Healing Pathwalkers

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Well, everybody, I have some news!

Last year, I prematurely stated I was going to be moving out of Portland, Oregon, and like many of the best laid plans of mice and men, that did not come to fruition. Something else happened.

My passion and my desire to stay connected to my music community, my sons need and desire to continue working towards his future, while living with me, and my new blossoming relationship that is so deep and so rich and in need of a full space for us to explore ourselves in the city, have all united together to disrupt my plans.

So, I will not be leaving Portland after all.  I will be staying right here, and I will be starting back up with a vengeance, my classes, circles, workshops, retreats, and other offerings.

I plan on partnering with more people here to create very unique experiences and ways of engaging and building community both with music, meditation, storytelling, skill, sharing, and building experiences and many many meals together.

A lot of you’ve been asking me where I’m at, what I’m doing, when I’m moving… so set your mind at ease, I’m staying put!

Last night I got to have a childhood experience I never was able to have before. I got to be in a talent show!!

And I got to play a song I have want d to learn since I was a child, Blackbird. My soul felt so full at first I couldn’t even sing. My eyes full of tears and my body shaking with this quivering moment of stepping into a soul alignment moment, I had to start over at least once, but it ended up being one of my best renditions of the song.

Our inner kids are just waiting for us to let them be themselves.

Come down tomorrow for yummy treats, wicked talent, laughs, and play and embracing your inner child abounds at Raynsong’s awesome events! And check out her other work!

Deeplynin alignment with healing our relationship with our inner child/god/goddess, check out Raynsongs other events and offerings!

Come on down and enjoy some talented musicians and creators!

The food will be amazing and tea on the pour!

I’m so excited for this talent show!!

New Moon Specials run each month, check it out!

Are you ready to bring the full force of your focus and imagination into your healing process?

Are you ready to finally learn from the repetitive self-sabotaging patterns and behaviors in your life and actually resolve the core maladaptive belief that is being challenged by your reality and actually release through self-awareness your pain and sooth your disease without the allopathic treatments that don't actually help?

Did you know you can schedule a free 30 minute conversation with me, where we can discuss how and if we align, as well as what we may be able to accomplish working together through the focus and structure of session work?

https://www.healingpathwalkers.com/new-moon-special/

Here is what one of my clients shared about her experience after just one session.

I just had an amazing, cathartic experience with Jessie Starr and want to recommend her work to any of you who may be feeling stuck / stressed / in need of some clarity. she is a healer and energy worker, and we met because she was hosting a local singer-songwriter night (she has one of the most beautiful voices I have ever heard!!!)

Many of you know but many do not- I was diagnosed w/ major depressive disorder when I was in my 20s. I grew up in an apocalyptic christian cult that was homophobic, misogynistic, and believed the end was at hand and we were the chosen ones. my mom was a hospice worker and I spent my childhood with people who were dying. I also have autism and ADHD and at best am a 'highly sensitive person' and at worst, someone who had to check herself into the mental hospital after her cat died.

all this to say - I have had a lot to process, and a lot of grief, especially after losing my parents 8 years ago and then my brother John to su***de - a time when soooo soooo many of you came to my side and helped me through that awful time - and I'm so thankful to you all.

but....I was still stuck. despite YEARS of therapy - I've been in therapy more of my life than not. so if you think I'm a good ear / have good advice - it's b/c I learned from the pros.

AND... it still wasn't enough. I would argue that therapy has kept me from going down huge rabbit holes / ending up hospitalized more than I have been, but it wasn't enough. I still cry daily, and it's often gut-wrenching sobs of loss and guilt.

Jessie really helped me through a lot of that, all within a couple of hours. the session was exhausting, if I'm being honest. she was not afraid to go to the dark dark places that too many of us don't want to talk about. I let it all out. and I felt better and safe and seen and heard and loved and accepted.

THANK YOU, Jessie.

I hope some of you will choose to do a Zoom with her - you can do that from anywhere in the world. she has a sliding scale and I can't wait for my next session.

I felt I got more actual psychic movement and healing with her than I have in the last year of therapy. she is not limited by the hard edges and 'best practices' of therapy - and with record numbers of mentally ill people on the streets, I'm not sure how much these 'practices' are working.

Sso if you're looking for a new approach to healing, please consider Healing Pathwalkers:

Healing Pathwalkers - New Moon Special Let's clear out the old and make way for the new road ahead!

Have you been waiting for my next show?

Shawn Shumway and I will be playing with Travis again, and joining Monica Robles and Ken Gaines for the first time at Leikam Brewing next month! Put it on the calendar and come see us play!

Hey everyone!

What are you up to tonight?

Wanna come see me and my amazing friends perform original music?

Wanna see me and my partner in our first public show?

Wanna support the most wonderful community of artist and musicians in being able to create and attend powerful and transformative workshops and events that fuel our creative genius and enable us to keep bring you such unique and impactful music to you?

I'm so excited to see you there!!

Tonight!

In my experience, most people are doing the best that they can, and unfortunately and fortunately that’s gonna be different for everybody.

It’s really hard to remember that everybody is not coming from the exact, same place, with exactly the same background, with exactly the same belief system, perceptions, triggers, emotional responses, motives, agendas.

But most people are doing an operating from the best of their capacity. Our job is not to fix each other it’s to experience each other.

More importantly, it’s to be able to experience ourselves in relation with another, because until we are engaged with some, or someone time and space lose their meaning. This is why solitary confinement is the most effective form of punishment.

Some people never give themselves permission to fully engage with one another, and instead do so with things. They fix things, they invent things, they immerse themselves and things, their artists and musicians, and those mediums provide them the engagement, the relationship that they get to explore themselves through.

And this experience is also also what we came here for. But it is still a relationship of the creator with the medium, and the medium with the viewer.

 so try instead instead of focusing on what’s wrong, but the problem with the other person in the dynamic is, remind yourself this is the best they can show up as right now, and I can either speak to it with them, and ask for change, or I can accept this is where they’re at.

If I cannot accept it, then I either need to look within as to why this is so bothering me, when have I felt this way before, who made me feel this way before, can I remember the first time I felt this way, and what I decided to be true at the time? How is this perspective this judgment serving me right now? And can I meet that need in another way? Is any of this even still true?

If after you play that game with yourself and you reengage with the other person, you still can’t see what you’re grateful for about the dynamic with them and make changes in your investment in that dynamic. But recognize human beings are not meant to be the same as one another, we are meant to have subtle and vast differences . It is the very of our differences that gives the character to our human collective. If we can accept that we would have a lot less to fight about or compete with each other for.

For is not every argument, and every war about one person, one country, one idea, feeling better than the other, and wanting the other, to acknowledge it?

What if there’s room for us all at the table? What would that look like? 

Guess what?

Im gonna be sharing the stage with some AWESOME men!

Come see us all share our music with you!

And, come see me and my partner in all things play music together!!!

Starway! My new band with Shawn Shumway!

I’m so excited!!!!

Come see us April 2nd.

The sun is just peaking above the trees, I’ll take it!!

Practice time!!

Have you been feeling the heavy stuckness, the dense energy, and the weight of the burdens of a past no longer relevant to the life you have worked so hard to build?

Are you struggling to break the last lingering patterns of Limerance, Codependency, Mr/Mrs Nice Guy, Self-Saboteur?

Have you already tried therapy, Western Medicine and modality focused healing, but still struggling?

Now, the energy and the timing of the precession is perfect for busting through these things. Let's get to work!

The storms are sweeping across North America, the ocean floors are rising, earthquakes are pushing the plates of the surface of the planet around, our Sol is approaching lunar maximum, everything is aligned to support your change!

Let's do this!

Healing Pathwalkers - New Moon Special Let's clear out the old and make way for the new road ahead!

Understanding Limerance, and the difference between coregulation and lemerant coping in place of self soothing.

One is based in tangible reality with another cocreator choosing to coregulate as part of a Healthy and loving dynamic, the other is escaping the reality around one’s self by fantasizing a relationship that doesn’t exist in the form your fantasy maintains.

This disconnection between your internal and external reality will result ultimately in self- and co-sabotaging behaviors because the fantasy will eventually become unsustainable and we will seek new fuel and then our fantasy will inevitably meet the reality.

These result in destructive dynamics and force one to in the end self soothe anyway. So… might as well learn good selfcare, and self- emotional and energetic regulation, meditation for building mental discipline and breathing practices to build health, processing and expression of self practices will ultimately free of your need for limerick connections because they will feel like hostess twinkies compared to a crème brûlée…

Step one, am I self-soothing or am I telling myself a story that I wouldn’t be able to say aloud to the other person or people in my story?

Step two, what am I hoping to achieve through the story and or the selfcare? Is there a more loving, compassionate and productive way I can meet this need?

Step three, act on the advice your soul and body just gave you.

Time to end the Limerance and build real relationships.

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Time to stop, drop and rewrite that!

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https://youtu.be/fHAidLqpvA8?si=O1JATQLZNCtnLQXB

This is so so much deeper than just a conversation about music… which that alone would be huge, but this is a discussion about life!!

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