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I always wanted my daughter to be able to stand up, look someone in the eye and respectfully tell them what she thought. If I didn't let her do it with me, how would she learn to do it with others?

This is for you.

For the exhausted mum who hides a few minutes to cry in the bathroom...

For the mum hidden in the bathroom, because she needs a few minutes of tranquility while slipping tears from her eyes.

For the mum who is so tired that she feels she can't continue, that she would give anything for a moment of peace.

For the mum who cries in her room for having scolded the kids for a nonsense that makes her feel guilty.

For the mum who desperately battles when wearing denim pants because she wants to look pretty and wear them to feel better.

For the mum who asks for dinner pizza because she didn't reach the time to make dinner again as she expected.

For the mum who feels alone, even when she's accompanied.

You're worth a lot.
You are important.
You are enough.

This is a stage, a crazy and challenging stage for all moms.
But in the end everything will be worth it. For now it's hard. Difficult in many and different ways for each of us. We don't always talk, but we all fight, you're not alone.
You are enough.
You give the best of you.
Those little eyes that observe you think you're perfect, they think you're more than perfect.
Those little hands that ask for your arms, they think you're the strongest and you can conquer the world.
Those little mouths eating what you cook, they think you're the best
Those little hearts looking for yours, they want nothing but you.
Because you are enough for them, you are more than enough, mum.
You are wonderful...

- unknown author
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When I essentially "wore" my newborn for the first four months (and slept with her), then refused to use anger and violence against her as she grew, I was told by some people that I would regret it when she reached adolescence. The predictions were that she would be uncontrollable, would probably drop out of school, and would grow up without self-discipline, initiative, or the ability to put others before herself. They were wrong on every count. Love that baby!

This sound is such a comfort to me. We can't love our babies too much 18 weeks of loving, wearing, nursing, rocking, sh-sh-shing, sniffing, snugging, loving Lennon 🧡

Mothers, especially single moms, are damned if they do, and damned if they don't. My advice? Develop a habit of not caring what others think, and just do what you need to, whatever is best for you and your kids. Don't use your energy on feeling guilty. Stop trying to live up to other people's expectations, because you live in a society that shames women, and those expectations are unrealistic and totally non-supportive.

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Via Brooke Hampton

Cause and effect.

Monkey See
Monkey Do.

*edited: this seems to have generated a lot of controversy in the comments.

I love Sally’s words here and choose to view this statement as an encouraging reminder for homeschool mothers. In our contentious society we can find fault with ANYTHING - as evidenced by the comments here.

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Count to ten. Breathe.

Who can relate?

Can we talk about the fact that women get overstimulated and it’s mistaken for anger?

No, I’m not angry; the tv is on 88, the dryer going, someone’s mowing the lawn, my Apple Watch dinging non stop, my shirt is too tight, my hair isn’t in a messy bun correctly, there’s crumbs on the floor and I can feel it. I'm not angry. I’m overstimulated and I need a minute to get myself together.

Being an dult is exhausting. No matter what someone always needs you. Go to work; someone needs you, come home; someone needs you, go to sleep; someone needs you, shower time; someone needs you, going to the bathroom; someone needs you. A child, a baby, an adult I’M ALWAYS NEEDED.
I’m not angry. I’m overstimulated I need minte to get myself together.

Let me collect myself before you start to accuse me of being in a bad mood...I just need a minute.

- Borrowed from a dear friend ❤️🙏🔥

Think selfie stick. Your kids will love having you in their pics.

This! Via Never Empty Nest by Melissa Neeb

So, so true!

Especially at this time of year. Try and prioritise yourself a little bit more🤍
With love and safe holidays.

Gem Douglas

They don't expect as much as you want to give.

❤️❤️❤️ Feeding Littles

This.

Love this!

So true! And sometimes so hard to remember as a parent. Sometimes our help isn’t - well, very “helpful”. It’s in the striving that our children are developing those critical self reliance skills and self confidence. So, in the hustle and bustle of the holidays, just a quick reminder to take a breath, parents! And let our littles take their time 💙

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Just being a mom is enough.

I don't think any parent, no matter how effective, can escape the total meltdown of one or all their kids in a store or other public place. It comes with the territory.

Shout out to the parents who attempted on Black Friday.

World Children's Day
“Children are one third of our population and all of our future.”
Select Panel for the Promotion of Child Health, 1981

We can change the world for our children and their future, and it will take all of us. We can lobby for action on climate change, for leaving fossli fuels in the ground, for investment into green energy, for restoration of forests and seas ...

You just have to pay attention!

You're not failing if you keep going.

It goes by in a heartbeat.

Allow yourself the not-so-great days, just like you allow them for your children.

Wise words.

Attachment parenting is a beautiful thing, AND our children are meant to be attached to several people within the “village,” not just the one or two adults in our homes.

No single nervous system is meant to handle such a relentless load.

Looking back, one of the things that led to my self-abandonment when my kids were little, was my belief that, because we were so beautifully and deeply connected, and because they so clearly needed me, that it was my responsibility to value that attachment above every other sacred thing in the world.

And while I still see that bond as one of the most sacred things in the world, my relationship with myself has since taken the #1 seat.

Self-abandoning, even in the seeming best interest of those we love most, is not sustainable, nor good for anyone, our children included.

And I know it’s not easy (hell, it wasn't even easy before Covid) AND the worthiness piece is often the biggest obstacle.

We train our families to depend on us solely for their every need and it IS POSSIBLE to retrain them.

Modeling for them how to support and protect wholeness is not easy the way our society is structured, but it’s no less important than forming strong attachments.

You are worthy, you are worthy, you are worthy.

Every child is born unique. Any parent of multiple children will tell you how different each of their children is. There is much to teach a child, yes, but not at the expense of who they are.