Erika Reith

There is a distinction that Elizabeth Lesser discusses in her book Broken Open. She describes that when we feel like we are breaking, it is an invitation to step into the transformation waiting when we believe we are simply being broken open instead.

Being broken open lets the light in. Ernest said it best. Being cracked open lets each other in. Our armor is cracked, our defenses down.

We are vulnerable because we are finally available.

I’ve spent most of my life surrounded by people who were wired shut and wondered why I felt so alone. The world cracked me open long ago and I’ve simply been waiting for people to come in. Waiting for others to let me into the cracks in their exterior. We think being ‘broken’ is a bad thing. But being broken lets the light in. The people in. The lessons in. The wisdom in. Being broken lets each other in. It all in.

How will you allow yourself to be broken open today?

Sending you bands of light through the cracks❤️

Love y’all,
E.

If you put the cart before the horse you won’t get very far. And if you chase other people romanticizing compatibility that isn’t there you will continue to prolong your own healing.

We could unpack the illusion in there even being “The One”, but that needs a post all its own.

That which is like unto itself is drawn. When people say opposites attract, it’s actually most likely someone’s wounding being drawn alike to the other person’s. Your higher self doesn’t carry the same behaviors as your wounded self so you assume you’ve simply “attracted an opposite person” when in reality your woundings just matched up and attracted one another. When you do the work to heal the parts of you that attract what you do not really desire in a partner, your higher self is able to attract alike to a partner that is actually aligned with what you really do want. This can also be created within existing partnership, essentially creating a new experience in the existing relationship when both partners are actively invested in their own healing and the collective healing of the partnership.

Part of this concept is also making room in your life to call in an aligned partner. You can’t call in the right one if you keep filling your emotional and physical space with the wrong ones. When we chase outside ourselves we cheat ourselves out of our own transformation. You show me someone who isn’t afraid to be alone with their own growing pains, and I’ll show you someone who’s doing the work to attract (BE) their ideal partner.

Embody “The One” today loves.

Love y’all,
E.

Not enough time.
Not enough money.
Not enough love.
Not enough attention.

Did you have a parent that was absent in some way emotionally? ‘Not enough love’ scarcity.

Did you have a parent that was often physically absent?
‘Not enough time or attention’ scarcity.

Did you have a childhood experience of fear around money? Did your parent(s) or caretakers share sensitive information about their financial fears? Did you physically experience a lack of money in your family?
‘Not enough money’ scarcity.

Your experience of these manifestations of scarcity in childhood will dictate the stories you bring into your adult life surrounding your relationship to abundance.

Your historical experience of scarcity will rule every choice you make and action you take unless you heal where it came from.

That means going back and looking with curiosity and empathy at what your childhood experience of scarcity was. How have you allowed those stories to live in your current experience? What habits have you adopted to support that story? What would you need to let go of in order to choose a new belief?

That means choosing to embody abundance wherever possible in your current state. Look for the places where abundance lives in your life now. And don’t tell me there aren’t any.

That means making a CONSCIOUS choice to live in the emotional vibration of abundance. NOT necessarily the physical interpretation. i.e. If you don’t actually physically have a lot of money, you choose to identify what emotions that having money would FEEL LIKE to you. Freedom, joy, peace, adventure. So on and so on. AND THEN YOU LOOK FOR WAYS TO EMBODY THOSE EMOTIONS in your current state. The abundance can only show up if you line up with it. This is embodiment.

Live in the emotion of abundance today loves.

Love y’all,
E.

Do you know what happens if you don’t prioritize taking time to slow down and care for yourself?

Disease.

A perpetual state of physiological survival mode.

Your CNS and your soul are living in survival mode. Your nervous system literally cannot regulate itself without consistent practices to ground you and care for your pillars of health.

A lack of self care leads to major dysfunction of your CNS.

Why is self care so important?
Because if you are not consistently showing up for yourself and partaking in routines and actions that care for the essential parts of yourself: mind, body, spirit...

THEN YOU ARE LITERALLY OUTSOURCING YOUR SURVIVAL TO SOMEONE OR SOMETHING ELSE AROUND YOU!

Why is this problematic?
1. You are teaching yourself that your needs can only be met outside of you
2. You are creating resentment whenever they are not consistently met by said outside party
3. They likely are not being consistently met, which means your nervous system is out of whack

How can you fix this?
1. Sit down and connect what actions result in a particular feeling. (i.e. When I move my body, my mind feels clear and energized, or When I slow down, I feel more connected to my intuition). Choose what feelings you want more of, and connect them to the actions that bring them about.
2. Notice what you wrote down and decide on a few practices that could support that feeling. For example, if you said that movement helps you feel clear-minded and energized, prioritizing time every day for exercise or some form of healthy movement will allow you to reach for clarity and energy.
3. Make yourself a promise to come back to these practices hourly/daily/weekly, NOT JUST WHEN YOU FEEL DEPLETED. Schedule time for them and practice making them a must-do in your day/week.
4. Notice subtle or major differences in how you think, feel, and behave when you implement these practices. This will help you create positive confirmation bias around these practices and reinforce the new habits that are forming.

If you don’t have any self-care practices established yet, now is a beautiful time to start. If you want support picking self-care to meet your needs, DM me and I will help you!