Erum Rehman

Shakal of a person who watches TV till 12 at night and regrets it next morning at 7:00am 😩

So behan was super busy moving houses 🙈 stress cope kernay k liye wo sab kuch kiya jo nahi kerna chahiye tha 😂 junk khaya , Boht scrolling ki , excercise bhi chor di ( basically everything opposite of what helps in stress relief)

Now as a result of those two week i am constantly feeling low and frustrated bolay tou looking like a beemar and feeling like a beemar

Need to seriously start working on my routine Matlab achay bachon ki terah waqt per souna , uthna , clean eating ,reading and exercise ( Inshaa Allah )

Duaon ki appeal 🤲 or sath motivating comments ki 😂 shukriya

Sharing a portion of my reflective essay 📝

It was my first time experiencing that how beautifully we can connect to people …when they are expressing their vulnerable emotions …for the first time I felt someone’s pain just by listening to their hurtful experiences …for the first time I felt that we don’t need to be connected by blood to feel someone’s pain …I have felt it in my heart …I have tried comforting strangers because I wanted to help them .. I wanted to decrease their burden ….i wanted to be there for them.

I saw this side of ERUM that was unknown to me …my ability to feel someone’s pain and connect and offer empathy .. all these things were unknown to me ..like I met a new version of me ..or may be an old one but unknown.

Share your brand “New” awareness in the comments ?
Would love to read

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Use your last day of 2023 to reflect 💌

Ask yourself

1- What did I loose in 2023?
2- What did I gain?
3- Who influenced me the most ? And why?

I took a small break from social media to reflect and reset 💕 ( because taking a break from NORMAL feels relaxing )

Currently reading 📕

I am reading a book these day “ the power of now “ it helps you in bringing you in your present ( NOW ) 🥹

Introduction ☺️

My name is Erum Rehman
I graduated as a Dentist in 2013
I have changed my career path and currently i am training as a Psychotherapist.

Started this space in 2022 and my blog was focused on parenting and motherhood only

I have changed a lot in these two years ..hence my content is also evolving 🌸

It has become a special space for self expression ( with intention always )inshaa Allah

The sole purpose of creating this space was to educate , inform and inspire 💕
And it still remains the same 🫶🏻 Alhamdulilah

You people and your constant support means alot to me 🙏

If you are an old follower ( dil se Shukriya 💓 )
If you are new ( welcome 🤗 )

Meray liye ‘TU’ kaafi hai 💕

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When people ask you the secret to ur glowing skin , consider this as a reminder to post your asli shakal 😂

Ye lou yar hojao khush
Konsa glow ? Tey konsi skin?

Sardiyo mai kuch kernay ko dil nahi chahta 🥲 kya kreyn?

Ap Sab ka bhi yahi haal hai doston?

We are doing Question/answers on my stories today :)

Ajaooo ☺️

Gave my 2nd TedXtalk this year

Title : Empowering women: A shared responsibility for men

"Getting my hands dirty at the clay workshop! 🙌🏺

Discovering stress relief, creativity, and the joy of crafting unique pieces.

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Verified 🥹✅

I started content creation almost 2 years ago and I was a completely different person 🙈

I have changed alot , learnt a lot and I am still learning..and can also see my content evolving with me 🥹

I don’t know if getting a blue tick is a big deal or not but it is for me 💕and I am learning to celebrate my little wins 🥂

I want to thank you all for all the love , respect and support 🙏

Made a huge mistake by choosing ❌

So we booked our flights with RETURN tickets ( they told us about this promotion that you can take 15kg luggage per person ) without mentioning that it works ONE WAY

Today we reached the airport (all packed with two kids) and they asked us to pay 800 dirhams which is around 60k ( for our luggage )

We spoke to the Airblue representative there and he said “it’s not my fault” instead of helping us or giving us any SOLUTION

We called Airblue and they said “this offer is from Pakistan to Dubai ONLY”

Husband said nobody told us ( not even mentioned in our tickets )

Anyways after struggling for a while and asking around we were able to find out that we need to BUY luggage from Airblue

We had to go thru all this just because they JUST DONT CARE ( they only want to make money that’s all this promotion is about )

Jo thora boht INFLUENCE hai us ki khatir POSE ker liya 🤌🏼😂

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Unlearning and relearning 🤍

Mai ne Zindagi mai boht kuch boht dair bad seekha..
Per achi baat ye hai k seekh liya or seekh rahin hun :)

Boht si cheezain hain jo shuru se ham seekhtay hain humaray culture ka hissa hotin hain …. Per wo sahi nahi hotin …. Per boht say loag chup chap unhi uncomfortable…impractical cultural values ko sari Zindagi practice kertay hain… kuch sochay or smjhay bagair …

Relearning is a blessing 🤌🏼

Zindagi 🫶🏻

1- Me ( in good mood)
2- Hi-tea with friends
3-Husband is back home( how my lounge looks different 🤍)
4- Solo date
5- Numairs play doh art 🤌🏼
6-Us ❤️

Time for some happy news ⭐️ ( to make your Monday brighter)

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This space has given me alot like ALOT Alhamdulilah ( Thankyou so much guyies ) ❤️

And I want to do something extra too 😊

I will be featuring (small businesses) on my feed ❤️
Basically on my PODCAST 🎙️

So if you are interested in promoting your small business

You need to email at
[email protected]

With a CLICKABLE LINK of your instagram profile please ( also attach the product you are willing to promote )

I won’t be able to answer inbox msgs on instagram

Took my first swimming class today 🏊‍♀️

This year is about so many ‘firsts’ ( Thankyou so much Allah jee)

But honestly I had too many lock in my mind 🙈
Ab kesay seekhungi..
Time nahi hai..
Mushkil hoga etc etc…


But I told myself this is something I’ve always wanted to learn ☺️ tou bas phr Why not Meri jaan?🤣

July highlights ⭐️

1- Lazy weekend with ( loveeeeee the silai, Kapra and comfort uffh dil khush hogaya)

2- Kids movie night at my place (one of those rare Meetup’s where kids don’t fight constantly MAshaa Allah )

3-SOLO date ( because I deserve it)

4- Small wins ❤️ ( learning to celebrate them too)

5- CHAI party with my favourites after putting bachas to bed ( wholesome conversations plus absolute bakwas talk = khushi 🤍 )

I stated sharing these highlights because I want to remind you all that life is not perfect but let’s try and focus on the positives ( turning these moments into a highlight is my way to remind myself that I have so many reasons to be grateful even when my husband is away ) 😊

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This post is called “ Ask Erum “


I get this shikayat always that “you don’t reply to our comments”

So I will be replying to all the comments under this post 😁 ( pakka)

Let’s do this?

Swipe to see the last picture ( my favourite one mashaaAllah)

Life is so much more than work and school 🌸

Can we stop conditioning our kids that their sole purpose in life is to grow up and get a job?

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Ab lagta hai k waqt badal denay ka waqt agaya hai …
Ab lagta hai k khud ko samjh lenay ka waqt agaya hai…

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Khussay from gulf (Karachi)

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K sari umar hi guzri bai bas auron k liye….
Ab zara khud k liye jee lenay ka waqt agaya hai…

At first they’ll ask you WHY you are doing it. Later they’ll ask you HOW you did it 🎤

I am invited as ERUM REHMAN today 🎉

For a very long time my identity was Mrs.NABEEL and then Numair’s Mom ( not complaining)

But what I am feeling today is 🥹❤️

Presenting you Erum Rehman

Sab kehtay thay maa ban’na duniya ka Sab Sab khoobsoorat ehsaas hai
Tou phir mai khush kyun nahi hoon?

Sab kehtay thay your little boy will complete you
But I just feel NUMB

Sab kehtay thay Zindagi bilkul badal jayegi
But I feel my life is over

Sab kehtay hain you are lucky
Your husband is very supportive .. he helps you a lot
So many people around to take care of you
Phir why do I feel exhausted ?

Kya mai waqai NASHUKRI ker rahin hoon?

Nahi bas
I can’t talk about this to anyone
Sab kya socheyn geyn? K mai Kaisi MAA hoon?

Uffh I am so guilty for feeling this way
Ya Allah please help me 😭



You don’t need a reason to FEEL DEPRESSED
You don’t need to JUSTIFY how you are feeling to yourself or ANYONE

It’s okay to NOT be okay

No one says you are being nashukri when you tell them you have fever ( oh you have got everything in life how can you feel feverish?)

But with mental health we start giving lectures on asaaniyan and will shame that person for feeling that way

Namaz mai dil Lagayen ye ham cancer patient se kyun nahi kehtay ? Because we know it is difficult for them as they are already suffering

Zehni takleef mai bhi insaan Utna hi suffer kerta hai…
Namaz mai dil tou insaan tab lagaye ga jab wo namaz parhnay ki himmat ker sakay ?
You don’t even feel like brushing your teeth
Itna mushkil lagta hai hur kaam because your will power is ZERO

And praying with a numb mind will make you feel more guilty k mai kaisi muslman ho ?
Kyoon koi connection feel nahi horaha ?

Please if you have no experience or knowledge about depression
Don’t try to lecture people about it 🙏

I know how hard it is to start with something for yourself after becoming a mother so I thought may be i can start doing something ( a little effort to support our super moms )

Mothers who are trying to get back on their feet .. and they need support / shoutouts

Either it’s a small business or it’s something they are starting from home (anything they are trying to build for themselves)

Every Friday I wil be giving 3 shoutouts on my stories ( absolutely free)

This means a lot to me 😍 I hope it works for everyone :)

Email me at [email protected]

I won’t be able to get back to inbox msgs so please email :)

22 years old Erum (2013)

Who left her family.. city and friends to start her new life

Everyone told her to FIT IN
Adjust kerna
Sab ka khayaal rekhna
Pehlay saal mai kuch mat kehna
Kisi ko tum se koi shikayat na ho bas
Jo jaisa kahey wesay hi kerna

So the people pleaser in her tried really hard to adjust in the system
She didn’t take her space
She decided to shrink herself as much as she could because she did not want to DISTURB the already exisiting system

She was missing her family but she was told k WAHAN dil Lagao ab wahi tumhara gher hai

She lost her self , her identity, things she liked doing basically everything to become a part of the new family

All she wanted was ACCEPTANCE from them

To prove the world that she is a good girl .. good wife … good bahu

Kyun hum larkiyon ko sirf ADJUST kerna sikhatay hain?
Apni jaga banana nahi sikhatay ?

Apnay Ap ko chupa ker un loago mai dhalnay ka Sabaq detay hain
Apna Ap dikha ker bhi tou un k Sath mil ker raha ja sakta hai ?

Maqsad sirf adjust kerana hai ? Khush rehna nahi ?
Zindagi guzarna hai bas ? Jeena nahi ?

Betiyon ko mazboot banaye 🙏
Unki himmat baneyn .. kamzori nahi

When you spend a day around people you love 😊

Acha sa khaana, boht si baateyn, doodhpaatti and photo sessions 💕

Bas or kya chahiye 🙏

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