The Endless Well

There is grief in growth, & there is growth in grief.

the phrase “grow through what you go through” sometimes feels icky even with the best intentions. growing is a source of grief. as we grow and change and evolve, we have to grieve the versions of ourselves we are leaving behind, grieving the time that is passing since our loved one has been gone, grieving the changes they’ll never see, that life goes on without them, that we go on without them.

AND in grief, there is growth. we have no choice but to keep moving, to grow and change and live.
the wheel keeps turning whether we want it to or not, and so we grow. And we grieve. And we live.

the endless well is a non-binary, q***r mama owned business & while that’s only one part of what and who I am, it’s a big one.

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offering card readings this week!!!!
I have space for 5 full readings & 10 minis!!!

readings are on a pay what you can structure, with suggested minimums!!

minis are suggested at $22
full readings are suggested at $55

virtual in live time or voice memo/write up options available!!

excited for this!!!

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“The Endless Well is excited to offer:
Inclusivity coaching & consulting
Specialties include Gender Diversity and LGBTQ+ inclusivity, Grief, Death and Dying, and Transgender specific competencies.
Sliding scale available”

DM me for more info or to set up a consult!!

Now open for new clients!!

Some questions to consider when we’re thinking about inclusivity in healing spaces. Whether you hold space or share space, are a healing professional, or someone who seeks out healing spaces, how are we ensuring these spaces are inclusive?

Is the space trauma informed?
Are marginalized groups welcomed and represented?
Is there room for differently abled, and sized bodies?
Is the space anti-racist?
Is the space gender inclusive?
Does the space ascribe to toxic positivity?
What are other ways we can ensure our healing spaces are inclusive?

The Endless Well is now officially offering inclusivity consulting and coaching for individuals, teams, and businesses. While our main areas of focus are LGBTQ+ needs and grief, as a social worker and trauma informed healing professional, Mel can help with setting goals around implementing more inclusive practices in your healing spaces, as well as give training and actionable items for how to continue improving. Interested? Let us know!

what is your idea of being trauma-informed?
how do you show up in a space with the understanding and compassion for what others might be experiencing?
whether you hold space or share space, do you enter with a conscious awareness that you can’t know everything anyone else is bringing into the space? that your actions, despite intentions, could trigger someone’s trauma response?

one thing I do when I’m sharing space is to make sure I always ask permission before I start discussing a topic that feels heavy from my point of view.
I move through spaces I share or hold with the knowing that everyone has had the potential to experience trauma and something as simple as taking their photo or mentioning my child could bring up their fight or flight trauma response.

what are some ways you show up with a trauma informed perspective?

one of the most magical parts of what I do, even though energy healing is based in eastern medicine practices. I truly love doing energy work, and can do these sessions fully virtually, via video call, or even not connected at all, if you’d rather me do it and send you a write up of anything that came up for me.

similarly to card readings, I tune into your energy, connect to guides, both mine and yours, and see what needs to be moved and changed.

Have you had an energy session with me??? Drop some comments about what it felt like!

up next in my parts of me series!!

Relationship Coach
Whether you’re looking for individual work focused on your relationships, or group sessions with a partner or partners, I am trained clinically to help you work through issues and deepen relationships of all kinds.
I have experience with q***r relationships, romantic, platonic, and family, and specialize in non-monogamy.
We set goals together and work as a team to communicate effectively and deepen bonds.

What questions do you have about what being a relationship coach means?

As a death positive grief worker, I help folks identify and process different grieving experiences, including their own mortality, anticipatory grief, grief for both death and non death related losses, and LGBTQ+ specific grieving experiences.

I help you to normalize the experiences and to work with the feelings that come up rather than try to “solve” or “fix” them.

A few years ago my uncle died rather suddenly, after getting sick on his way home from
my wedding. The grief overwhelmed me, I was drowning in it and not sure how to process, I turned to intellectualizing and educating myself on the work I could do with grief and did a death doula training through going with grace.

My first experience with grief was at 10 years old when my dog died. He was my absolute favorite being and we had a deep connection from even before I was born.
Since then, I’ve lost many family members and loved ones, most recently, my grandpa.
To love is to grieve, and to honor those we’ve loved and lost is to honor our grief, no matter how it comes up.
My goal is to help you find ways to honor yours.

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Reintroducing myself:

Stepping into the role of “mom” but remembering to embrace how all of these intersecting roles make me good at what I do in supporting others.

some ways I show up that could support you:
Coach
Death Positive Grief Worker
Intuitive Tarot Reader
Reiki Master
Social Worker
LGBTQ+ Specialist
Relationship Coach (Poly/NM affirming)
Witch
Mom

over the next few days/weeks I’ll be sharing a bit more about each of these parts of me.
let me know what questions you have about how I show up in any of these roles or what it could look like to get support through one or many of these lenses

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TAKING NEW CLIENTS!!!

I’ve embraced motherhood and am loving it, AND am ready to start taking some new clients again. For now, I’ll be focusing on prioritizing one on one sessions in one of these formats, but keep an eye out for a group/workshop offering that I’ve been dreaming up coming soon!!

For now, here’s what’s available:

goal intensive coaching, a 6 week, goal specific track, working together to set and accomplish small goals aimed to work towards a bigger goal. individualized to meet your needs.

identity explorers, a track focusing on any aspect of your identity you want to dive deeper into in a non-judgmental and curious space (ex: sexuality, gender, spirituality, griever, parent, partner, etc.)

go with the flow, an unstructured track, catered to you and your needs, available with a set number of sessions or the option to schedule one at a time

DM or email to set up a consult call to see what the best fit for you is!! Can’t wait to work with you ✨

as I move through my own rebirth and transformation into motherhood, The Endless Well is getting a little rebirth too.

my goal with this business was always to create community, as is my goal with most things that I do.

as I am changing and growing, I’m realizing that the best way to do that is to show me, to shift this space into being authentically and fully about who I am, not just the services I offer, so you know who you’re signing up to work with when you pick me.

it’s come up for me often, and I’ve talked about it recently, but it seems that the fullest and best work I do is with people who seek support from me as a human, me specifically, rather than support in general and get assigned to me for scheduling purposes (in other practices).

so welcome to the endless well, again, I’m Mel and I’m here to support you with any or all of the services that I’ve created based on who I am.

those include:
mental health coaching including grief support, identity exploration, lgbtq+ stuff, spirituality & more.
card readings and energy work
inclusivity consulting, for people, places, and spaces who want to make sure they’re honoring the needs of lgbtq+ folks

& coming soon, some community offerings where we can gather for a shared purpose and hold space together ✨

please feel free to reach out with any questions or ask me questions in the comments to get to know me better!!
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“once you take full ownership of your own skills and abilities, you will manifest the world that you deserve”

I’ve been struggling with putting into words that I’m really good at what I do.
My dear friend, reminded me that honoring my gifts and being proud of them is not something I need to prevent myself from doing for fear of being seen as “bragging” in a negative way.

I am magical, I can do really amazing things when I tune in and offer energy work and card readings.
I am an amazing coach, I help clients make such big progress and offer comforting supportive spaces with moments of kind, sometimes eye opening honesty that gets them where they need to be.

I am authentically me in spaces with clients and building connection is at the core of what I do.

I’m good at this. I care about this. I have gifts to offer and I’m proud of the work I do.

I am taking full ownership over my skills and abilities. I am a skilled coach, energy worker, card reader, communicator, friend, supporter, healer, and so much more.

Manifesting that all of the people that need or want to work with me for those gifts will find me in their right timing 💖

put this in my story but wanted these words to hold space here.

I am growing and changing and I’ve realized that being a therapist is not my passion anymore.

But being a coach brings me so much joy. I didn’t realize how different it felt for me until I started coaching with clients that came to me for me.

I hope if you’re thinking about working with me or looking for support you’ll reach out and set up a call to chat 🤍

here & happy to answer any any all questions about services!!

excited to work with new pals 🤍

doing card readings is how I feel most connected

I can do them via text or voice memo, where I send cards to your inbox with symbols and meanings or via video call where we chat in real time about what’s going on and what we might need clarity on while I pull cards and talk about what they might mean for you.

I’d love to do a reading for you, DM to book 🌙

some things cannot be fixed. they can only be carried.

when we talk about grief, and we talk about healing from grief, we often look at it as a problem to fix rather than a feeling to carry.

as someone who’s experienced long term grief, anticipatory grief, grief for non physical and physical deaths, and lots more, I don’t want my grief to be “fixed”. It feels like a necessary thing to carry with me, a part of me.

grief to me represents the depth of love I’ve had for the people I’ve lost or am afraid to lose. it’s not something I’m meant to cure or fix, it’s something I’m meant to carry and integrate.

how do you carry your grief?

intuitive card readings!!!

what you get: cards pulled intuitively for you through my tuning into your energy to see what you need. if you have a specific intention you can ask me ahead of time and I’ll tune into that to see what messages come through. I give you some symbols and the meaning of the card for you to interpret how it’s related to you and your situation, and am available to process and talk through anything that comes up with that.

current prices are:
$44 for a live video call (about a half hour)
$33 for a recorded voice memo from me detailing the cards and explaining their symbols
$22 for a write up straight to your inbox or in DMs

*all options come with a photo of whatever cards are pulled for you to keep.

DM to book now!!!

you’re allowed to know a decision is what’s best for you and still feel sad about it 🥀

my thoughts on being death positive:

being death positive is NOT being excited for death or ignoring the negatives that come with death, but rather encouraging healthy and honest conversations and preparations for death and dying, to decrease some of the fears and anxieties about death, as well as encourage a more radical and inclusive sense of end of life care and a healthier mentality around grief work and care.

what does death positive mean to you?

life is too short to feel like you have to apologize for showing up fully 🌻

The Endless Well Service List is here!!!!
New offerings include inclusivity consulting, coaching via voice memo instead of (or in addition to) live video calls, and 30 minute energy sessions!!

I’ve been thinking of ways to make my services more widely available and the voice memo coaching is one I’m really excited for. It gives clients the space to choose if they want a specific time frame to chat or want ongoing support via voice note for when we’re both feeling busy and need some time to process thoughts before sending them over. As with all services I offer, as a client you get to choose the specifics of what works for you, which now includes pricing. I’ve listed suggested minimum rates, but this gives us both the flexibility to not let finances be a barrier to support.

I’m so excited to work with y’all in these new ways and ways that I’ve already gotten comfy with.

Questions?? Let me know!!

you may have noticed I’ve been a bit absent from here for the last few months. pregnancy has been a major struggle for my mental health and I got into the mindset that I had to wait until I was back to my normal self before I could start helping people with their own struggles again.

I felt competent to keep helping the clients who knew me already, but I feared new people would only get to know an unhealthy me and that was terrifying.

but here’s the thing, I’m really good at this coaching thing. I know how to help others even when I forget how to help myself. sometimes I even get reminders of how to help myself when I put more energy into helping others.

so I’m opening myself back up.
set up a free consult with me to see what I can offer you in the spaces we’re in right now.
check back tomorrow for an updated list of services offered. I’m so excited to share some ways I’m re-visioning what supporting y’all could look like.

now scheduling!!!

I’ve been disconnected and only seeing current clients over the last few months, but I’m back!! & scheduling card readings over the next few weeks. DM with any questions or to set up a reading!!

Take a moment to breathe it in ✨

The harm with telling folks to “feel better”

whether it be a physical illness or symptom, or an emotional funk or mental illness, when we tell someone we hope they feel better, we are implying that it’s not acceptable for them to feel bad. regardless of our good intentions, keep in mind that some people don’t have the option to “feel better”

Alternatives to telling someone to
”feel better”

“sending you love during this time.”

“if there’s anything I can do to support you right now, let me know.”

“I hope you find some moments of relief.”

“I’m sorry you’re not doing well right now.”

any other things you like to hear when you’re not feeling well? share other ideas for how to support pals besides telling them to “feel better”

Grief comes in waves, not stages.
How do we learn to ride it rather than resist it?

hosted a fun workshop with on grief beyond stages today that might be available to purchase a recording to soon!!

I’d love to know what y’all think is helpful to learn more about/see when it comes to educational materials I can provide, as I’m learning that teaching is my jam.

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Let’s celebrate!

Wishing all of my fellow trans/non-binary/gender diverse pals and clients a day full of being seen, honored, and appreciated for who you are.

In tears over feeling deeply understood by clients who share how I’ve made them feel 💖

Client review:

“Mel is truly a transformative mental health worker who helped me navigate through tough times in my life. They have such a kind approach when talking about tramas and redirecting negative thinking. I always struggled with my sexuality and spirituality and they created a safe space to explore the emotions that came with it. The way Mel understands unique experiences made it the most fulfilling therapeutic experience I’ve ever had!”

Have you worked with me and want to share an anonymous review?? Tap the little NGL link at the link in our bio ✨