Counseling with Zay

It’s okay to let some things go…

Let this be your daily motivation ❤️

& don’t forget to give yourself grace! 💜

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month! 💜

Domestic Violence affects men just as well as women. However, it may not look like physical abuse.

There are a few issues
1. Many men may not even know that they are being a victim of a form of abuse…
2. Women may not know that their behaviors are abusive…

How men and women were raised paired with societal norms contribute to the above to. I encourage you to watch this video and think about the men in your life. Male can be the invisible victims.

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Men: It’s okay to not be okay! It’s okay to seek help! It’s okay to see support! It’s okay to be emotional! It’s okay to cry! NONE of those things make you “weak”. You CANNOT always be strong!

If you’re a male reading this and you need support, I’m available. Just reach out. You can text me and remain anonymous, should you choose: 336-908-9595

Just know you’re not alone ❤️

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Suffering in Silence: The Emotional Abuse of Men | Dr. Timothy Golden | TEDxWallaWallaUniversity Dr. Golden shares how men can overcome the pain of emotional abuse.Timothy J. Golden is Professor of Philosophy, Legal Studies Program Coordinator, and Direc...

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month!

Domestic violence is prevalent in every community, and affects all people regardless of age, socio-economic status, sexual orientation, gender, race, religion, or nationality

5 Facts:
-October was first declared as National Domestic Violence Awareness Month in 1989. Since then, October has been a time to acknowledge domestic violence survivors and be a voice for its victims.
-Physical violence is often accompanied by emotionally abusive and controlling behavior as part of a much larger, systematic pattern of dominance and control.
-Although there has been substantial progress in reducing domestic violence, an average of 20 people are physically abused by intimate partners every minute, which equates to more than 10 million abuse victims annually.
-1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have been physically abused by an intimate partner, and 1 in 5 women and 1 in 7 men have been severely physically abused by an intimate partner.
-Domestic violence incidents affect every person within a home and can have long-lasting negative effects on children's emotional well-being, and social and academic functioning.

How do you communicate? Are you willing to make the change to have more effective conversations that address the root cause of conflict? Try utilizing “I” Statements!

If there’s something you want to say/address but have trouble making it into an “I” statements, comment below and I’ll help you out!

Difficulty managing problem behaviors?! Here are 4 tips:

Praise: Praising your child’s desired behavior will reinforce it. You must do it as soon as possible after it occur AND label them. If a child has done multiple things, they may not know which behavior you’re praising. Ex: “Thank you for listening” & “Great job sharing your toys”. When giving praises you should NOT add more information such as “I wish you could do it more” or “Why can’t you do this all the time?” It doesn’t help 👎

Positive Language: Children hear “no” ALL the time and the instructions can be unclear. If you say “stop running” and they skip, they technically listened. Saying “Please walk” is clear. Young Kids use imagery in communication. While you say “stop” before running, it’s often ignored and not necessarily their fault.

Active Ignoring: This involves ignoring all unharmful actions such as talking back, repeated questions, tantrums, yelling, etc. Kids engage in this behavior to get attention. Ignoring means doing something else & not listening at them. The active part of this you giving praise when they began engaging in a desired behavior. If they start engaging in undesired behavior, you begin ignoring the behaviors ago. Warning ⚠️: Behaviors may get worse when you first begin it, but that means it’s working. You must be consistent in ignoring the behaviors. If you give in, it’ll show that they just have to behave worse to get the attention. It’s a good idea to talk to your child to let them know that moving forward, you will no longer give attention to the behavior.

Timeouts: Timeouts can be an effective strategy IF utilized correctly. 3-5 minutes is the best time frame. When your child is in timeout, they may try to ask you for things, such as food, water, etc. They may even scream, yell, or kick. As long as they aren’t harming themself or others, LET THEM. Do not engage or say anything. Giving attention defeats the purpose! Timeouts are a punishment for their actions and it’s meant to deprive them of the attention they long for. You can say one time “I will not be talking to you while you’re in timeout”.

🗣️PSA!

This page will provide education and tips surrounding mental health. I will share parts of my journey as a mental health provider in NC!

Nothing posted should be a substitute for regular therapy with a licensed clinician. Many post may be generalizations which may or may not be applicable to everyone. Additionally, following this page does NOT automatically constitute a client/therapist relationship. Should you want to engage in a formal client/therapist relationship, feel free to reach out!

My goal is to educate as many people as possible while spreading mental health awareness!

I’m accepting new clients for virtual sessions in the state of NC. Below is the link to my bio on psychology today. I accept insurance and self pay is an option.

I also have opening for in person sessions. My office is located in High Point, NC. (Message me for more details)

Zay McCullough, Clinical Social Work/Therapist, Winston Salem, NC, 27103 | Psychology Today Zay McCullough, Clinical Social Work/Therapist, Winston Salem, NC, 27103, (336) 810-0975, You know... healing takes time. If you're reading this, that means you're seeking help, which is courageous & demonstrates determination! For that, I admire and applaud you! Congrats on taking the first step to...

Contrary to popular belief, it’s okay to talk about things bothering you. Yes, you may have had horrible experiences in the past, but it’s important to contribute behaviors to the individual and not assume everyone will do the same.

🗣️ especially!

If you’re in NC and need someone to talk to (AKA therapy) then I am accepting clients. I accept insurance and self pay. Feel free to reach out via DM!