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Can we normalize honoring gay men who choose not to f**k everyone in their community, instead of ostracizing them & plotting to sabotage their come up just because they have standards & a preference?

We have one less person to shade & degrade at the expense of their s*xual partners, but it is just as harmful in our community, when men tear other men down for their s*xual activities, the only difference is, gay men will chastise the very type of men who prefer to lead by example to improve on our community's current conditions, by fighting to make life bearable so we can continue to have rights.

Whether it's verbal behind closed doors 🚪 or on social media in private chat groups, we allow ourselves to become disappointed when we project expectations on gay men, who aren't as s*xually fluid as our peers.

I sense some gay men, like myself, already have a plan set in motion for ourselves, yet there are gay men who may not be as aware of themselves or know where they want to go in life, so they allow themselves to become angry, and hateful towards men who reject them because they expected them to be wanted s*xually based on these expectations that have been groomed in gay culture. I believe impulsive s*x is an expectation among msm, also known as hook up culture which has existed long before dating apps & social media.

I believe that thinking this way is an unhealthy mental disposition that most men have, whether gay or straight, so when we put men like this in leadership positions, it hinders the progress of any community because they weaponize their s*xual impulse, where anyone they're s*xually attracted to is at the mercy of their merit.

I don't need a man's permission to be successful at the expense of his dick or ass touching my flesh. If any man feels like their progress has been hindered because they didn't want to f**k someone who has a little authority, don't be afraid to speak on it.

At the same time don't feel discouraged or afraid to reach out in avenues where people will see your potential without the s*xual harassment, even if you have to go in le***an spaces or trans spaces they need allies too. There's work and opportunities in those avenues. Just putting that out there. The Lgbt is one whole community. It's not just about gay men.

Also to note, I know not every man in gay nightlife entertainment or the ballroom scene have toxic habits, but I believe the amount of toxic behavior that I've experienced is overwhelming compared to the few who are trying to keep these spaces clean and safe for everyone to have a chance to be seen and heard. It's beyond racism for me, yes that's an issue as well, but men collectively have to check our impulsive nature that we feel so entitled to thrust around. It's primitive behavior. If I say so respectfully.

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