A Life With Abbie

You. Deserved. Better.
And that’s okay. You are in a position to give yourself better now. 🥰

I’m a fraud.
I don’t hustle. I don’t boss babe. It’s just not my style.

But that’s what makes me so different. I have the strongest desire to help, and give.

When I try too hard to emulate the hustle, I burn out and go silent. This isn’t helpful to anyone. But let me tell you how challenging it can be to look around the internet and not play the comparison game!

I have always gone against the grain and so it’s not surprising to me, but I have to keep relearning this, over and over, and over again.

So I have some reminders for you… I have some boutique links (in bio)… but it’s not because of boss babe nonsense, it’s because I LOVE and LIVE to help people. I have personally felt the benefits of wearing what feels right.

When you wear clothes that fit your style, and your body type, and make your brain happy, and don’t bother your skin, it literally changes your whole life. THIS is the feeling that I want to help you experience.

ALWAYS let me know if you have any questions.

Yes. It’s like my bed time, and I’m going through my closet instead. This is ADHD.

Thank you all for hanging in with me.

I can’t wait to show you guys some of the amazing things I have gotten because I have realized I have fallen back into feeling like a slug from wearing clothes that bother me and that I don’t like….

I’m only getting things from now on that really, really speak to me… and fit both my LIFE and my style. I want to help you do the same so this isn’t something you have to go through.

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If you want to not miss anything, check out my linktree for links to both my affiliate boutiques, and get in my vip group!
https://linktr.ee/a.life.with.abbie

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Uhm. Have you ever tried these cookies?!

This is truly not an advertisement, but so many people had talked about these cookies and I finally was in the neighborhood and just had to stop by.

Oh. My. Goodness! 😍

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Sometimes when you shine, others will complain you are too bright. Shine anyway.

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This baby is not feeling well. We are just letting her rest and relax this weekend.

I hate not being able to fix it and not having the ability for her to tell me exactly what’s up.

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As someone who has had to set some insanely difficult boundaries at times - including with family - this is something that I wish more people understood. Advocate for yourself. Take care of yourself. You. Matter.

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When you want to have greenery, but you also unalive things that can’t remind you to feed them…. You get Lego plants!

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It’s also a great therapy honestly.

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Like mother like daughter? 😂

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Do you ever just get the feeling that things are exactly as they should be - even by just the simplest thing?

I’ve had this candy dish from my grandmother for some years and I haven’t put candy in it… but now I have a shelf in my office. I decided to bring it up from the basement and wash it and put candy in it and put it on the shelf. And just that felt like everything was just as it should be.

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Breaking generational cycles, while honoring the past.

Never forget that even great people have days where they feel like sad potatoes.

Happy 4th birthday to this little stinker. 🥰

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You are the ✨only✨ person who has the power to watch out for your health and well-being.
You are worth it.

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This does include mental and emotional health. The boundaries you need to place for yourself can sometimes feel mean - but again - 📣 you 📣 are 📣 worth 📣 it!

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So - no matter what… prioritize yourself.

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Photography By: Just Bee Photography LLC

I don’t talk about my full time job often, but I work from home for a really amazing company.

I just read an email that the company’s charitable foundation is working with Project Hope and the Red Cross to provide a way for the company to match/double the employee contributions designated to the earthquake in Turkey (up to 2,500 per employee!)!

Not only that, but reminding employees that there are employee assistance programs and resources available to employees and dependents, should you feel you need it.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my boutiques and I will talk about them all the time, but I love my job and my company too. And this is one of the reasons why.

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When you have two kids, there’s always a good one, who follows the rules and even sometimes tattles on the other…. And… well…. The other one.

They are overall really good girls! But when one gets in trouble… there’s always one of each. Sometimes their roles reverse, but MOST of the time, Lexi tattles.

Is this something you’ve seen in kids and/or dogs? Let’s talk about it!

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📣 SO EXCITING!! 📢

I firmly and always have felt that all women need to be represented in the boutique industry… and my girl who owns the Blooming Lotus Boutique has taken this seriously!

Introducing the PREORDER-Plus section, dedicated to sizes 1x-5x! This is a work in progress that will be continuously updated, but check it out!

🔗 https://shopbloominglotus.com/collections/preorder-plus?page=1&ref=hlcnwkgbkyvczs

Honestly I didn’t think I could love Blooming Lotus more… but this is so amazing! 🤩

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When we spend the day away, and the babies just want to be near you!

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This is living.

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I have been depressed. I have been through some extremely hard times. I always come out on top.
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What you may not know is that two years ago, I was in a REALLY bad place. Talking with chosen family that I have known longer than any other friend, she had started an affiliate opportunity for a clothing boutique. I shopped her party for her birthday….
And immediately fell in love with the quality of the clothing and most importantly: How. I. Felt.

Since then, I’ve been passionate about sharing affordable boutique clothing, because I know how much of a difference it’s made in my life!

There’s so much of a link (it’s need studied) between clothing and emotional health… so if I can make a difference for one woman, I’m all for it!

Over the last two years, I’ve been working on my mental health - I finally got diagnosed ADHD last year. I’ve been working on my emotional health - I’ve been going to therapy to work on my trauma, breaking generational trauma, and self confidence/worth.
I’ve been continually making sure that my affiliate boutique situations align with my personal mission of helping women feel so good in their skin and their clothes.

I mean, come on… when you put on clothes and they make you feel SO. GOOD… it’s honestly like magic.

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If you want more information always reach out to me.

And if you want to just check the links: https://linktr.ee/a.life.with.abbie

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“She was brave and strong and broken all at once.” - Anna Funder

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I slept terribly… as evidenced by the fact I’m posting this before 5am my time. But this baby doggo always is up for some snuggles and it’s calming.

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When you realize you just can’t sleep anymore but it’s still too early, do you give in and get up or do you just lie in bed hoping for a little more sleep?

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I made myself a chore chart. I have four different colors / weeks to rotate through. They’re in page protectors and I’m using dry erase markers to check off my items.

Is this something you have ever done / tries?

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My girls want to say they hope you’re having a good Saturday.
Remember to spend some time taking care of yourself and expressing gratitude for your loved ones.

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Have you heard of Dopamine Dressing?

This is a newer term and trend in the fashion industry in the last year or two and I’m all for it.

The short definition is wearing what makes you happy versus what other people think you should wear - what gives your brain dopamine. I wrote about it on my blog.

Check it out and let me know what you think about dopamine dressing?

Blog: https://alifewithabbie.blogspot.com/2023/01/dopamine-dressing.html

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🚨BIG NEWS🚨

Many of you already know that over the last couple of years I have fallen in love with the fashion industry - after I personally benefited from the proven link between clothing and emotional health.

You know that I’m also an affiliate stylist for Rising Phoenix Boutique and I love it - so that’s not going anywhere.

But my spark 🔥 - I just wanted to be able to bring you more!

So when my very good friend opened her own online boutique, Blooming Lotus Boutique 🪷 and approached me about working with her again when she opened the affiliate opportunity, there was no way I could refuse! She and I have developed a wonderful, working relationship over the last few years and she has become a very close friend to me.

I would love nothing more than for you to check out the incredible clothing on the site. We are size inclusive, and there is new inventory added daily.

One of my favorite things about Blooming Lotus Boutique is that I also have a 10% off code for your first order for every new customer! Just shoot me a message or ask in the comments!

You will soon fall in love with the boutique and all it has to offer! You can also join my private Facebook VIP Boutique Group - where of course I will post all sorts of fun things - direct link here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2929538933936327/?ref=share_group_link

Here is my direct link to Blooming Lotus: https://shopbloominglotus.com/Abbiebeyer

I started a blog!

I know that having like one one more thing to go look at… but I also sometimes don’t feel that I can share as much as I want to on the social media sites. I also am not as articulate in video and so - blog!

Check it out: http://alifewithabbie.blogspot.com

🐾💕 I. Just. Cant. 💕🐾

You know. Dogs are the best. They just love you all the time. This one, she checks on us with every cough and sneeze. They’re so good for mental health. They just are the epitome and embodiment of pure unconditional love and it’s something so amazing and beautiful. 🐾

Hi. My name is Sasha. Mommy won’t feed me (early). I’m asking so nicely.
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If your mommies also don’t feed you (until it’s time for dinner) then it’s not fair. Let me know and I will tell you how much it’s not fair.
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I’m going to brag about my husband:

We had leftover ingredients from other meals we had made and I was like “I don’t want to throw away the food…” (it’s so expensive now!)

So I said: do you think you can make something with like the mushrooms and the cream? 🤷🏼‍♀️

We have been watching a lot of cooking shows and I think he may be learning from them (I know I am!!).

So tonight’s dinner is: Chicken fettuccine with homemade mushroom, garlic, and Parmesan cream sauce.

I’m so proud of him. And it’s seriously impressive! 🥰 I think I’m going to keep him.

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When we went to the store to pick up our order, we came home and the girls had managed to open the inside garage door.
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These cute brats are way too smart for their britches.
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I can say anything, and get Lexi’s attention. She’s begging to go to bed. Whereas Sasha is like “if I don’t look at you, you can’t take my picture.”

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Do your dogs like to go to bed?

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I was talking with my friend who’s known me my entire life about what I want to do. I’ve been feeling stuck.

You know the feeling - like I have one foot in “keep going” and the other in “nah.” My issue is this used to be my “fun” and I don’t want to do it if I’m not loving it… but WHO said I’m not loving it?!
It. Was. Not. Me.

So what’s the real issue?
We came to the realization that the real issue is two fold:
1. I was in the comparison game (again! Because it’s so easy to do on social media!) and
2. I feel guilty that I am not the person who posts online every day…. And how can you be “successful” if you don’t post at least once a day?!

I REALLY want to spend my time and energy (which truly can be limited) on my health - which is mental, emotional, and physical - the whole package. So instead of feeling guilty, I can talk to you guys about it. However much I feel like I want to share. Like that’s weird to me but that’s literally what it’s all about right? And if I step away or need a break, it’s not like it’s that weird when it comes to mental health.

It’s funny because I’ve come to this “realization” so many times but sometimes I just need to be reminded that you aren’t looking for the picture perfect model….. I’m a hot mess and that’s okay. I don’t have to be like the other people on social media to be “successful,” I get to define my own success.

Do I have an affiliate link for Arbonne and love their products? Absolutely!

Do I have an affiliate link for a boutique that I love?! Absolutely! Are there tons more clothes on there than what I’ll ever share because maybe they’re not my style but maybe they’re yours? Sure!

It’s time (again) for me to be completely and unapologetically me.

I really care about you all and appreciate you. Thank you. 🥰

Give the girls a bath and the babies hate you forever! 🤣

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In this time of “new year new me” and resolutions… please try not to get caught up in the hoopla of punishing yourself for living life.

The diet industry makes 💲💲💲💲off your insecurities. One of the things I’ve been working on for a long time was breaking up with the diet industry and saying “f-you” to the diet trauma I’ve had in my past. I’ve been healing myself and my relationship with me…. and my relationship with food.

There’s no good food or bad food. There’s no need to “work off” or “walk off” anything I eat.

Please remember to LOVE yourself and LOVE your body.

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Tell me one way you are caring for yourself? Your whole self?

Because I know people are trying to work out and do more or trying to eat better and do more but listen to me when I tell you that your mental and emotional health is part of your health too.

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Hey everyone! I know it’s NYE, please make sure to have a safe day and night celebrating.
Please remember to take care of your animals too. I don’t want to hear about any of my friends dying in a drunk driving accident or that their animals ran away… these things happen way too often and it’s a tragedy.

Just be safe. And have a happy new year.
How are you celebrating?
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I love baby snuggles! 🥰 Today she wanted mom, and I’m okay with that.

I just hope one day she’s comfortable enough to love her home.

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The girls are looking forward to the new year. Where are you? Are you looking forward to the new year? Do you make goals or not so much? How are you feeling about the closing of this year? Let me know.

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I’m working on making goals but I want them to be SUSTAINABLE rather than consistent. .
What do I mean? A consistent goal is to do this 12 step skincare regimen every day, is it sustainable? Probably not. A sustainable goal is to clean my face daily. That way, on good days, this 12 step regimen is totally on the table, and in bad days I can at least wipe my face and still be doing well. This is how I want to set myself up for success and improve myself in the new year.

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This is so important.
We have been seeing a lot of family this week and it’s really, really important.

Just remember you matter.
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