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If asked, "How could this thing be different?" we mostly imagine ways it could be better. In other words, we envision that what we have now is merely okay, but what we could have is far superior. https://bigthink.com/neuropsych/obession-make-things-better-makes-us-unhappy/

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Viktor Frankl's school of psychology based around finding the meaning of your life: https://www.freethink.com/health/viktor-frankl

From Jidu Krishnamurti

𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐛𝐞 𝐚 𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠. ✨✨✨

𝐏𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐚 𝐬𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐚 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐧𝐞𝐫‧

You could believe they’re absolutely the same person, or that any difference between the two notions is solely theoretical. However, a difference exists. A soulmate is someone who comes to help you grow as a person. Whereas a life partner is a man or a woman who you meet when you are at peace with yourself, and you are ready for the relationship of your life.

Both are incredibly important!

It’s sometimes difficult to tell the difference between them.

That is why in this article we are exploring the five most significant differences that could help distinguish between a soulmate and a life partner.

𝟏. 𝐀 𝐬𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐭𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧. 𝐀 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐧𝐞𝐫 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐲 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝.

Friends, relatives, and intimate partners are the people who usually become our soulmates. They enter our lives to teach us something that we need to understand. Once we learn the lesson, their task is fulfilled. So, a soulmate could now leave your life. But sadly, this costs a lot of emotional suffering.

On the contrary, a life partner comes into your life to stay for good. Your life partner encourages your interests. This person is the one who supports you and motivates you to take risks. Unlike the soulmate, a life partner stays no matter the circumstances. These people are spiritually and emotionally attached to you. And your relationship is incredibly pure and deprived of any selfishness.

𝟐. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐲𝐩𝐞𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐰𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐦 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐝𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭.

We are connected through heart and mind with these people. And, we go through many good and bad things together. The relationships we build with them are important. But unfortunately, these relationships might sooner or later come to an end. Because soul mates come to teach karmic lessons that need to be learned in this life. And once the lesson is given, they could leave or stay in our lives as friends.

On the other side of the coin are life partners who arrive in our lives at a time when we have accepted ourselves and have become aware of our self-worth. We no longer need a person to make us better. And the same goes for our life partner. You and your life partner are two individuals who feel complete. And that helps create a long-lasting relationship.

𝟑. 𝐒𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐚 𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐛𝐨𝐧𝐝, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐬 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲.


Soulmates are very deeply connected with each other. But as previously mentioned above our soulmate could be a friend, a relative and a partner of course. Our connection to this person is so strong that we can even feel their desires and sometimes read their thoughts. Soulmates do not need to talk to communicate with each other. They are too familiar with what the other person is feeling or thinking.

Life partners start their relationship as a romance. Initially, they feel physically attracted to each other. Then comes the interest to get to know the other person more deeply. The relationship evolves because partners feel comfortable together, they have common interests and stimulate each other intellectually and emotionally.

𝟒. 𝐒𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩 𝐮𝐬 𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐰 𝐚𝐬 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞. 𝐋𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐬 𝐠𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐮𝐬 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐭.

If you meet your soulmate, you’ll feel as if you have been close with them for a long time. You get along exceptionally well with each other and think the same way. You might have also experienced the same things as them in your life. And this is the reason why you and your soulmate could build such an influential relationship with each other. However, we shouldn’t forget that a soulmate’s purpose is to help us become better people, not to stay with us forever.

The relationship with your life partner, however, is not like that. In the first place, life partners have experienced different things. They usually come from different backgrounds. But thanks to that the connection between you and your life partner is the strongest one. Life partners are not like an open book to one another, and this makes their life together interesting. What is more, they feel comfortable with each other the whole time. They don’t share only intimate moments; they also build a friendship.

𝟓. 𝐒𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞𝐬 𝐚 𝐬𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩𝐬 𝐮𝐬 𝐦𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐨𝐧. 𝐀 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐧𝐞𝐫 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐰𝐞’𝐫𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐲 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐥𝐞.

Another time when a soulmate could come into our life is when we need to move on from something. A soulmate could be the person to help us put an end to a problematic relationship. However, the love of a soulmate is not easy either. Usually, the relationship with a soulmate is full of obstacles. The reason is that we need to learn important things. And after we’d learned what we had to, we could move on from this relationship as well.

The relationship with a life partner is much more comfortable. It starts effortlessly. And this bond becomes stronger during everyday life. The focus is on the present moment, and there are no burdens. The relationship with a life partner is most likely to end in a healthy marriage. It’s just that both people are ready to create a partnership based on a strong emotional and intellectual connection.

It happens that our soulmate is our life partner as well.
That is when the relationship between the two partners is profoundly spiritual, intellectual, and emotional. You learn your life lessons together. And you stay together as you’ve found that you fulfill each other’s needs at all possible levels.

But, often a life partner and a soulmate are not the same people.

So we should not forget which are the most significant differences between them. A soulmate is someone who is very similar to us and comes into our lives to teach us valuable lessons. And a life partner is the person with who we would probably spend our time and who we will meet when we are at peace with ourselves.

We should also remember that every relationship is significant.

After all, every person teaches us something. So you shouldn’t feel sad if your soulmate leaves your life.

Source: https://iheartintelligence.com/differences-between-soulmate-and-life-partner/

MEDITATION WORKS!

Listen to a testimony of an alumnus of Golden Link College, a school that includes Meditation as part of its curriculum. The student created this reflection sent via PM after watching my video on meditation.

Link of the video: https://youtu.be/cWDybXXg41g

"From years of studying in Golden Link, there is this activity we always do everyday. Which is "Observing Silence". In the first experiences of doing it, I always fall asleep. I had no idea what we're actually doing and why we're doing it. Until I grew up and started thinking about it again. Then I realized I've been doing it all the time just not closing my eyes.

From my understanding, there are two types of meditation. Which are Relaxational which will bring you peace, and Observational which will let you focus on one sense and thought for deeper observation.

With a lot of thinking, I've gathered some benefits and abilities I got from meditating.

1. Full body scan

Whenever I we observe silence at school the teacher always say "Feel this, feel that" and I got it as a habit. Whenever I got into an accident or hurt myself, the first thing my brain does is pause my other senses and focus on my sense of touch/feel. It then performs a full body scan from head to toe twice to see where my injuries are or if I'm okay from the accident. I also do a full body scan to ensure my body is ready for heavy physical activities I am about to do. Sometimes I focus my senses on the found injury to lessen the shock when applying first aids like Hydrogen Peroxide or Alcohol to reduce the shock. This is also why my mom thinks I'm a tough guy because I never scream or twitch from pain but I actually still feel the pain. You can't get surprised by something you see is coming.

2. Enhanced Sensation Focus

My brain became even more capable of focusing on one observative sensation and turn off the rest.

For example, my computer is rattling and I have to find out what's wrong with it. My body feels numb, my sight blurs out, and my nose can't smell anything but I can hear the sounds from a distance. My head then seperates the objects I can hear to find out which component of the computer is rattling in order to fix it.

My body's capability to adjust for my current condition is has also improved. I've always wondered why I have the sharpest eyesight whom does not need glasses in the whole family despite being the one who uses the computer the most and how I am capable of seeing in the dark when everyone's tripping over.

3. Enhanced memory and analysis power

When my family has loses items, I am often the one who finds them. It's not my good eyesight who finds them but my power of memory and analysis.

For example, my mother once lost her phone while it's charging in the bedroom. I looked everywhere nearby, but it's not there. A few moments later I saw my 2 yr old niece grab my tablet and ran to the living room. She played with it and left it on floor. So I thought if my mother's phone is not in the bedroom, maybe my niece took it and ran to the living room like what she did to several other items that day. And if she left it on the floor then people would've kicked it over to the corners and under the furniture. So I walked over to the living room and at the very first furniture I checked, under the shoe rack, I found my mother's phone. Who would've guessed charging your phone would end up 2 rooms away under a shoe rack.

4. Emotional control

My brain became more capable of removing emotions without removing the memory. By doing so my brain will focus on the possible solutions without any distraction from sadness, panic, anger, etc.. This helps me find peace in bad situation but still able to take actions or during the time of physical pain.

Have you ever turned trauma into comedy? With emotional control you can easily change what you feel about a memory.

5. Connection

This is one thing I learned that made a lot of people think I am smart. When I meditate I do not close my eyes because it blocks my sense of sight. With all my senses working together I feel their connection and my connection to nature/surroundings. Learning my connection to nature also made me realize that everything has connections. Nobody has ever believed that I use math formulas to construct sentences during english class and how I was able to make a song on a piano using my knowledge of playing a guitar.

6. Inspiration to create

Everyone knows me by my willing to create. Things like making art, music, stories, inventions, planting, and other things are my favorite things to do. A surprising reason for that is because meditating made me realize I am just ABSORBING everything from my surroundings, I also have to RELEASE something. Just how a star eats hydrogen and spews helium.

I feel fascinated whenever I look at a light bulb thinking that a kid out there would be enjoying these or even play with these without realizing he spent years of effort on his past lives to invent it."

_Mr. AB, GLC alumnus

The artwork below was also made by Mr. AB. As he contemplates about Meditation.

Is Meditation really an experience to let Evil Spirits control the person? Does Meditation really make you go insane? Are these beliefs true? Let me try it and let me tell you my experience! 😊

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Change is not merely necessary to life- it is life.
_Alvin Toffler

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