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Hadley Berting, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor, Wilmington, NC, 28403 | Psychology Today Hadley Berting, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor, Wilmington, NC, 28403, (910) 218-9378, My goal as a therapist is to support you. I want to create a safe space for you to open up and process your feelings. By talking to someone neutral like myself, the hope is that you feel talking about t...

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Wednesday, February 7 at 10:30 @ The Hive at The Clinic

Saturday, February 17 at 10:30 @ Pine Valley Library (Osprey Room)

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I am in network with BCBS, Cigna, Aetna, Optum/oxford and United Healthcare. I offer in person in Wilmington and virtual to anyone in North Carolina.

Hadley Berting, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor, Wilmington, NC, 28403 | Psychology Today Hadley Berting, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor, Wilmington, NC, 28403, (910) 218-9378, My goal as a therapist is to support you. I want to create a safe space for you to open up and process your feelings. By talking to someone neutral like myself, the hope is that you feel talking about t...

I am approved to take BCBS, Aetna, Cigna, Optum and United Healthcare! I see clients in person and virtually across North Carolina! Contact me through Psychology Today!

Hadley Berting, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor, Wilmington, NC, 28403 | Psychology Today Hadley Berting, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor, Wilmington, NC, 28403, (910) 218-9378, My goal as a therapist is to support you. I strive to create a safe space to process your feelings. By talking to someone neutral like myself, you have the ability to feel safe to open up and work towar...

Officially taking clients who have Cigna, Aetna, Optum, United Health Care, Oscar and Oxford!
Also, I will be approved for Blue Cross Blue Shield NC starting December 12th!
You can schedule through my website and message me to get set up for insurance!

I am in the process of credentialing through Headway! That means I will be covered by Optum (united healthcare), Cigna and Aetna in the next month!

I see clients both virtually and in person. Let me know if you want to set up an appointment!

"Exercise is a form of self-respect." -Autumn Calabrese

Find a way to move your body today!

I offer mental health therapy in office near Wrightsville Beach or virtually as long as you are in North Carolina. I am currently self pay but working through the insurance board process. I work with all ages of clients. Contact me through my website if you have any questions!

"We need emotion for problem solving. Emotion is not our enemy." -John Gottman

I offer mental health therapy near Wrightsville Beach both virtually and in person. I accept Aetna insurance and self pay. You can contact me through my website!

You're doing amazing, mama. 💜

“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable but they’re never weakness.”
-Brene Brown

I offer in person and virtual mental health therapy for all ages. I am self pay right now and work near Wrightsville Beach.

“Love is a practice. More than a feeling, it’s an action. It’s something you do, not something that just happens to you. And you need to give -and get- a daily dose to maintain a healthy, thriving relationship.” The Gottmans in The Love Prescription

“We can be tender and ambitious. Sensitive and strong. Shy and vocal. Fearful and courageous. That’s the gift of vulnerability. It lets us feel one then shows how to become the other.” -Joanna Gaines

“When my heart lays bare, when I step out of my shadow, uncovered and arms wide, and when I fail or fall, vulnerability is what picks me up, dusts me off, and carries me once more.” -Joanna Gaines from The Stories We Tell

I offer outpatient mental health therapy to all ages. I am self pay right now but have applied for insurance boards. I offer in person and virtual sessions near Wrightsville Beach.

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“Do one thing every day that scares you.” -Eleanor Roosevelt

I offer outpatient mental health therapy both in person in Wilmington and virtually throughout North Carolina. I am self pay at this time but have applied for insurance boards. I see all ages.

“NO!”⁠
“KNOCK IT OFF!”⁠
"STOOOOP!"⁠
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How many times a day do we say these things to our kids? And often in a LOUD, BOOMING voice ⁠☄️⁠
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Wanna know why those big reactions don't work to change behavior? 1. Loud voices scare kids, and scared kids "listen" less. 2. Your kid automatically does more of what you give BIG attention to. So when you give an unwanted behavior your attention, in a BIG LOUD way, you're (accidentally) asking for more of that behavior.🤯⁠
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Here's an example:⁠
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You're enjoying exactly 22 seconds of time alone, washing dishes, when suddenly, little bro rips a toy out of big bro's hands. Big bro instantly SCREAMS LIKE HE'S BEING STUNG BY BEES and hits little bro.❗️
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You turn the water off, storm into the room, rip the toy out of his hands, and LOUDLY say, "THAT'S ENOUGH! NO HITTING, WE ARE DONE!"⁠
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Real talk? Your HUGE reaction brings chaos to the chaos, which is like throwing gasoline onto the fire.⁠
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So, here's what you do instead:
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In that moment, you CALMLY, confidently step in - without a loud voice - and hold the boundary: ✨“You're angry and you want to hit. I won’t let you. I’m going to keep brother over here to keep him safe.”✨⁠
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And if you're ready to REALLY level up? Rather than give your attention to the “bad” behavior, you want to focus on the “good” stuff you want more of. It's a concept we call "Spotlight the Right."🔦⁠
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Here's what it sounds like:⁠
✨"I noticed you shared that toy with your brother. That was really kind of you"⁠
✨""Wow! You're sitting calmly next to your baby sister! I think she likes that!"⁠
✨"Hey! I noticed you were having a hard time putting your pants on, and instead of screaming, you just calmly asked me to help. Your calm words helped me understand what you needed! How do you feel?⁠"⁠
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The idea is to ✨Spotlight the Right✨—so you get MORE of the “right’ behavior! And real talk? YOUR perspective of your kiddo just might shift in the process. It feels GOOD to notice the good, instead of harping on the no's.

✨Struggling with tantrums, power struggles, and keeping your cool? Our course, Winning the Toddler Stage, is here to help! For ages 1-6. Link in bio✨

"Always Do Your Best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret." Don Miguel Ruiz

I offer in person and virtual outpatient mental health therapy. I am self pay and see all ages. Please contact me through my website if you want to schedule!

For some of us, boundary holding with our kids is a fresh nightmare. The screaming that follows, the tantrum that ensues, it is just so.much.easier.to.give.in. I mean, I literally avoid conflict SO much that when Starbucks gives me the wrong coffee order I enthusiastically say, "THANK YOU SO MUCH!" no less than 16 times, tell them how much I love it, then give a 50% tip. People pleasers unite (🙋🏻‍♀️).

BUT, when it comes to our kids, boundaries are key:
✨"I hear you want more iPad, we are all done with iPad today."
✨"You want cookies for lunch. That's not on the menu today."
✨"Hurting someone is not ok. I won't let you."

Did you just cringe and tense up when reading those? Okaaay me too. BUT, here's 2 perspective shifts on boundaries:

1️⃣ Firm, loving boundaries ACTUALLY make our kids feel safer.🤯
Despite what it may seem like, kids feel safest with a calm, confident leader who means what they say. When we go back on our boundaries, when we give in to the extra episode, or 5 more mins at the park to avoid the tantrum, it actually cues the toddler brain to say, "MAYDAYMAYDAY CHAOS." Toddlers CRAVE predictability, so when we say 1 more episode, but sometimes 1 more episode actually means 5 more episodes, that's CONFUSING and chaotic.

When our child is testing the boundaries, imagine them saying, "This is a test. Will you keep me safe? Are you in charge or am I in charge?"

2️⃣ Those BIG upset feelings that come after boundary holding? The screaming, the anger, the sadness, the crying? Those feelings are TOTALLY, completely, absolutely OK.🤯

YEP. Remember, all feelings are OK. In fact, allowing a healthy release of emotion will help them move through the feelings quicker and even builds trust in your relationship - because you're a safe person they can honestly express with, and at the same time, you're a confident adult who makes the big decisions and takes care of them. That combo is dope AF - and builds some lifelong resilience in your kid.

✨Struggling with tantrums, pushback, and disciplining in a way that works? Our course, Winning the Toddler Stage is here to help. For people with kids aged 1-6. Link in bio!✨

"Don't limit your challenges; challenge your limits." -Jerry Dunn

I offer outpatient mental health therapy both in office and virtually. I am self pay at this time and see all ages.

"Anxiety is a call to listen, not a call to evade." -Tracy Dennis-Tiwary

I offer outpatient mental health therapy both in person and virtually to ages 5 and up. I am self pay and have experience with a wide range of diagnoses. You can schedule directly through my website.

"For real change to take place, the body needs to learn that the danger has passed and to live in the reality of the present." -The Body Keeps the Score

"We confuse familiar feelings with good feelings."

I provide outpatient mental health therapy. My services are self pay at this time and I see all ages in office or virtually.

“An important reminder that one in five to one in seven moms (or more) experience a perinatal mood and anxiety disorder (PMAD) such as postpartum depression or postpartum anxiety. These issues pop up in pregnancy as well.” —

“You don’t need a diagnosis to deserve support in motherhood *and* seeking out the right care and support when it comes to your mood can help you distinguish between normal feelings of adjustment or hard in motherhood and a PMAD.”

“No matter what, you are not alone. 🤍”

“If you need mental health support in motherhood, reach out to .”

“I am tagging some of my favorite mental health resources for moms in this post.”

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You are not alone. You are not to blame. With help, you will be well. 💙 postpartum.net

Need Help?
🔵 In an emergency or crisis situation, call or text 988.
🔵 In a non-emergency situation, call or text the HelpLine at 800-944-4773. You never need a diagnosis to ask for help.
🔵 Call or text the National Hotline at 1-833-9-HELP4MOMS (1-833-943-5746)

If you become emotionally elevated try the 54321 method to mitigate this feeling and ground yourself. Grounding exercises can help reduce stress, anxiety, and overwhelm.

Use your senses to help by finding items and saying them out loud or silently to yourself.

👁️ 5 things you can see
✋🏾 4 things you can touch
👂🏾 3 things you can hear
👃🏾 2 things you can smell
👅 1 thing you can taste

Using our senses is a simple way to ground ourselves at the moment and reset. Raise your hand if you have done or find the 54321 method helpful.

If you need help or support:
📱 Call or text the PSI HelpLine. You never need a diagnosis to ask for help.
💻 Visit www.postpartum.net for additional resources and programs.