The Sauce

🐾🔥 “There is a smoldering erotic power within each of us....

“Your primal force is yearning to be fully unleashed, asking you to revel in your own magnificence, to dominate and to be dominated, safely and with consent.

“Join us animals as we explore and unlock the realms of Play, Pleasure, and Power. Together as community as we move as one and as individuals, joyfully pushing up against others as they giddily push back, discovering desires through movement and connected touch with others as we wrestle sensually into the night...”

Sensual Wrestling with Jason Rich everybody!! 😍😍🔥👏🏼🐾💋💥💓🐉

Gah this might be the Sauce of my dreams - Sensual Wrestling with Jason Rich and a s*xy, whompy DJ set with Maya Light?! Plus a bo***ir photo shoot upstairs and the increasingly epic dungeon?! How did I get so lucky!!! 😍🦄🔥

This has become one of my absolute favorite nights of the entire month. I’m amazed at the community being created and nourished here in Santa Cruz. It’s SUCH a thrill to be the pleasure captain of this ship and I hope you join this month and beyond!

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DM me if you have any questions or want to support the envoy! xoxoxoxo

Only a few pre-sale tix left! If you’re coming, hop on it 🔥💓💋🎉

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This Sauce is the purrrrfect time to start feeling into erotic intentions for 2024…

🐾 What is working well in your intimate life that you want to keep?

🔥 What do you want more of in terms of pleasure, power, connection, exploration, etc.?

🙈 What’s a specific experience you want to try in the realm of eroticism but have been putting off or don’t know where to start?

💕 What kind of support do you need in 2024 to deepen and expand your erotic expression?

We’ll have a little contemplation area upstairs for folks to think about this and share Erotic New Year’s Intentions!

We are SO blessed to have the incredible Be coming down to teach Rope Dance at this month's Sauce, assisted by our very own River Nettles!!

Be (pronoun Be) is passionate about the intersection of embodied movement/dance, sensuality/s*xuality and kink/BDSM. Be loves creating safe(r) spaces for play, exploration, growth and healing as a means of becoming more fully who we are.

How intentionally beautiful does Be's class sound?! I can not wait to get *knotty* with you all... (but actually - no knots required...)

Rope Dance is an embodied practice of merging the fundamentals of contact improvisational dance and rope. It's a practice full of exploration, playfulness, curiosity, creativity, spontaneity and possibilities.

We’ll start with the foundations of contact improv, first learning to follow and explore your own movements (connection with self). Before moving into paired exercises (connection with other), we'll discuss navigating boundaries and consent both verbally and non-verbally. Then we’ll move through exercises that introduce rope into the dance, where the infinite fun begins! It’s a fun playful way to be introduced to how playing with rope can feel and is full of dynamic possibilities, just as contact improv is.

For those coming from more of a kink/rope background and less dance/movement: Contact improv can help to enhance your embodied presence and connection in rope scenes. It is also great for learning body mechanics and the ways you can manipulate other bodies, or be manipulated.

Feel free to come alone or with a partner. We’ll invite you to play/explore with different partners but you’re welcome to stay partnered with who you come with. You can always take care of yourself and sit out at any point, it’s beautiful to just witness. Rope will be provided. No experience with contact improv or rope necessary.

The Sauce is tomorrow! Come get your community connection on in a sweet & spicy way! 👇🏼🔥

Looking for some decompression? We got you!!

Our epic new fun, s*xy, expansive dance event in Santa Cruz is two days after T-day this year - and it's gonna be the perfect antidote to any family crunchiness or holiday stress.

Come dance, explore, meet cool people, and celebrate the gratitude of being alive in an erotic body, whatever that means for you! Link in bio 🔥💋

I am thrilled more regular erotic and intimate events are happening in Santa Cruz - because the more we learn and explore together, the deeper expeirences become possible with each other! At the end of the last Sauce, I recall telling everyone… “If we do this together every month… where might we be in the next six months as a community?” In terms of trust, intimacy, sovereignty, and sensuality…

Between Glory and Daniel's regular rope event Bound to Rise and Spencer and crew coming here for Dance Meets Ta**ra last weekend plus the monthly Sauce, my dream of having super s*xy, conscious events here locally is coming true.

There are so many awesome events up in the Bay… and I’m super grateful for those. But we’ve got the goods down here too, SC! I see all you baddies out there… and look forward to meeting so many more of you 🙏🏼💓

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What I love about the Sauce every month is it’s an open invitation to FLIRT!

I had the experiences the other day of meeting a hot new person at a gathering… and noticing how at many events, flirting is not supported or encouraged - or is sometimes overtly not part of the event.

The Sauce is different. It’s a place to flirt (with awareness and consent) with new and familiar people alike!

And enjoy the rising of energy….

And know that it doesn’t need to “go anywhere.”

In fact, the boundaries of the Sauce set up the perfect conditions to experiment in a safe, fun, and s*xy way.

When’s the last time you had a really hot flirt? Join us in two weeks! Link in bio 💓

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Why sober?

🙌🏽 We don’t know each other yet. We’re *building* trust - and making first impressions…

🍸 Most of us wouldn’t go wasted to a work event with potential clients. No, we’d want to be on our A-game, with our senses activated and our heads clear.

💕 The Sauce is just like this only instead of potential clients its potential community members, friends, maybe lovers.

🎉 It’s more fun when we can trust someone’s interest and availability as genuine, rather than alcohol-fueled. And others can trust our intentions.

💆🏾‍♂️ We need self-awareness to know what we want and what we don’t.

👀 Since edgy topics have more nuances or subtleties, interacting safety requires increased awareness of how we’re behaving.

👑 Our eroticism deserves reverence and respect. Elliot Katz’s coined the phrase Erotic Nobility - and I absolutely love it. When we carry ourselves as people with power and responsibliity, we show up more trustworthy and treat each other more excellently.

All this ultimately makes for an *even better* party 🥳

Do you have any thoughts, questions, or experiences about this? If so I'd love to hear!

What's the difference between a s*x party and a s*xy party? Let's discuss!

A s*xy party is a place to explore your erotic energy in a variety of ✨consensual✨ ways, such as:
👠 Dress in a way that makes you feel hot: dark, playful,
🤲🏼 Exchange sensual touch with yourself and other ✨consenting✨ folks (through dancing, cuddles, play with the features in the pleasure station, etc)
🙊 Verbally explore edgy topics upstairs in the lounge (relationship styles, kink, desires - they'll be some cards to play with for asking questions!)
🦄 Have fun exchanging erotic energy (flirting, eye contact, dancing, almost kissing, etc)
❓ It’s always great to ✨ask✨ “This dance (cuddle, etc) is getting s*xy for me, are you still feeling comfortable?”

At the Sauce there is NO:
🍑 Nudity
🍆 Explicit s*xual contact (👍🏽 to rubbing up on ✨consenting✨ people; 👎🏼 to directly stimulating yourself or anyone else in erogenous zones)
⚠️ Touching with the intention of driving a connection away from sensual and towards s*xual
🙏🏼 Say: “This is becoming s*xual, so I need to stop or take a break.”
😇 If you are ever uncomfortable, talk to an Angel!

Is there a gray area? Nearly always… 🩶
💋 Kissing: you can make out at a night club or on the street or in the grocery store. So can you kiss at the Sauce? Totally, with ✨consent ✨
👉🏼 But please observe the line between light sensual kissing and heavy s*xual exchange…

🥜 Grinding: remember that scene in Dirty Dancing where everyone is grinding all over each other? That was hotttt!! We can do that at the Sauce with ✨consenting✨ people!
👉🏼 But do not expect (or even allow) a s*xy dance to “progress” into something explicit…

🎃 The first Sauce does *happen* to fall on Halloween weekend 👻... and the FULL MOON 🌕 Coincidence? 🧐 I think not!!! 🕸️ What creature will you embody, in costume or inner landscape this fine evening? 🎃

Every time a person decides to come to my new event, the Sauce, I feel *extremely* honored. It’s no small feat to explore sensuality—let alone in community. It’s vulnerable and personal… and also exhilarating, inspiring, and so very human.

It’s ok to be a little bit uncomfortable. Several folks have expressed to me privately: “I’m coming—and it’s an edge, but one I want to push.” Thank you for saying yes! Here are the ways we’re making this event extra supportive for everyone.

TRANSPARENCY

I’m proud to be an event that *openly* explores sensuality, eroticism, and intimacy. This transparency make the Sauce unique—and safer. What’s out in the open becomes far less scary that what lurks in the shadows…

SUPPORT

Many forward-thinking events have “Angels”—folks available any time for support. But many Angels are never called upon to help. I’m hoping to change that at the Sauce. We’ll explore this resource at our opening circle!

QUIET SPACE

With so much intimacy on offer, our systems can get oversaturated. Quiet solo time can allow for integration. We’ll have a beautiful, low-stimulation area for personal reflection and rest.

REPAIR CULTURE

What strengthens our resilience and intimacy as individuals and community is to prevent ruptures when possible—and then repair excellently. We’ll explore this more in our circles and workshops.

SOVEREIGNTY

Every single person attending has made a choice to be here. This gives us sovereignty—and helps us see others as sovereign, too. You never have to do anything at the Sauce you don't want to do—and neither does anyone else.

Every time a person decides to come to my new event, the Sauce, I feel *extremely* honored. It’s no small feat to explore sensuality—let alone in community. It’s vulnerable and personal… and also exhilarating, inspiring, and so very human.

It’s ok to be a little bit uncomfortable. Several folks have expressed to me privately: “I’m coming—and it’s an edge, but one I want to push.” Thank you for saying yes! Here are the ways we’re making this event extra supportive for everyone.

TRANSPARENCY

I’m proud to be an event that *openly* explores sensuality, eroticism, and intimacy. This transparency make the Sauce unique—and safer. What’s out in the open becomes far less scary that what lurks in the shadows… Knowing what types of connections are available at the Sauce (and what's not) helps us all relax and be at choice.

SUPPORT

Many forward-thinking events have “Angels”—folks available any time for support. But many Angels are never called upon to help. I’m hoping to change that at the Sauce. We’ll explore this resource at our opening circle!

QUIET SPACE

With so much intimacy on offer, our systems can get oversaturated. Quiet solo time can allow for integration. We’ll have a beautiful, low-stimulation area for personal reflection and rest. It’s also a great place to meet quietly with an Angel for support.

REPAIR CULTURE

The edgier an experience, the more essential are consent and repair. We will practice how to be extra attuned with ourselves and each other. And the Sauce is intentionally edge pushing. In any exploratory container, folks could get hurt. What strengthens our resilience and intimacy as individuals and community is to prevent ruptures when possible—and then repair excellently. We’ll explore this more in our circles and workshops.

SOVEREIGNTY

Every single person attending has made a choice to be here. This gives us sovereignty—and helps us see others as sovereign, too. You never have to do anything at the Sauce you don't want to do—and neither does anyone else. No one owes you anything (a dance, a conversation, touch, etc.). And you don't owe anyone else anything. We gather as free beings who treat each ourselves and each other excellently.

Do you have more questions about the support offered at the Sauce? I'd love to hear them and talk with you before the event! 💓

I am soooo freaking excited to welcome the Light Dark Institute to the Sauce line up for Oct!

Tani and Leslie are incredible facilitators who are going to take us on a journey into exploring our darker side in an inclusive, beginner friendly way.
Their work is shame-healing, edge pushing conscious kink (and so much more).

“Find Pleasure, Connection and Freedom in our Places of Greatest Shame.”
I can’t wait to experience this with you all! It’s going to be a real treat.

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