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I wonder about your holiday experience, can you work on holding space with friends and family? Let’s create peace!

What do you think of this? I have found that for moments we have intense feelings of love, admiration, anxiety, and distress. How are we catching micro moments of peace and tranquility? We can retrain our nervous system, let’s try it!

This book is a wonderful thing to practice, how are you doing today?

Author: Anonymous

The inability to receive support from others is a trauma response.

Your “I don’t need anyone, I’ll just do it all myself” conditioning is a survival tactic. And you needed it to shield your heart from abuse, neglect, betrayal, and disappointment from those who could not or would not be there for you.

From the parent who was absent and abandoned you by choice or the parent who was never home from working three jobs to feed and house you.

From the lovers who offered sexual intimacy but never offered a safe haven that honored your heart.

From the friendships and family who ALWAYS took more than they ever gave.

From all the situations when someone told you “we’re in this together” or “I got you” then abandoned you, leaving you to pick up the pieces when s**t got real, leaving you to handle your part and their part, too.

From all the lies and all the betrayals.

You learned along the way that you just couldn’t really trust people. Or that you could trust people, but only up to a certain point.

Extreme-independence IS. A. TRUST. ISSUE.

You learnt: if I don’t put myself in a situation where I rely on someone, I won’t have to be disappointed when they don’t show up for me, or when they drop the ball... because they will ALWAYS drop the ball EVENTUALLY right?

You may even have been intentionally taught this protection strategy by generations of hurt ancestors who came before you.

Extreme-independence is a preemptive strike against heartbreak.

So, you don’t trust anyone.

And you don’t trust yourself, either, to choose people.

To trust is to hope, to trust is to be vulnerable.

“Never again,” you vow.

But no matter how you dress it up and display it proudly to make it seem like this level of independence is what you always wanted to be, in truth it’s your wounded, scarred, broken heart behind a protective brick wall.

Impenetrable. Nothing gets in. No hurt gets in. But no love gets in either.

Fortresses and armor are for those in battle, or who believe the battle is coming.

It’s a trauma response.

The good news is trauma that is acknowledged is trauma that can be healed.

You are worthy of having support.
You are worthy of having true partnership.
You are worthy of love.
You are worthy of having your heart held.
You are worthy to be adored.
You are worthy to be cherished.
You are worthy to have someone say, “You rest. I got this.” And actually deliver on that promise.
You are worthy to receive.
You are worthy to receive.
You are worthy.

You don’t have to earn it.
You don’t have to prove it.
You don’t have to bargain for it.
You don’t have to beg for it.

You are worthy.
Worthy.
Simply because you exist.

Our words are powerful, how do we talk about life can change our perspective 💜

Grow Positive Thoughts today! How are you nurturing your thoughts? 

I am curious have you tried this? When we look at our situation from a different view we have an opportunity to see it differently. think about your cognitive distortions…

Today I wanted to share this great video on myths of mindfulness. We are not all buddhas sitting under the bodi tree. Mindfulness is so much more! Check it out let me know. Is there something you struggle with?

The Happiness Trap: The Five Mindfulness Myths In this exclusive clip from The Happiness Trap online program, Russ debunks the most popular myths about mindfulness.Learn more at https://thehappinesstrap.c...

When I feel stuck I walk a different way around the grocery store, my walk with the pup or even in my house. Sometimes just been mindful of the different steps we get to take we can enjoy them more?

January perspective, I love to see the clouds in the water everywhere I go. I wonder how do you see your world?

Love this human being!

My philosophy for a happy life Born with a rare genetic disorder called progeria, Sam Berns knew he'd be facing more obstacles in life than most. This didn't stop him from taking charge of his own happiness. In this moving and inspirational talk, Berns lays out the three principles of the personal philosophy that allowed him to d...

Let’s go into this year with less of these things and more passion for life, as everything is polarized and we feel that we are all being looked at, let’s show the world some gratitude in 2022. 

Be a dancing Unicorn in your life! Spend time enjoying what you love, today it’s sand for me 💜

I hope you enjoy the journey this weekend! Be safe!

Protect yourself and love the increased awareness!

I’m so excited to read this book in November!!

This book kicked my ass.

Which is why I can’t wait to share it with you!

I learned so much about the language of human emotion and experience. And after searching for 20+ years, this research led me to the missing piece that I needed to develop a model on connection.

“Atlas of the Heart” is a book about finding our way back to ourselves and one another.

When fear, anxiety, and uncertainty leave us feeling adrift and untethered in our lives, our first instinct is to look out into the distance to find the nearest shore.

But the shore isn’t something outside of us — the solid ground we’re seeking is within us. It’s not always easy to find, but it’s there.

This book explores the language and tools we need to access a universe of new choices and second chances — a universe where we can share and steward the stories of our bravest and most heartbreaking moments with one another in a way that cultivates meaningful connection.

To all of the mapmakers and the travelers — this one is for you!
BB

https://brenebrown.com/atlas-of-the-heart/

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When we spend time thinking and planning NOT Doing, nothing changes. What action are you taking today to make it a better day?

The most amazing thing is when you get a gift from a stranger with a powerful message!

Can you see the good in your day?

When we think about the grieving process I believe that this is a wonderful representation of the process 💜

Live your best life!! Taking 3 deep breaths can help you to get grounded in the moment and let the past and future pass you by. Have you tried this?

Tip of the day: notice simple mindfulness tools. Say out loud 5 things you see, 4 things you hear, 3 things you feel and 2 things you smell take 3 deep belly breathes and stay in the day. 😃

Thinking of the Art of recovery and connection LLC is all about finding your flow, seeking joy and seeking change as you can have peace of mind in a recovery world. Where is your joy? Can you visualize it?