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I SEE you. And you're not alone.

You might have an inner narrative along the lines of: "I have nothing to give" (unworthy, a failure, imposter, insert your own words ______)

This narrative might have been born from the belief that you must rescue others. And if so, you're not crazy; this role was probably unconsciously assigned to you early on, and true — it's mission impossible.

When growing up in a family with lots of unprocessed grief and trauma, we are likely to learn that alleviating others' suffering and managing their emotions might occasionally bring a sense of more security, care, and connection which are imperative for human survival and development.

Since a child doesn't know that rescuing another out of their misery is impossible, they assign the failure to themselves and identify with it. Over time, it becomes a life narrative.

The good news is that this wise strategy saved our lives, we made it here, and we can trust the wisdom of our systems to have our back in moments of need and survival.

The hard news (with a good twist) is that the strategy of rescuing others, managing their emotions and experience, and trying to take away their suffering is not only taxing on our life energy but is forever deemed to be
a failure.

NOT YOU!

In other words, it's not you who is a failure; it's the strategy of managing others' experience to ensure safety and connection that fails. (Because we cannot control others, and probably it's not in our values system to do so)

It's an act of deep respect, humility, kindness, and empowerment to allow others to have their human experience without interfering with it.
They have the wisdom to evolve and heal, and so do we!

This part might bring either relief or recoil because what it means is that when we let go of managing others, we are left with ourselves and our life.

So it's not that you have nothing to give. You are the source itself, the miracle of creation! It's that the giving needs to happen to yourself f