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The Cockroach Theory
The cockroach theory for self-development
At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady.
She started screaming out of fear.
With a face stricken with panic and a trembling voice, she began to jump, both her hands desperately attempting to rid herself of the cockroach. Her reaction spread like wildfire, causing everyone in her group to also become panicky.
After a valiant effort, the lady succeeded in pushing the cockroach away, but to everyone's dismay, it landed on another lady in the group. Now, it was the turn of the second lady in the group to carry on the drama.
The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.
In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.
The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behaviour of the cockroach on his shirt.
When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.
Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behaviour?
If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?
He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.
It is not the cockroach, but the inability of those people to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach, that disturbed the ladies.
I realized that it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it's my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.
It's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.
More than the problem, it's my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life.
Lessons learnt from the story:
I understood I should not react in life.
I should always respond.
The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.
Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought of.
A beautiful way to understand
LIFE.
The HAPPY person is not because Everything is RIGHT in his Life.
He is HAPPY because his Attitude towards Everything in his Life is Right!
credits to: Divya Bhrambhatt

I always wondered what this part of Psalm 23 meant. I thought “He anoints my head with oil” was figurative language for God keeping the Psalmist healthy. I never knew this parallel.

Sheep can get their head caught in briers and die trying to get untangled. There are horrid little flies that like to torment sheep by laying eggs in their nostrils which turn into worms and drive the sheep to beat their head against a rock, sometimes to death. Their ears and eyes are also susceptible to tormenting insects.

So, the shepherd anoints their whole head with oil. Then there is peace. That oil forms a barrier of protection against the evil that tries to destroy the sheep.

Do you have times of mental torment? Do worrisome thoughts invade your mind over and over? Do you beat your head against a wall trying to stop them? Have you ever asked God to anoint your head with oil? He has an endless supply! His oil protects and makes it possible for you to fix your heart, mind, and eyes on Him today and always! There is peace in the valley! May our good Father anoint your head with oil today so that your cup overflows with blessings! God is good and He is faithful!!” - Author Unknown

Yes, yes they will be left out.

If you delay smartphones & refuse social media until a time when their brains are more equipped to handle it, they will 100% get left out.

Left out of dangerous tik tok trends.

Left out of Instagram drama.

Left out of Snapchat n**e pics.

Left out of comparison and body image traps.

Left out of knowing what every friend is doing without them.

Left out of mindless scrolling.

Left out of living online.

Left out of pornsites.

Left out of addictive gaming.

Left out of burning bridges.

Left out of inappropriate conversations.

Left out of incessant bullying.

Left out of possible predators.

Left out of sleepless nights.

Left out of MA shows.

Left out of explicit lyrics.

Left of out losing their innocence.

Left out of endless distractions.

Yes, they are going to be left out.

And probably left out of some friend groups & cool crowds & middle school romances & meet ups & funny memes & weekend parties.

It’s a bummer but I’ll take it.

And I’m not naive enough to think that holding off on a phone, internet or social media takes away all the junk. Of course it won’t.

But it also doesn’t open the door and usher it in with my silent blessing.

Being left out is a small price to pay for a fighting chance at becoming the person they were meant to be in this crazy, mixed up world.

And if more parents would choose this path, it would be a little less lonely.

Heck, maybe even be cool.

But even if it never is, I am 💯 positive that I will stand my ground.

Because there are far worse things than being left out.

Thanks for this excellent post! Parents, this is a great account to follow.

Parents,

✅Delay the smartphone until at least 8th grade with our pledge!

✅Get a basic phone if you need to get in touch before then. We have some listed on our website and on our Instagram Story highlight .

✅Don't give a fully loaded smartphone when you do permit a smartphone. Start slowly. Take off the internet browser, games and access to the App Store. Put time and place restrictions in place via parental controls.

You've got this parents! 🙌🙌🙌

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Did you know that many counselors use play in their work with children, but only Registered Play Therapists are specifically trained and supervised to provide PLAY THERAPY!

Did you know that many counselors use play in their work with children, but only Registered Play Therapists are specifically trained and supervised to provide PLAY THERAPY!

Know your worth, test your limits, but above all, pursue God's Will for your life!

This is a 1000 gram iron bar. It’s raw value is around $100.

If you decide to make horseshoes, its value would increase to $250.

If, instead, you decided to make sewing needles, the value would increase to about $70,000.

If you decided to produce watch springs and gears, the value would increase to about $6 Million.

However still, if you decided to manufacture precision laser components out of it like ones used in lithography, it’ll be worth $15 Million.

Your value is not just what you are made of - but above all -in what ways you can make the best of who you are.

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Appropriated from Alyse Russell

Credit to the American Association of Christian Counselors

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