Healing.with.Sam

Many people do not know how to truly hold space yourself and others.

Emotional intelligence was just never a priority in our educational system or taught to any new parent.

Many of us also grew up with frustrated, exhausted ( mostly well meaning ) parents who, out of sheer desperation for rest and control, withdrew love when we acted out, and it worked. As children, when our parents withdrew their love, out of fear and sadness over losing the parent's love, we started to behave.

But what it taught us is also that when we misbehave, or fail, make a mistake, have an emotional tantrum, people can withdraw their love. This internalise the lesson that when we are not feeling OK, we should hide or repress it. Even if we choose to express it, there is a subconscious impatience to just "get over it " as fast as possible.

The emotions that needed to be seen held and validated never truly get the love it needed. And it will come up again and again when similar situations happen and retrievers it.

When we learn to unlearn this, we become our own best friends. "I choose you. I choose to accept all of you. All that you are, including the parts of you that you feel you need to hide away. "

Eventually, our big triggers become small triggers, and we stop reacting to them.

We love ourselves unconditionally ❤️

We become more accepting and compassionate with other's people pain.

We become better parents for our children when we learn to correct difficult behaviour without making them feel they are not accepted or loved.

If this resonates within and you would like to find out more, send me a message for a 30 min free discovery call . 💫

With love,

Samantha

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What do you remember liking to do as a child that you stopped because you were afraid that it would not be accepted?

Or memories where you silently gave up what you actually wanted for something else? Like friends, hobbies, mannerisms, a charecteristic?

Reclaiming ourselves means looking back to what we chose to give up and finding clues from there.

It is not the activity but understanding why that activity and what aspect of us was enjoying it. When we remember and embody that aspect of us that was lost, there is a sense of "ahhhhh I remember you" and we experience a deep comfort and inner embrace from that connection from the self who we have severed the connection from. ❤️

If this resonates within and you would like to find out more, send me a message for a 30 min free discovery call . 💫

With love,

Samantha

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What does growth look like for you?

In this life, our senses are assaulted all the time with subconscious programming to make us feel we are not enough as we are. Whether it is in the way we look, our past, our future, our bodies, our age, our work, who we are, and what we have.

Even if you are spiritual, maybe you can be more spiritual , or you think you are more spiritual than another.

A constant comparison of the mind and ego.

It is hard to break free from that when societal approvals can feel so pleasing.

But it is an illusion of a constant chasing of one's tail. You attained and feel arrived somewhere and feel pleased and happy, and the feeling dissipate after a while, and you chased for something more to feel that again.

Our bodies respond in kind through ways when we think about those thoughts, parts of us tense up, and our gut feels tied up in knots.

A baby elephant is trained by tying it up to a wooden post. When it's a full-grown adult, it never resists the wooden pole, though it has the strength to break free because it has accepted that in its mind.

When we travel deeply within ourselves to let go of all that fear and conditioning, even if for a spilt moment experience how freeing it is to let go of all. It can be life changing.

If you want to break free from your subconscious beliefs to experience freedom within, send me a DM.

Hold space when difficult emotions arises. View it, feel it, observe it, embrace it like a wound that needs attending to.

True Self is non self.

What we don't acknowledge and accept in ourselves, we project onto others. 🌗

What are your subconscious beliefs that guides what you accept or not accept within?

With inner exploration, you can glean how all these beliefs held within control and manifest what happens in your life despite conscious ideals.

Example:

Believing in the ideal of having a healthy loving partner vs subconsciously choosing a partner who is emotionally distant constantly.

Believing in the ideal of happily ever after vs compromising to stay in a marriage that you are not truly happy in because it is "healthier" and " better" when parents stay together for the children.

Believing in the ideals of focusing on happiness vs using that ideal to spiritually bypass and suppressed all emotions that you label as "negative" which will disorient the self from authentic joy and eventually manifest and blow up.

Believing the ideals that to be successful, the ideals is to toughen up, push forward constantly vs feeling guilt and shame all the time when softer feelings within want to be embraced.

Signs of growing awareness and authenticity to who you are.

What are triggers?

What is Shadow Work?

Learning and unlearning patterns and beliefs are the constant of life.

Hold the peace within with love, acceptance and compassion for self and others.

Happy New Year 2021!

I love reading through my journal, thoughts and visions I set for myself the year before while setting aside time to create new visions for the new year.

Here are some mindful reminders that had helped me throughout the years to set goals that are align to who I truly am and what I really desire authentically.



Sharing from Alice, on shadow work and inner child healing. Thank you for your trust. ❤🙏

Everyone have trauma in their own way. When we are children and only understand the world mostly through sensing, trauma can be instilled in us from events of everyday life, from an absent parent, a well meaning remark from an authority figure saying pride is not "good", to forsaking anger to be a "good" child and so on .

We thus reject those qualities within us. Anything that is rejected and repressed does not disappear but lives inside us a memory attached with unpleasant emotions which surfaces when we meet people or encounter circumstances that triggers us .

Our trauma shape our world, preferences, how we view the people we meet, our character . It also limits us in what we think we can or cannot do .

Many people are locked into their mind by the past or fantasies of the future, wishing for a clean slate, a magic eraser to wipe all their mistakes or self limitations away .

There is a magic eraser, it is to face the fears mindfully and bravely, confront your shadows, allow the emotions to come through. See the source of the trauma with fresh eyes, give love to part of you that is in pain, release and take back the you that you left behind. ❤🌷 .

How do you feel being at home? Are you with family , a loved one, a friend or by yourself ?

In this time alone what do you feel like doing?
There are people who feel pressured and guilt in doing nothing.
There are people who realised they no longer resonate with their loved ones. There are people who feels scared. There are people who starts to recall unhappy memories.
There are people who are not alone but feel alone .

There are people who discovered new passions
There are people who became helpers to connect and soothe people
There are people who just am comfortable being alone .

No matter what is the state you are in, know that it is ok to be that way. The law of all feelings and emotions are ephemeral, temporary .

Honor every feeling. Allow them. Let it pass through you and not repressed within you. Breathe mindfully and observe all emotions as such with equanimity.🙏🌷❤

Good morning! Sending sunshine and positive vibes your way! ☀️

Understanding your triggers. 🤯

Most people naturally run away from their triggers. But with a bit of a mind hack, you can view triggers as your friends to guide you on what needs attention in your subconsciousness to bring to consciousness to resolve and heal. 🙏☀️ Share with whoever you think needs to see this. 🌷😊

Sharing from Florence Leung from her breathwork session with me last year. 🙏❤ Reach out if you feel called for shadowwork, innerchildwork or breathwork.🌸

5 mins morning positivity practice.
Being mindful and meditation does not necessarily mean to be able to sit still for an hour. Even in 5 mins of gentle awareness can create a beautiful shift and a happy start to your morning. Start with 5 mins and extend the time as you wish. A daily returning to yourself is an amazing self care practice. Give it a try and share how do you feel. ☀️

How are you feeling today? 🌷

What would you like to see when the world reopens? Collectively, with the right intentions, we can all look forward to a better world when this is over. United in love. ❤🌷

Testimonial from Donna on her shadowwork and inner child healing session. .
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When you close your eyes and travel within, the expansion, beauty and discovery within is limitless. 🌸

In this time when everyone is isolating themselves at home, why not embark on an adventure and journey into yourself? Inside there are dragons to slay, children to rescue and happiness beyond comparison awaits.Travel in and meet yourself. It will be one of the greatest experience you will go through.🙏