UnAddicted to You by Dr. Etel Leit

*Hebrew after English*
Let's face it, not every romantic relationship is a fairy tale. This sentence repeats itself in every workshop and every session. Sometimes, it's more drama-filled, like the daily news– full of twists and turns and enough emotional rollercoasters to make your head spin. In every toxic relationship or breakup, some feel like they've just finished an emotional marathon, only to be awarded a broken heart medal.
Ever wonder why we give so much headspace and heartspace to someone who's already left ? It's like paying rent for an apartment you moved out of years ago. How long can we live in the shadows of these memories? Time to understand that the next chapter isn't just about lessons learned, but also about turning a fresh page.
So, how do we deal with it? First, let's be a little more flexible with our hearts. Not every date needs to come with a five-year plan. Had a bad experience? It happens. No need to turn every relationship into a research project. And let's talk about the fear of rejection – yes, it hurts, but it's no worse than sitting on the sidelines waiting for a miracle for the prince/ess to knock on our. Building a relationship also means taking risks and understanding that sometimes, timing isn't in our hands.
Here's the magic – when we start to grow independently, focusing on what's important to us, that's when relationships find their way to us. So, let's leave the drama for the Netflix series and take a more active role in our personal journey. Who knows, the next episode might just be the best yet.
Approaching Valentine's Day, let's celebrate not just romance but ourselves. You're invited to a special workshop, "An Open Heart for Love." Details coming soon.
Etel Leit (Light) ♡♡

לפעמים קשר זוגי יותר דומה למהדורת החדשות - דרמה, תהפוכות, וגם כותרות מרגשות. רבים מרגישים אחרי פרידה, או בזמן קשר רעיל, מרגישים כאילו הם במרתון רגש. והמדליה? לב שבור.

נשאלת השאלה, למה אנחנו מתעקשים לתת כל כך הרבה מקום בלב ובראש למי שכבר עזב? זה כמו לשלם דמי שכירות לדירה שכבר לא גרים בה. כמה זמן אפשר להמשיך ולהחיות את הזיכרונות האלה?
כל מה שיש לנו, זה פשוט שיעור - להבין שהפרק הבא זה לא רק על הלימודים מהקשר הקודם, אלא גם על לפתוח פרק חדש.

אז איך אנחנו מתמודדים עם זה? קודם כל, בואו נהיה קצת יותר גמישים עם הלב. לא כל פגישה צריכה להיות עם תכנית חמש שנים. פעם נכשלת? קורה. לא צריך להפוך כל קשר לפרויקט מחקר. יצירת זוגיות, זה גם לקחת סיכונים, וגם להבין שלפעמים הטיימינג לא בשליטתנו..

ובואו נדבר על הפחד מדחיה - כן, זה כואב, ״מה יהיה?״ ״מה יקרה
? אבל לא פחות כואב מלשבת בצד ולחכות לנסיכ/ה שידפקו על הדלת. יצירת זוגיות, זה גם לקחת סיכונים, וגם להבין שלפעמים הטיימינג לא בשליטתנו.

והנה הקסם - כשאנחנו מתחילים להתפתח לבד, להתמקד במה שחשוב לנו, הזוגיות היא שמגיעה אלינו. אז בואו נשאיר את הדרמות לסדרות בנטפליקס, ונתחיל לקחת חלק פעיל יותר במסע האישי שלנו. מי יודע, אולי הפרק הבא יהיה הטוב ביותר.

לקראת יום האהבה, נחגוג לא רק זוגיות, אלא את עצמנו. מוזמנות לסדנא מיוחדת "לב פתוח לאהבה". פרטים בקרוב.

אתל לייט (אור) ♡♡

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Dr. Etel Leit (=Light)
Author, Human Communication Leader
Transpersonal Psychology תקשורת מקרבת

Writing 4 books or hiking 9.5 miles (15.3 km) - I just take one step at a time, and remember to enjoy the view. 💙📘

Thank you, 2023. Thank you for the obstacles, the clouds, the steep hills, the bumpy trails, and the rocks on the path. I climbed another mountain.

Thank you for the relationships, which were not always clear, sometimes foggy, and occasionally even heartbreaking.

You helped me grow.
You helped me discover the power within me.
You helped me find tools to uncover who I am.
You helped me be honest.
You showed me the way.

I’ve climbed another hill.

As the sun sets on 2023, I recognize that every challenge was a chance to rise, to reach new heights of understanding and resilience.

Here's to the journey, the lessons, the growth, and all that's waiting beyond the horizon.

Here's to you, 2024.

Religion is for people who do not want to go to hell. Spirituality is for people who’ve been there. 💡

Mindful choices pave the path to resilience💪🏼

Before seeking solace in a coping mechanism, consider the impact on your well-being.

Awareness is the first step to empowerment; let's make decisions that nurture rather than numb.

Ditch the Drama, Embrace the Calm: Life's too short for not-so-healthy coping! ✨

Take a moment to reflect and reset - let's talk about better ways to tackle stress, anxiety, and all the curveballs life throws our way.

Because you deserve more than just a quick fix! 💕 Join the journey towards inner peace and self-care.

Let's swap those not-so-healthy habits for healthier, happier ones. 💪✨

Trauma is the unexpected chapter in our life story, and we each navigate it in our own way.

Whether you're a fighter, a flight-taker, a freezer, a fawner, or a finder, your unique response is a testament to your resilience🫶🏼

Let's respect and support each other's unique journeys on the road to healing and self-discovery.

Here's a thought: Over-explaining might just be our way of navigating the world after dealing with past trauma.

Let's give ourselves permission to break free from the need to justify our every move and live authentically.

Healing is a journey, and every step we take towards self-acceptance is a step in the right direction.
's a thought: Over-explaining might just be our way of navigating the world after dealing with past trauma.

Let's give ourselves permission to break free from the need to justify our every move and live authentically.

Healing is a journey, and every step we take towards self-acceptance is a step in the right direction 🪽

Supporting without Stepping: A Guide to Compassion 💕

Empathy is a superpower, but it comes with responsibility.

When helping a friend through trauma, it's crucial to be there without overstepping their boundaries. Here are some tips for being the support they need:

1️⃣ Listen, Don't Pressure: Offer an open ear, but don't push for details. Let them share at their own pace.

2️⃣ Respect Their Space: Sometimes, all they need is space. Be patient and respect their need for solitude.

3️⃣ Offer Choices: Give them the power to make decisions. It can be empowering and aid in their healing process.

4️⃣ Be Mindful of Triggers: Learn about their triggers and try to create a safe environment when you're together.

5️⃣ Encourage Self-Care: Suggest self-care activities, but never insist. Let them choose what helps them heal.

Remember, supporting a friend through trauma is a journey. Be their anchor, but let them steer the ship.

Coping is the quicksand we get stuck in, but healing is the solid ground we build on ✨

It's crucial to know the difference – understanding is your compass to growth.

Navigating Love in the Digital Age 💑✨

In a world where swipes and double taps are part of modern romance, here are some tips to make sure your digital-age relationships thrive:

1. Keep the lines of communication open!
2. Mind your digital manners – respect boundaries and consent!
3. Trust & transparency are the keys to strong connections.
4. Online dating? Stay safe and get to know your match!
5. Set boundaries for social media in your relationship.
6. Remember to disconnect and cherish in-person moments!
7. Conflict resolution is best done privately.
8. Protect your online intimacy and practice safe sharing!
9. Spread love and positivity, not negativity!
10. Keep learning and evolving in the digital realm!

Share these tips with your digital-age love🔐

Navigating Love in the Digital Age 💑✨

In a world where swipes and double taps are part of modern romance, here are some tips to make sure your digital-age relationships thrive:

1. Keep the lines of communication open!
2. Mind your digital manners – respect boundaries and consent!
3. Trust & transparency are the keys to strong connections.
4. Online dating? Stay safe and get to know your match!
5. Set boundaries for social media in your relationship.
6. Remember to disconnect and cherish in-person moments!
7. Conflict resolution is best done privately.
8. Protect your online intimacy and practice safe sharing!
9. Spread love and positivity, not negativity!
10. Keep learning and evolving in the digital realm!

Share these tips with your digital-age love!

Swiping right on trust issues? Don't worry, I've got the research-backed solutions to decode the online dating enigma!

From meaningful chats to video calls, we're breaking down the trust barriers, one click at a time.

📱 Let's navigate the digital love maze with confidence! 💖

Supporting, Healing, and Uniting 🤝🏼

Life can throw some unimaginable challenges our way, and it's crucial to remember that we all cope in different ways. In a world rocked by recent events, like the ones in Israel, it's even more essential to stand together. 💔

We might not always relate to the experiences of others, but that doesn't mean we can't offer our unwavering support.

Trauma affects us all in unique ways, and by being there for each other, we can create a strong foundation of empathy and resilience.

Let's be the compassionate voices in a world that sometimes feels divided. 💕 🌍

10.7.23 💔🙏🏼🇮🇱💙

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Diving into the intricate world of modern relationships and social media dynamics🤳🏼🫶🏼

Is there a difference between scrolling, liking, and cheating in the digital age?

Let's unravel the complexities and open up the conversation. Your perspective matters – share your insights below! 💬👇

In the age of endless scrolling and digital distractions, it's not uncommon for your partner to spend more time with screens than with you. 📱

But in the midst of this virtual whirlwind, it's crucial to remember that communication remains the cornerstone of any thriving relationship.

Expressing your needs, desires, and concerns openly and honestly can help bridge the gap between the online world and your real-world connection.

Whether it's setting boundaries on screen time, carving out quality moments offline, or simply letting each other know how you feel, remember that your words have the power to strengthen the bond that matters most.

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In a world where screens have become our constant companions, it’s crucial to be aware of its impact on your real-life relationships and emotions. 💌🫶🏼

Social media may have greater impacts than you’re aware of!

By seeking help today, you’re creating a foundation for your future relationships 👩🏼‍❤️‍💋‍👨🏼

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🐛🦋We talk about codependency, how to use relationships as our own mirror for change and evolution, and how to stop finger-pointing and victimhood as we move into our own empowered wisdom and unconditional love.

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Don't miss out on this opportunity for personal development and self-discovery.

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Are you the "fixer" or the "rescuer"? Are you putting everyone else's needs ahead of your own? It's time to break free from the co-dependency trap and reclaim your independence!

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Turning up the heat for a sizzling hot girl summer! 🔥☀️

🌟 I'm here to take you on a wild ride into the world of narcissism! 🚀 As a passionate advocate against this toxic trait, 💫 It's not just another mundane lecture; I'll make it feel like you're hanging out with a friend who's got the tea! ☕️ Let's break free from clichés and buzzwords, and dive deep into the heart of the matter together!

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💡 *Ever wondered if you're unknowingly gaslighting yourself?* 💭 It's time to challenge the norm and question the patterns that keep us stuck in self-doubt! Here's a shocking revelation: self-gaslighting might be more common than we think! 😱 But fear not, my fierce friends, as I'm here to break down the walls that hold you back and unveil the magic of self-validation! 💪

💖 *You're the hero of your story!* 🦸‍♂️ Embrace your authenticity and let your true self shine, free from the opinions of others. It's time to rise above people-pleasing and claim your power! Say goodbye to seeking validation from external sources, and hello to self-love that knows no bounds! 😍 Together, we'll navigate the maze of self-gaslighting and ignite the flame of self-belief within you! 🔥

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💡 *Ever wondered if you're unknowingly gaslighting yourself?* 💭 It's time to challenge the norm and question the patterns that keep us stuck in self-doubt! Here's a shocking revelation: self-gaslighting might be more common than we think! 😱 But fear not, my fierce friends, as I'm here to break down the walls that hold you back and unveil the magic of self-validation! 💪

💖 *You're the hero of your story!* 🦸‍♂️ Embrace your authenticity and let your true self shine, free from the opinions of others. It's time to rise above people-pleasing and claim your power! Say goodbye to seeking validation from external sources, and hello to self-love that knows no bounds! 😍 Together, we'll navigate the maze of self-gaslighting and ignite the flame of self-belief within you! 🔥

📚 *Ready to take the leap?* 🚀 Join my course on breaking free from people-pleasing chains! 😇 Unleash the force of self-validation and step into your own greatness! 🌟 Leave behind the clichés and embrace the vibrant journey of self-discovery. Together, we'll laugh, learn, and liberate ourselves from the tyranny of self-doubt! 🎉 Let's rewrite the script and claim the spotlight on the stage of our own lives!

Come On Barbie, Let’s Get Real: Self-Gaslighting

Come On Barbie, Let's Get Real: Self-Gaslighting - Etel Leit Self-gaslighting is when YOU invalidate or dismiss your feelings, thoughts, memories, and your own reality.

Ever wondered if you're subconsciously sabotaging yourself with self-gaslighting tactics? 🤔 Let's challenge the norms and dive into the shocking truth behind this sneaky self-sabotage phenomenon! 🚀

We've all been there – doubting our worth, second-guessing our decisions, and relentlessly seeking validation from others. But what if I told you that self-gaslighting goes deeper than you think? It's time to break free from these chains of doubt and step into your power! 💪

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