Crystal Kehl, MA, LMHC

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Happy Saturday! 🌱🪴

The most accurate depiction of recovery I’ve seen!

We’ve all got that person in our lives. Loving them hurts. But losing them hurts. So, we decide, the only way to salvage this emotional cl*******ck is to somehow change them.
But you can’t make them change. Because *making* someone do something, even if it’s for their own good, requires either coercion or manipulation. It requires intervening in their life in a way that is a boundary violation, and it will therefore damage the relationship—in some cases more than it helps.
Sadly, these are boundary violations that often go unnoticed because they’re done with such good intentions. Like when your mum threw your Playstation out the window to give you that oomph of motivation needed to get you off the couch and out looking for a job.

Say it again.

Any time emotions spike in a way that feels out of proportion with the stimulus, we have an opportunity to learn about ourselves and where we need to heal.