Fabio Sanchez Canales
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Life & Business Coach ๐ช๐ฝ|
Trader๐ & Wealth Advisor ๐ค
| Book Author In Progress ๐|
My mission is to empower you to transform your life & reach your crazy goals! ๐
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Hey guys!
I was working on my life coach qualification this afternoon and had to answer a seemingly boring question:
โWhat are the stages of the Kubler-Ross Change Curve and how can they be used in coaching? (Provide an example)โ
So, as I started writing the answer I found a way to make this more enjoyable and impactful by storytelling and turning it into ๐ข๐ฎ ๐๐๐ง๐จ๐ฉ ๐๐ก๐ค๐ ๐ฅ๐ค๐จ๐ฉ.
This is a story about a guy called Fred and his coach called Fabio. Freddy finds himself in a crazy scary situation and he works together with Fabio to overcome his fears and โฆ. Iโll stop spoiling.
Read on if youโre interested ๐ Beware the plot twist at the end xD
๐๐ ๐จ๐ค ๐๐๐ง๐จ๐ฉ ๐ ๐ฅ๐ง๐ค๐ซ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ฃ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ข๐๐ ๐จ๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ก๐ ๐๐ฃ๐จ๐ฌ๐๐ง ๐ฉ๐ค ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐ฆ๐ช๐๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ ๐ค๐ ๐ฌ๐๐๐ฉ ๐๐จ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐๐ช๐๐ก๐๐ง ๐๐ค๐จ๐จ ๐พ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ ๐พ๐ช๐ง๐ซ๐โฆ
The Kubler-Ross Change Curve explains the 7 stages that people go through when faced with change:
1. Shock โ Things seem out of control, you are in a state of shock due to the change and not yet able to move past it because youโre still taking it all in.
2. Denial โ You move away from the shock by acting as if the change hasnโt happened, you retreat from the situation, maybe procrastinate to distract your mind.
3. Anger & Frustration โ You move past denial by recognising that the change has happened, youโre not really sure what to do next and this makes you feel frustrated (& or angry)
4. Loss of confidence / depression โ You move past the frustration only to find yourself down, fearful, lacking confidence.
5. Experimentation โ You begin to dig yourself out of the feelings of doubt and insecurity and experiment with new thoughts or ideas that could help you make the most out of this change.
6. Decisions & Planning โ You decide and commit to making the most out of this change by moving to a solution focused mindset, you turn your ideas into plans and strategies, you set goals and you get ready to move forward.
7. Integration and acceptance โ You have now fully accepted your new reality; you have a plan in place and you are ready to move forward and make the most out of your new situation!
๐๐๐๐ฃ ๐ ๐๐ง๐๐๐๐ก๐ฎ ๐๐ฃ๐จ๐ฌ๐๐ง๐๐ ๐๐ค๐ฌ ๐ ๐๐ค๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ฃ ๐ช๐จ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐จ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐๐๐ก๐ฅ ๐ ๐๐ก๐๐๐ฃ๐ฉโฆ
A coach can use the knowledge of these stages to identify where the client is right now, and help the client move forward by asking simple but powerful questions that facilitate introspection, acceptance, problem solving, strategy planning and motivation to move forward.
๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐!
For example, imagine a client (letโs call him Freddy) finds himself without a job, he has 30 days left with his employer and no other meaningful form of income thereafter. Letโs imagine Freddy has 6 months of savings to get by and the desire to start his own business, which is actually something that he had been dreaming of since his early teens and working on for a few months now.
โข Freddy is first in shock at the fact that he will soon be unemployed, thereโs so many things to consider, how long exactly will his savings last? Will he have to make drastic changes to his lifestyle? Are there any quick forms of income to help his savings last longer? How much should he invest into his business? He has so many ideas which should he focus on first? What if he doesnโt generate money fast enough and needs to go back to a full-time job? What if he loses the house he saved so long to buy? Should he get a part-time job to make his savings last longer? Freddy is bombarding himself with questions and is in a state of SHOCK (& inaction)
โข Freddy reacts to the shock by pretending nothing has changed, he hasnโt made a budget yet but continues to spend the same amount of money that he used to, moreover he treats himself to one, two, three nights out and is actually spending more than what he used to when he was employed! Freddy knows that his employment income will soon stop but his actions are in denial with that reality.
โข Freddy now realises how much time and money heโs spent in denial these last few days and how little effort heโs put into planning the next 6 months of his dream. He recognises that he has been denying his new reality and becomes frustrated at his decisions and scared of what could happen next.
โข Freddy is losing confidence in his ability to double, triple quadruple his impact on the world and income for himself and his loved ones. Freddy begins to doubt his decision and loses confidence which leads to more procrastination because you canโt be doubting and giving your 100% at the same time!
โข Freddy knows he wants to make the best out of this change but isnโt sure how, so he wakes up and meets his coach Fabio who asks questions such as โWhy are you in this situation?โ โWhat are you afraid of?โ โWhy? Why? Why?โ โWhat can you do to make this work for you?โ โWhatโs holding you back?โ โWhere exactly would you like to be in a yearโs time?โ โWhat options are available to you to get there?โ Hereโs the thing, at first Freddy wasnโt being fully transparent with himself, but Fabio knew just what questions to ask and how to dig deeper to help Freddy realise that he has the potential for greatness, because Fabio deeply and truly believes that we all do. Freddy is now experimenting with the idea that this change could be really empowering. That life is what you make it, and that greatness is possible.
โข Freddy is ready to stop procrastinating and build his vision. Fabio continues to ask meaningful questions and takes loads of notes. โWhat are the pros and cons of all the options available?โ โWhatโs the low hanging fruit with the most impact?โ โWhere could you be in 3 monthsโ time? In one month? In a week? By the end of the day?โ Fabio & Freddy work together by looking at all the answers Freddy has self-generated over the last few sessions and turn these answers and ideas into a detailed, personalised and inspiring plan! They agree to continue meeting once a week for the next few months to review progress, keep momentum going and adapt the plan as things evolve.
โข Freddy has now fully accepted his new reality, and is integrating his plan into his lifestyle, routine and actions. Freddy is committed to making this work, to building the vision for his business, and his life, to transform himself once again to succeed at this next chapter in his life.
๐๐ช๐๐จ๐จ ๐ฌ๐๐๐ฉ?
I am Freddy. And I am Fabio.
(Yeah I talk to myself and I coach myself & I love it haha :P)
๐ผ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐๐ฎ๐จ, ๐ฉ๐๐๐จ ๐ฌ๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ก๐ก๐ฎ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐ฆ๐ช๐๐ฉ ๐ข๐ฎ ๐จ๐๐๐ช๐ง๐ ๐จ๐ฉ๐๐๐ก๐ ๐๐ค๐ ๐๐ฃ ๐ค๐ง๐๐๐ง ๐ฉ๐ค ๐๐ช๐๐ก๐ ๐ข๐ฎ ๐ซ๐๐จ๐๐ค๐ฃ.
Life changes are what pushes you into the brink of breakdown or transformation. This year I came out of a long relationship and was able to move past breakdown (stages 1 to 4 of the change curve thingy) at crazy speeds, I was able to take this change and experience a massively empowering transformation.
So this time, I am creating the change myself. The timing will never be perfect, so the time is now. Quitting my job will allow me to experience super-fast levels of change and progress, itโll allow me to transform myself again and will make me an even better Life & Business Coach than if I wouldโve carried on in the slower, safer path.
Anyways hope you enjoyed the story, there may be more to follow whilst I decide what exactly to do with this page to make it as fun and impactful as possible while I write my book and build my coaching business. In the meantime, please like, share, follow and feel free to ask me anything!
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In my life transformation book to be released Summer 2021, I will be including a section on which habits to adopt for an amazing life as well as strategies to making these last โ๐ฝ
HAVE AN AWESOME WEEKEND EVERYONE!!