trump’s Reaction Under a Biden administration, the nominations are expected to go from the Pentagon to the White House within weeks and then to the Senate for approval.

A room with a view and a computer screen! Wrestling the culture and biology of systemic sexism to the ground. One of those “fun” writing days . - Dr. Allison

New research has found that while changing corporate board policy has increased diversity, it doesn’t necessarily change company cultures.

With only one or two women on a corporate board, the culture doesn’t have to stop being a man fort, the women just do a “Kabuki dance” of navigating the men. At the 30-40 % level of participation, women would be making better headway.

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What Happened When India Mandated Gender Diversity on Boards New research found that while the policy did increase diversity, it didn’t necessarily change company cultures.

While the country is riveted on the racism implied in the impeachment trial of our former white supremacist President, we can’t forget that the greatest terror most of these men carry is fear of women exercising agency.

If women are decision makers men will have to obey the direction of women. Most importantly, the men will have to take turns. The essence of taking turns is that each member of the group trades off, in rotation, the role of being in charge of the conversation whether in a workplace or a household.

For healthy men and women, this is a natural process in modern mixed gender teams. You know you are in the presence of the pervasive white supremacist mysogyny, the hatred of women exercising power in the same way as men, when you see the demeaning tropes hurled at a chosen female target.

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Perspective | Capitol rioters searched for Nancy Pelosi in a way that should make every woman’s skin crawl “Oh, Naaaaaaancy” became an ominous tune.

Two Texas pastors have not backed down after comparing the new Vice President to Jezebel — which scholars say is both racist and sexist.

The put down language of patriarchy is used as an assault weapon against Vice President Kamala Harris. It is intended to defeat her from becoming a role model for women who legitimately exercise power and agency in our society.

Southern Baptist Pastors Compare Kamala Harris To Bible's Queen Jezebel
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How bad was Jezebel?
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Southern Baptist Pastors Compare Kamala Harris To Bible's Queen Jezebel Two Texas pastors haven't backed down after comparing the new vice president to Jezebel — which scholars say is both racist and sexist.

This pandemic is tough on moms and I am one of them. Staying home with my 11 year old but now back at the clinic. I see palpable anxiety in my patients.
- Dr. Allison

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America’s Mothers Are in Crisis Is anyone listening to them?

NY Times opinion columnist Paul Krugman describes the current state of the GOP as a “Doom Loop of Bizarro.” But this “Doom Loop of Bizarro” is perhaps our only answer to getting out from under the collateral damage that the death of the Republican cult will cause.

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We have a long haul to train girls from birth that having and exercising agency is a necessary survival skill in the modern world. It is a skill to be admired, not a drawback in the hunt for a non-existent prince charming.

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Women Hunters

How and why would scientists miss that prehistoric women were hunters? More importantly how does the narrative change if we view early hunters through a realistic lens?

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Ancient remains prove women have been running s**t for at least 9000 years The skeleton of an ancient woman with hunting gear is challenging longstanding beliefs that men went out to hunt while women simply gathered. The 9,000-year-old remains were found with a fully decked out hunting kit including 20 stone projectiles…

Chess - Fighting for the day when women are just people - chess players, not women chess players.

The recent success of the Netflix original series “The Queen’s Gambit,” has prompted articles on women and chess and the long-standing question of women in science, technology engineering and math.

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The Real Reasons All the Top Chess Players Are Men Part of it is just basic math.

Chocolate

I must admit, I am a chocolate addict. True confession. Turns out I got the family gene that doesn’t let me process alcohol (everyone needs a stress reliever), so for me it’s chocolate.

Because of my habit, I’ve gotten to know the most marvelous chocolate maker, Maya, here in Santa Barbara. I was such a regular customer she renamed her famous Florentines (for me anyway!) Here is a “Bethentine.”

-Dr. Beth

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Chocolate – Dr. Beth and Dr. Allison Personal Glimpses, Posts from Dr BethChocolatePosted on December 19, 2020 I must admit, I am a chocolate addict. True confession. Turns out I got the family gene that doesn’t let me process alcohol (everyone needs a stress reliever), so for me it’s chocolate. Because of my habit, I’ve gotten t...

Reunions

I get together with a group of high school friends a couple of times each year. Though informal, I enjoy seeing these friends regularly.

We have known each other for 60 plus years. Here is our reunion in our 50’s. - Dr. Beth

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Reunions – Dr. Beth and Dr. Allison Personal Glimpses, Posts from Dr BethReunionsPosted on December 18, 2020 I get together with a group of high school friends a couple of times each year. Though informal, I enjoy seeing these friends regularly. We have known each other for 60 plus years. Here is our reunion in our 50’s. – Dr. Bet...

Carport Thanksgiving

Our family was able to manage a “carport” Thanksgiving this year, including a birthday celebration for granddaughter Isabela.

Each of our family “pods” had their own table and went to the buffet separately. Here’s Grandpa and me with son Davis and grandson Vaughn.

We won’t be so lucky for Christmas as we are under stay-at-home rules right now in Santa Barbara.

Stay safe…vaccine on the way

- Dr. Beth

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My little one went back to in person school today for the first time since March. I have mixed feelings about this, but I am so happy for her.

When asked how it went today she said it was "fun!"

- Dr. Allison

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Back to School During a Pandemic – Dr. Beth and Dr. Allison Personal Glimpses, Posts from Dr AllisonBack to School During a PandemicPosted on December 16, 2020 My little one went back to in person school today for the first time since March. I have mixed feelings about this, but I am so happy for her. When asked how it went today she said it was “fun!” ....

Michelle Obama's important comments about Dr. Jill Biden.

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For eight years, I saw Dr. Jill Biden do what a lot of professional women do—successfully manage more than one responsibility at a time, from her teaching duties to her official obligations in the White House to her roles as a mother, wife, and friend. And right now, we’re all seeing what also happens to so many professional women, whether their titles are Dr., Ms., Mrs., or even First Lady: All too often, our accomplishments are met with skepticism, even derision. We’re doubted by those who choose the weakness of ridicule over the strength of respect. And yet somehow, their words can stick—after decades of work, we’re forced to prove ourselves all over again. Is this really the example we want to set for the next generation? Dr. Biden gives us a better example. And this is why I feel so strongly that we could not ask for a better First Lady. She will be a terrific role model not just for young girls but for all of us, wearing her accomplishments with grace, good humor, and yes, pride. I’m thrilled that the world will see what I have come to know—a brilliant woman who has distinguished herself in her profession and with the life she lives every day, always seeking to lift others up, rather than tearing them down.

Work or Motherhood? A Modern Grandma’s Advice

Recently, my granddaughter asked me how to decide between being a caregiver or a wage-earner. I told her that was not the question. The question should be, how can she do both.

Even after seventy years of profound change in the workforce, our culture hasn’t caught up to my granddaughter’s reality. As a young woman soon to enter the workforce, she has important decisions ahead.

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Work or Motherhood? A Modern Grandma’s Advice – Dr. Beth and Dr. Allison Personal Glimpses, Posts from Dr BethWork or Motherhood? A Modern Grandma’s AdvicePosted on December 10, 2020 Recently, my granddaughter asked me how to decide between being a caregiver or a wage-earner. I told her that was not the question. The question should be, how can she do both. Even after ...

Love this article by Jessica Valenti who wrote the book "He's a stud, she's a slt and other double standards every woman should know." She's a "good mom" cause she's subservient, she's a "bad mom" cause she's a bitch and a leader. The culture needs to change.

The U.S. Should Be Paying Parents to Stay Home Not just during the pandemic, but forever

The Woman Who Saved Thanksgiving

A woman is at the center of the celebration of the Thanksgiving holiday. In 1863, Abraham Lincoln declared a day of Thanksgiving after the Battle of Gettysburg after intense lobbying by Sara Josepha Hale.

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How the 'Mother of Thanksgiving' Lobbied Abraham Lincoln to Proclaim the National Holiday The author of the children's poem "Mary Had a Little Lamb" was persistent in arguing that establishing the national November holiday could help heal wounds from the Civil War.

Wimps, Bi***es and Good Moms - Culture and Women’s Pandemic Economics

Writer Patricia Cohen has focused on key economics which are disproportionately affecting women in the pandemic. The invisible force she has not mentioned is the culture. For all the gloom and doom in the economics, the pandemic will recede. The Spanish flu of 1918 took two years to end. And then we had the “roaring” twenties.

What will not recede is the culture that puts women’s economics at a disadvantage in the first place. We need to focus on the personal steps we can take to change the culture.

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Recession With a Difference: Women Face Special Burden Hit hard by job losses and the pandemic’s effect on schooling and child care, American women face short-term difficulties and long-term repercussions.

The 15% Ceiling

The new glass ceiling is what we call the 15% ceiling. This is what you should be watching for. Women in only 15% of leadership roles does not change the decision-making culture in an organization.

Often these are the extraordinary superstars - brilliant women who have managed to succeed against all odds. This number of 15% occurs over and over again in major institutions. From non-profit foundations with assets over $50M, to major symphony orchestras, to Deans of medical schools, to percentage of songs heard on Country and Western radio, the 15% recurs over and over again as the upper limit for women. What is going on with this mysterious number?

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The 15% Ceiling – Dr. Beth and Dr. Allison Posts from Dr BethThe 15% CeilingPosted on November 21, 2020 The new glass ceiling is what we call the 15% ceiling. This is what you should be watching for. Women in only 15% of leadership roles does not change the decision-making culture in an organization. Often these are the extraordinary superst...

A Panicked Man

Pulitzer Prize-winning writer Robin Ghivan has touched on a mystery. These terms have been used so often in association with President Trump: white male, male privilege, private club, golfing, back slapping and all the rest. She rightfully assumes that everyone is familiar with the cliches, or more specifically, the tropes. These images, however, help to create fanatical followership with a large block of voters.

For those not susceptible to the subliminal messages that this vision of Trump sends, a mystery is involved. Why this theater of indifference to the outside world?

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Perspective | The president is golfing and exercising White male privilege The fat-cat tooling around in his golf cart is a classic metaphor for privilege and disregard — and reckless ineptness — and one that is also terribly apt for Trump.

Publicly Valuing Women’s Work

Culture undervalues women’s work. Changing the culture changes the valuation. Embedded in Anna Louie Sussman’s article about how New Zealand is pursuing a century-old idea to close the gender pay gap, is the cultural value of this effort. The older patriarchal culture that still haunts us in a modern world makes women and women’s work invisible and of no value. Social workers featured in the article said they found the analysis of their work “more valuable” than the pay raise itself.

In the patriarchal society, women were valued for being potential mates, young and beautiful. That was it for public recognition. Their paycheck was the paycheck of the man they landed on the marriage market.

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Opinion | ‘Women’s Work’ Can No Longer Be Taken for Granted New Zealand is pursuing a century-old idea to close the gender pay gap: not equal pay for equal work, but equal pay for work of equal value.

A Caring Boys Team

Catherine Pearson, a senior reporter at the Huffington Post, is dedicated to raising an emotionally aware and kind son. She cites a number of other modern authors who are on the same mission. The waning patriarchal culture that is still with us is making polar opposites of little girls and little boys - to the detriment of both.

Little girls are fighting to be admired for being strong and stoic as well as admired for being emotional. Little boys are fighting for their emotional lives while only being admired for being strong and stoic. We need humans (whether boys or girls) who are both.

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How To Raise Kind And Affectionate Sons The election was seen by many as a clash between two visions of masculinity. Here are simple steps parents can take to raise kind boys right now.

Trump’s Trifecta

A slew of articles including this one by Kara Alaimo comment that Trump had just retired the misogynist trophy with his comment on “we’re getting your husbands back to work”. This is nothing new in his 1950’s view of the world. The “Father Knows Best” President portrays the “little woman” at home just waiting for her husband to go back to work to take care of her. The cumulative insult is however subtler than it appears on the surface.

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Opinion: With 'husbands' remark, Trump has sealed his fate with women President Donald Trump's plea for support from suburban women by asserting he's helping their husbands get back to work ignores the stark realities most American women are facing -- in a truly retrograde fashion that spotlights his own sexism and misogyny, argues Kara Alaimo.